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Archived questions from: 12 January, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

Why does he want my trust when I can't have his?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - I am 16, my boyfriend is 17, I have met his family and we are very close but here lately I haven't been able to see him. He called me last night and we broke up, 20 minutes later he called me crying and I'm not sure if he wants to be with me or he ...

I'm 13 and my parents won't let me date till I'm 17.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5568 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - I'm 13 and my parents won't let me date till I'm 17. I'm in love with this guy and he's in love with me but I've tried everything for them to let me date. They won't even let me talk to him barely because they don't want me dating so how can I get ...

After all this time I still hold a torch for my ex...

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12 January 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I am really confused, me and my ex boyfriend have carried on being friends since we broke up our realationship two years ago. It was my choice to end the realtionhip as I felt that he didnt have feelings for me. In the last year of ...

Am I pleasing her?

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12 January 2009 (M) - She tells me that her legs get numb and that I please her but she has also told me that she has a girl she goes to and two sex toys... am I pleasing her?...

How do I approach this sort of conversation?

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12 January 2009 (F) - hello all Just need advice on how to approach a tricky situation with my newish bf, or if I should at all. when i was younger i was sexually abused by a family member, close friends know, and i'm not asking for help to get over what happened b...

I need to know if she feels safe around me in situations like that

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12 January 2009 (M) - I am 17 years old and my girlfiend has just turned 18 years old we both love each other very very very much and both very happy but she isn't ready to have sex yet and I understand that I have been waiting for gd 2 years and she said she is scared ...

The girl I love is still in love with her ex, what can I do?

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12 January 2009 (M) - The girl I love is still in love with her ex, what can I do? I know thers nothing basically i can do but i am now at the point where i am willing to be patient this girl wants to be with me, and truly does like me but right now she just doesnt f...

Help with ex and strech marks

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12 January 2009 (F) - I have two problems 1. My boyfriend of 8 months dumped me shortly after Christmas saying he wasn't too sure he loved me anymore. I thought I was over it, but he's had another lasses name on his msn and it got me really upset. I've taken all the st...

I told her, that It's 100% now, that I want to marry her. But now she is frustrated, that I didn't surprise her with an engagement.

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12 January 2009 (M) - Hi! I'm with my gf for 4 years. She knew from the beginning that I would be her Mr. Right, but I was not sure about her until 2 month ago. She told me to finally think about it half a year ago... I realize it was frustrating to her, because she want...

Love Tactics - How to Win the One You Want - Advice from anyone who has read it?

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12 January 2009 (F) - I'm interested to hear from anyone who has read the book 'Love Tactics - How to Win the One You Want' by Thomas McKnight and Robert Phillips. I've been following the advice in this book with someone I care for since last summer but I'm finding it ...

He finally asks me to marry him and I'm filled with dread...

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12 January 2009 (F) - I have been with my guy for 4 years and even though we have had loads of ups and downs, very little in common I have always been desperate to make the relationship work. Madly in love with him basically. Then recently he started talking-finally- ...

She really wants me to give her some oral sex. I don't have a clue what to do!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5584 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - Hey I'm using my sisters account. I'm a sixteen year old guy and I need some help from guys and girls. I have been with my girl for about a month and she really wants me to give her some oral sex. I don't have a clue what to do! I mean I kind of do ...

He's all I ever wished for in a guy... so why am I so discontent...?

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12 January 2009 (F) - Hi everyone - I hope you can help me! Basically, I've been with my boyfriend on and off now for around 4 years. When I met him, it wasn't instant attraction but that all devleloped and we had a very nice (not amazing!) but nice relationship until I ...

We've been together 11 months now but I want to be with someone else...

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12 January 2009 (M) - I have a girlfriend who I have been with for 11 months, but I'm starting to feel like I'm losing the spark with her and I'm starting to get feelings for this other girl, Julie, who my girlfriend hates. I tell her I don't speak to Julie but I do and ...

I wish I could turn back the clock and undo what I did...

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12 January 2009 (F) - Back in the summer my ex dumped me and started seeing another girl. I was so in love with him it really hurt and for months I hated them both. Deep down I know it wasn't the girl's fault, he didn't dump me for her, she was unaware of what he done to ...

Boyfriend not off well financially but its draining me both financially & mentally--I'm tired of it!

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12 January 2009 (F) - I have spent 5 years without a proper job since I graduated from university. Those have been the toughest times of my life. I was trying very hard to get a job but it was getting more difficult. I did part time jobs and went as far as writing for ...

Why don't any of these guys have feelings for me?

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12 January 2009 (F) - Brace yourself people this is going to be a long one Grrr, right what is wrong with all the males I meet after reading this question please do not tell me that I need to stop going for the same kind of guy because really everything about...

Going to a party to snog, don't know how!

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12 January 2009 (F) - im going to my boyfriends party soon and my other 2 friends are going to snog and i havent done this before so i dont know how to do it i want to do it, but i dont want to mess it up and get taken the mick out of. i dont know what to do. ...

Betrayal... my boyfriend was hurt that I discussed our problems with other people.

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12 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I had a fight over the fone while I was sitting with a friend (who happens to be his friend's wife). After the converstaion, I commented to the lady that it hurts to see us fight the way we do. The next morning my boyfriend was hurt ...

I found out he lives with someone and confronted him...

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12 January 2009 (F) - I found out he lives with someone and confronted him when I did he said let's be friends what does this mean?...

