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Dating: Help and advice

I love him, I really do, but why am I having feelings for other people?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - I have a boyfriend. I've thought that I'm in love with him. Well stuff happens, we fight and stuff and I just feel bad, I don't know, it's hard to explain but I talk to my guy friends and some I really am developing feelings for. Like I can't ...

I'm 16 years old male and I think I'm a pervert and I hate myself for this.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 January 2009 (M) - Hi all, I'm 16 years old male and I think I'm a pervert and I hate myself for this. Sometimes everything is ok, you know Ii just want to kiss a girl more than other things. But sometimes I want to do stuff you see in porn movies, girls never want ...

My boyfriend is going bald and I hate bald men... how can I change the way I feel?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 2643 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and I are both in our twenties and he is going bald. i am having a difficult time adjusting to it as I am just not attracted to bald men. We have been together for 5 years, and while I do love him, it's making me see him in a completely ...

I want to trust him and I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. But can a player really change?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for around a year. When we first got together we were totally open with each other I told him about things that had hapenned to me in past relationships and he told me everything he'd done in his past, he was a bit of a ...

I'm really scared and worried

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - I have had 2 bad dreams lately waking up in tears when the dreams were about me and my partner splitting we've been talkin about buying a house and all of a sudden he has turned around and said that he is scared to buy a house cause he's worried we ...

My boyfriend is still communicating with ex girlfriend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is still communicating with ex girlfriend, what should I do, we are in four months relationship without sex...

Am I wrong for following my feelings?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - Around this time last year I was messing around with this guy, that I thought I really liked. . . we finally made it offical in the beginning of the summer but after a week into our relationship I realized feelings wasn't true so it became a sexual ...

I can't remember how to snog

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - Well, I'm 15 and I've just recently started dating this guy who's about 17 and a half. (: He's really nice and caring and I think the world off him. He split up with his girlfriend last week. She was his first time and he was hers. He said he wou...

I don't seem to feel anything for anyone

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - I am 15 and need help. I've only ever had real crushes on a couple of guys, like tv stars and a teacher, but they are always so much older than me. I've never gone out with or had a boyfriend. All the guys I know and hear about are all so self obse...

Are we moving too fast? If so, what am I supposed to do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (M) - Hello, I've been to this website many times for advice and help with girlfriend issues. Just wanted to thank everybody for the great help and support. An issue arose today with me and my Girlfriend. We have been going strong for several months n...

Is it possible to go from just 'loving' him to falling 'in love' with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - Just wondering if after 4 years, you can learn to love your partner? I love him, but just dont feel 'in love' with him. I dont know if this is something i can change. I often think about other men and dont visualise a future with my partner. I ...

Herpes???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 January 2009 (M) - Well I was having sex with my girlfriend and I did something stupid, I kissed her when I had a coldsore and then I asked her to give me oral and she did it then we had sex. She bit me while giving me oral and the next day I found a red spot along ...

We're going at 2 different speeds and I wish he'd slow down a bit.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - He's like.. Let's get it on! But I'm not ready yet! I just started dating this guy.. Our kisses are very, very passionate. I mean enough to lead up to sex, but I'm putting on the brakes. Of course I want sex but much later in the relationship. I ...

I'm running out of time, what guy do I choose ? ?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - I'm running out of time, who do I choose ? I'm 31 years old, never married, no kids, successful. I dated a man for 4 years, lived together for 3 years, we had a great relationship...long story short, he wanted to sell his house and move to an...

Tips to get over him or what I should do.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - Help.. I am still in love with someone whoz moved on. We were in love but I didn't want 2 be with him because I didn't have my parent's spproval. He understood and was very nice. I thought I had moved on so I told him to, and everyone told hi...

Age???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5580 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - hi my boyfriend is 20 and i'm 15 when i turn 16 in two months he'll be 21. i love him deaply and never wanna see anything bad happen to him. i know what we are doing is not right in the laws eyes but to us it is. i know he could get in trouble and ...

Does he not even miss me at all?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I were together for 6 months on and off. He ended up breaking up with me because of commitment issues and he felt like I was smothering him. He insisted that we still remain friends and kept telling me how great I am and he didn't ...

