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Am I assuming too much? Should just leave now, as he resembles some qualities of my ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted today

17 January 2017 (F - Modnote: Two very similar posts started off the same and were from the same poster. The two have been combined herein. without repeating the identical start . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . So I have been going out with this guy for...

Logically I know it doesn't matter, but I am struggling with my Girlfriend's past!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted today

16 January 2017 (M - I know a lot of you are going to say this is just another guy with hang-ups and insecurities suffering from hypocritical retrospective jealousy – and to a certain extent you may be right – but I really am desperate to fix this (fix myself?), so ...

Is she his EX? Is my BF being honest to me? He seems very emotionally connected to his woman he says he is helping due to the woman's health issues

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted today

16 January 2017 (F - About almost TWO years ago, my boyfriend who is 37 years old asked me (28 years old) to do him a favour and to please call his female ”friend” (27 years old) to give her an address (which I looked up and it happened to be of a lawyer as far as I can ...

He is still under her thumb. What can I do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted yesterday

15 January 2017 (F - Hello, I am slightly put off and rather upset at the moment. I live in a small town with my boyfriend of almost six years, and he... Well he is always dragging me over to his ex's place, making me spend the night, doing all her "to do" lists, and ...

I think I am pregnant and the dad has disappeared.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted yesterday

15 January 2017 (F - Well. I met a guy months ago. We went out 3 times. At the 2nd one we had sex. I was the one who brought the sexual topic to the conversation. After sex we had sex once more. And the condom didn't work. I think I'm probably pregnant. He started ...

Am I reading this situation right, or am I over reacting?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted yesterday

14 January 2017 (F - Please help me understand if I'm overreacting. Here is some backgrounds, I'm 40, divorced, have a kid and started dating online.I don't like to date few people at once so I focused on the first guy that I started talking to. He is 42 single, highly ...

I asked before and followed advise but nothing works

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted yesterday

14 January 2017 (F - I have written here before asking for advice and I tried to take th advice but I'm still feeling the urge and fighting so hard to be happy - I can't seem to get over my ex- it's been close to a year - it was a short relationship and he wasn't let's ...

People changing their minds about crushing on you years later...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted yesterday

14 January 2017 (M - When someone turns you down romantically or makes no time for your friendship, then years later they see you again. Suddenly, like nothing has happened they are all over you, and suddenly attracted you. Do you give them a chance or leave them? ...

I am worried about letting my daughter's father back into her life.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

14 January 2017 (F - Hello everyone. I'm a single mum to my beautiful 8 year old daughter and I have struggled in the past but I have always got by. I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant with her, and at the insistence of her dad, I went through with the pregnanc...

Could it be her using fake profiles?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

13 January 2017 (M - I would like your opinions about what has happened four times in the last four months, i have been on a dating site for few years now, I've had two girlfriends,so the one ghost me a year ago, I've ask a few women friends of mine about this, well I ...

I love him but he's still not over her. What can I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

12 January 2017 (F - I am in love with my boyfriend who is my first love, boyfriend, and overall first (in everything). However I am not his. This normally wouldn't bother me as much as it does, but his first was so significant to him that I'm not sure what my ...

Is it ok to masturbate?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

12 January 2017 (M - Being a sportsperson I masturbate , is it okay to do it? I have heard it decreases stamina etc..just please help ....

I've got an ex husband, an ex fiance and a new guy who all want me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

12 January 2017 (F - I'm 39 divorced and had been dating someone for 3 years. I knew him from university.He lives in another country. We became engaged. I have gone through a lot for this long distance relationship to make it work. I applied for a fiancé visa for him ...

He has lied and I don't know why

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

11 January 2017 (F - My boyfriend has lied to me about how serious an ex relationship was but I don't know why. He said he and the girl were just friends and they flirted a bit but that was it however while over at his house a few days ago I found an old valentines c...

How can I stop him bringing up my ex'?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

11 January 2017 (F - My boyfriend constantly keeps on about my past. I'm 4 years older than him and had a long-term relationship with someone else before we met. He's only ever really had flings and more casual relationships before me. We've been together 4 years but ...

Should I tell my ex that feelings have resurfaced for him even though we are both married to others?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

10 January 2017 (F - Hi guys! My ex-partner and I separated amicably over a decade ago, and keep in contact and remain friendly towards one another for the sake of our fifteen year old daughter, whom we co-parent. Our relationship, which lasted for about eight years, f...

I'm not sure if I should hang in there or let it go ...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

10 January 2017 (M - Hello everyone, I'm not sure where to begin? I came out of a very bad relationship. I try not to say anything negative about anyone, but imagine the worst things you can do and she pretty much did it. This ended about a year ago. I met...

How should I act towards him for the best outcome?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

9 January 2017 (F - A while ago I kissed someone from work who I had liked for a while. He told me he had feelings for me and we began texting. -But then later said because his ex works at the same place nothing could happen. And then kissed a different co wor...

I still think he cares. How can I convince him that I am fine? Or should I even try?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

9 January 2017 (F - I was in a five year relationship with a man I loved. He lived with me in my home and we did everything together. We saw a counselor together because we had broken up in the past. In one session the counselor made some comment about my memory ...

My crazy abusive ex got a job where I work.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

9 January 2017 (F - I was in a emotionally abusive relationship for years. I finally had the strength to get away. For years, the cycle was that she would do something horrific to me, and then break up with me. We would proceed not to speak for a while until she ...

Boyfriend lost his job, became depressed and now won't speak to me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

9 January 2017 (F - I'm in a pretty bad situation. I dated a guy for 6 months long distance and were very serious- he met my family, I spoke to his, our parents talked- we were on the marriage track. 4 months into it he told me that he was unemployed. It threw me for a ...

