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Trust issues: Help and advice

Why did I stare? How could I not be aware of it? Where to go from here?

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13 May 2008 (M) - Here's the background story, my gf and I went out to a friends. (friend, wife, female friend of friend) We were all hanging around cooking dinner, and then had dinner, and towards the end of dinner my girlfriend was standing by the window, clea...

Ready for a change - I want him to trust me when he's not there.

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13 May 2008 (M) - I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. About 9 months ago I kissed a guy and we have talked about that. He likes to go on Internet chat rooms and talk to guys and mess around with them through chat. He has never cheated on me. However, ...

Does my ex still have feelings for me? Or am I imagining it?

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13 May 2008 (F) - I have posted on here before and got some good advice. My ex bf of 3 years broke up with 1 month ago and started dating a new woman a day after we broke up. He met her while we we were out clubbing together and they had known each other on and off...

My wife has a fetish for firemen and is causing 'accidents' because of it. What can I do?

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13 May 2008 (M) - I'm 25, and my wife is 24, we've been married for 2 years now. In the past few months and weeks she's recently been causing "accidents" - and I know why. I found a note in the kitchen when tidying up one day saying "must cause accident so hunk...

She's my friend and I told her I liked her. Now she tells me to leave her alone after a huge fight.

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13 May 2008 (M) - Hello, I have a frined that I recently started to like so I told her that I liked her and we got into a big fight because she didnt like me and now she says to leave her alone and never talk to her again. If I had known she would have reacted ...

Is it normal for a guy to have small white spots in his underwear?

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13 May 2008 (F) - Is it possible for a guy to have small traces of semen on his underwear even if he did not have sex that day. My boyfriend occassionaly has two or three white spots on his underwear but yet we didn't have sex that day. I don't know how to approach ...

My boyfriend doesn't want to talk about his past, which includes him being raped at age nine and then sexually active

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13 May 2008 (F) - HEEEELP my 3-month old boyfriend confessed to me that he was raped by hi's cousins friend when he was 9 years old. But thats not it. After he was raped the first time he was raped by more people, girls AND boys, as he claims He also told me ...

I'm hiding something from him, because it'll make him angry. I'm confused, advice please?

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13 May 2008 (F) - Sorry, this is long... My boyfriend doesn't trust me. I am to blame of this, in part. He has trust issues because of previous girlfriends and being abused as a child (I didn't know about this until it was too late). But the thing is, he's always ...

Problem with snooping - but it leads me to suspicious things, should I keep confronting my husband?

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13 May 2008 (F) - I have a problem with snooping, i will be upfront about it, but the only reason I keep doing it is I always find something, but not anything concrete and my husband always has a great story for instance I found a print out of a conversation between ...

I'm afraid to fall in love with this woman!

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13 May 2008 (M) - I've been dating this girl for a little over a month. We have this amazing connection, not just physical but intellectually. She's perfect, except for one thing; I can't seem to be able to allow myself to feel more profound feelings for her. I ...

Men, please help me understand my boyfriend's jealousy!

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13 May 2008 (F) - My boyfriend gets jealous when he sees me training another guy on my job. It's still dark out (5:00a.m.) so I understand men think weird things when it's dark, especially when my BF can't see us during this training, but why should he call this guy ...

He dosen't allow me to see my mates and makes me feel guilty!

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13 May 2008 (F) - i am a young female aged 17, i have been with my boyfriend for 10 months and we are very much in love, we see each other every single day, and stay at each others house every night, we are very close, but i work through the day while he goes out ...

I have trouble trusting him. How can I get these thoughts out of my head?

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13 May 2008 (F) - Ok. I need help i have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years. Right now i am having major trust issues... i have no reason not to trust him but for some weird reason i think something up. Not much has changed about him but his presence feels ...

He said it was all in fun, and that receiving her messages and contact made him feel good.

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13 May 2008 (F) - I have had some personal family crisis problems in the past 3 months, and had not been very nice or very effectionate to my husband. In the weeks that I had my problems, he started talking to a 23 year old girl on line which was harmless at first...

I am a victim of trust because of her ex.

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13 May 2008 (M) - Hello all, thank you for taking the time to read and give your opinion about my situation.. i met my GF on the Internet, she lives in Japan and i live in Canada.. to make it short, her last relationship went sour when she open the door to a room to ...

Confused and madly in love with someone I'm not sure of

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13 May 2008 (M) - There's a girl that I've liked for a number of years now and recently we were at a party where people where talking about things and one of them upset her and caused her to run away, I went to find her and when I did she was outside crying, I sat ...

Is it just me or is anyone else feeling concerned about the amount of unfaithfulness goin on here?

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13 May 2008 (F) - Is it just me or is anyone else getting scared as hell of the amount of unfaithful married couples goin on here? This makes me super frightened to be married! Dosnt anyone believe in a commitment these days? No wonder the divorce rate is sky high, ...

