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Archived questions from: 23 January, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

Guys, what do you like in a girl?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5576 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Guys, what do you like in a girl? I'm not going to try to change myself or anything, but what specific personality and physical traits do you, personally, find attractive?...

How can I build my guy-confidence?

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23 January 2009 (F) - Whenever I have crushes on guys, I'm always crushing from far way... i.e. I'm hardly conversing with them, if I am at all. How can I build up my guy-confidence? And all that giggley flirting isn't my style......

In love with my best friend who denies it, has anyone been in this situation?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5576 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - I've been in love with my best friend for about 4 years, and its getting too much to bare, and I need some advice! We're both 18 and single, and have known each other for about 15 years, since playschool really, but only best friends for about 8 ...

How long should I wait and should I just ask her if she likes me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (M) - I've had a crush on this girl for 2 years but never brought myself to asking her out. She has two kids, as I do, and she recently broke up with her boyfriend because he didn't like her kids. We've been to lunch, movies, and we talk at the gym but ...

Why do all these guys take me for granted?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Right then here goes, what I want to know is this-why is it that the guys I have relationships with always seem to take me for granted then after we've split up they (and it can be a few years after we've split) they say I was the love of their ...

He called me his "f*ck buddy", what did he mean by that?!?!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5304 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend (who's immature and only 15!) were talking the other night and he said im his "fuck buddy" and laughed then knew he fucked up so he went completely silent and i hung up on him. should i call him? what did he mean by that!...

I really want to know how he feels without making it obvious that I like him.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Okay, I've seen a lot of questions like this and none of the answers have really helped, and I really do need advice on this one. I'm in Year 9 and recently, I've got to know a boy in Year 12 and now I'm starting to fall for him. He really is a...

Do I wait for my ex to come back or get with the new guy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Hey! Right, 8 days ago me and my long term boyf split up. Upsetting? Much. Im 16 btw. This guy in the special class im in, is 14 and he has shown a massive interest. He holds my hand, kisses me and defends me all the time. Hes a bit crackers and ...

Is he playing hard to get? Does he want me to ask him out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - He liked me a lot for more than 1 year, it was extremely obvious, but when he showed his true feelings i strongly rejected him in different ways, 'cause i was kinda shy.. but he never insulted me and he's the type who would do it. now he knows for ...

Is what we're doing considered dating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - I would really appreciate it if I can get another point of view about how people define dates. I've met this guy under platonic circumstances, he made it clear that he is currently busy with graduate school and not looking for casual sex. In a...

Guys: How long until you ask her to be your girlfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5225 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Question for guys! How long would you wait to ask her to be your girlfriend? I mean guys still do that right, or do you just know. I would want a guy to ask me...Lol. Anyways, I've been dating this guy for about (2) weeks now. We've gone out o...

How do I tell him I was really, really kidding and still show I'm very, very much into him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Help! I've been dating this guy for a couple of weeks now. Let's just say (2) weeks. We've been loooong talking about going out to the casino. Yeah, we joked around about a weekend get-away. I was only kidding..it's too soon, I'm not ready to spend ...

Help me get him away from her - or me away from him!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Pleeeease help me, what should I do? I really like this guy who has a girlfriend who is giving him sex, and I've totally backed out of the picture but he keeps trying to draw me back in. He seems to need my attention by flirting with me which ...

I like him but I don't know how to talk to him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Please Help! Im 17 btw. Ok, so there is a guy that i really like, but i just dont know how to talk to him. i notice him staring at me a lot, and when i am not facing in his direction, i notice that he walks by me a lot more, and talks to my frie...

He wants to get it on, but I'm a virgin and he doesn't know! What to do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5574 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - I need some help, I am a twenty six year old virgin, there is a guy at work whom I have been flirting with for about a year, he has said to me that on the next night out we should get it on back at his. I am thinking wow because he is gorgeous and ...

How do I get him to make the first move without getting humiliated?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - I really like this guy, and i think he likes me too. But there is always a possibility that he doesn't. So I don't want to make the first move and suggest meeting up outside of school, in case he rejects me. Also I have this thing where the guy has ...

How should my boyfriend and I deal with a girl who is trying ot get between us?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Hello aunts and uncles, I have a question and the answer may be obvious to some, but I have never dealt with a situation like this before and I don't want to do the wrong thing and blow things out of proportion, I want to deal with this correctly. ...

