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Archived questions from: 7 January, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

Is there some pill I could take to kill the egg?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend had sex without a condom and he only did a quick in and out and he said for sure he didn't have pre cum and he normally feels it when he does. I'm still scared I'm pregnant, could I be? and if I could be is there some pill I ...

My period was a week late, is there a possibility I could still be pregnant?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I just wanted to know.... I slept with a guy and I was a week late on my period but I started it today. is there any way possible that I can still be pregnant even though I started? I'm never late ever have been in 4 years so I thought it was very ...

Am I just insecure?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - Hi, this is a story with a question after. I've been in a relationship for 1 year for 4 months the relationship was going well, but we had an argument on 1 evening and although I tried talking to her she seemed to blank me, and I didn't know whether ...

My boyfriend is gay and will not admit it, how do I find balance?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5580 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now. He asked me to move in this last summer. One night I woke up and found him masturating to pictures of naked men. It turns out he has his own Webpage on this site called dudesnude.com. I have ...

Embarrassing noises after sex!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - ok.. this is a little embarrassing, but it's to do with when i have sex. Sex in every position is really good and fine.. what i am asking about is when i have sex doggy style.. i enjoy this style the most and so its my favorite to do. the thing...

I believe I have retroactive jealousy. I cannot get over her past.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4822 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - I am 27 and my fiance is 25. We have only been engaged for about a month (been together for 2 years) We are also getting ready to go to Pre-Marital counseling with the pastor at our church. I have no children, she has 3 children, that I love dearly. ...

I just want one occasion were he will see me for the first time the night and think.. ok she looks sooo much better than usual.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I need a little help.. I've been with my boyfriend 16 months now.. and I know he loves me and he thinks I'm beautiful and is very happy with the way I look so that's not what this is about. We're going out for a meal this weekend, I've gone out...

Are we too old to have children?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - Hi I'm new to this, I'm 37 and my girlfriend is a little bit younger. We have not been together long and I know one day she wants children. Are we too old to have children? I don't want to my children to think their dad is old, but I'm not...

Was sex with me pre planned???

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I have been seeing a guy recently. We went on about 3-4 dates before I actually invited him over to my place. I prepared a small dinner for him (he got the wine) and then we cozied up and watched a movie. It was perfect, really. We ended...

In the last 3 months my boyfriend is being difficult and it's starting to upset me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I'm 13 and I'm in love with a boy.. we have been going out now for 15 months and we get on really well.. like best mates. We are the same age and we always have so much fun together, but in the last 3 months he is being difficult and it's starting ...

That damned G Spot!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - So here I am, wondering about the same subject as always.... That damn male g spot. I am 25 years old, and I still haven't been able to find that magic spot. I've tried to relax my bf, he has a really good time when I touch him from behind, but he ...

She gets so many phone calls! Paranoid?

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7 January 2009 (M) - my girlfriend receive male phone calls more than l receive any phone calls on my phone,she claims that they are just friends, l do trust her but is's only that we live 300kms apart and we see each other at time once a month but we communicate over ...

Been with my guy for a year but now there's a new guy

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year! It's been a tricky year but i have no regrets in being with him at all. But recently this new guy in the last two months has come along and i see him in the pub all the time. I cant change my pub ...

Its the weekends I miss a man

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Whats the best way for a 30 something women to meet new men. Im not really into internet dating and there are hardly any men left in my town. WOuld love to meet someone to spend my life with! I work full time and go to the gym 3 times a weeks - so ...

Comes onto me in text but not in person

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I am seeing a guy from time to time who I love but when we are together he never comes onto me or talks intimately! - Then the other night he started texting me saying he wanted to get it on with me etc etc. I was quite surprised that I ended up...

Quick fire confidence tricks?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I am going for a meal this weekend with a guy i really like. But whenever its just me and him i go really quiet and shy. I just do not talk. Does anyone know any quick fire confidence tips? thank you. ...

