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Dating: Help and advice

I think my mum is just trying to scare me to put me off having sex too soon.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - hey, I'm 16 and thinking about having sex with my boyfriend. I'm on the pill and we're going to use a condom. The thing is my mum has made me really paranoid about having sex. We had a talk the other day about Sex and she said knowing my family's ...

I'm not going to let him have his way, I want him to take me serious.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - What the heck?!? My boyfriend of a few days kept joking around and making comments about having sex. So, I figured that I should mention 'no sex' yet. I want to get to know him better and not rush into it! Basically, I'm not ready yet. His respo...

Why did my boyfriend lie about the mystery girl he was texting?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Why did he lie about something like that? I have a bit of a problem. My boyfriend and I have been on a break since november. Until around christmas, we had very little contact. For about a month, he didn't answer my calls or text messages, etc. B...

How do you know if your cherry has popped?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I am a virgin and I had to wear tampons for swimming. I also have been fingered a couple of times. I don't know if my cherry popped or not. How do I know?...

I think he loves his video games more than he does me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years now, we get along wonderfully with one exception, I think he loves his video games more than me. He always wants to stay in and play. Sometimes I get to play with him but I'm not very good. He takes me ...

I just want him back soo much and just need some help on how to do this.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Hi, my boyfriend has just slpit up with me of 3 years for someone else. We were engaged as well, now he has a new girlfirend, he said he just wants to stay friends and he does not have feelings for me no more. I just want him back soo much and just ...

Is this relationship normal or really screwed up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - On different occasions in the last 7 months I have posted questions regarding my relationship with my boyfriend. Just yesterday I realized how many different problems, big problems, we have that I have posted and asked for advice on. And now I'm ...

I messed up! What can I do to get my girlfriend's trust back?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5568 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I tried X the drug, well her mom hates me and the step dad also. My girlfriend's mom took all her stuff away for me to contact her with we have been sneaking around to see each other, she's 17 and I'm 19. What can I do to get her ...

He's moving too fast for me.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I've been dating this lad for a few week but we haven't met yet. I know it probably seems stupid but I've seen him in person before but didn't really talk to him properly and now he keeps asking to meet me and I just want him to lay off for a bit. I...

I never think about having sex with my boyfriend, or I am NEVER in the mood.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5569 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I have a HUGE problem! I'm a 22 year old Nursing student... I'll be 23 Feb 28th and I never care to have sex. I am healty, 5'1'' 140lbs, work out regularly and I am usually a very sexual person, and always think about looking sexy or feeling sexy. ...

Help! valentines day... long distance girlfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I've got a girlfriend [please I don't need any lecturing about how having a gf is wrong because I'm a female too], that's not the problem. Well she lives in new york, while I live about 400 miles away from her. Since it's going to be valentines ...

I think I like him in 'thataway' and I know he likes me. I'd love to take the change, but I'm literally terrified.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I'm not really sure where to start.. It's been a long time since I've had to post anything on this site.. I was going out with a guy up until about 18 months ago. We broke up because he was controlling, critical, emotionally abusive, a habitual ...

We are different religions... can it ever work?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is amazing, sweet, perfect and almost everyting a girl can ask for but I know that my parents won't approve as he does not follow the same religion as me. He's told his parents and we're really close but I know my parent's will be angry ...

How have people gone from similar points with relationships - friends to more than friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5566 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - So I am hoping for some guidance or advice from some of the people on here. I have this girl who I have liked for a few years and we went to college together and still keep in touch and hang out every couple of weeks or so. Two years ago we got ...

Do guys really like when a girl sticks fingers or toys up the males bum?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Do guys really like when a girl sticks fingers or toys up the males bum? I have a few guy friends that say they like it around but not in. I have another male friend that says to help my boyfriend out with the whole anal thing but I feel ...

Should I tell my boyfriend I'm in love with him?

