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Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

Dating: Help and advice

I'm finding it hard to think that the kind, attentive, wonderful man that I fell in love with has disappeared at the moment or even forever.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I'm having problems in my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been going out for 2 1/2 years in an LDR. My boyfriend has been working really hard lately, so much so that I haven't seen him since the end of September whereas we were seeing each ...

Is sex before marriage okay?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5283 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - Is sex before marriage ok? I mean what happens if it's going to be a while before you find the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with??? ...

I'm pregnant and father doesn't want the baby... he wants the abortion pill!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5283 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I am 23 and just found out last week I am pregnant with my boyfriends baby. He is 20 and his father is a pastor. We were very devastated that we were pregnant and I told my sister, he told his brother and wife. The people we have told are very ...

How could he say he might love me only to drop me shortly after?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I had been dating this guy that lived in my hometown for almost 7 months. The first 2 months were while I was at college, but when I was home, I followed him to all the summer ball games he played. When I had to go back, he told me how he would ...

Should I give him a chance to let his character shine through?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5248 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I was totally inlove with a charmer he was great made me laugh made me feel want him so much cos he knew all the right things to say to me! He had lots of women b4 me and woman in between us spilting up! He cant settle down he enjoys the chase of ...

How can I get her to accept when I ask her out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - i met a girl and asked her out but she is insisting on what i saw in her and why i asked her out. I told her because she is beautiful but she won't accept...

Should I have him visit to see how he feels?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I dated TJ during the summer. We had a good relationship and we had a lot of fun together. I was going away to school so I decided to end things. After Almost two monthes of guys here I realized that they just want to hook up and I'm not ok with ...

Dating problems: covered in freckles, bi, and overweight!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - ok well I am 18 and I am having trouble dating I am bi and there are no girls or guys looking at me to date is there something wrong with me. I am a little over weight and covered in freckles but no one seems to like me...

Should I ignore him or ask him about it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - There is this guy I have had a crush on for two semesters now, he is really outgoing, he knows a lot of women and flirts a lot too. I can not even got back into the Art Building without him "flirting" with me. So I was walking on the opposite sid...

Should I have sex with her when we aren't in a relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5281 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - There's this girl that I've know since the 6th grade and I've always thought she had a nice body. We're in the 9th grade now. We started talking over the internet and one thing led to another and we ende up having internet sex and now se wants me to ...

I'm self conscious about loose skin after losing weight!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hi ive just started dating really nice man. Ive been single a yr and im a bit out of practice. I just wandering how long do people wait until u start sleeing with someone? Im a bit body concious and dreading taking my clothes of to a new man. Ive ...

I want to break up but how to tell him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5281 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hi,I can't raaly understand why I'm riting and asking you that question,but first time in my life I feel ansequre if the tnings that I am going to do are right.I have a boyfriend from a year ago.In the start was normal relationship.but now I just ...

Do you think I should tell my parents about my BF before I leave or not?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I'll spare you all of the intracate details if you'll avoid wasting your time and asking me or telling me whether or not what I'm doing is smart, safe, thought out, etc.... In January '10 I'm flying out to my boyfriend's town to stay there for 3...

How do I approach this without making it an ordeal?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been dating close to a year and are happy together. Like all couples we have our fights and problems, but we get along well and we definitely see this as having future potential. The problem is the quinte...

Is he angry about something or has he just lost interest?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5283 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hi guys, quick question there is a guy i know through friends, and we've known each other for about a year but only recently he has started to get in touch with me talking to me more texting me alot. When we met he was with someone but he i...

He only wants me when he can't have me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - i met a guy about a year ago and he sent me lots of txt messages, tellin me he was in love with me etc, after a couple of months i really got to like him so we went out a few times and then had a month long intense relationship seeing each other ...

Does my close friend like me back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5269 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Over the last few months I've started to really like one of my closest male friends. I've known him for a year and we lived together in halls at Uni. We have a little group of friends, us and a couple of others, who hang out together a lot. We ...

Could she be walking all over me at her convenience?

