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Archived questions from: 18 January, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

What do you think... Is he trying to make me jealous?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5539 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I live in a small town where everybody knows each other and there’s not a lot of people your own age. There’s this boy (I’ll pretend his name is Aiden) and he lives on a farm outside a close town. We both go to the same church. There isn’t a good ...

Big argument!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - Hi, the other day me and my best mate were in the park chatting to her boyfriend and his mates and somehow my boyfriend saw us and later that day me and my mate where at my house and my boyfriend came round and started shouting at me and then he ...

Should I tell my partner I cheated a year ago?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we are both in our mid-late twenties. He put me in a very vulnerable position early in relationship which I forgave him for and we worked through it. Last year I made a stupid mistake and cheated on him. I ...

I have thoughts on a regular basis that the two of us should probably go our separate ways.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - I've been with my girlfriend for just over 4 years, we met at university and have been together ever since. However I can remember as little as 6 months had passed before I started to have doubts; the doubts were usually pushed aside by long ...

I've never done this before! How do I let him down easy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I just found out my boyfriend of 3 months has full custody of his 2 small children from a previous marriage. How he kept this from me I have no idea. I have chosen not to have children of my own because I simply do not want to deal with them. ...

I need some advice with my mother.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - For the longest time I can't even remember when it started, I had a strong sexual attraction to my mother and I still do till this day. I have a girlfriend, she knows about this and sometimes she tells me to think of her when we have sex but for ...

Discussing difficult situation from past with new girlfriend

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - I'm 17, and a junior in high school. Last summer, an ex girlfriend of mine falsely accused me of attempted rape. The case didn't get very far, the police dropped it almost immediately, and another organization that specializes in sex abuse cases for ...

He says if I don't stop being so jealous and insecure it's not going to work, But I can't help it, what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5568 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years. We have had good times and bad. This my first relationship, well real relationship. Every other guy in my life has hurt me. I feel like I'm not good enough for him. He looks at porn a lot and it ...

I'm sure permanent lovesickness can cause damage - and I need some motivational tips.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - Hey. I'm a common 18 year old girl that has been plunged into the depths of lovesickness! I'm in desperate need of love advice - so please help me if you can! Here's my question... Ever since I was 7, I've really REALLY liked this guy that was 4 y...

My b/f & I just can't communicate!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I don't understand why my b/f and I cannot communicate. He can be so patient and kind when talking to other family members or friends, as they ramble on and on about endless details on things I know he couldn't care less about but the minute I try ...

Afraid to ask a girl out for numerous reasons

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (?) - i dont no what to do... i need some advice.. o.k there's this grl i really like..we get along great we're really close..she's like an angel, i dont stop thinking about her, but im afriad to ask her out, for multiple reasons 1st- if she says no,...

Go to Singapore w b/f? Or stay for friends/family

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5574 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - Hey everyone, i have a dilemma!! I have been with my boyfriend 6 years and he might be going to uni to study in singapore! it wont be before summer, but im trying to figure out whether to go with him or not. Its hard coz my sister is pregnant and ...

A bit too much, too soon

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - I’m involved with this really amazing boy, we met on an internet dating site and we have tonnes in common etc. the problem is I feel he is getting very quickly emotionally involved. On the first night we slept together he had to go to work super ...

I'm the one left out

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I am 15 years old. I know I am not ugly,or fat, but I am self concious about my looks. I have never really been asked out in my life except once for a joke. It makes me feel lonely and rejected what should I do? At primary school I was always the...

He accuses me of cheating, now I haven't heard from him in 2 weeks

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - We’ve been together for 3months.. after 2 months he changed and started been all weird and not calling me much.. he use to call me everyday..last time i saw him he got really angry and accused me of cheating on him...saying i am not giving him sex ...

Which one would you pursue? Do you have any general advice on dating older women?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - My female peers are, on average, older than me (although they often think I’m older). I’ve dated older women in the past but they always seemed to be three steps ahead of me and it puts a horrible strain on the relationship. At the time, I had ...

Has anyone else ever had their heart ripped apart like this, and how did you deal with it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5549 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I live some miles aways from each other, and every time he comes to see me (he never lets me come to his) he had to take two buses, which took nearly two hours and cost a lot of money which he barely had. Last night he came into ...

I am having a really hard time getting over her. What's your opinions?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - Hello I was dating a girl for 2 months and everything was going great, until x-mas when she stopped putting effort into our relationship right after a trip to where she resently moved from. Then she stopped telling me about what was going on and...

Texting the Male

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I have recently read many responses to many ladies' concern of why their boyfriends or signifcant others don't respond to their text and how it makes them feel... Well, what i am about to write could be considered a tip to all those lady texters out ...

It's almost too much now to keep everything straight at work, home, and even with her. Any advice would be helpful.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5580 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - I've been in this relationship with a single woman for 6 months, I'm unhapply married 30 years. It's getting harder with her when I leave to go home. She keeps saying she wants me to stay, that really makes me mad. Doesn't she realize I that it's ...

He's emotionally abusive, and physically as well. He's manipulative, controlling, and a very angry person.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been in a serious relationship with each other for almost four years now. I am 17 and he is almost 18. I do love him, and he says that he loves me. Things have been going sour for awhile now. I'm confused, and would ...

