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Phone sex with boyfriend turns out awfully wrong

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26 March 2017 (F - I don't know where to start but I've been in a relationship with my man for 5 years and he was never very colourful or expressive when we have phone sex. We recently got into a long distant relationship for 3 months since I'm studying. So these ...

Do men have different personalities with women they casually have sex with?

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25 March 2017 (F - And by different, I mean, do they not care to be fun (with personality) outside the bedroom because he knows you're just a casual thing and not someone he wants to impress? For example, there's this guy who I began dating a while back and we went...

Does it sound like my boyfriend wants to get me pregnant?

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25 March 2017 (F - So I think my boyfriend wants me to get pregnant , without actually saying it . This is more of a question for the guys since they may know more about how they think. First of all we haven't been dating for long but he's already talked about get...

Please explain medical issues of virginity

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25 March 2017 (F - i had sex first time before one year, in a day about 3 times and i lost my virginity , i bled a medium... and want to know that if i will sex after two years.. should i bleed again or not? and what should i do to bleed again?...

Her past bothers me, though I do like our sex life!

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24 March 2017 (M - Hey guys, I've been dating a girl for a few months and it's going really great, but her past has come up more than a few times (mainly by me) her lifestyle bothers me a bit she's 22 and loves to club. Has had 12 sexual partners her last dude wa...

My addictions are affecting my life!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

23 March 2017 (M - Hi, I'm a 22 year old gay male and I think I may have a problem. I've been dealing with feelings of depression and loneliness ever since the 7th grade. Although it is a lot better now because I am more independent, they always come back. I feel ...

Am I a sex addict? 101

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22 March 2017 (F - I just turned 31. I think about sex atleast every 30 minutes. I mentally undress every woman i See or imagine them having sex although im actually not interested in women sexually. My partner count is about 73 men and 2 women. To me a man has to ...

Does this help a man with ED to feel better? What could possibly have allowed me to continue to enjoy knowing my wife was having an affair?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

22 March 2017 (M - I am a 50 year old married man who has had erectile dysfunction problems since before i married my wife.. She was very beautifull when she was younger but that doesnt make a difference when you have ED.. When she was still in her twenties I f...

Family conditioning has defined sex as inappropriate and dangerous. How can I stop feeling afraid pf physical sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

22 March 2017 (F - Ever since I was young, sex was explained to me as something that was inappropriate, dangerous, and could generally be used against me. Both of my parents were always adamant that men couldn't be trusted, and that I needed to be cautious and awar...

Am I a repressed sex addict?

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21 March 2017 (F - Dear cupid, I am 30 year old woman and I have bein single for most of my life, happily single I should say. I had my first kiss at 15, lost my virginity at 18. These were two kinda isolated events more like a box to tick, virginity gone what's n...

I just don't want sex. What can I do about it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

21 March 2017 (F - Hi Please help me. I have been with my partner for eight years. But over the last few years and particularly this year I have lost all interest in sex. I do have a hormone disorder and suffer frequent cystitis so I know that this probably contrib...

Is being too fast rude?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

21 March 2017 (F - Would you consider it rude if a guy gets off within two minutes if it's the first couple of times you've done anything together? I started dating a guy a couple months ago and we started taking out to the next level recently. So far we've done it ...

How Do I Move On From This Affair?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

18 March 2017 (F - Hey Aunts and Uncle's.. I recently got myself into something stupid. I know many of you will judge me for what I have done and say I'm a bad person. But I have a good heart and really need some advice. A year ago, I started working at my ca...

My husband is giving me all these std's , do you think he cheated?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

18 March 2017 (F - Do you think my husband cheated? Hi! so, nine days ago my husband went out with his coworkers to have some drinks and he didn't call me to say he'll come home late or what he would be up to. This left me with a bad feeling because It was weird, you ...

Second cousin is pregnant and I'm the father. How do we break this news to the family?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

18 March 2017 (M - My second cousin, Brooke, and I have always been very close. We never officially dated but on rare occasions, we did become physical. When we were both 14 years old, she was my first kiss. Most of the time we are not physical. We just spend time ...

I'm not a virgin. How do I hide this from my husband on my wedding night?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

18 March 2017 (F - how can i hide from my husband on first night that i m not a virgin...

My boyfriend would rather satisfy himself with a rubber vagina than have sex with me!

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18 March 2017 (F - I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 and a half years this last month I've had to beg him to have sex with me when he's drunk he will have sex with me but other then that I have to beg him an the other night I was cleaning out his closet when I ...

Can a true relationship be achieved without the affection and the touchy part?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

17 March 2017 (F - our sex life has slowly deteriorated. He blames it on my weight gain but many people including male friends and family have advised me that the weight is not the problem. He won't see a doctor cause he blames it on me, however he is 11 years olde...

