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Dating: Help and advice

I've told my girlfriend to fuck off at the moment and not speak to me...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - I have a serious problem with trusting my girlfriend. We've been together for 3 months (a long time for me) and we just argue A LOT we get on most of the time but a while ago, she was going home after seeing me, she usually catches the bus home, ...

First time sex.... what can I do to blow his mind?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - Ok, my boyfriend and I are planning to have sex soon. The thing is I love him really I do. Knowing that we are both virgins and that he is taking it very seriously, well in the sense that he wants everything to go right. He planned everything to the ...

I have no plans but do I lie and say I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - Hello Cupiters! I am going out on a first date with this guy I met online about a month ago. Now we're just talking texting.. Anyways, we already have plans for Saturday (dinner, miniature golf). We were having a good conversation this morning ...

First time sex...the usual worries

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5583 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I know this is a question that has come up a lot, though thought it would be worth putting things in my own terms exactly so I can make things clear as possible... I'm 18 and met this guy about 2 months ago, he's 25 and not a virgin. We live a f...

Why is my boyfriend doing this???

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - We’ve been together for 3 months.. after 2 months he changed and started been all weird and not calling me much.. he use to call me every day..last time I saw him he got really angry and accused me of cheating on him... saying I am not giving him ...

Ladies do you have some suggestions on planning a nice night leading up to sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - I want to plan a nice night leading up to sex for my girlfriend. Ladies do you have some suggestions on planning a nice night leading up to sex?...

He told me he is not comfortable with us as a couple and I should move on... All I can do is cry... please help.

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15 January 2009 (F) - My relationship began in February 2000. I was living with a man on and off for the last 9 years. The problem was that he cheated once with an ex girlfriend, next with a co-worker and the last one was with one of his friends. During this time, my ...

Pregnant - How to spice things up when things are going bad please?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - Hello everyone, I'm just sad, and don't know what do to about my sex life any more, really it sucks! I HATE it, I'm not happee. I love my guy to death, but, the sex. Really, I HATE giving him oral, He doesn't give it to me, and I'm clean, I shave ...

Dating 3 years, pregnant and he tells me he don't love me!!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - Well, My name doesnt matter. I'm 19 years old. My bf is 28 years old. And we've been together for almost 3 years now. And I'm pregnant almost 3 months. I love him, and I do love him to death, It's just hard for me to tell him, I love you, after ...

How can I be more assertive and not feel jealous of these other girls?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I love my boyfriend, but we are in a forbidden love, so at school we are together all the time, but deny it when people ask. He is a popular senior at school and he spends some time kind of flirting with other girls and especially the hot ones!!! ...

First she loves me... now she hates me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - first she loves me... then she hates me A quick introduction. - I have been told that I'm very good looking - I've never kissed before (although I have come close) - I'm shy around girls, unless I know them well - I have good, kind-hearted p...

I am scared to give him my virginity, I would if I knew for sure that he would marry me.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5580 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - Ok, this is my dilemma. I am 17 years and my boyfriend is 18. We became friends online and then moved our friendship off-line and met in person. We became close friends instantly. As our friendship blossomed even more he would hint to me stuff about ...

Should I be concerned if he does not get in touch with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5585 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I have been dating a guy for about a month and have not heard from him for 5 days. I sent him a text to see if everything was okay and I found out that he was in the hospital. He is now at home trying to recover. I have sent him several texts ...

He's a totally different person when he's on drugs...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - Hello there, I have a major issue. I've been with my BF for almost one year. That may not seem like a long time to you but considering I practically live at his house every day is pretty much equivalent to a few years together. Anyway, my pro...

I don't want to disappoint him...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I am a little worried about this guy I have arranged to go out with, we have been talking to each other for a long time and he finally asked me out which I am made up about, the problem is he thinks I am this confident funny person who is up for ...

How do I get him not to tell anyone else without having a row?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I'm 18 and my fiancee is 30 we have been dating for a while and I think I might be pregnant. I told him that I was late and he suggested waiting a little longer before I took a test. Which I was fine with, then we went round to his parent's house ...

Is there an easy and secure way to avoid her getting pregnant???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - Hi, yesterday I had unprotected sex with my girlfriend. I didn't cum inside her, I came outside but after some minutes we started having sex again still without protection and without me having cleaned my penis. She is in her fertile period, ...

Experience with anal sex please give me input

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I've been in a relationship with a man for about two years now. We both have children and our separate places. Our relationship is heading toward marriage so there are no insecurities. Although how sex life appears to be wonderful, a whi...

How do you hint without going over the top?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - How can I hint to a guy that I really like him and want to be with him, without going over the top?...

I just don't want sex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5575 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I don't want sex. I am 23 and I dated my boyfriend for 6 years before we broke up for a number of reasons. After a year we got back together and when we did I did not want to have sex. I had no explanation for why, I just did not think about it...

