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Archived questions from: October, 2017 (see latest in Dating category)

Dating: Help and advice

I don't know if I should ask a colleague out

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2359 days ago

31 October 2017 (M) - I'm 26 and have been single for around 7--8 months now since splitting with my gf of 3 yrs. I found that break up hard and I'm unsure if I want a new relationship. However I've only been with 2 girls in my whole life and I'm desperate to "get out ...

How do I tell someone not to touch my boyfriend?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2363 days ago

31 October 2017 (F) - Dear Cupid I'm with my bf for almost two years. We have a good relationship, not much drama, we both prefer that way. He is introvert but in social situations he can have fun if he wants to. I'm an introvert who is socially shy and Don't have m...

I think he has erectile dysfunction. Do I wait it out? Approach the subject?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2366 days ago

31 October 2017 (?) - I have started dating a new guy. We have not had intercourse yet. Dating for a few months but have done plenty of other stuff. I’m late 20s and he is in late 30s. When we first started fooling around I noticed he wasn’t really getting a full ...

Am I asking too little of him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2329 days ago

31 October 2017 (F) - I have posted before and thankfully we solved a little issue in our relationship. This may be hella stupid for me to be resentful of how he treated his ex, but I kind of am. Idk how true this is, I'm only hearing his side of the story, but ...

He wants to propose and I'm just not ready!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2364 days ago

31 October 2017 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years. Recently, he has been hinting A LOT that he wants to proposed. He also keeps asking me to find time for him to see my mom.. I know he wants to ask her. Any girl would be super happy... and I am happy... ...

Should I give it a week? Am I worrying too much for no good cause?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2366 days ago

31 October 2017 (F) - I started chatting with this guy online on Thursday. I messaged him first and thankfully the messages have not stopped since and he has been the one to initiate conversation since the first message. I hate over thinking these situations but I...

I'm not being asked out by suitable men!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2359 days ago

30 October 2017 (F) - I'm 31 and single. I've wanted to be married for years, maybe since 20. Part of that is my south Asian culture that puts a lot of importance on marriage and family. But I never had any substantial relationships. Over the years I've discovered ...

I'm dating someone who has a twin brother and when the brothers and the sister-in-law get together, they make me feel very left out

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2366 days ago

30 October 2017 (F) - I have been dating an identical twin for the last 4 years. We have been doing well except when it comes to spending time with his brother and his sister in law. When we are all together, I am always to one that is left out. I always get left out of ...

How do I tell my online guy friend that I won't be able to keep talking to him every night when I move in with my boyfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2367 days ago

27 October 2017 (F) - So to give you a little bit of context - I've been talking with this guy over the phone for a little over a year (we met online) - Let's call him James. He lives in the US and I am in Canada. We used to talk dirty to each other over the phone during ...

Can I believe him after just 2 months?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2367 days ago

27 October 2017 (F) - I am from Palestine and currently living in Jordan. so I met a turkish guy at a resort 2 months ago, and we started talking and liked each other, and I kept talking to him even after going back to palestine. He then started telling me that he wants ...

He's left me yet again but what wrong have I done to be treated like this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2370 days ago

26 October 2017 (F) - I need help please I Feel patheticI met this guy two years ago. He was great he was always guarded we went out on dates for three months didn't sleep together til then. He was great to my son. I have a Lil boy. I ended up moving in with him, and it ...

I may have put him off. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2372 days ago

26 October 2017 (F) - I have really liked a man for a long time. He has shown very strong signs before, that he liked me. I was coming out of a long-term relationship and I wasn't ready for anything/gave out confusing signals. I think I unintentionally hurt him, giving ...

I want a relationship with her! What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2372 days ago

25 October 2017 (M) - Help! I've been asked by a lady friend to join her to a play this Saturday. I like her and my gut tells me the feeling is mutual. I want a relationship with this woman. What must I do to make my intentions clear? Do I take her to dinner after th...

My girlfriend is being too needy, is it unhealthy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2372 days ago

25 October 2017 (M) - How often is too often to see your significant other? In the last few relationships I’ve felt burned out too quickly from them and I think it’s a problem I’m having with myself. I’m dating a girl now and have been for the last year. She does e...

Where can I find someone who wants to date me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2372 days ago

25 October 2017 (F) - I am 22 and never been on a date because no man has ever asked me out and I don't know where to go to find men who want to date me. I don't frequent bars or clubs. I have tried doing some volunteering activities and in college I previously joine...

Do I need to' know' he is the one?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2373 days ago

25 October 2017 (F) - I’m 29. My parter is 10 years older. We’ve been together 5 years. I love him; he loves me and everything is great. I just want to know what people think of soul mates? Or when people say ‘when you know, you know’ i guess i just know that our re...