How do you learn to like yourself?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I have never had a boyfriend because I feel fat and ugly, people always say you need to love yourself first but I don't now how to build my confidence. I don't have friends, my work collegues don't really like me I am just someone who is there, ...

How to pop the question about living together?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - my girlfriend and I have had a whirlwind relationship! we have fallen in love and everything is great I want to know how I can go about asking her about living together?...

His behavior & irresponsibility just totally drains me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Ok here we go, I am 24, well I will be 25 in a month. I have been in a relationship for 5 years and here is my problem I am having. My boyfriend and I live together. He has been in a lot of trouble with the law ever since a teenager. He has 2 DUI, ...

I always let the guy make the first move

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Hi Cupiters! I need some advice PLEASE! Ok, I've noticed that whenever I start talking to a new guy, I wait for him to call or text first.. It's rare that I make a first move. Now, do guys like that (maybe a chase kinda thing) or do they just see...

He wants me to move to be with him but I'm really confused

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend wants me to move and live with him (he lives 5 hours aways from me). We have had a really rocky year as he can be a very unreasonable person and is never wrong. Strangely though I do love him very much. He has had a transfer and will be ...

Love or lust..not sure!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I have known this guy for 3 weeks. He told me that it was love at first sight. He loves me a lot and we went out for 2 weeks,msned and smsed each other before he confessed his feelings. But all along,i have only treated him like a friend. All ...

B/f agreed to threesome but what do I do now?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5313 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - My boy friend and I have been going out for over a year. About two months ago we broke up for over a month. Now that my boy friend and I are back together for a few weeks, we have agreed to be more open and tell each other how we feel about thing...

He was hot but now turning cold

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Hello readers, I've been struggling with a dating issue for a few weeks now. About a month+ ago, I met this amazing guy. We met at a club, I gave him my number and he wrote to me the next day. We talked for 2 hours on the phone. We went on a dat...

I told him I loved him but now he avoids me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5197 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid , I have a doubt about a love that I have . There is a guy that i have been loving him for many years who doesn't know that i love him . We used to be a classmate . Then after year passing by , we separated our class . And we didn't t...

Dating a room mate of my ex is causing problems--any advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - Hello, I have been dating this girl for about 2 years (I'll call her K) now and this same problem keeps on arising. My ex girlfriend (i'll call her N) of 2 years and I are good friends and we have been since about a year after we ended our ...

Bbw curious why hot young guys are attracted to me?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4848 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I am 40 and overweight. I have a beautiful face, and a pretty bubbly personality. I look a lot younger than I am (around 30ish)-think fat kirsty ally. I left my boyfriend over a year ago, and since that time I have found a lot of twenysomething ...

Why after 2 years does he need time to think?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - i would like your help... i'm 17. my boyfriend says that he loves me but then he asked me for time to think about us cuz he says that we're doing same things and he's confused so we agreed that we won't talk to each other for 2 days.. we're dating ...

At the back of my head I'm wondering if he's just manipulating me to get what he wants.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - During my relationship with Derek, he was the perfect boyfriend. But I had always had this suspicion that there was something going on between him and my best friend, Alice. Given, Alice is very 'friendly' with the boys, so I tried not to take ...

He showed me pictures of "his kid" but he can't have any kids!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - hey people I was actually involved with this guy who I really loved to death, I desperately wanted to have kids, but he had some health problems,(he couldn't produce any sperm, but he would have an erection). Sex was good, everything and I...

How can I get her to have more foreplay in bed?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to persuade my girlfriend to change our sex life to something a little more compromising between us. I generally enjoy doing most of the work during sex since I really enjoy pleasing her and the ...

How far can a stripper go during a lap dance?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3436 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Hello all! Something has been bothering me about my boyfriend's past that isn't really important in the big scheme of things, but despite knowing this it still bothers me. Here's the deal: My boyfriend went to a (fully nude) strip club right be...