I don't want him to be mad at me... how can I get him NOT to be mad at me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - hello every1 I have a problem with my boyfriend.. 2 days ago he met a girl.. and he told me she was nice and stuff and they talk a lot now.. I got jealous and I stressed yesterday.. he told me I have nothing to be afraid because he loves me.. yea...

I feel as if I'm making all the sacrifices here...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5580 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 months, we want to move in together. I'm willing to move away and take my 3 kids with me. My eldest doesn't want to go, she's 15, which would mean me going without her. This is a big sacrifice ...

I'm worried that him getting a job will kill our relationship

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - hi there I know I have been stressing and writing to you endlesly about the situation of my current boyfriend. We have been together for 2 years now and he has been relying on me financially. I was at a point where I really had enough and the r...

All I want is to be with this girl. I don't know what to do any more I am always so upset.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (M) - PLEASE HELP!!!!!! I split up with my girlfriend of 7 months last week, this has hit me harder than i have ever felt pain in my life, I can't get this girl out of my head, she split up with me as she said she needed to sort her head out and as ...

I feel he's gone off me since I had the baby...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5562 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - Hi me and my fiance have been together for two years and we recently had a son together who is now three months old. I used to try to look at porn with him but he pretended to be against it but when I was about 5 6 months pregnant and now that I ...

She's the perfect girl, she's the girl of my dreams, she the one I want to spent the rest of my life with.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - I'm 16 and my best friend is 18. I really love her and she really loves me. About 6 months ago we started dating.. secretly through. She has a boy friend, oh by the way she's straight too and I'm bi. It was hard cuz I'm not out and she has a ...

To me actions speak louder than words.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I have been engaged to a man since February 2008, since his recent divorce and all that helped I have seen a lot of chances in him for the worst, he tells me that he loves me and wants to marry me but we are so strapped for money right now its ...

Desperate to win his love! How do I stop him from being a player?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - hi I had asked a question about a guy who is a workmate, please I need more advice.After he trying to hook up with me and me turning him off coz I had a feeling he wants me just for sex,I just found out that he is been flirting with a friend of mine ...

It seems like he only contacts me when he's drunk

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19 January 2009 (F) - A bloke at work who i was seeing back in July, texted me over the weekend out the blue asking me to visit him. He texted at midnight on Friday, then was texting me all day Saturday and then asked me again on Saturday about 8.00pm. Both times i never ...

My mind is telling me to move on but my heart is saying otherwise.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend have broken up for over a week now, we are school mates so I see her every day and it's really hard for me, I still love her a lot. The reason we broke up is because she is having a hard time giving the time because she isn't ...

I’m going crazy with all these thoughts. March is coming so quickly and my stomach churns when I think about it.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - After dating my bf for 3 months I fell pregnant. It's now been 2 years and we live together. Before me he dated a girl for about 4 months and then they carried on the relationship long distance for 2 and a half years because he moved to where I...

Am I feeling this way because I still love him or am I just being silly?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5574 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - I dated this guy on and off for about 3 years and we broke up 2 years ago. The problem is I can't seem to let him go. I ended things and we've remained freinds. I was the first to move on and get someone else but when he recently also moved on I was ...

Questions about first time sex.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5574 days ago

19 January 2009 (?) - Ok so I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. (He's 22 and I am 18) we have a great relationship, lately we have been making out and one thing leads to another and we find ourselves totally naked ready to have sex. I am still a virgin and he ...

Messy sex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - Hi everyone Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for about 3-4 months now, and I've just recently started taking the pill. The first time we did it without a condom and he came inside me, I was on top... But I completely didn't realise it would...

Do you think maybe he likes me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - I am 20 years old and there is this guy who works at the same place as me but in a different department, who is 22 years old. I always catch him staring at me, and when we talk he looks right into my eyes. Whenever I walk past him, his eyes fo...

My boyfriend is a commitment phobe...help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5582 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - my bf and i have been together for quite awhile now. i am begining to think he is a commitment phobe. he talks about getting my a ring and how he wants to marry me and then never does anything about it what is going on? help please...