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29 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I think I am in love with my boyfriend. I love everything about him, he has his flaws as any person does but he wouldn't be the same without them. I know it's not lust because it isn't just physical attraction... what drew me to him was his ...

Every time I like a girl and ask them out I get shot down.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - Hi there, I'm new to this so hear I go. I'm 21, I have never had a girlfriend because of the way I look. I never had sex but that's not a big thing. Every time I like a girl and ask them out I get shot down. Is there anything I can do....

Why don't I want to have sex any more?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over a year. At first I wanted to have sex all the time and loved it. Now I don't feel like doing it that much and she thinks that I don't lover her. I do. What's with my decreased sex drive. ...

Is there hope for this relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I've been sick for the past two days, and thus, have had a lot of time to think about my relationship with my boyfriend. We're been living together for half a year now, and he's starting to get to me: - he's childish. IE: he's 21 and still ...

How can I please my boyfriend without having sex.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5070 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - How can I please my boyfriend without having sex. He at least wants oral, but I have braces! The wiring is all over my teeth. Plus, my back molers are all strapped on tight with the wiring and pretty sharp. I mean I can feel it with my tongue. I'm ...

Help me with my low self esteem.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - When I look at myself in a mirror I always think of myself as ugly and my boyfriend tells me that I'm cute. I want to know what other peoples opinions are to clear things up so please help....

I was wondering is there a chance there could have been sperm on his penis from the first round?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend were having sex today, we used contraception and I'm going on the pill when my next period is due but anyway we were having sex and he came and everything that was round one. Round two we were having sex and the condom ripped ...

My molers get in the way when I give him oral sex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Okay so I have a problem! My boyfriend loves oral sex but that is a big problem. You see my boyfriend has a very large penis. Not only is it long but it is fat but you see my teeth get in the way because he is so big. Not my front teeth my my back ...

I'm worried I can't get pregnant.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I have been off my pill for 6 months and I am 20, still get periods, me and my partner have sex 3 times a week maybe more but I am worried I can't get pregnant any more. I did when I was 17 and I really didn't think it was right at the time but now ...

Is there a mind trick to figure out whether girls like you or not?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5554 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - Hi everyone i just found this site. Well im 14 and i have not had a proper relationship yet. Everyone seems to be with each other (Ironicly my mates arnt either lol) but i have known this girl since we started school and we have become really good ...

Aphrodisiacs for hot sex???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - Hey does anyone have and recipes that my lover and I can try to make us hot in the bed... like aphrodisiacs or something? We would love to know!...

How can I lift his spirits? Is time the only healer?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I have just broken up with my boyfriend of 4 years. This is the second time it has happened (the first time, we had one year apart before giving it another go), however this time we are living together. I feel so terrible, as there is nothing ...

I am pregnant and don't know who the dad is? One is white, one is black

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I am 4 months pregnant and my boyfriend who thinks he is the dad and is in prison. My midwife worked out my due dates and the baby could have a different father, who is black called W. I slept with them both within a day of each other (as I...

My GF's parents think I'm too old!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - I'm 20 and my girlfriend has just turned 16, when she was 15 she told me that her parents were strict and wouldn't approve of the relationship, she's now 16 and they found out about us even though we didn't want them to know yet. They've made her...

Boyfriend get drunks every night and friends don't like him!!!

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29 January 2009 (F) - Hi there. I've got a problem with my boyfriend. I love him very much. My family are very rich and my boyfriend don't have money. We met on the internet. We are going out 5 months now and my parents like him but he's got a drinking problem. He ...

Affiliations...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - Please I'd like to know if a girl says to her lover "whenever I think of you my affiliations is ending" please help me explain the meaning of this to me thanks....

Does she still like him and just want me for sex, or does she love me and just wants to really be friends with him??

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5550 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - I met this chick during summer school last year and we totally hit it off. Before school was out, I asked her if she wanted to hook up and have some fun, she enthusiasticaly agreed and so we got together. I really found her attractive and really ...