What are the chances of pregnancy in my situation?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5386 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I had sex with my boyfriend the other night, but he withdrew before he ejaculated and had to wank himself for a couple of seconds until he actually came. After another hour we did it again unprotected for maybe 20 seconds and then he put on the ...

He's fallen in love with someone else but says he still wants to be with me! What gives???

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Hey everyone, I am 19 and my bf is 26. Me and my cousin are in a relationship over the last seven years, we were having a great time, suddenly he fell in love with some other girl, one of her best friends but she was already committed to someone ...

My boyfriend is not being understanding...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I am not sure what to do. I am someone who likes to get myself involved in a lot of activities and partially due to my university projects, I do have commitments and projects in the night time, resulting in the decrease in time I have to spend wi...

I'm attracted to this hot older guy, I think he likes me too. What do I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Ok, this is a bit embarrassing, but here goes... I first met my God-mother's son about 4 years ago. The first time we met, I was too shy to talk to him so I chatted to my sister instead. To my complete shock, after the event, I was informed by ...

How can we have sex without it hurting her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - I have a girlfriend that has not done it yet and I was wondering if there is any way to do it so it will not hurt for her....

Why do guys just see me as "one of the boys"?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5594 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I'm 21 and I've only had one boyfriend and it lasted for 4 months, barely. He broke up with me and it was because he was pretty much using me to find out if he could get over his first true love. Since then I ...

Why do I get so upset?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Hi there.... I need some advice, I have been in a 'relationship' with a divorced man, luckily he has no kids, his wife left him for another man. We have been very close, he means the world to me. Whenever he is working I bother him, he has his own ...

After 13 years with me, he married someone else within 4 months of meeting her!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I had been dating this man from 1995 until 2003 and we remained friends until 2008. We built a business together and have been through a lot together over the past 13 years. He said that I was his best friend and in May 2008 told me he loved me and ...

My wife and I have grown apart, can't afford divorce, will having an open relationship work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - My wife says she doesn;t love me anymore. We can;t afford to get a divorce and look after our kids and two residences. I need love and affection (sad to admit, but it's true). I'm thinking of asking my wife for a divorce but we will continue to ...

What is this guys deal?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Well I've been talking to this guy since September we send text messages to each other everyday.He has asked me if I wanted to hang out with him 3 times and all those times I said yes but somehow we never ended up hanging out.He knows that I like ...

I love and care for him, but is this the real thing, need serious advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Apologies for length, would really appreciate help! I have a close friend of 3 years. In the past year we’ve grown a lot closer and I've developed strong feelings for him. I’m unsure if it’s mutual, but suspect it might be. We’re both 24. ...

In love with a player who is replacing my twin sister by flirting with me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - This is terrible, I'm falling in love with a playboy. At our school he's known as a Prince, although I don't quite agree with that. Opposites attract, I'm more of the quiet shy type and he's the guy who parties all night long and has sex with random ...

Feeling left out and miserable....what do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - I am dating a guy since 3months.he is damn good and sweet but he is always outdoor with his friends and busy.If I ask him when we would meet again he pushes it to the next week.I am feeling left out and miserable.He's my first love and I found him ...

Any ideas for passing the time while my boyfriend is at boarding school?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5594 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I need some advice I miss my boyfriend terribly he just went back to boarding school yesterday and won't be back for more than 2 months how can i pass the time?? i already plan to not text him everyday so we don't run out of things to talk about an...

Cant choose between the ex,the friend and the "stranger"

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Just to forewarn you- this is a long story and I'm gonna break into three parts. O.K recently I have somehow manage to lead on three different guys and I'm really confused about my feelings. Guy 1: I met him around September 2007 and in No...

Should I go so far away?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Ok, ive been looking into colleges as of late and i have found one im interested in. But, its in the states. My boyfriend and i have only been dating for half a year, but we are much more serious. We want a future with each other after school. My ...