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Archived questions from: August, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

Dating: Help and advice

I'm in love with my cousin's daughter and need advice!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I need help, I fell in love with my cousin's daughter. (I'm 21, she's 18) I know some people think it's wrong and immoral but I truly have developed feelings for her. We don't get to see each other since we live far away from each other, we m...

Is it over?? Even though it never officially started?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 83 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Hi everyone! I’m 15 yo. I had this huge crush on this boy called 'wb' we go to the same school but now it’s summer break n I haven’t seen him since the last day at school!!!!!He went to Canada I think!! I still think of him all the time and I ...

Is this my fault? This is not how I imagined love and commitment to be!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - So I have been dating the same guy for 4 years. Well, we had an 18 month break in between where we still saw each other and slept with each other daily. I continued to help pay his rent and taking care of his daughter during this time. I felt like ...

I'm in love with my brother's best friend...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 83 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - How do i tell my brother i am in love with his best friend? I have been seeing my brothers best friend (david) for about a month now behind my brothers back. David says we need to tell my brother so we can have a more opened relationship. I ...

I want him to ask me out again! How do I do that?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Nine months ago, I became single after a two-year (not to mention shitty) relationship. Just over a year and a half ago, the guy I'm after became single after a four year relationship. We're both not exactly over our ex's but we're certainly not ...

Not feeling the same about my boyfriend anymore...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now and he treats me very well. he is a complete gentleman, he gets along with my family and i with his. I love him but i find that over the past couple of months i'm getting very irritated with ...

2 years with boyfriend but still think of my ex!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I moved here a 3 years ago and left back in my country a guy that I had been dating for almost a year. He loved me alot, and now I went back to colombia and saw him again. I had always kept in touch with him, even though we broke up. He has a ...

Went snooping through all of his things and found stuff from his past - do I have a right to be upset?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I need to know if this is a *me* problem that I should work on personally, or if I need to talk to my boyfriend about it too. I'll apologize for this being so long now. I just have a lot to say about the issue at hand. This morning, I have no i...

I want to go out with him, but I feel that the age difference is holding me back! What do you think?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Ok so Ive met this one guy online a few months. We live close and I actually found that we go to the same college. Well we met one day and hit it off. He is a sweetheart and I really like him. I think he has serious boyfriend potential. He is pretty ...

Somebody to talk to when she has nothing else to do?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

31 August 2009 (?) - Ok readers, i've got this little problem. I first started gettin to know a women over the net, it was all great at first, contact 24/7, she refers to me as babe, sexyful, and says she's misses me when she hasn't been able to chat to me. Thing is, we ...

If a girl says 'thank you' after you've been on a date, does it mean it's over? And how do I ask a girl from school out?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - [Mod note - two seperate questions were from the same poster, so I have combined both] Q1: im gonna ask this girl out. im 15, shes 16. I know her from school. Ask her out at school? If I do ask her out at school it cant be nothing super huge o...

I'm 46 and want to be more than a girlfriend!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I am not a young woman, I'm a 46 year old who has been dating a 52 year old man for 3 years now. I'm divorced and his wife passed away. I want marriage but he doesn't. I have an 18 year old son who lives with me and my boyfriend wants to wait til ...

Ladies preferences on men: Hairy? Or Not?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - This question has probably been asked before but anyway here goes: Ladies; do you prefer your man, lover, partner, FWB, to be: A) Hairy B) Slightly Hairy C) Shaved D) Completely waxed and hairless all over including BCS....

I don't see a future for me and my now ex boyfriend... so how do I stop loving him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I split with my ex 6 months ago, after 4 years together- for all the right reasons, nothing in common, hes very childish, doesnt make me feel happy, he prefers time with his friends drinking than me- he is sort of like peter pan, lovable but ...

I've fallen in love with my ex co-worker...could the feeling be mutual?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Ok so I met this guy where i work and as soon as he smiled at me I melted. Anyway, we got talking and started to email each other, then he went off to mexico. he's in the middle of travelling he world, but we kept emailing off an on, nothing ...

New relationship, what should our conversations be based upon?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - To begin with.let me say i'm a guy who just got into a new relationship.i need advice on how to begin,i.e d type of conversation we should start having.cos any time we talk,she always wants to hear more from me.so i just nid to know what our ...

Missed opportunity?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

31 August 2009 (?) - Hey all. Okay I met this really cute girl on a night out. Unfortunately she was drunk or at least quite merry ( she couldnt rememeber stuff that happened and hour ago). She kept on asking me any my friend back for a house party which rapidly ap...