Beating myself up because I may not be her best lover

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 9 days ago

17 March 2017 (M - Here goes. My fiance and I have a good sex life when we have it. She was diagnosed with breast cancer 2 weeks after we started dating. Since then sex is not what it could be. Which is understandable seeing what she has been through. I never...

Does he still want to see me? He said that we would not be compatible long term, but he does like me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 10 days ago

16 March 2017 (F - Dear Cupid I need some advice, I've been seeing this guy for about a month (I'm 19 and he's 25) and we were getting on really well, he takes me out and treats me really nice, we just clicked. We're very similar and we've both noticed this. We'v...

It was his first time. But straight after we finished he called his best friend to tell him we'd had sex. Made me feel like an object. What should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 9 days ago

16 March 2017 (F - Hello, I'm a 16 year old girl. When I was 14 I had a relationship with a boy which lasted about 1,5 year. At the time my parents were breaking up and everything was falling apart. I got sexual abused and that boy destroyed me and I felt like de...

How does her doctor know if she has herpes I if he's never done a test?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 10 days ago

16 March 2017 (M - My question is about herpes, I met a woman she told me she has genital herpes, she is now on valtraxs, the doctor didn't even checked her out down there , she says she has had it for over a dozen years, my question is if he doesn't do a blood test, ...

Sex makes me feel so disgusted in myself, but only afterwards because in the lead up it is always what I want to do at the time. I feel like a horrible person but equally I do not know why I have this light switch effect. Any advice?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 9 days ago

15 March 2017 (M - I feel as if there is something wrong with me and I am frustrated with myself for feeling the way that I do. When I am seeing a new partner, as soon as we have sex I suddenly become completely disinterested in anything intimate with them. This ...

Can she still be a virgin?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 10 days ago

15 March 2017 (M - I know a girl when she was young she did not know what sex means or what it could do to her. She was used by three men sexually eight times, but they never penetrated her vagina and she never remember seeing blood. Can she be still a virgin or get ...

She gives me false hopes and is still chatting with her ex! Advice?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

15 March 2017 (M - Hello DearCupid readers, I am 30. two and a half months ago I got in contact with a woman, who is 24 and she has a 2 year old daughter. We first talked online and then started seeing each other offline, since we're both in the same city. In...

Boyfriend wants me to indulge in an MMF threesome with his best friend

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 10 days ago

14 March 2017 (F - My boyfriend of a year recently asked me if I would be into a MMF threesome with one of his best friends, although his words were "tag team". He revealed it was one of his fantasy's, and asked me if I would be into it. At the time I said I don't ...

Does he like me or just want sex?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

14 March 2017 (F - Just when I'd totally shut my self off from dating then the world gave me this guy. I have known him since 2012 but I always ignored him and blocked his calls. Recently I haven't been going out much and he suddenly contacted me. I decided to hang ...

How can I stop coming on so strong?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

14 March 2017 (M - Hey everyone. So I've been posting here for quite a while about all of my struggles with attracting women. I think I may finally realize what's been going on. I come on too strong and over analyze things on pretty much every attempt. It's just who I ...

How easy is it for some men to cheat?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

13 March 2017 (F - How easy it is for some men to cheat? Do you think my man cheated on me based on this: *He's had sex with approx. 30 girls that I know about... *They are all types of faces and bodies and most of them he says he considers them ugly. (Ma...

How do I get her to want sex more?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

13 March 2017 (M - I am in a relationship with a sag woman, I'm a virgo. We have been together for 7 months and about 2 months ago we had sex for the first time. We both seemed to enjoy it and I was able to make her orgasm ( better then last lovers according to her) ...

Lesbian, Bisexual or Heterosexual or all three? I’m confused, any chance of talking some sense into me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 12 days ago

12 March 2017 (F - I used to identify as a lesbian, and had only had serious relationships with women, however I fell madly in love with my male best friend, who has now been my partner for the past three years. We have an excellent relationship and have many exc...

The guy is turning into an alcoholic. Should I keep it to myself that I'm pregnant, and raise the baby without him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

12 March 2017 (F - I don't know what I want to do at this point. I think I may be pregnant with the guy I'm currently seeing. I feel like he's going on a downward spiral at the moment. He had a weekend out with the boys and he got really drunk and now he is gettin...

Am I expecting too much of my wife? I desire to make love to my wife, but she says it stresses her out when I initiate

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 8 days ago

12 March 2017 (M - I have been married for over 21 years. The last three years have been quite challenging as my wife, who is 3 year older than me, is going through menopause and hormonal changes. I am empathetic and offer my support and encouragement as she goes thr...

Why cry? Was she feeling guilty? My LDR is currently studying overseas. She has started a new friendship there but promised me that they would not have full sex

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 10 days ago

11 March 2017 (M - Hello guys, My gf is studying abroad currently in a relationship with someone else, we were arguing cause i was asking how far their relationship is. The sex) She promised she wont have sex with her current BF but then when i asked if she did to h...