I'm scared he'll run away if I bring it up...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5362 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Recently a co-worker I'd invited to my house party hit on a man I had just begun dating. I am not sure what happened between them but something started at least because he did go to her house a few times she said when she blurted it out to me a week ...

I want to be happy and outgoing, independent and confident but I'm not. My heart is breaking and I just don't know what to do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I've been with my other half for 5 years and he is the love of my life, but we are having a really rough time. Like any couple we have had our ups and downs, we met over the internet and when we met I was always honest with him telling him that I ...

How can he change so quickly???? I KNOW he's hurting here too...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I am a 30 year single mum of 4, over 3 years ago I split with a violent ex. I met a fantastic man last year, he was a few years younger and didn't have children of his own. We met online and we chatted for 8 weeks, sometimes we were up all night. He ...

3 questions about sex!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5569 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Hey, My boyfriend and I lost our virginity about 3 months ago and have sex every day. Before I lost my virginity my boyfriend would finger me. Since I've been having sex my vagina has become somewhat looser (to the point where my bf can fit 4 fin...

Sex for the first time.... but I've taken my period!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5566 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have never had sex before, and this Saturday was going to be our first time. The only problem is today I have started my period (this morning) and we were planning to have sex either late saturday night or the early hours of...

My boyfriend called me fat and repulsive!!!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Ok I need some advice please, I have been going out with my boyfriend for around four years... he can be controlling with me and mean but I never feel like I have the strength to leave him. I suffered a bad eating disorder last year and lost a ...

Goof gift for my b/f coming back from overseas?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, My boyfriend is 35 years old and has recently went for an overseas trip to Japan for skiing. He went abroad on 25th Jan and will be back on 5th Feb about 1am. I want to be there to welcome him back and at the same time want to give him ...

I want us to break up so I can continue seeing the other guy and seek out new relationships.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Well, I cheated on my boyfriend of a year with another guy. Now I feel like I want us to break up so I can continue seeing the other guy and seek out new relationships... do you have any advice as to how to break it off with him? I know there is no ...

Is he conflicted? Does he really want to just be friends or is he fooling himself and possibly me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Question: What does all of this really mean? Is he conflicted? Does he really want to just be friends or is he fooling himself and possibly me? Background: I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We have only been seeing eachother and no...

Should I keep talking to him? Or distance myself?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I met this guy at the mall and we started talking. He asked me out on a date, now he doesnt have a car so ive had to go pick him up the times we've gone out. He is about to turn 22 and he is still in his party/club/drinking stage. I know he ...

I feel pressured to say "I love you"

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months, we get on very well and I can see a future. The problem is that he is acting very needy and clingy and I feel under a lot of pressure to say I love you to him. He says it to me, but I dont want ...

Am I a bad girlfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5568 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - hey, this is gunna be long but i really need the help. see back in 8th grade i dated this guy for a year it was a on-off relationship and then in 9th we had a dance and he didnt go to our school so he couldnt come and 2 of my friends got jealous i ...

Sexy calendar good? Or cheesy idea?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (?) - Hey all! I am just looking for some male opinions here. My boyfriend is in Iraq right now, unfortunately. While over there he is not allowed to have any pornography. For a Valentine's Day gift I decided to create a whole calendar for him with ...

Whirlwind of confusion

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29 January 2009 (F) - hello. i've recently been caught up in this 'whirlwind of confusion' with a guy i once used to talk to. well, when we were talking, it was for a couple of months. things were going pretty well - i was happy, he was happy, and we began to like each ...

Best friend troubles...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Ok, I am like 14 years old right, I have a new boyfriend we have been together for a few days now. The day after he asked me out I told my friend (which is a guy) that I had a new bf and he started crying and doesn't want to talk to me any more. I ...

Was he trying to change me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5548 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I had been having problems in our relationship for a while about his ex girlfriend who looks exactly like me, in which they hadn't been together in 15 years. Our relationship was absolutely amazing until we went to a party and his ...