My abusive ex is dating again. Would it be weird or wrong if I warn his new Gf about him?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

8 January 2017 (F - Hello all, Ok here's the short situation I was married have two kids with the guy. He cheated and abused me verbally and physically. We ended up getting a divorce and I'm finally free of him. He is living in another county now. He does n...

I don't feel good that my husband talks to his ex behind my back! What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 10 days ago

6 January 2017 (F - I have been cheated on in the past and I just can't stop with snooping. I've talked to my husband about it but I just keep finding him communicating with his ex and he deletes them right away. I just saw that he told her I don't like them keeping in ...

What should I do about my ex-partner and eventually getting him back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 8 days ago

6 January 2017 (F - How do I get my ex boyfriend back?? I was with him for one year but friends for years before that. I have previously been in an abusive relationship(6 years ago) The partner at the time lied and lied to me that he wasn't cheating, to the point...

I've fallen for my friend's ex! What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 8 days ago

5 January 2017 (F - I have fallen in love with my friend's ex. What should I do? I have been crushing on him for just over a year now and can't stop thinking about him, they broke up about 2 and a half years ago and she is in a relationship with this new guy who she ...

The phone messages he's been receiving from her do bother me. But how do I raise the issue with my husband?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 8 days ago

5 January 2017 (F - Hello I am a woman in my late 20's who has been married for 2 years. I have a problem and don't know how to handle it. My husband back when we were first dating over 4 years ago had cheated on me with a woman he was friends with at a drunken par...

She's broken up with her girlfriend and I've always thought we could have something special together, what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

5 January 2017 (F - Yesterday I bumped into an old friend, someone I haven't seen much of this past year, but someone I have always, since we first met, had very strong feelings for. In the entire time that I have known her she has always had a long-term girlfriend, ...

He is using me as his "get out" clause.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

4 January 2017 (F - So basically me ex fiancé who I have a son with told me that he would stop seeing the girl he's talking to if I had an issue with her and her being around my son. He doesn't seem partically happy about them talking they hardly ever see each oth...

Why did he tell me about his ex wife?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

4 January 2017 (F - I like a guy I work with and have been getting closer to him. We've known each other for a few years now but before I was very shy. We have a bit of an age difference so that made me a bit more hesitant as I wasn't sure if he would be interested. ...

Are my dreams of him significant?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 12 days ago

3 January 2017 (F - i have reoccurring dreams about my ex-boyfriend who left me after 12 years and married someone else but always called and drop by unexpected. he passed away 3 years ago and I still have dreams about seeing him and his wife together. a few days ...

Is my jealousy justified?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 13 days ago

2 January 2017 (M - Hello aunts. I am writing this because I really need help with a recent situation that I am just not handling well. Thanks in advance. First, some background. I'm 30 and I met my current wife two years ago in a business dinner. We flirted a bit an...

What I want to know is, if he is seeing my ex best friend then would he really want to stay friends and in touch with me when there is a good chance I would eventually find out

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 14 days ago

2 January 2017 (F - My boyfriend of one year an I split up 8 weeks ago. We split because I thought he was seeing my best friend....I still do. He has ALWAYS sworn that he never had and never would have anything to do with her and that one day I will see that. He tells...

Am I over-reacting to the news that my Gf of 8 months failed to tell me (until very recently) that her friend was also her ex ?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 13 days ago

31 December 2016 (M - My gf of 8 months and i have been hitting it off great, discussing issues that come up. She recently informed me that she had dated one of her friends-- who we've both hung out with at parties on a lot of special events, ie birthdays etc. I was ...

Does he possibly still like me? Is it normal behaviour to spend Xmas with your ex and not with a child he fathered?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 13 days ago

30 December 2016 (F - Me and my ex split in November 2013 due to him leaving for a new job then couple months later me finding out he met someone he knew and having a kid with her. Which I've asked many times but he will always denie anything. Anyway Feb this yr he r...

Do you think my ex is deliberately calling me on purpose? Is he seeking my attention? Or is it likely that the calls were an accident?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 13 days ago

30 December 2016 (F - We were together for 7 years, and broke off 4 months ago. He missed call me today (on social media) at 8am. And I texted "u called?" He said it was accidental. So I didn't reply. Then he missed call again at 130pm. I texted this ":/" Then h...

Did he ever love me at all? Is he a narcissist?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

27 December 2016 (F - I am here to vent/advice/ any input at all.. I am starting to think and believe my ex boyfriend was a narcissist. and wondering if he ever loved me at all. he and I were together for a couple years "in love" and would introduce me to friends and f...

Should I just move on? I don't want to be in the way of them remaking a family.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

23 December 2016 (F - I'm wondering if I'm being over sensitive to my boyfriend's need to "play family" with his ex and his children. Every week it seems, on his week's with the kids, she's over for some reason or another. He kept the house, she cheated on him a...

Is my fiance's contact with his ex's normal? He has been married 3 times.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

23 December 2016 (F - I'm a divorced woman who was married for 27 years. I got married at 17, so I've had little relationship experience. I've been divorced for just under 2 years now. I have a boyfriend who I just said yes to marrying. What bothers me about my fian...

Why would my guy friend think I should continue to listen to him talking about his past relationships with other women? What should I say to him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

21 December 2016 (F - Dear Cupid,my guy friend and I have been friends for a while and we wanted to take it to a next level but today we had a little spat it's crazy to me but it's whatever. Long story short he has a thing for high yellow complexed women and that's f...

Do I make contact with his other child's mother?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

18 December 2016 (F - Hi there I getting in contact because I don't knowwho else to ask.I am with a guy for less then a year we have a child a little boy whose a month old well anyway he got a daughter who is 5 yes old who he doesn't see because he said the mother Wouldn...

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