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*oofast15
writes:I met this chick during summer school last year and we totally hit it off. Before school was out, I asked her if she wanted to hook up and have some fun, she enthusiasticaly agreed and so we got together. I really found her attractive and really liked her personality. So for the past 5 or 6 months we have been together. At first we were just friends with benefits, then things heated up and we made it exclusive. Soon after I told her that I loved her and she told me she loved me. I just don't know what we are any more because all she wants to do is have sex. I love sex, and the sex is extremley good, but every time we make plans to go out an eat or something she always backs out. I know she is busy what with her 3 kids and all but if she really loved me than she would find some way to go out with me just every once in a while. We see each other in the morning about 3-4 times a week for sex but thats all we do. I want to spend some time with her but she says she's not really into going out. the thing that really chaps my hide is that she always brings up her friend that is a guy, she has explained many times how much she really liked him but that he wasn't ready for anything. She has told me about many diffrent times they went out to eat, go to the art gallery, flea markets etc so why does she not want to go anywhere with me?? She hangs out with him whenever he comes back into town and he has since explained that he has feelings for her. She has told me that he had his chance and blew it and that she loves me. She still wants to remain friends with him though. We were supposed to go out one night, and instead she made me wait 30 minutes and then later blew off dinner while she went and saw her friend. He even offered her sex, so what the hell??? What's crazy is I was mad but I just looked the other way. Does she still like him and just want me for sex, or does she love me and just wants to really be friends with him??
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): I'm currently dating/engaged to a 36 year old woman. She has three kids and acts very odd. This situation is so similar that I almost wonder if we are dating the same woman. I would love to know if that was the case. Especially since I'm think about marriage. If you go to school in the Hattiesburg Mississippi area drop a first name on me. Surely wouldn’t hurt to be sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): she's a selfish bitch…seriously…move on :(
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reader, toofast15 +, writes (1 February 2009):
toofast15 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell...today she called me and asked if i wanted to grab some hot choclate so i was like sure any time after six. well 6:45 rolls around and still havent heard from her on our plans. so thats nothing new to me so i dont even get botherd. she finnaly calls around 7 o'lock and informs me that her son is sick. iam used to this by now so agin iam not botherd cause i new somthing would happen. but during our conversation she gets another call and tells me that she will call me back. almost an hour goes by and still havent heard back so i decide to give her a ring just to see if she was still on the phone, and she wasint. so iam like what the hell??? she calls me back a minute or two after i called and was acting surprised that i called. by this point iam at my nerves end and tell her that the reason that i called was because she was supposed to call me back. she was suprised and said that she totally forgot....iam sure you just dont forget to call a loved one back just that easily. so now iam mad and dont know what to do, right now iam not answering her text. is that ok?? or should i do something diffrent???
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (30 January 2009):
I think that you should talk to her and then if she doesn't want more then sex then move on to another girl!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): have fun! you're young…she's old! play the field boy!
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reader, toofast15 +, writes (29 January 2009):
toofast15 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe talk everday on the phone, does that mean anything??? i just feel like iam cheating or betraying her.
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reader, Jmo +, writes (29 January 2009):
 No it wouldn't be wrong to go out and see someone casually. You owe it to yourself.
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reader, toofast15 +, writes (29 January 2009):
toofast15 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso would it be wrong to go casually go out with another girl while i continue to see her?? iam 21 and shes 36. shes divorced.
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reader, toofast15 +, writes (29 January 2009):
toofast15 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso would it be wrong to go casually go out with another girl?? while i continue to see her??
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (29 January 2009):
It sounds like you are just sex. The next morning that she comes over have breakfast made and tell her you only want to talk. Then bring up the fact that she doesn't make time for you. Tell her you want to take a step back and get to know eachother again and that you do not want to have sex until that is done. Tell he you need to know if you too have a future and if you are going to become a family and if not that you need to find someone else who you can spend the rest of your life with! Good luck!
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reader, Jmo +, writes (29 January 2009):
You're the other guy. Trust me. I've had them. And I completely agree with pvtguy, "Don't sink your heart into this one, but enjoy it until you find someone who will be more for you."
-Jmo
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reader, jam jar  +, writes (29 January 2009):
 sorry but she only wants you for sex. to her just someone to help her blow off steam. you need to find someone else hu will love you bac. break up wiv her and no matter wat she says dnt change your mind
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): how old is this woman? sounds like she's using you for sex…ask her what's the deal
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