My sister saw us making out!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5564 days ago

29 January 2009 (?) - My boyfriend came over over to my place. We went in my room (my parents weren't home at the time) and one thing lead to another we were making out like crazy. Until my sister (she's 9) came in without knocking. Let's just say she saw some stuff that ...

Is my ex fiance playing games with me I'm so confused?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My fiance in the military of almost 2 years broke up with me out of the blue but after the break up I didn't contact him for a month, then I initiated the first contact he replied to my outmost belief quickly when we talk he talks about the future ...

I need help spicing the love back up between me and by boy friend.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I need help spicing the love back up between me and by boy friend. We have been togeather for about 2 years and 4 months which were great til oct 08. He had to move bout 45 min away and its hard to see each other. He doesnt like the distance and hes ...

Does this mean that he actually likes me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Hi. I have a crush on a boy who has a girlfriend. I also just found out that he has a half-sister that I have for all my classes. She told me today and she also knows that I like him. Since she told me this she calls me suegra. He also knows by a ...

Is it possible he can't feel a "spark" for me since he hasn't gotten over her?

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29 January 2009 (F) - I met this really great guy online. We started out emailing each other for a month and since then we have hung out twice. Each time, he had his closest friends over. They really like me and told him this. We talk for hours on the phone each time. We ...

How do I have my fun with other guys and make sure he waits?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I went out with this one guy (let's call him X) for two years. Broke up for the second and final time almost two months ago. First time is a bit controversial, so we won't get into that. Anyway, the first month getting over him was crap...I was ...

What is your definition of "casually dating"?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Just curious on what you guys all think "casually dating" means? What are some things that people who are "casually dating" do and how often would people that are "casually dating" contact each other?...

Is having a blue eye and a green eye weird?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5567 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - what physical characteristics do girls find very attractive? is having a blue eye and a green eye weird?...

Guy wants a booty call but I don't want to be one, how do I tell him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - This guy Im friends with and am attracted to has been hot and cold with me, calling me recently only when he wants a booty call. We used to talk about everything from school to friends to family but now, he only talks when he wants 'some'. I do...

B/f thinks we're too young to french kiss!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Okay.... So my boyfriend and I have been dating for a while. Four months. And we are both very much in love! But I've never French kissed and I think I'm ready to. But when I brought up the topic he said it had something to do with a promis...

I want to have a good conversation but don't know how?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - today at school i kinda played around and talked to the boy i like.Realy, i want to have a good conversation with him but i dont know how. i want to ask him who he realy feels about me.How do I talk to him?...

Is she lying to me about her virginity?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - My girlfriend is 23 and claims to be a virgin. The first time we had sex, she neither felt pain nor bled as I expected. How can I know if she was telling the truth?...

What about guys that spend an eternity on their hair? What do girls think?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - what do girls think of guys that spend an eternity on their hair? they seem to only go for guys with "hot hair". me and some other guys don't style our hair and girls don't seem interested in us. i think that its a tad metrosexual...

What do you think? Is he still interested?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I have just started seeing somebody and last weekend he went to visit friends, which is grand, he text to say he was going and then nothing. I text him worried that he didn't make it there or back and got no reply so i rang and also got no reply. ...

How do I tell my girlfriend to stop grabbing me in public?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5568 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - Okay I need a little help. Me and my gf have been going out for over a year and I really like her and she does too.. Now I don't mind pda (public displays of affection), like holding hands, hugging, or making out but she just goes a little too far....

Why do teenage girls always go after hot guys?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - why do teenage girls never even give not so hot guys a chance? why do they feel awkward around ugly guys?...

Is my boyfriend bisexual?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Ok, so last night by boyfriend was not sober and I went to his house this morning. I went into his bathroom and I saw a dildo on his shower, I didn't want to say anything about it cause I didn't want to embarrass him. I walked out of the bathroom ...