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31 October 2009 (M) - Alright everyone so I have a little problem. I have been seeing this girl for about 3 months...it's a casual thing...go on dates..we kiss when we part..we were friends to begin and then it turned into this. I have very strong feelings for her and ...

Is it normal for a boy to say, "I love you" in a different way?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Ok. One day in science my boyfriend said I love You, But he didn't say it like that he said "Like the barney song." I was like Awwwwwwwwwww. I think it's sweet and wierd. Is it normal for a boy to say I love you to you in a different way?...

Should I be looking for a dominant girlfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - Recently whilst watching videos on the internet, i have found myself looking at dominatrix videos. Does this mean i should have dominant girlfriend or am i very strange?...

The right time to kiss her...?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - I'm 16 and I'm taking this girl out to the cinema today and i would like to kiss her. What do I do to kiss her without looking or ending up doing something wrong or silly?...

I somehow feel that he likes me, yet isnt interested in a serious relationship. Please advise.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5280 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I am in a stable relationship with a guy who loves me truly. We live in different cities and since last year I started to take liking for a colleague of mine. We talk to each other about work and personal stuff every single day. For the last 1 year ...

Taboo fantasy help.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I've never told anyone about this but I need some advice. I like to keep things exciting in the bedroom and my boyfriend of 5 months wants to indulge me as I indulge him. We are just beginning anal sex as its his biggest fetish and I like to make ...

Is he being clingy or am I just not used to a guy like this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5280 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Im loosing patience with my guy of 6 months. I was the one head over heels for him and had to step back cuz he was not ready. well now he is ready, askin me to move in for the last 3 months and i dont the feel the same as i did. He calls me allot...

He asks me to split the check - is he really interested in me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5283 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I'm a little old fashioned and always had the idea that when a man is truly interested in you he pays for dinner. I've been on four dates with this guy and each time he ask to split the check. Is this guy really into me?...

Does he still like me, miss me or maybe want me back if he was sticking around?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5272 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hello everyone I came on here in hope for some advice and maybe help me understand what's going on. 2 years ago me and my ex broke up. It was a pretty good relationship for a while then it all went bad and we had the worst breakup where we didn't ...

Can I trust him at this party without me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5285 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - The guy im going to marry is going to a halloween party tonight and will be drinking. he loves me i know that but then drinking is involved im not so sure he could say no cause i had a baby and its been 6 weeks since we had sex and he has a very ...

I seem to have no ambition to do anything...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - hey, lately i have been feeling unloved by my boyfriend of 5 years, i know he loves me but sometimes im just not sure. and i have gotten laid off work so im home a lot i never feel like doing anything, its a huge chore to leave the house, i have ...

I can't leave him, he's all I have...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5285 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and i have been dating for just over a year. We spend every single day at college together. Well, thing is, he always judges me and talks bad to me and hurts me. But i love him and i do so much for him. He wont even try to do something ...

I still don't know for sure whether he can make it or not... Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5285 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I am dating a guy. I invited him for dinner. He accepted but told me he will only have time next week after an examination. The examination will be on Thursday. Shall I ask him again at which time and day he will able to after the examinat...

What can I do to get my girlfriend to snog me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5285 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - I'm 16 and me and my girlfriend have never snogged. We are both nervous and shy so... what do i do to get her to kiss/snog me?...

I'm worried my lack of knowledge in the bedroom will end the relationship!!!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5226 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - help! ok iv been going out with this guy for a while and i really like him, we'v only ever kissed but i know things will soon be going further. he has slept with 2 other girls (both in long term relationships he isnt a get around) but i havent done ...

My boyfriend still goes to the ex's house to let the dog out!!!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5276 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Hello Aunts and Uncles. I'll make this short and to the point but would really appreciate a guys take if possible. My boyfriend (we have been living together for about a year) he still goes to his ex's house (when she's working and yes she is ...