Is my best friend REALLY okay with me dating her cousin?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 83 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - My 'best friend' and i had a fight a few weeks back, and it was about a sweet 16th party that she wanted to throw with me,(as in a joint party)which never went ahead because neither of us told our parents. The other thing she was mad at me about was ...

I'm in a casual relationship, but like someone I work with! What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Hi.... I really thought that this day would NEVER come around. I have been in a what they call a causel relationship, of course one would think that something more to come of this relationship, its been on now for a year and a half, not a very easy ...

I am 33 with four kids, can a relationship with a 21 year old work?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I’m a 33-year old mother of four, who is dating a 21-year old man for about two years. I have always been attracted to younger men. He is very compassionate, thoughtful, financially supportative, and he always goes the extra mile to prove that he is ...

I find myself missing him, though I knew it wouldn't last, why??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 83 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - what is wrong with me? i had 3 boyfriends in a row (a year or less break between each one), waited 6 years, and reluctantly got involved with a guy i really liked, but i saw no long future with. actually, i didn't know what to expect, but he w...

He's kind, loving, but never says "I love you," should I say something?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 85 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - When is the right time to say I love you to someone?? I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months but he has never said he loves me. I don't know if its too early to bring it up or if I should wait. When he's drunk he tells me how special I am and ...

Do you think he only wants me around for sex, without a comitment?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I have an unusual relationship with this guy, which is why I need help with it. Normally my relationships follow the same pattern - Guy likes me, I want to get to know more about guy, we get to know each other for about 6 months, he asks me to be ...

He heard from this 24 year old hottie, I haven't heard from him since, should I move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I bumped into this guy I used to work with years ago, went on a great date with him, and then in a post-date phone call, he tells me about this hot 24-year-old he'd dated four times a couple months ago. He's 38. She broke it off because she was ...

I dumped him but am having second thoughts -- should I contact him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I met a really nice guy and we 'dated' for about two weeks. He asked me out each time, paid for all dates, was a gentleman. In the two weeks I knew him all we ever did was kiss lightly, no make out, no nothing else, he didn't push my boundaries at ...

I'm paranoid my boyfriend's friends,want him to break up with me, how do I get over this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 85 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I am really terrified my boyfriend's friends don't like me. He is always saying that everyone thinks I'm really quiet which makes me think they are sitting around discussing me, I'm so paranoid they are telling him to break up with me. I wish I ...

My boyfriend does not want me to go out or have any friends, he is insecure, what can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - My boyfriend probably wants us to break up as he can't handle the fact that I now have a small social life. I am gutted and can't believe this reaction after five years together. I had been unwell and a bit of a loner for the start of our rel...

I try to be like those who I care for, how can I be who I am instead?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 85 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - when i'm alone for a long time, i know what's 'right' and 'wrong' at least for myself. when i'm with someone that i love, i lose my sense of this somewhat. it gets worse if they're highly critical. i almost become like them, or like how they want me ...

Confused from the signs -- does she want to end it, or is she just scared?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 82 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I met a girl on Christian dating service a month ago and we have been getting along really well until this past week. She has had her moments of being distant at times, but this past week she has really gotten very distant. Last weekend she and I ...

Could I be pregnant, if we had unprotected sex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 82 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Ok so if been on birth control pills for about a year now. Like two weeks ago I stop taking them because of risks and stuff. Four days later after I stoped taking the pills me and my boyfriend had sex without a condom and he ejaculated inside of me. ...

To kiss or not to kiss: That is the question?!??!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I've been going out with this guy for some time, I think about two months now, and we've gone out five times. Because of his schedule, he works all the time, which explains why we just gone out a few times. I like hanging out with him; he's s...

Is he serious about "just friends" or do we still have a shot?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Okay so I was seeing this guy for about a month. He persued hot and heavy. Everything was going along fine until an ex hacked into my email and internet accounts. I had to fess up to the new guy about this "other" guy. It seemed to really freak him ...

My boyfriend cheated on me, I cheated on him, got pregnant, how do I tell him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I have a boyfriend and he cheated on me and i wanted to pay him back, so i cheated on him and i am pregnant and i know that the baby belong to the other guy. How do i tell my boyfriend?...

