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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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In her own way she is trying to connect with you, albeit not very successfully.
Some people are more gushy and more effusive than others.
While others are more standoffish or reserved.
In the beginning I failed to understand my first ... (read in full...)
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You've looked and found nothing?
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I wrote the followin... (read in full...)
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He is abusive and disrespectful towards you.
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This is no accident that he just happens to be reconnecting with the ex. She is persisting in bombarding him with "I need you, really really need you" messages and I guess that massages his ego.... (read in full...)
Dating for teenagers in the 21st century: written by a teen
Q. We all know that we want to date, and it's an exhilarating experience for us guys that can do it right; getting to hold the girl you've asked on this date in your arms, or get that long evaded kiss you've ever dreamed of. I'm unsure of the gi...
A. 1 September 2014: I have just added this article to my archive of Great articles. This article on teen dating by Forge is one I will want to recommend to others.
Well done Forge... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 1 September 2014: Always on the lookout for new good articles to group together in this archive of great articles on dearCupid.org. It makes it easier to find the articles so that I can recommend the articles to others .
Today I am adding a guide o teen dating w... (read in full...)
I found out my wife was/is a call girl. How do I end this marriage with the least amount of pain?
Q. hi lovely people out there..... im really in mess. i do need your help so desperately .... please. Here is my story. i married a girl just 3 months ago. i knew her about a year. I happen to know her by a friend i used know. She was her relative...
A. 1 September 2014: She has had no trouble deceiving her own parents and her extended family. So she is being the same with you. She sounds manipulative.
you can certainly encourage her to talk to Samaritans.org about her threats to suicide, though I think she is p... (read in full...)
How do I handle my best friend who is convinced that I had sex with her husband when this is not true?
Q. My best friend of 35 yrs has accused me and her husband of having affair. We never had a misunderstanding not once .her husband texted me about 3:45 am one morning asking me to listen to him. He and my bestfriend had been arguing so he wanted me...
A. 1 September 2014: Cut all contact. Turn your phone off when you go to bed. If either try to contact you do the broken record technique, which means you give them the same short answer every time.
"(their name) I am unable to talk to you right now. Feel free to ... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 1 September 2014: I am adding a new Article to the DEAR CUPID Hall of Fame.
It is about DATING TIPS and deserves to be here with the Best
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/first-date-tips.html
Although it started off as a question it is so good that the ans... (read in full...)
First-date tips?
Q. Hey guys, I have a quick question. So I got chatting to a girl on Friday night that I've seen around town a few times, I was pretty drunk but everything seemed to go well, ended up kissing a few times and ended up with her number. Been ...
A. 1 September 2014: I think Mark should be renamed as Mark the Marvellous. These are really fantastic tips. I am saving this one for the future to advise others to read these tips from Mark (The Marvellous Mark that is)... (read in full...)
Is my lack of sexual experience the reason I have so many doubts about my Gf's virginity? Was she really a virgin?
Q. I am love a very cute girl and she also, our relationship going on from last 2 year. our relationship going with love,emotions, some time fight, sadness but it is true great love having between us. one day we had decided that more close to ea...
A. 30 August 2014: You are in your mid 20s and you finally had sex. Due to virginity you lacked experience in love making, though that has not stopped you from building up a lot of myths into what you think is the truth. It seems that you also don't know much abo... (read in full...)
I have a feeling that she is using me!
Q. hi frnds i have been with this girl 4 a year and half and i lv her soo much but i have this feeling that she is using me ,i meet her while she was pregnant but due to some things the child passed away after birth ,soo last year december her dad got ...
A. 6 August 2014: South Africa is not a supportive place for women
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_violence_in_South_Africa
The Wikipedia report ays that 50% of women in South Africa will be raped in their lifetime. This is horrific but sadly it is a norm in ... (read in full...)
She won't allow me to kiss or touch her, she's pregnant by so-called rape, why the change?
Q. hey guys i have been dating this girl for a year and everything seems fine and she is pregnant with the soo called rape child she doesnt allow me to kiss or touch her ,i feel like i dont exist even though we stay together and share the same bed ...
A. 5 August 2014: That's not a very respectful way to describe how she became pregnant.
Date rape is a betrayal and a brutal horrible experience. She is possibly still trying to recover from the trauma of the rape.
If you refuse to accept the reality of what was ... (read in full...)
All she wants to do is take him from me!
Q. I have been in this fantastic relationship for over a year now. I love the guy I’m with and he loves me. The only problem with it... my "best friend” loves him too. Last summer we hung out for about a week straight. It was amazing until I got an ...
A. 5 August 2014: Hi
You continue to grow from strength to strength. It is lovely to hear. Well done indeed.
Regards
Abella... (read in full...)
I feel like a booty call without the sex! Should I give him a chance or run for the hills?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now. My issue is for some reason if I plan a date something family related always comes up and he either ends up coming really late or rescheduling. The huge thing is we always end up hanging out ...
A. 25 July 2014: While I think he likes your company, and no doubt likes the full voluptuous you, and possibly recognises that you are a lovely lady - yet despite all that his Actions indicate he is not interested in a full relationship.
Or at least Not a rela... (read in full...)