Porn related little white lie - should I let it go?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 10 days ago

10 March 2017 (F - Should I bring it up or let it go? My husband is very busy running three businesses. He gets very stressed with it. Sometimes he masturbates to porn to relieve tension - I know all this, it's not every day or all the time. Sometimes I use his ...

Fun with cyber sex? Or more?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 15 days ago

10 March 2017 (F - I met this guy through a dating app and we clicked! We spoke for a few days on that app. At that moment, I was still getting over a tough breakup for me. I hadn't exchanged numbers with this guy yet. One day, don't know what got into me then but I ...

My Long Term girlfriend has just been diagnosed with Herpes. Should I bail?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 15 days ago

8 March 2017 (M - The question i'm posing is whether or not i should leave my girlfriend of almost 5 years. I know that herpes can lay dormant for a long period of time, and i know there is a POSSIBILITY that either of us could have had herpes with no symptoms for ...

Does my Bf really care, after 8 months together if he'll unwilling to hold hands in public and only becomes more demonstrative when he wants sex?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 10 days ago

8 March 2017 (F - My boyfriend and I been together 0ff and on, but now we been together for 8 months and when we out and about he dont hold my hand. He still tell people that i am his friend and we live together and he only holds me when he want sex. i can sleep na...

Does he have a sexual addiction to anal? The business card has raised questions for me. Should I ask him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 19 days ago

7 March 2017 (F - Hey Guys, From some time in my 3 years of ”Inconsistent” Relationship with my bf, we had sex once a week (we could not do it more ”due to schedules and his medical studies”) Besides not having much sex, he also happened to have, well I could de...

We went from sex twice a day to maybe once a week. I can't live without sex!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

7 March 2017 (F - Hey here's the problem my boyfriend and I used to have sex twice a day morning and night we've been together just over 2 years he moved in after being together a year the past few months we hardly ever have sex maybe once a week I asked him if he ...

Is it wrong of me to use him for sex?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

6 March 2017 (M - So there's this guy that fancied me. I sleep with him but don't have no feelings. Is it wrong of me using him for sex when he wants more ...

He slept with me, then slept with my best female friend and now he's acting all weird. What's up with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

6 March 2017 (M - i fancied this guy and he gave me a bi vibe. It was all secret cause I'm not out But he ended up sleeping with my best friend who is a girl and has gone really weird lately. He don't talk to either of us since my friend told him he was bad in be...

Boyfriend no longer even tries to have sex with me because its painful

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

5 March 2017 (F - I'm having an issue with my boyfriend of about a year now. We haven't had sex in about a month and he says it's because I'm sensitive down there since it hurts when we have sex. He said he's just tired of that happening so he doesn't want to even ...

Any words of advice on how I can negotiate to achieve more respectful better relationships in the future?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 15 days ago

4 March 2017 (F - Sometimes I feel like I should just tell a man from the very beginning: "I am looking for a purely physical relationship, the kind that begins and ends in your bed, and I don't meet your friends, and we don't share our lives with each other. Or...

Our relationship is going fine. But our sex life is declining. What could be the reason for this decline?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 20 days ago

4 March 2017 (M - Does sex life tend to decline after a few years? My girlfriend was virgin when she met me. She used to love sex, was extremely naughty and used to want it more than me. Now few years later she isn't really up for it. She says it not me, she does...

Why is he withholding sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 12 days ago

3 March 2017 (F - Withholding sex? I have been seeing a guy I met for the past 4-5 months. The first few months were quite casual and we'd only see each other maybe once a week. The last couple we've been doing more together, going on trips out of town etc. At the...

Did I lose my chance with this guy because we met on T

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 12 days ago

3 March 2017 (F - I am a fun, bubbly, warm, funny, kind/caring, and positive young woman. I know it sounds silly to say, but I made a Tinder earlier in the year thinking that people used it to find relationships and stupidly, I found out most used it for hookups. ...

The red-blooded male in me says to give her more experience, the gentleman in me says to wait a few years!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 12 days ago

3 March 2017 (M - Sex question- a girl I've met online is very inexperianced and wants me to teach her about the physicality of sex. What's the problem?- there's a 12 year age gap and while she's above the age of consent and therefore it would be legal, the ethic...

Does his behavior indicate that he's an emotional abuser? Should I breakup with him?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 13 days ago

2 March 2017 (F - 1-) In life, we should have certain words filtered, my boyfriend does not seem to have one. I am upset because, he has this tendency of referring to woman as bi***es, ”oh tha b*tch does this or that, in a very despotic way, he does not say this all ...

Why do I always ''arrive'' faster with girls than with guys? I think I'm bisexual

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

2 March 2017 (M - Hi, i'm looking for some advice here. Right so, im pretty sure im bisexual, or hetrofelxible, or whatever doesn't really matter im well experienced with both sexes. So, there was this guy, i came over to his, he was waiting naked, proceeded...

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