Why does it ruin it over stupid little things? Or am I taking it too seriously?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Ok well me and my bf have been together about a year and 2 months or so .. but lately things have started to go wrong.. we've just been having STUPID arguments, i wont go into to details but they are petty. Latest one was he got annoyed with me ...

Why is she lying about knowing him, he's on her facebook!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (M) - Ok, so I have this dilemma that is just eating at me. Im with this girl, she says we're more then friends and she "thinks" of me like a b/f. Well i was messaging her through MSN one night... and she wouldn't answer, then after awhile... Some guy...

What would be an acceptable time frame for responding to friendly emails?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - I am seeing this guy who has a busy schedule as a graduate student. We usually communicate by email but recently I begin to feel that his speed of reply does not match my expectation. I would like to know what is the usual acceptable time fo...

I sometimes get the feeling that I am sometimes over bearing. I always want to show my love and affection.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (M) - I've been in my relationship for nearly a year. I sometimes get the feeling that I am sometimes over bearing. I always want to show my love and affection. I don't know whether it's because of the person I am I'm just scared that I may push her awa...

Were on a break, am I being played for a Fool?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (M) - Let me know what you guys think. I've been going out with a girl for 9 months yesterday. When we had been together for 3 months we feel pregnant, we decided to abort it due to certain issues one of them being money. She then started to becom...

I'm not sure I will ever fit into my boyfriend's life.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - I'm not sure I will ever fit into my BF's life. We have been together for 7 months now, he is recently divorced and his family and friends invite his ex-wife to everything. He has never brought me and I know its because he knows I'll be ...

How do you know if you're going too far with a guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Ok so the basic details are, I'm in a long distance relationship here for 6 months now... long story as to why we live so far apart but it's going soo well... I really have been thinking about sending him a picture of me, not in lingerie, but a ...

I miss my ex so much, is there still a chance of us getting back together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5575 days ago

23 January 2009 (M) - hey all! my gf split up with me nearly 3 months now and we'd been together for 4 years, I know that she is still missing me, I'm making the most of what I can, going out with freinds starting a new career and generally geting on with my life except ...

Wanting more than what he will give

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5574 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy since September. We're not boyfriend/girlfriend we're friends and it tears me up inside because I have deep feelings for him. We have had sex a couple of times and it's like the way he treats me, no other boyfriend I had ...

He's on my mind every second of the day but we've split up. How can I get over him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Mine is a long story...... I was with my partner for 5 years and we lived together for 4 of them. Everything was great until we moved into our second house, money was really tight and we had no life together, we were practically living in each o...

My boyfriend left me after 11 years for a younger woman.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend left me after 11 years for a woman who has a young boy of about 7-8 years, he 30 this year I'm 47 and she's 31, he's only been with her for 5 weeks. I found out last night she is a big girl size 16 and non atractive (I know there's ...

He's been cheating on me with his ex!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Hey guys can anyone help me please I'm so desperate at the moment. I've been with a guy for well a year however the first 6 months were unoffical and now it's offical... however throughout the whole time he was always still talking to his e...

I'm always seeing him with another man

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - i have a problem with my bf,who i belived is a gay and he is keep on denying it,but i always see him with a another man and pretended that he is just a friend but i can feel something that its not right,when this is around,how can i be sure that he ...

What do I do now that I've told her I like her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5578 days ago

23 January 2009 (M) - Well i finall got the courage to tell this one girl tat i liked her. so Now what do i do? this is the very first time i ever done something like this and she told me that she didnt expect it since i never treated her like if i ever did like her. so ...

I hate my love life!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - i have two conflicting issues: I am the member of a sorority at Penn but during my 2nd and 3rd year I realized that things made me grow apart and sometimes it seemed like I wasn't a fit, although I was still friends with quite a few of the girls...

His friends say he likes me but he hasn't said so

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - There are a group of boys in my p.e. class and for the three days they keep on insisting that I should date one of there friends. They say he likes me, the way I voice, and that he likes my eyes. But they say it in front of him and he says that he ...

Am I crazy for this love

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Well I kind of feel confused about this so called "relantionship". Im 16 and in 11th grade but it all started when i was in 8th. Theirs this boy who use to like me and would make passes at me all the time asking me to marry him and everything, he ...