Why is it that I don't really make a lot of friends/

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13 May 2008 (M) - I have always been considered as a loner(and that is why my named myself as the lone wolf).I hardly have any friends and I have been in two relationships during high school. Those girls were pregnant by their other boyfriends and for what? To ...

If I lost her do to my shady sexual history, I'd be devastated! Should I reveal what I've done?

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12 May 2008 (M) - I've recently started a relationship with the most amazing woman I've ever met. Things are better than I could have ever imagined and have ever been with anyone else and I'm certain we are both deeply in love with each other. The problem is that ...

My boyfriend has been lying to me about money and other girls. How can I cope with all of this?

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12 May 2008 (F) - help please help!!! i just dont know what to do at the moment. ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we've lived together for 2 months. things seem to have gone from bad to worse with us, i found that he has been talking to other girls on...

I went through his phone and he had been 'dirty talking' to some girl through texts.

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12 May 2008 (F) - I dont know what to do. I feel so hurt and trapped. I love my fiance more than anything in the world we've been together for just over a year and we've gotten engaged recently. We live together and everything has seemed perfect but just a few days...

Should I just let this go and completely forgive him and believe that I'm the best?

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12 May 2008 (F) - This is a weird situation and I don't know how should I feel... My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. He loves me a great deal, as he supported me through depression, always does his best to make me feel special and is v...

Is there anything I can do or am I just forced to stay on the sidelines?

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12 May 2008 (F) - Me and my ex dated for 2 years 10 months ago, I still have very strong feelings for him, and he has a girlfriend, but has given me plenty of mixed signals. We're still friends, and I see him every now and then because I'm friends with one of his ...

We both tested positive for Clamydia, does this mean she cheated?

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12 May 2008 (M) - I have been dating my girlfriend for one year. We recently got tested and we tested positive for chlamydia. I have never cheated on her and I know it can be symptomless for a while. Funny thing is, I had my symptoms a couple of days after her. I ...

He doesn't seem to care if I was abused as a child but I love him with all my heart!

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12 May 2008 (F) - I told my boyfriend i was sexually abused as a child one night when we were both drunk... he was so upset over it i actually saw him cry and i took comfort in getting it off my chest... however sometimes i feel very isolated and upset, and want to ...

My boyfriend takes pictures of everyone and everything but me!

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12 May 2008 (F) - My boyrfriend (whom I have lived with for the past year)and love dearly and who loves me dearly has scads of CD's with pictures of his ex-girlfriend on them. There are also pictures of his children on "most" of these CD's also, so that might be why ...

How long is too long on a break?

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12 May 2008 (M) - My gf and I split up just over a month ago after 18 months to have some time apart etc. She said she did want to get back with me eventually. Its been a month and all she says is that she doesnt want a bf at the moment however I still see her and ...

Is she cheating?

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12 May 2008 (M) - Really haven't got a clue where to start with this, my head is just in such a mess. But I hope there is someone on here that can help me , because I just don’t know what to do any more. Suppose I'd better start with some background informat...

He started to change and become restrictive. Am I just an awful girlfriend?

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12 May 2008 (F) - My boyfriend is so jealous/upset/dissapointed because of my past. It happened gradually... she knew about some stuff (past crushes, etc) when we started dating. It didn't bother him much then, he just asked me not to give him details, to talk about ...

Can someone please tell me how to trust my boyfriend? He's cheated in the past.

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12 May 2008 (F) - I have really bad trust issuses with my boyfreind, the problem is he has never done anything to betray my trust. My ex boyfreind cheated on me so much and i never found out till we had broken up...Im jsut worride my boyfreind is doing the same. Even ...

Can projecting a bad conscience ruin my relationship?

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11 May 2008 (M) - Help!!! I have been in the most perfect relationship for circa 18 months now with a girl that means everything in the world to me! I really love her with all my heart! Then 2 days ago I was at this birthday party (with my girlfriend) where also my e...

Unbearable truth....do I move on or wait for a cheater to reform?

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11 May 2008 (M) - I am 38 and my ex gf is 23 going on 24. We had been together for over a year and a half. Chance meeting at a bar and I wasn't looking for someone this young. Firstly, she's geniunely naive, stupid and weak. I slept with her the first night. I had ...

I want to love him and lose my virginity to him. How do I know if it's right?

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11 May 2008 (F) - i think im falling in love but im not sure if he's in love with me but i wanna trust him but im not sure and im not sure if i should loose my virginity tom him ...

My ex wants us to be friends even though he has a girlfriend. Why does he send me mixed signals?

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11 May 2008 (F) - Me and my ex-boy friend been broken up for almost 4-5years and he is in another relationship still with the girl he was cheating on me with. He want's us to be friends but it's hard for me because we had history. I get a feeling that he regrets are ...