Why am I settling for second best?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2372 days ago

24 October 2017 (M) - Hello people, I'm the type of person who keeps to himself a lot. I'm not unhappy because the perks of being outgoing don't really appeal to me much...I have very few friends and I feel uncomfortable around them too if I have to hang around for too ...

My boyfriend got another woman pregnant on a break and I am not feeling good about it

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2372 days ago

24 October 2017 (F) - I've been dating my boyfriend on and off close to 3.5 years. Nothing has been perfect, but one thing is we really do love each other. We've both been faithful, never any worries there. And when we did take a break before (a few times) we both ...

He's changed how the trip expenses will be split!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2373 days ago

24 October 2017 (F) - So, I'm in a relatively new relationship.....we met in June but things have gotten more serious in the past 2 months where we now are exclusive......he's been talking about an event he wants to attend in the big apple in december and so we've been ...

The relationship I am in has become exhausting

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2374 days ago

23 October 2017 (F) - So I need to preface this by saying I am not a second-chances person. Basically once someone loses my faith or trust, they usually can't get it back. That being said, I dated this guy for about a year, from September of last year to earlier ...

My boyfriend was kissed by a gay guy and now he wonders if he is bi?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2366 days ago

23 October 2017 (F) - My boyfriend of 10 months just told me he was kissed by a gay guy at a party I wasn't able to attend, and also told me he thinks he might be bi now. I'm just wondering if other people consider this cheating. I'm pretty uncomfortable with the whole ...

Why would a man get distant when time together is limited?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2374 days ago

22 October 2017 (F) - so i have been seeing someone for about 2 years now, we are both military and it is now the time for me to rotate to a new duty and he will not be able to come with me. We both love each other very much but the closer i get to leaving, the more ...

There's a big age gap so how do I go about this relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2375 days ago

21 October 2017 (M) - http://www.dearcupid.org/question/would-counselling-and-therapy-help-after-all-this.html That is the link to the first question I asked. Now over a year later, I am now finally getting in a real relationship. Except the problem is that she is only...

Two guys... So whom should I go for?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2376 days ago

21 October 2017 (F) - I have an issue where I'm interested in two guys and I don't know what to do about it. The first guy we met on a night out (he's 21 and I am 18) and there was this instant thing between us, an attraction, but also we got along really well. We've be...

A year after my break up I still haven't been on a date and no one has shown any real interest in me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2376 days ago

20 October 2017 (F) - I'm 22 and the only relationship I have ever been In lasted 3 years before he came out gay. It was a very complicated break up with a lot of mixed feelings and we would still spend time together and end up sleeping together for around a year ...

Given his past, do you think that this man would be a good parent to my daughter?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2377 days ago

20 October 2017 (F) - I recently left an abusive marriage, and have been seeing a man from work for almost a year. He moved in with my kids and I over the summer. He has always been very sweet and caring to all of us, but the relationship isn't perfect, though I love ...

Family squabble upsetting my new relationship

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2377 days ago

18 October 2017 (F) - My boy friend and I r relatively a new couple. He lives with his twin brother and a friend. I was staying in their place for the first time and just to clarify. Before that night me and his brother were getting along real well that I would call him ...

Was I out of line and is my boyfriend right in not trusting me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2378 days ago

18 October 2017 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 years now. A few months ago I met a guy at work who I messaged after I left the job. He was quite flirty with me in this conversation but I didn't think it meant anything. About a month later he messaged...

I think he likes another girl but I don't know how to broach the topic

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2379 days ago

17 October 2017 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months but it's not exactly official, his family don't know and only a couple of our close friends know, it's like a need to know basis. Recently he went on holiday back to his home town with a mutu...

My boyfriend used to be a nerd but now acts like a 'Gangsta'

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2379 days ago

17 October 2017 (F) - He's a middle class white boy whose parents pay for everything including his Mini but he keeps acting like he wants to be the "gangster hood" stereotype and idk it really annoys me for some reason. My parents are also middle class but I was raised ...

Is it a good sign that he told her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2380 days ago

15 October 2017 (F) - Hi aunts and uncles. I wanted to know what your opinion was on this. My new boyfriend of a month has a huge circle of friends and he's pretty well loved by people as the "nice" guy/good guy. Yesterday he told me he spoke to this girl and told her...

Men don't see me as dating material - why?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2380 days ago

15 October 2017 (F) - Hi, you know how people like to use the term "friendzone" in situations when girls only see guys as friends? Well, i'm the opposite. I'm a 25 yo girl and find that most guys see me as a buddy or undateable. I've gone on dates with guys but nothing ...

Boyfriend brings up his ex girlfriend

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2381 days ago

14 October 2017 (F) - I went to a high school reunion this past summer. While there, I met a man who I really didn't talk to much in high school. We kind of hit it off, and for the past 2 months, we have been dating and getting to know each other. My question is abou...