Actions speak louder than words and I'm the one always making the 1st move

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - well ive been talkin 2 this guy for about a month n change. He is 21 and im 18 the problem is im not 2 sure if he likes me as much as he says he does.We talk on the phone but thats only if i call him 1st bcuz he doesnt call me.For the time we have ...

Its always up to me to make the first move

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a little over a year now. It seems that I always have to make the first move every single time to call her or even ask her out, and when she is feeling moody due to work, she doesn'...

I thought she was the one but now I don't think she's the one

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5578 days ago

23 January 2009 (M) - i have been dating her for over two years. we lived together for 1 and a half of those. she has a beautiful daughter i love to death. i have three boys also whom live with their mom most of the time. all young. ranging from 6-13 years old. i moved ...

Comments on his facebook have got me wondering what he feels towards me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - I've just split up from a long term relationship. I like this new guy. We've met twice, the first time I chatted to him briefly, I knew that I liked him but thought he didn't like me as he didn't seem that responsive so I left as I didn't want to ...

Should I tell him how I feel? Is this relationship possible?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - I have graduated from college and have known one of my profs for about five years now. We've really hit it off and become good friends, but now I think it's becoming something more. When I was his student, he would pick on me in front of the cla...

I can't seem to let go of my ex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5578 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - My story is long and I really hope someone can help with it because it's been tearing at me ever since it's happened. In my first year university I met a boy and he asked me out, we started out great, he seemed to be everything I asked for. My ...

Why doesn't he call me now?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5197 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - I met a guy last year around November at a gathering. He facebooked me afterwards and we started talking. He seems like an interesting guy and kind too. We exchanged long messages for days for about two weeks and he decided to ask me to go see a ...

I am so so paranoid for no reason.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - I am 18 and so is my boyfriend.. I have a problem... seriously! I'm an over thinker about everything (paranoid in other words), when it comes to my relationship with my boyfriend. I have been with him for 2 years and we are very close. He is an ...

What does it mean when a guy has condoms?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - He has condoms at his place.. when I go to see him he's got condoms when we are going to have sex.. basically he has condoms in his room.. does this mean he's ******* other girls as well and that girls comes over to have sex..?? Please is he ...

In love, but getting into boring habits!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5578 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - soo..seems petty but..! Me and my boyfriend have been going out for over a year, and were really good friends before that. Hes lovely, attractive, charming, outgoing and I really genuinely love him. We had sex for the first time about 8months in...

Is having "break up sex" a good thing?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (M) - Recently me and my gf broke up, but we had breakup sex. Is that bad/weird? :S...

Don't know if I should give her another chance...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5578 days ago

23 January 2009 (M) - for what happened the second time this is the link i ended up giving her another chance but im not sure if i should give her another. http://www.dearcupid.org/quest...

What can I wear that will make him just say, "Damn she's Hot!"

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5578 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Going out on a third date with this guy I'm dating. Not sure what to wear to a club. What will make him just say, "Damn she's Hot!" And make him want to take me back to his apartment, rip my clothes right off, and have his way with me...Ummm not ...

Gay sex tips appreciated.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5575 days ago

23 January 2009 (M) - hey there guys.. I've got a problem which is a tad sentitive. Well I'm 17 and I've been straight up until about 18 or so months ago.. where this belgian lad captured my heart. I've fallen deeply in love with him and yes I'm now fully gay in the...

Unsure if we're compatible...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5578 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Unsure if we're compatible?!? He's a Gemini and I'm a Virgo. Both born 1981. ...

I love my girlfriend and her sister.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5547 days ago

23 January 2009 (M) - Recently, I asked about what to do with my girlfriend's sister. I love my girlfriend and her sister. We all do things together and recently it's elevated to the point where my girlfriend's sister sleeps over all the time and on a few occasions ...

A month ago I found out that I wasn't the only one that he was in love with.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - I've been going out with my boyfriend for two months now. Just about a month ago I found out that I wasn't the only one that he was in love with. I was shocked at first and then found out the other girl started dating another guy. Just recently I've ...

He hasn't text me in 4 weeks!!! What's going on here?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5578 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - What is going on here? HELPPPP? We’ve been together for 3 months.. after 2 months he changed and started been all weird and not calling me much.. he use to call me everyday..last time i saw him he got really angry and accused me of cheating on him.....