I honestly can't work out where my head or my heart is at?

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12 January 2009 (F) - I am so confused! I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly five years and things aren't going too well, in fact the last six months have been really difficult and we have discussed that we may have to call it a day... unfortun...

He disappeared on me... what should I do?

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12 January 2009 (F) - So, I've been seeing a guy for the last few months and all of a sudden, he (metaphorically speaking) "disappears" on me. Things were going great until one day he just stops seeing me. He suddenly became (in my opinion) "too busy" to see me. I ...

What can I do to tighen my vaginal muscles a little bit?

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12 January 2009 (F) - I had sex with a guy who had a big penis, now I think my vagina is too big for the guy that I am currently dating. It makes noises and his dick seems to be too loose when he is inside. He always asks me not to open my legs too wide because it ...

He says we're not together because we don't make love, so he is free to meet anyone else!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - Couldn't sleep last night- snowy, wide-awake anxiety. Now am half-dead at work. Dismal thoughts. I can't bear it. My boyfriend of many years of togetherness now will not call himself my boyfriend, he says he loves me, and even outside observers have ...

Is there a chance I can get pregnant if my boyfriend rubs his penis and ejaculates on my vagina when I have my panties on?

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12 January 2009 (F) - Is there a chance I can get pregnant if my boyfriend rubs his penis and ejaculates on my vagina when I have my panties on? There wasn't any direct contact but my panties got wet, I'm wondering if some of the sperm may have passed through....

If she had a problem with my possesiveness she should have told me face to face,

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12 January 2009 (M) - I have been having a relationship with my girlfriend for the last four years. I never knew (neither she told me) that indirectly I told her to do stuff she doesn't want to do (like going out with guy friends, talking to unknown guys on phone, t...

How can I forgive myself? I cannot believe it was me who lied and cheated...

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12 January 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship with a guy only for a month. I really liked him. He was only looking for a relationship to get married. He was the only guy I respected and wanted to get married too though I have only known him for a very short period ...

How do I know if I am ready to move on?

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12 January 2009 (M) - I do not know if i want to move on in the relationship i am in or stay with the girl. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for a year and i really love her and she still loves me too but our relationship is not moving along like it should be. ...

I can only express myself through text

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12 January 2009 (F) - my boyfriend one night asked me how i felt about him, and i know exactly how i feel about him but for some reason just can't get it out, i guess i'm just scared but it's really starting to drive me crazy because i've always had this problem in ...

My boyfriend thinks I'm cheating with my cousin!

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12 January 2009 (F) - My Bf thinks I'm cheating, with my COUSIN but he doesn't know he's my cousin. Ok yesterday I went with my guy cousin to the atm, he's never met the cousin coz he's just visiting, well as we leave the atm we see him coming in a car, but my cousin ...

His mom is sooooo controlling!!!

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12 January 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend are 20 years old and we live with our moms! His mom is controlling and it seems like we can't enjoy our own relationship without her telling us what we can and can't do. I feel like we are in middle school or something... she ...

How do I tell my mom I'm dating?

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12 January 2009 (M) - This is really embarrassing and I really don't know who else to ask. I am a 26 year old man, who because I lost my job had to move back in with my mother. The problem is that mom, now wants to know everything I do, who I hang out with, which is ...

His age is messing with my head.

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12 January 2009 (F) - I met this guy at a bar, sort of a friend of a friend, and I spent the night talking to him and having a great time. Afterwards, though, I found out ... I'm five+ years older than him. He's 23; I just turned 29. Is this sketchy? We've been email...

Boyfriend has erection troubles and viagara doesn't work..how can I help him?

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12 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is 57 yrs old and has trouble keeping an erection so penetration is impossible. He becomes so frustrated and upset and feels sorry for me. He satisfies me in so many other ways. I love him so very much and tell him that we can use a ...

In love but hugely sexually incompatable - what to do!?

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12 January 2009 (M) - I am a 25 year old gay man in a very loving and committed relationship of four years. Everything is perfect except for the fact that I have the strongest of desires to have sex at least every day while my boyfriend would be happy with once a week...

What was this wet spot on his pants?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5560 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - While my boyfriend and I were messing around the other night; like heavy petting and stuff; he got wet down there. It was after he'd been rubbing my boobs for a while, he stopped and just grabbed his dick. All our clothes were still on, he had just ...

Can we ever just be friends again, after having one night of sex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5590 days ago

12 January 2009 (?) - I am in a serious LDR, we plan to get together soon. Recently, I met a really nice guy online (not a dating site) We began "chatting" almost daily. We had very mind-stimulating conversations and it was very enjoyable. One night I had too much...

I need oral sex tips that will drive her wild! Any Suggestions?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - What are good ways to please or suprise my girlfriend? We've been dating for a while and I just want to know some tricks that will drive her wild. Are there any girls out there that have some good tips about oral sex on a female? I know the generic ...

Forget it never happened?

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12 January 2009 (F) - I have a boyfriend right now. we just recently called it official, but before that, about four months ago, we both liked each other, but i was scared i was going to get my heart broken, so i started pushing him away purposely and not talking to him. ...

Boyfriend doesn't like sexy underwear?

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12 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend has recently told me that my efforts in wearing sexy underwear do nothing for him. He has told me that underwear has no effect on him, so I should stop trying and wasting my money. This upsets me for two reasons, one, I find it slightly ...