She is confused..meanwhile I'm waiting

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - So basically she said she needs time to figure out what she's going to do about her ex which she went out with 3 years for, she still has feelings for him and she needs to straighten them out, those feelings were getting in the way of are ...

I've haven't smoked in a week but I really want to!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - ok so yeah , im 14 and i smoke.!! :(( yeah i know its bad. Save it I've already herd all that.!! The thing is my boyfriend that I've been with for almost 7 months now really wants me to quit.! I'm trying REALLY hard, i havnt had a cigarett...

I'm a flirt but if it comes to more than that I have no experience

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5584 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I really fancy this bloke, he is the same age as me but very experienced and i am not in any way, he always makes remarks that he would be up for a one-off, which i am interested in because i like him and i know that it's not good to be used for ...

He said he could see me in his fantasy

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - Ok i need some urgent advice. Bit of background - I am a 25 year old female who has never done anything with a bloke - very shy, however, i have always been a bit of a flirt but that's it. Me and a guy at work always flirt and today for some ...

Hopefully you have time "Insecurity and Paranoia"

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5584 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - This is a long story in a question hopefully somebody has the time.. My girl friend and me have been together on and off since I was 15 and im now 19 ..she has seen me in past relationships and stood by as a friend, and vice versa...when we hooked ...

5 months pregnant and in a crisis!!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - First of all im writing in to just ask for help because everyone I speak to says I need to sort it myself but I seriously don't know what to do. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 12 months, I am 5 months pregnant and he treats me like I...

He seems to be a little distant since his brother arrived...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - Hello. I am a single mother of a 2 year old little girl. I've been dating a guy for about 3 months now. He's an attractive, funny and smart guy. He has a nice job as well. We both have lots in common except he is 4 years my junior. He has a 3 year ...

I truly believe this will work out, she just needs time.

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Are our ages okay to go out together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - Hi I'm 16 and my girlfriend is 14. Is this OK? When I turn 17 she'll be 14 for another 4 months....

I feel that he just doesn't want to listen to my stuff any more

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15 January 2009 (F) - Well basically he says that we are not communicating as much and he says that I have a nasty attitude or my jealousy but whenever we have an argument he like to always win and basically whenever I feel him distant or that something is wrong with him ...

Finger my girlfriend on her period

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15 January 2009 (M) - Can I finger my girlfriend when she's on her period? I'm seeing her this weekend and she said she'll be on. If we wanted to should I just stick to the clit? She got fingered by her previous boyfriend while she was on her period but I don't know all ...

How can I turn my boyfriend on more, I feel he's going off me.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months and about a week. Well he asked me to send him some naughty photos but I said no, so I got that going good but every time I see him I'm so attracted to him and I try to do everything to make him want ...

I don't feel that "spark" any more between us.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4361 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I'm engaged to a great guy. Treats me better than I feel I deserve sometimes. We've been together for 5 years. We met when I was 19 he was 21. He had been engaged to a girl he had dated sense high school. She cheated on him and they broke up. Not ...

Do I finish with my baby's dad?

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15 January 2009 (F) - I don't know if I should stay with my boyfriend of a year and a half. He is a lovely guy, but I don't feel in love with him. We also have a baby together. I would love 2 make it work for all of us. One problem I have is I can't help this feeling of ...

I feel as if our love has faded... gone...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - Hello, It's been nearly 6 years since I started dating my gf. We've been each other's first serious partner, and, as you might have guessed, we've gone through a lot together. We're almost 22 now. We've had our little troubles, yes. I broke up ...

I am gay and I should be with women but I still feel that the father issue is not solved in me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I was brought up by my mum and great auntie, both strong and independent women. My mother married my father but then left him as she found it difficult to live with him (she moved to another country to be with him there and felt very isolated, my ...

I'm not sure whether my boyfriend wants a break or some "time off".

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend told me that he doesn't feel the same but he wants to try it once again even though he thinks it's gonna work out only for a few weeks and later it will end up as usual, without communication and romanticism. We are living together and ...

I don't want anything from him but attention and care.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I am a 21 year old and I've beeen seeing my boss who is 43 years old... I started it as fun. I've never dated a married man or someone older than me for even two years.. but matters of the heart are not to be played with.. I am so much in love wit...

How can I show my girl how I feel about her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - Please, kindly teach me how to let my girl know I love her, is it by sending her a love text or by telling her physically? How can I show her how I feel about her?...

Do you think I have done the right thing?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - Hi firstly I would like to thank all whom left an answer in relation to my previous questions the last few days. Yesterday when I cuddled her it was like cuddling a dummy. No emotion, no reaction. She said she would like to catch up over the week...

How can I turn my life around?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - It boils down to this. Every time I meet a woman and see her as a potential partner I discover that she is married or in a relationship. I have had little success in getting any partner in my lifetime. This is compounding my situation because ...