We exchanged numbers but now I'm turned off by him

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2381 days ago

13 October 2017 (F) - I haven't been out in the dating world for a long time. Recently I have been chatting here and there with a guy doing construction at my place of work, seemed like a nice guy, cute, I felt comfortable talking with him. So he asked me for my phone...

How to tell him I don't want children?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2385 days ago

13 October 2017 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years, he is 32 and I am 24. We are moving in together in a few months (into his house), but I am worried about out future- I don't want to have children. I have several reasons for the fact...

It was going great and now she has stopped responding ... I guess its over!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2367 days ago

11 October 2017 (M) - Hello everyone! A few months ago I started exchanging Facebook messages with a girl I knew in high school about ten years ago. I'm 30 and she's 29. Things went really well and she agreed to meet up as soon as we could (she was moving back to h...

My ex cheated on me, it took me 2 years to get over him and now he wants to try again

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2380 days ago

11 October 2017 (F) - At what point can you be sure you have forgiven someone for hurting you, and take them back? 3 years ago my then boyfriend of nearly 2 years left me for someone else. It took me a long time to get over it, but I did. I never really forgot he...

What if she's not willing to compromise?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2386 days ago

11 October 2017 (M) - I've been dating a girl for 2 months now and we are official, she's 34, and I'm 36. She has 2 young children that I've not met yet- I will be soon. Things seem really good but I have abit of a concern, please could you guys give your advice and your ...

The man I am dating doesn't believe in kissing and affection

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2386 days ago

11 October 2017 (F) - I am seeing a guy who when I asked says he doesn’t do kissing and affection. I was widowed 9 years ago and this is the first since. I really like this guy but not sure about not kissing although the sex is great. I told him I kind of fell ...

I haven't had any luck dating. Should I give up on love?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2387 days ago

10 October 2017 (F) - Is love not in the cards for me? I have tried online dating and after a couple of dates I realized the men in the sites aren't exactly the type of men that I want. I admit I have taken a year and a half to work on myself after a string of two bad ...

I think I deserve better. I'm pushing too hard to make this relationship work?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2386 days ago

10 October 2017 (F) - Hi all, Ive been dating this guy for the past 4-5 months. He's very different from my part relationships. I had a bad pattern to go for unavailable men but I changed it consciously. My relationship is going well with this person and there were a...

He cannot communicate and I don't know what to do

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2388 days ago

10 October 2017 (F) - I've recently started dating a guy. We've known each other for 4 years in total and we've helped each other through a lot in those 4 years. He ended up adding me from a whatsapp group that we were both in 4 years ago and we started chatting...

Am I being too materialstic and self sabotaging?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2388 days ago

9 October 2017 (F) - Am I being unrealistic? I am 50 and dating a man for close to three months who claims he is retired, I came to find out he was laid off and doesn't want to go back to work. I find myself paying more often when we go out, it is a huge turn-off. I ...

I can't wait to get married - but family issues putting a dampener on it.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2387 days ago

9 October 2017 (F) - Hi, I'm looking for some advice. My fiancé and I are engaged and are soon to start planning our wedding. I have an extremely difficult mother, and because of that she has pretty much damaged all family ties I have with aunts/uncles/cousins. ...

Why does this guy flirt with me when he asks about dates I've been on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2388 days ago

9 October 2017 (F) - There's this guy I've known for a little over a year. I used to have a huge crush on him for a long time. I eventually got over him emotionally, but I am still attracted to him. We have been friends but there has been times where I get mixed ...

My boyfriend is sad after his ex girlfriend's revelation!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2388 days ago

8 October 2017 (F) - Hello, I have a story to tell. This summer my bf and I got together. He had a girlfriend but he cheated on her to be with me. At first we were friends and I knew he had a girlfriend but I was so in love with him and I was trying to resist for so ...

My girlfriend is blaming herself for an early miscarriage.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2389 days ago

6 October 2017 (M) - Dear Cupid, The other day my girlfriend had a few drinks and on the way home started going on about how she thinks she's pregnant. She hadn't done a test and was purely going off her breasts being tender and feeling "weird" plus she rambles when she...

I think a year is a long time to wait for him ...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2391 days ago

6 October 2017 (F) - So, ive been seeing this guy for a few months now he's a couple years older than me (being 25), when we first started speaking in july and from that point i thought it was going to be more of a friendly kind of relationship as he didn't seem my type ...

Engaged to be married and have a crush on another woman

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2392 days ago

6 October 2017 (M) - So to start off I have been with my fiancé for 11 years since we were both 18. In that time we have both been through a lot, however I have never in the last 11 years had a crush on another woman. She has always been the only women who i had any ...

It seems like our relationship was a big lie!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2392 days ago

6 October 2017 (F) - First, let me start by saying the past week with my boyfriend has been great. He's been affectionate and talking about marriage, which itself isn't new, and spending all his time with me at my house aside from work. We'll call him D Then out of n...