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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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I wrote your answer as an article.
Here it is
My good wishes to you
Abella
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Your update is on it's way. I started writing it and then decided that it deserved to be more comprehensive than I first envisaged.
Please check back during the weekend for your update
Regards
Abella... (read in full...)
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What you have is a controlling boyfriend who is slowly reeling you in as he methodically goes about trying to destroy your confidence to make your own decisions.
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All Stars to you. ... (read in full...)
Answer number 1200000 has been posted. Achievements on dearcupid.org. Who will ask question number 300,000 on this site?
Q. One question this week, a few days before the end of the year 2012 on DearCupid.org has reached a real Zenith. A milestone. And a great achievement for the site dearcupid.org. Poster called CMMP has penned an answer and it is answer number 1200...
A. 20 June 2013: Three Hundred Thousand Questions Asked.
Yes yes yes yes!
The Milestone has happened! Yes, this week question number 300,000 was asked. The question was anonymous. But I will post on the question just so that the poster knows they were part of this ... (read in full...)
She shows no interest in me except pushing her arm against mine when standing close. Is this a sign?
Q. In my experience, if a woman is interested in me, she flirts heavily with me, laughs at my jokes and all the other usual things. In this case, there is this girl at work who seems a bit cold to me in general and hardly even responds to my flirting. ...
A. 20 June 2013: Some women are more likely to touch people or get physically close and that is their natural disposition. Some of them seem blissfully unaware that their behavior could be interpreted as flirting.
Observe her, if you get the opportunity, and see ... (read in full...)
Starting from the Root - Self Esteem & Self Confidence for Women
Q. I recently watched a movie called " The Help" and I found one aspect of it that stayed with me even after the movie was over. Most people were raving about the main topic of the movie which was racism in the South of the US, but I found one aspect ...
A. 19 June 2013: I think your article is well thought out.
My aim with my children has always been to encourage them to think for themselves. We sit around the table and I encourage them to look beyond the story in a newspaper or a TV report and try to unde... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 18 June 2013: Hi
Men have a more active metabolism than women and while that is a factor ALL CREDIT should go to you. Because coupled with your drive and enthusiasm and doing everything right means you are having success. Well done.
Regards
Abella... (read in full...)
Do I really need all this Baby Mama drama? What can I do about this situation?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for six months. I'm in a baby mama drama situation, and I'm not sure how to handle it... Please help. I'll give some background... He and the mother of his child were never married. Their relationship was r...
A. 17 June 2013: and please do take heed of the advice from other posters have offered, to never criticize his ex - not to him and not to friends (as that will get back to him).
He needs to work out for himself, by himself, what a conniving manipulative ex she r... (read in full...)
Do I really need all this Baby Mama drama? What can I do about this situation?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for six months. I'm in a baby mama drama situation, and I'm not sure how to handle it... Please help. I'll give some background... He and the mother of his child were never married. Their relationship was r...
A. 17 June 2013: First she is a manipulative clingy immature ex who is not averse to using her child as a bargaining too.
But he cannot see that, so don't bother trying to convince him.
She thinks she has power over him. And right now that's what it sounds l... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 16 June 2013: Hi
That's a great idea, another way is to measure your hips, waist and chest measurement once a week. This is then a irrefutable measureable statistic that shows your progress.
Make up a graph with your base measurements at the left and chart th... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 16 June 2013: Hi
That's a great idea, another way is to measure your hips, waist and chest measurement once a week. This is then a irrefutable measureable statistic that shows your progress.
Make up a graph with your base measurements at the left and chart th... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 13 June 2013: You are doing really well.
Hold your head up high. That is really Good Progress.
Remind yourself to drink lots of water..
Comparisons for calories is interesting.
It's not always just the bread that is the issue, it's all that is put on ... (read in full...)
Possible Peyronie’s question? is it normal?? How can he make it straight and why did it become askew?
Q. Mmmmmm i don't know if my question is stupid or it is fine because i really don't know if it is normal or not My boyfriend and i are having a little problem while having sex We want to do many positions but the problem is with his dick It's ...
A. 10 June 2013: Your Boyfriend needs to visit the Doctor and perhaps the Doctor could refer him to a urologist. The specialist may order a special test to confirm what the Doctor will probably diagnose, just from observing the bend. What your boyfriend has is... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 8 June 2013: I do hope the vegetables and salads and three pieces of fruit a day are being incorporated into your day? You have been quiet for a week so I am hoping your exercise, weights, walking and your increased vegetable intake etc is going well.... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 28 May 2013: Hi
I always thought you were Male. Your profile says so.
Regards
Abella ... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 28 May 2013: Hi
I always thought you were Male. Your profile says so.
Regards
Abella ... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 27 May 2013: Hi
Well increasing your vegetables is crucial.
Fruit should be three pieces of fruit per day.
Ok - very pleased you have access to broccoli and cauliflower.
If you can't find a frozen packet of chinese vegetables you'll have to get creative and... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 27 May 2013: A daily serve on a plate for your main meal should result in the protein being no more than what would cover ONE of the inner palms of ONE your hands.
Vegetables should always exceed your protein. And the small amount of carbohydrate should n... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 27 May 2013: Hi
That sounds good. What have you been able to do to increase your vegetable intake?
If you add some spices to thing and provide more heat that way the food can be more satisfying.
What vegetables do you have access to?
Do you have good access... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 19 May 2013: And I would love to see you use this question to write an update (as a reply to this question), once a month, or more if you want, to tell us how things are going with your quest.
Because there is a lot of support on this site and people will love... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 19 May 2013: I can see that your country is not USA so I will keep that in mind for any advice.
And you want a lowcost option so I will not suggest anything that's likely to be expensive.
Both exercise and your food intake are important.
For exercise I s... (read in full...)
Answer number 1200000 has been posted. Achievements on dearcupid.org. Who will ask question number 300,000 on this site?
Q. One question this week, a few days before the end of the year 2012 on DearCupid.org has reached a real Zenith. A milestone. And a great achievement for the site dearcupid.org. Poster called CMMP has penned an answer and it is answer number 1200...
A. 26 December 2012: And now the very same week DearCupid has gone past 290,000 questions asked on DearCupid. That's much faster than I expected. Though it was anonymous so congratulations to a particular question asker aren't possible.
But there is still that elus... (read in full...)
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