Girlfriend ended things but still has strong feelings... Confused!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - Ok here's the deal... I've been seeing what is now I guess my Ex for 7 months, but we were living together for 6 months before that and travelling together spending every waking moment and a lot of experiences together, so in reality it feels a lot ...

I want to get married soon.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I am a 24 year old female and have been in a relationship with the same guy for four years now. He is 34 years and am hoping that soonest we will be engaged and get married. I am so close to his family and loved by everyone and I really love him ...

Whenever we have a row, I text the ex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5587 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - So Ive been going out with my current boyfriend for 4 years, things have been pretty rubbish for the last 6months, he just seem not to be bothered at all.. so everytime we have a row i text by ex, i still have feelings for my ex.. now i dont kno...

Give him space? OR get my own place?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend are expecting our first baby together. Last night he asked me to give him some space to think. We don't really fight, but we don't really talk either. Our relationship has gotten monotonous and he says he still loves me but "it" ...

Am I robbing the cradle? She's 15, I'm 21

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15 January 2009 (M) - So I'm a 21 year old male in California... recently I've meet a great girl. We can connect on all levels and have a great time talking to each other for hours and hours. The only problem I have is that shes 15... turns 16 in Sept. She may b...

Is he making a move on me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5583 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - HEY!!!!!!!YALLS!!!!!!!!!!!!its me lotmoney13!!!!!back again!!!!!!!! anyways......so you all know that im a gay male and that i have certain.....feelings for one of my friends.......but thats not what i need help on this time...... So...

My parents are super controlling & its affecting my relationship

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5583 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - Ok, my problem isn't necessarily a relationship one but it does affect it. I am now almost 19 yrs old (first year at college (here in a city and not your regular college town) i have a dorm room and often visit my parents. I used to work but my ...

How can I earn her mom's trust?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - I hear so much about people who do not think relationships with with large age gaps work out. Keeping in mind that we all know someone somewhere who has found someone many years younger or older than them. My Girlfriends grandparents were 8 years ...

I love my second cousin and need help telling my dad!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5587 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - hi i would like to know what pepole think about me dating my 2ed cousen? and i also need to tell my dad but i dont know how i need help? help me!!!!!...

Should I stop thinking about him completely? Or try and ask him out?? Please help me!!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - Back in august I knew this guy evan. When I first saw him I really liked him. I've never felt this strongly about a crush! He was really nice and seemed like he was flirting smiling complementing etc. Recently I just got over him and stopped ...

I just recently started talking to my ex again, but I have a fiance, how do I make the right choice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5585 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I just recently started talking to my ex again, but I have a fiance, how do I chose the right choice? I have been dating my fiance for 2 and a half years now. My family loves and I do, too. But just recently my ex started talking to me again an...

I haven't had any luck with women tonight, and it's made me miserable. How can I stop worrying about being single?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - Why has coming home from a club become so depressing? I'm at a difficult time in my life. I'm not in a relationship and I feel like I really should be more capable at attracting women than I am. I'm 20 and I've only dated 4 women in my life, 3 of...

Should I ask him to visit me during spring break?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - My former college prof and I are really good friends. I'm falling for him (I can't stop thinking about him) and I'm pretty sure he likes me back, but we're both painfully shy. We've been flirting back and forth a lot and have gone out a couple times ...

I can't make myself sneak out to see my guy!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5587 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - im so confused. i love my guy to death and want to spend the rest of my life with him. i just have one problem i wont sneak out to see him at night. i want to i really do i just cant make myself too much stuff can go bad. and since i dont come over ...

To be or not to be.. that is the question!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - I was dating this girl for 7 months on and off but the reason why we were on and off is because of our trust issues and insecurites(mostly mine). In the beginning of the relationship, i caught her staring at this guy really really hard and it's ...

Is this what it's like to be in love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - what is wrong with me.. whenever me and my boyfriend get mad at each other he says goodbye then i say bye but i always end up trying to get him to talk to me. and he doesn't.. he just talks to me when ever he feels like it. and it makes me so sad.. ...

Unemployed but want to meet others

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15 January 2009 (M) - hi, never used anything like this before, so here's my situation, i'm currently unemployed, and thus due to a lack of money I find it difficult to go out, do new things, and more importantly, meet new people. what would be the best advice of ...

I feel like I'm cheating and it makes me feel so bad

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15 January 2009 (F) - Hello I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year, we get along really well, and he is wonderfull with me, however, I am a very outgoing person, and I really like to go to dancing, it is something that I really enjoy, and it is something tha...

Any couples still together after high school?

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15 January 2009 (F) - ok ive been with my bf fi a year. and im not going to college for another yr but i grad this year. he wont graduate till next year. and im not going to college for a year. i would really like to know is there any couples out there that've graduated ...