I am so fond of him, Does he not notice ?
Q. I fancy this fella 25. We get on so well. I don't know if he fancies me. We hadn't since each other in a few weeks; when we met he said its hard to forget a pretty face. I was like thank you. He likes all my stuff on fb. But he would never ask ...
A. 23 July 2014: Feint heart will not win him any lady. He seems all over the place.
He is not a very young teen. He is a 25 year old guy.
One expects a 25 year old guy to have a more proactive approach to a girl he fancies.
His attempts at flirting with you com... (read in full...)
Should I choose loyalty or my own interest? I'd love to have kids but her condition means she cannot have intercourse.
Q. Hi, I am in my early 40s and in a relationship with a woman for a very long time. We really get along very well and I would be happy to spend the rest of our lives together... IF it weren't for the fact that she has a health condition for a ver...
A. 23 July 2014: Very often one finds people who have sacrificed their life for a quest which does not seem too much of a burden, at first. You have plenty of emotional reserves. You think positively that giving up key parts of your life will not matter. But when it ... (read in full...)
Will he still like me if I wear something different?
Q. I met this guy a few weeks ago and we have been on quite a few dates. The first time we met I was wearing a skirt with a slip underneath. As he told me then and keeps telling me since, that he loves me wearing such clothes, I have always dressed ...
A. 20 July 2014: There is no doubt that he loved the femininity of what you are wearing. And the fact that you demonstrated your femininity stirred something within.
I have always loved seeing guys in luscious corduroy pants. No I don't know why it stirs me, but ... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 28 June 2014: Online dating: Thank you Mark1978
I just added an article by Mark1978 to my list of TOP articles.
Mark1978 has just created this excellent article on online dating.
http://www.de... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 29 May 2013: This compilation is so useful.
I just recommended three articles celebrated within this Article.
You can find out which articles I just recommended by clicking on to the link below.
My responses to the question below are all about datings. a... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 1 March 2013: Thank you for reading the article on articles.
You Should be on the list of my favorite Articles DirtBall. You write some wonderful advice.
Not only is the article a great way to find a group of good articles I also hope it alerts people ne... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 6 February 2013: Valentine’s Day – that special time each year for lovers. To some people Valentine’s day is very very special.
To others the day passes without another thought. So often people start thinking about Valentine’s day and need some ideas or some sup... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 6 February 2013: When I see an outstanding Article I intend to add it to this resource. So I can easily find the article again in the future.
So now this resource holds 58 really Great Articles by really thoughtful and excellent Aunts and Uncles on this site.
... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 19 September 2012: There can always be new variations and new issues that have not yet been asked and have not yet been posted on Dear Cupid. So if you are in love with your teacher or your lecturer then DO post your NEW question please
Sometimes some addition... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 15 September 2012: Teacher Student Crushes keep on happening. Often the student wants to know if others understand their feelings
So today I thought I would create the Definitive resource on past advice on Students in love with their teacher or with a Crush on their... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 12 September 2012: Thank you anonymous, for your Recommendation for an Article that really Resonates with you, and no doubt many other readers.
And "I am here to help you" is indeed a big contributer on this site. Well spotted.
There is nothing worse than that hor... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 12 September 2012: This following question from 2010 has a response by Yos. There are 66 responses to this question on Retroactive Jealously from some amazing Aunts and Uncles in Dearcupid.org. Now Amazing Yos if you do not yet know it is, seriously, the BEST expo... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 2 September 2012: Now over 40 articles so far in this resource - the ones in the initial article at left, plus the additional articles I have added in through followups, including this new follow up.
And it is not finished yet. I am still going through lists of... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 1 September 2012: Another reason not to post an Article as Anonymous. I have been trawling through some Articles that might be almost impossible to find. Except some digging around has revealed four more articles from the past that deserve to be read again.
I cou... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 31 August 2012: Thank you So Very Confused.
I am not finished yet. Still looking for more good articles
Regards
Abella. ... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 31 August 2012: Thank you CTR
And I intend to add any article I need to find in a hurry and think might be useful in the future, be it an article published 4 years ago or 4 minutes ago
I can't guarantee to put up every article. Only the ones that I think might ... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 31 August 2012: I have just found some more articles that deserve to be added to the list of my favourites
This resource is already proving to be very useful when I go looking for that amazing article. wish I had thought of this earlier.
Here are the extra ar... (read in full...)
All she wants to do is take him from me!
Q. I have been in this fantastic relationship for over a year now. I love the guy I’m with and he loves me. The only problem with it... my "best friend” loves him too. Last summer we hung out for about a week straight. It was amazing until I got an ...
A. 22 January 2012: That is a beautiful follow up - thank you
Abella... (read in full...)
All she wants to do is take him from me!
Q. I have been in this fantastic relationship for over a year now. I love the guy I’m with and he loves me. The only problem with it... my "best friend” loves him too. Last summer we hung out for about a week straight. It was amazing until I got an ...
A. 22 January 2012: Hi Larissalover
This is an important question and it's obvious that you were just unlucky to not receive a reply at the time.
Things may have moved on now, but is there anything else that you need? Any advice that might help? Or did it end up w... (read in full...)
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