Question of marriage

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I have been a good relationsship for nearly 20 years. My partner doesn't want to get married or have children (though initially he wanted both and then changed his mind about 3 years into the relationship and then asked me to marry him about 7 ...

I am hurt and confused. How should I feel about this?!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5566 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been dating for five months. This week I was grounded and she was texting him and told him that she likes him but loves me?! He has a girlfriend and she initiated this with him. What should I do about this? I am hurt and ...

How do I rebuild trust in my partner?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5482 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - How do I rebuild trust in my partner? He was unfaithful to me in the early stages of the relationship with his ex, I was devastated when I found out but thought the relationship was worth saving and so we worked through this. In a previous ...

What am I doing wrong? Why am I never the one chosen?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5580 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - I don't know what I'm doing wrong. Most of the time I have a crush on somebody, I do some things with them, but I don't want to ask them out too soon as I don't know them that well. For example, last night, I was dancing with a nice young lady, we ...

My boyfriend slapped me

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 5178 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - Ok, so I was walking in the mall with my boyfriend and suddenly a girl (stranger) came to me and whispered in my ears, "Check your pants zip". Obviously, I was so embarrassed and so when my boyfriend asked me what she said, I just lied to him that ...

I'm having a very difficult time with LDR

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I'm 19 years old and have been with my boyfriend who's 22 for nearly 6 months now. We have a great relationship, we're both very affectionate, loving and caring towards one another and we make each other laugh, in fact ive never been so happy in a ...

I'm so self conscious of my body, I have no confidence in my looks

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5576 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - My problem is about my body... I'm 19 and I'm not overweight or fat, I'm a size 10 on top and 12 on bottom and no one has ever said anything bad or offensive about my weight that would make me feel self conscious, however, I really am. im in...

Since my g/f has been ill she's distanced herself from me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5581 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - hey well i got a bit of a problem and im not sure wat to do.. me and my gf have been goin out for 4 months or so now (long distance) and she has been very very ill for about 2 months and she finds it difficult to have long conversations an...

He likes his ladies thicker

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriends past girlfriends have all been thick and i am the first girlfriend he has had that is thin. He tells me he is unhappy with sex since i am thin but tells me that sex is not everything in a relationship. I still feel like to him it is ...

Why do they always break my heart??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I've had 4 failed relationships and all of them didn’t turn out well at all.. in the beginning it would be soo nice.. but then after a while all the phone calls would stop and it seem like am the only one tryng to make it work. trying to force them ...

Am I being too forgiving??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5575 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I am wondering if I am being too nice by accepting my bf's apology? We are both 20 years old and have been going out for about 3 months. From when I first met him, I had a really good gut feeling about him, I felt he was genuine and the real thi...

Her inconsistencies are driving me up the wall...please help!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - I moved in with a girl two years ago after talking on the phone for several months quite extensively about mutual our desires to have a family and and finally meeting in San Francisco. She flew out to meet me from the east coast. We had a great ti...

What is your opinion??? Is it too late???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - Hi I was going out with a guy for 10 months and we really connected and I know I fell for him. However, out of the blue, he said he did'nt think he could have a loving relationship with me but had also said that I lit his fire and made he feel goo...

I came across this and I didn't know what to think and I want to know wether or not I should be concerned..

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5533 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - After some snooping which I feel horrible about I came across this and I didn't know what to think and I want to know wether or not I should be concerned... I am trax, and the rest is kind of self explanatory... Look "ex bf", I love you a...

He wants to have sex with other girls before he marries me...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 2 years now. We are both in our early 20's and I've been thinking about our future together. He's told me that he doesn't know if there will be a future with us. He says he loves me and wants to marry ...

How can I get her to understand how I feel without it blowing up into a huge fight like it has been?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5583 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - I'm currently in the middle of an argument with my girlfriend. I think she's being completely unfair. about 6 months ago she asked me to stop talking to my ex girlfriends because it made her uncomfortable. I agreed and it wasn't an issue until ...

How to tell if a guy is just nervous or interested?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - What are the ways a guys actions different when he likes you and is nervous and when he isnt interested? If a guy is interested but nervous how can you reassure him? This is a guy friend that i still see and I hooked up with a long time ago, like a ...

He's going to college, date him? or not?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - well im 15 and my best friendiis 19 .we have be friend for 2 year .i really like .well i think im falling in love with him .well he asked me out but i dont want to go out with him cause he bout to go off to college but then again i do cause i love ...

The art of flirting

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5583 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I'm shy how can I flirt with guys? usally they will stare at men but I don't know what to do, I make eye contact but sometimes they stare at me too long and the gaze is too intense, makeing me feel like they want me for a booty call. How can I flirt ...

Can dating get us into trouble since we're minors?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - my b/f, 18, and me, 15 r going out in secret, and when were talking to a teacher, while i said things that made it obvious that im in his life alot, like a g/f, so the teacher asked if him if we were going out, and he said to ask me, and by then ...

Where do guys get advice for girls?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5583 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - Just out of curiousity. Where do guys go for advice on girls?...

Am I just a plaything to her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5583 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - okay so i am 17 years old and my girl is 16 it seams like i do everthing for here and she always gets wat she wants i love her alot but it seams like all she wants is a little plaything she gets all pissed about everything i do and she tells me im ...