How do you know if a person likes you?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (M) - Hey its lotmoney13.......so i get a lot of answers to my question that instead of being in love with a guy whose not intrested, to find a guy whose intrested in me........well i have no idea how to do that......:P so yeah it makes sense that...

Is it ok for BBW's to be Picky when Dating Men?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5580 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - Hey Everyone. I'm a Proud BBW, single in the dating game. I'm starting to feel bad because I've been turning down alot of men. I know I have a strong preferrence, I try to hold back on it. I like to give all men a chance. Since I was a BBW ...

I am scared that she will end up hurting me again...what should I do or tell her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5582 days ago

19 January 2009 (M) - plz answer this question....i dated this girl honestly it wuz the best relationship of my life (im 16 shes 14)we went out 4 6 months it wuz all perfect until sumone made up a gosip bout me cheating on her of course it wuznt true but she believed it ...

He's hurt because I went back to my ex for a bit. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - I am a 20 year old female. My boyfriend and I started dating in our Senior year of high school and were together for two years. Our meeting was rather unusual, he was the friend of a guy who I was dating, R. R. introduced us and we ended up becoming ...

How can I get men to notice me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - I am in desperate help here. How can i get men to notice me... men that don't just want to get in my pants. I just got out of a relationship and i thought it was going somewhere, and then a week ago he says, "i know you love me" ((never told him ...

24 year-old guy that looks younger than his age and has never had a girlfriend.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

19 January 2009 (M) - Hello, DearCupid! I need opinions/advice. As the title states, I'm 24 years old and have never had a girlfriend. I've never even held hands or gone on a date, and no girl has ever shown the slightest interest in me. I'm not exactly handsome ...

Is he just secretly using me because he's not getting laid?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5582 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - I was with this guy for 7 months.We had some problems that involved me lying to him and he couldn't seem to forgive me about it.The lies themselves had to do with me either going out one night to a friends to party or telling him i was going to be ...

How will she take me back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5582 days ago

19 January 2009 (M) - Ok I'm in love with this girl, and we had a little issue. She has a lot of guy friends, putting it mildly. Not exactly a girly girl. As she puts it, allergic to pink. Well usually when I come to pick her up to go out somewhere (3 years age diffence...

New relationship..already problems

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - Um....hi im having serious boyfreind troubles and i need some serious help! I know this guy and he was my best guy freind and i really liked him and than my freind got us to start dating and now i dont like him infact i cant stand him hes so ugly, ...

Found a condom, we don't use them, is he cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - okaii so ii have been dating "carlos" for almost 3 months now I have been hurt so many times in past relationships that its so hard for me to trust men at all but when i met "carlos" i felt that all changed but latley i just been having this feeling ...

What does "I need you" mean when a guy says it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - what does it mean if a guy says i need you? is that close to love?...

She doesn’t want to begin a physical relationship until she’s has had a tummy tuck completed.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5575 days ago

19 January 2009 (M) - While working as an online volunteer, I gradually formed a long distance romantic relationship with a co-volunteer. I’d known the woman professionally for a couple of years and developed great respect and admiration for her. However, we live 2000 ...

He tells me he loves his girlfriend but there is still sexual tension between us.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - dear cupid, Me and my partner split up a few weeks before christmas and it really hurt me. We were still sleeping with each other right up and till he got a new girlfriend which I found out was his house mate which hurt even more but on Christma...

I'm confused. If real women are better then why is the "ideal" totally unrealistic?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - Hi. I'm an insecure 20 year old. I'm very confused. For one, guys always say beauty comes from within, looks don't care, real women are sexier and more attractive than fake ones, etc. I'm just talking about looks, not personality. ...

Is he still interested in me??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - I'm having trouble. I don't think my boyfriend is interested in me any more. We've known each other for about 5 years now and dating for about a month now. he doesnt act like he's interested in me any more even though he says he is. For some reason ...

His penis was twitching violently!!!!!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - OK, so this is probably going to sound very stupid to everyone reading this, I'm a little embarrassed about it myself. Basically, I've been going out with my boyfriend for a few weeks and when we were in bed together and things got pretty heated, I ...