How can I get past him cheating on me twice?

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11 May 2008 (F) - My boyfriend and i have been together for over two years. Within the first six months he cheated on me twice, just kissing two other girls. I found out after about a year, and we decided to try and work things out. I have forgiven him, and am trying ...

My long-term boyfriend's condoms have mysteriously disappeared. Am I over analysing?

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11 May 2008 (F) - i thought i remembered a condom or two left in the condom drawer of my boyfriend's(3 years with him) aparment and also possibly opened wrappers from us there (just being lazy about throwing out the wrapper)...i actually don't 100% remember but i ...

Where else could I meet girls so that I know for definite that they are single? I've trust issues.

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11 May 2008 (M) - I already posted a question at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/fine-except-im-scared-to-ask-out-girls.html, thanks for the advice, however, it didn't quite come out the way I intended. The actual problem is that I have an inability to tru...

Did she really do it or was she just lying to me?

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11 May 2008 (M) - Hi there, Well over xmas period just gone i was having a very rough time at work and stress levels wise,and i started to become paranoid of my gf of 7 years as i noticed minor things around the house and subtle changes in her behaviuo...

My boyfriend does not believe me about the person who harasses me by phone!

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11 May 2008 (F) - ok this is the thing, my ex broke-up with me because he wanted to help a friend and let her stay with him and I freaked. I said if some girl was going to stay with him i was gone! so he broke up with me and lied about it for a month. after i foun...

My girlfriend lied about where she was last week. Should I drop the matter apologising for snooping or push the subject to find out more?

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11 May 2008 (M) - Ok, i've been dating this girl for just over a year and i just caught her in a lie. Last week i was at work and she told me she was going horseback riding which didn't bother none cause that's what she loves to do. Only today i decided to get snoo...

My family thinks I let his wife ruin our relationship too much, and I worry a lot...!

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10 May 2008 (F) - i wonder if my boyfriend will ever be just mine.I am 22 and he is 34. we have been together for almost 6 months and he is still married but is living with me. He also has 3 kids with his wife so i know he talks to her cause of the kids and divorce ...

Why did it take so long for me to ejaculate when my gf was giving me manual relief?

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10 May 2008 (M) - ok wow.. got my first hand job from my gf tonight.. masterbating has been weird to me for a long time so i haven't gotten off for the longest till tonight.. but..... it took forever for me to finally cum.. she was sooo tired and out of it.. is there ...

I honestly never touched a woman's body while I was away working, and my g/f doesn't believe me.

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9 May 2008 (M) - I've been dating this girl for 3 months, then on the 4th month we decided to live together. On the 5th month i went to Hawaii to work for 4 months (with continous communications, sending gifts and stuff to her). 2 weeks before i finished my 4 ...

My husband offered me to his friend. Does he just want an open relationship?

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9 May 2008 (F) - House party out of control. I am rather confused and upset. I have been with my husband for 5 years, married for 3 with two young children. We used to have house parties all the time and my hubby would either not drink or drink very little, he was a...

My girlfriend has lied to me about her sexual history! I hate what she's done to herself but she says she's different now?

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9 May 2008 (M) - I know this is not a new topic, I know this has been discussed over, and over... i know that some of you will say get over it, but I don't think I can... Or at least, not always. My problem is that my girl friend has been with more people than...

My husband fell out with me on our wedding night, it was terrible! Will he react this way again?

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9 May 2008 (F) - My husband fell out with me on our wedding night, it was terrible, I spent the whole night crying and he said he didn't love me and it was over.. well you might ask how did it all start? Well after many stressful months of planning the day arrived ...

Should I believe him after he broke the promise the first time, about visiting lap dancing bars?

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9 May 2008 (F) - Hi, My fiance is going out tommorow night to liverpool with a load of guys who want to go to a lap dancing bar, when I first got with my fiance I explained that I do not like these kind of things and he said he didnt like them either and promised...

I have cheated on him several times but we're still together. Do I really love him?

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9 May 2008 (F) - Hi Everyone We have been dating for 2 yrs now, but sometimes i feel like i dont love him, and like he does not love me. I have cheated on him several times but we're still together, and he is the first longest relationship i have ever had. The o...

Do you think he's interested in my best friend?

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9 May 2008 (F) - Ok, I have a boyfriend (we'll call him Doug) of 10 months who's a great guy and we're very loving toward each other. We were close friends for 2 and half years before getting together. But there's something about the relationship that worries me. ...

I know that he loves me, but I can't help thinking he may prefer a thinner girl...

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9 May 2008 (F) - I'm a bigger girl and I'm mostly comfortable with my weight, but I know how society views women who aren't a certain size. This makes me very nervous when going about intimacy with my boyfriend. I know that he loves me, thinks I'm gorgeous and the ...