Going on dates but not "dating". How do we get back to where we were?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 43 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I'll try to make this short. The man I really loved/love broke up with me approx. 7 months ago. We went our own ways for a while and then one day (2 months ago), we found ourselves in bed together. Since then, we have been hanging out when he's in ...

What's the best way to break the ice in an email?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - There is this women at work who is probably 15 years older me but she is kind of sexy. I only see her about once a month but due to work we send emails every day. What is the best way to start flirting with her or let her know I am interested? Every ...

My gf wants sex, but I don't feel I'm ready ...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - Okay, I'm gonna be 15... and my girlfriend wants to have sex... I'm a guy of course I want to... I have been dating her since 7th grade (I'm a freshman now) and I don't know what to do... She means the world to me... and in the past I'...

In love with my teacher. He is single and I want to get more involved

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 63 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - I've had feelings for my teacher for a while now and I;m pretty sure he feels the same way by the way he talks to me, approaches me, and we even hug and slightly touch sometimes. Anyway, he's single and I want to get more involved but im not sure ...

Should I wait for him to get over his ex, or find somone my own age?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 74 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - I first met this boy (for this story's purpose I'll call him Will) when we both went on a school trip. Will is 2 years younger than me. On the trip we were always together and flirting so so so much. All the people we knew on the trip said we should ...

Was it a one off, or could it be more?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - I bumped into this guy I've known vaguely for a while. We'd never spoken properly but we got chatting and exchanged numbers. He text me that week and we arranged to do something the following weekend. Which we did and ended up sleeping together, I ...

Do I put out vibes to attract losers?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 68 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Thank you in advance to those who help me with this question. Went to a party last night with a friend. It was more of a get together and I did not know the people but they seemed nice enough. Everybody was pretty drunk but I was not as I needed to ...

In love with an exchange student and she is leaving next week

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

30 August 2009 (M) - Basically....I'm in love, well I am in love", with this girl called Kate(not actual name), shes amazing! The most beautiful beautiful girl iv'e ever laid eyes on. Shes funny and very smart, and i'm a a sucker for an accent yeah, I forgot to menti...

How can I get motivated with doing things in life, and how can I get a new boyfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Ever since my ex boyf of about 2 years dumped me (about 3 months ago) I've had almost no motivation for life. Don't get me wrong- I'm not seriously depressed and suicidal or anything and promise myself I never will be- but I have been leading a very ...

What do you make of this guys mixed signals toward me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - What do you do when a guy doesn't make things clear. He says one thing and then does another. He acts like he wants a full commitment again and then when I agree he hides out again. I did not call him at all and he came running back and then when ...

How do I tell my bestfriend that I want to go out with her ex?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Heyaa, this is going to sounds silly but here goes.... Well basically I'm into this boy and he's into me. We have been together before a couple of times and I want to go out with him and he's asked me out and is waiting for an answer but I can...

When in a relationship do people usually hit third base?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 84 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - I am a 17 year old girl, with an 18 year old boyfriend. (Canada) We've been going out for three months, and we hit 2nd base a while back. He started testing for 3rd, like carressing upper thigh, butt, etc. But he made sure I knew he'd never do ...

There's this guy that has asked me out, but there are a few things in the way, and I like someone else! What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 85 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Men are definately like buses!! I met this 21 year old throught my sister about a year ago and we've been talking on msn and such ever since, we've also met up a few times recently. He has now asked me out. However i have a number of proble...

What are the signs that a guy likes you?!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Heyy=] I finished school and I am 16years Old,I be going College and I just wanted some Advice about guys!! I want to know? 1.Do they get Butterflies when they Kiss a girl 2.when they like someone what do they do any hints or signs 3.Wh...

I feel betrayed by the guy I like, and my friend, what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 85 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - This summer I went on a choir trip to Spain. My best friend told me she kind of liked this guy, but it was visabley apparent the only reason she liked him was because she was trying to get over the guy who she hooked up with for a while. He didn't ...

I want to date a guy I like, but my best friend doesn't approve! What should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Hii, This is a relationship question, and im not sure on what i should do so im asking for your advice on what i should do.Okai im 16 years old and i just started dating a guy whos 19"Mark", My bestfriend hates him and told me that if me and mark ...

I think he introduced me to his children too soon, as I'm not ready for him to meet mine. Is it odd or am I making too much out of this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - I have been dating this gentleman for 3 weeks now. We met online and seem to have a lot in common. We both have young children, (6 years and under) and I have issues with meeting or introducing children to a potential relationship before I know if ...