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writes:hey, I'm 16 and thinking about having sex with my boyfriend. I'm on the pill and we're going to use a condom. The thing is my mum has made me really paranoid about having sex. We had a talk the other day about Sex and she said knowing my family's luck I'd get pregnant my first time ever trying it. Apparently every time a person in my family done it the first time they've got pregnant. I know this isn't true but it's still made me kind of paranoid. I told my dad about it and he laughed saying my mum was just trying to scare me. I told my mum I wasn't planning to have sex yet, but I feel I'm ready and I know I'm mature enough even though I'm not old. I wouldn't be doing this if I didn't think I was ready for the emotional effect it can have on a person. I was just wondering do you think my mum could have a point? or is she just trying to scare me? What are the chances of me getting pregnant while on the pill and using a condom?plz help:)
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reader, smartazngirl  +, writes (30 January 2009):
 I think she's trying to scare you because she cares about you. I would probably do the same thing to my child if she was thinking she was old enough to have sex.
But anyways, she doesn't want you to drop out of high school just because of you being immature. And life is more difficult without a college degree... Just take it the easy way & be patient.
Doing it the hard way isn't going to be great. You'll have to take care of kids while going to college & working?? That will be too hard.
But the choice is up to you. I just advise you to take the easy one.
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reader, im_a_dummy +, writes (30 January 2009):
 a condom isnt always the best form of protection!!! i had sex with a condom, and it either broke, or had a hole in it or sumthing cuz im pregnant!! and i think she was scaring you, but at the same time.... you have to know, when you have sex, no matter how many forms of protections you use, you must be ready for the consequences!!!! I am sure you are both clean, and what not, but if you are going to have sex, be ready to POSSIBLY get an STD. doesnt mean you will get one, just means you can. or being pregnant, it may be painful with a lot of blood. i mean, it also i am not sure what about it makes you feel this way, but you get really attached really quickly, if you feel you love him now, just wait till after. I am not sure why, but it fuckes with your emotions. and just have fun.. (if it isnt enjoyable the first time, it will be the 2nd) and just .. be safe!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, cdjudd +, writes (30 January 2009):
Your mom has a great point. Sex is great but it also makes things horribly complicated. If you two were ever to break up it would be much worse after having sex. Of course, your mom is looking out for your best interest and she is probably trying to scare you but at the same time she has a pretty valid point. Your chances of getting pregnant while using two forms of protection is greatly lowered, but nothing is guarenteed. Talk to other woman about this too, I think you will realize what's right for you. Good luck.
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