How can I get her to take the lead more?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5285 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - I'm 17 years old and have been going out with a girl for 2 months which is lovely and i love spending time with her and i think shes great. BUT all we have ever done is kiss on the lips. She's a bit shy and a never takes the lead on anythiing. For ...

Soon 16 and never been kissed

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5285 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I am 16 in two months - I have never been asked out or kissed by a guy. Does this mean that I am turn off to guys ?...

B/f no longer puts forth effort into the relationship, what to do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5285 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Any help would be greatly appreciated: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. We have talked about marriage and for the most part, we get along famously. Here is my delima: He seems angry, distant, and at times bored with...

I like the manly smell down there, am I weird?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2069 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I just found this web site last month and think its great. I like sitting in this coffee shop, sipping a caramel coffee, and reading about real people and what others think about their problems and hang ups, without the fear of being embarassed. ...

How do I change from being clingy and needy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5285 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - About 5 months ago, I got out of a 3 year relationship that turned abusive, and I am now currently dating this guy that I have known for about 6 years. We started out as friends, and for the past 3 months have been dating. I have really begun to ...

How do I know if my girlfriend loves me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - How do I know if my girlfriend loves me? She as been giving me signals as if she don't want me...but I spoke with her and she said if I didn't like you I would tell you directly. Another thing is she has college n I work full time. To add to it she ...

How can I show her I'm genuinely really interested in her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5285 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - So I got to go on a date with a new girl a few nights ago. We got together through a dating site and I was skeptical about the whole thing to begin with. When we met up and had dinner, the whole time our conversation flowed really well, we hung ...

She thinks her ex is innocent and I've had enough!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5280 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Heya, I dont really want to be in this position, but: I am in two minds about my GF speaking to her ex, I've never liked it, and its been hard work for me to let them talk and see each other, they broke up just under a year ago, she says she mis...

How can I get her to come back to me...?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5285 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Me and my ex went out for 2 years, we broke up about 3 months ago and in that 2 years i hurt her bad but i told her it would never happen again and it didnt she hurt me also. about a month and a half ago she got another boyfriend i wanna get back ...

I cheated on my girlfriend. Should I tell her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - I am in a new relationship with this girl, who I have fallen in love with. However stupidly, I slept with another girl. This other girl was one who I had liked for ages and to be honest I succumbed to lust. The guilt now is unbearable, and I truly ...

Was she afraid I would turn out like the other boys she dated?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5285 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - well she's my ex now but before we started dating she told me that she had been hurt by alot of guys and all she wanted was for me to give her a chance which I had no problem doing because I truly liked her. She seemed different than alot of girls I ...

Can I Do Anything to Resolve?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5285 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago. I'm sad. Can I do anything to resolve? We have been together for a year and a half. My ex gf and I took a break about 2 months ago because we've been bickering. She's been stressed out at work, sch...

Confused...Am I rejected?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - This guy and I have been seeing each other for a few months now. He lives in a different state. At the beginning, he was always messaging me and chasing me and we started getting intimate and had sex about 1 month after. He says he loves having ...

Apparently he went off me but it seems he is still leading me on!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5285 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - i liked this guy and he liked me back but neither of us knew so we didnt make a move. he apparently went off me and i still like him, i'm not sure if he likes me still or not because he is being a bit weird at the moment. he puts his arm around me ...

Where can I talk openly about sex?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5285 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Ok, this is probably not the best place to ask this, but since my question is where I should ask this question, here goes. Back story: I'm a geek and have always been one. I managed to get through middle school single (not for lack of trying),...

Was I being led on or not?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5285 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - I had met a girl at a club, she is rather crazy and wild and anyway, i started to talk to her heaps over the next weeks, and we were getting along real well. Eventually we decided to meet up in a club and it was good. She was rather smashed as she ...

I don't feel I cheated, but I was awkwardly busted. Do I explain the situation to him?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5285 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Thanks so much in advance for your insight(s). After years of quick flings, NSAs and not-quite-rights, (I'm 47) I all but shut down my sexual activity and adpoted a "been there done that" mentality, I'm recently re-inspired. I believe that ...