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Archived questions from: September, 2016 (see latest in Dating category)

Dating: Help and advice

How long does it take somebody to get over nonstop lying, cheating & betrayal??

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2761 days ago

30 September 2016 (F) - Hi All!! Im praying that somebody out there will have some answers to my massive confusion in my relationship. 4 months after starting a relationship with the guy im still with currently. He proposed to me. I accepted due to being massively head ...

How do I deal with him moving to the other side of the world?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2718 days ago

30 September 2016 (F) - the love of my life is moving back home to the other side of the world to me and I don't know how to cope with this change and the build up to him leaving. Our relationship has a terminating date. What should I do to cope with this situation? ...

Do you think I my married lover is tiring of me? In the beginning we talked. Now he only sends a text

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2764 days ago

30 September 2016 (F) - I've been friends with this married man for 8 months now, who doesn't have sex with his wife I guess. He is 38 and I am 22. He was my first lover. He took me to his house 3 times and we never had actual sex because I said I want to remain a virgin. ...

My dad seems suspicious of me and I'm afraid he'll have my aunt restrict me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2740 days ago

30 September 2016 (F) - Hi everyone I really need some advise.. I recently moved to a different country to study and even though I'm living my aunt, my dad keeps on calling me everyday and honestly, it's a very intensive course and sometimes I don't pick due to the fact ...

Did I mess things up by not sleeping with her in the midst of all these mixed signals?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2763 days ago

30 September 2016 (M) - So, i am kind of sort of seeing a coworker but not really, we both agreed it would be horrible to date while coworkers. She is ten years older than me, kids are out he house and i have no kids. We have gone out a few times, but nothing serious....

How can we slow things down? And why does he keep slipping out?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2649 days ago

30 September 2016 (F) - Ok, so, After messaging and chatting to my guy, we both agreed to meet . I really like him, he likes me too. We get on so well, laughing, relaxing and enjoying each other's company. We arranged a few more dates, there is definately a spa...

At 19 I kissed another guy. What is the kindest way to tell my husband the truth? I can't forgive my indiscretion.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2718 days ago

29 September 2016 (F) - So I've been with my husband ten years, married for two years. We have always had our ups and downs but now we are very strong and we have two children. However, when I was nineteen I made a terrible mistake. I kissed another man in a club while ...

Is becoming angry a normal reaction to being accused of cheating?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 2762 days ago

29 September 2016 (F) - If you accuse your boyfriend of cheating and he says he is remaining calm because if he doesn't he will become violent and walk out the door and never come back, would that raise a red flag? He said he doesn't like being called a cheater. Is t...

Am I right in that my friend has picked yet another controlling unpleasant boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2764 days ago

29 September 2016 (F) - Try and keep this brief. Best friend has form for allowing guys to treat her like a doormat. She's been single ten years and approaching 40 and she's suddenly thrown away all her previous dealbreakers - must have plenty of time for her, not hav...

I love my boyfriend but am concerned that love isn't enough

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2764 days ago

28 September 2016 (F) - I have been in a relationship for just over a year with my boyfriend - I'm 25 and he is 23. He is an amazing boyfriend, he is my rock and my best friend. He got me through a tough time and is totally supportive of me, we rarely ever argue. My family ...

How can I overcome my anxiety around women?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2765 days ago

28 September 2016 (M) - I suffer from anxiety near women. I try to avoid women as best I can in social settings. Not in a malicious way but nervously. I had some bad experiences growing up and it's made me wary around women. Growing up girls were particularly mea...

My FWB has friend zoned me and its devastating!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

28 September 2016 (M) - Hi, so of a few months ago I wrote this post but I would now like to get some more feedback as this situation is really driving me insane. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/mixed-signals-from-my-crush.html Basically, him and I continue ...

My boyfriend has always been rather shady. Is this a red flag?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

28 September 2016 (F) - I would like some advice on whether the following scenario would raise a red flag: Today I was driving home from work, on the phone with my boyfriend. Suddenly he said he had to take a call, so I was like OK, call me back. When I got home 40mins l...

Considering my reasons for going in, my boyfriends comment, my age and his age and our desire to have kids, is it too late to join the military?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

28 September 2016 (F) - For some time now, it has been a dream of mine to join the military. I was in ROTC for a bit in college but to be honest, did not succeed very well. I got out after a year but then after graduating with my degree about 2.5 years ago, I got the same ...

My boyfriend touching my breast didn't do anything for me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

27 September 2016 (F) - Hello, I'm 15, and I'm still a virgin. My boyfriend of about 4 months and I have shared quite a few new experiences with eachother, and as of yesterday he had touched my breasts. My bra was on, and I have to say I didn't really feel the sensation. ...

Its been 18 months since my husband passed away, is it too soon to start dating?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2764 days ago

27 September 2016 (F) - I started dating my husband when I was 16, we dated for 8 years and were married for 10 and had three children together. In April 2015 he was killed in a car accident then he hit a moose. It turned my life upside down. He was the only guy I ever ...

I can't seem to find anyone to date me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2693 days ago

27 September 2016 (F) - Hi, ok so long story short I've been single for close to 7 years now and that includes no intimate relationships, I've been starting to get down on myself thinking about it, I've been told I'm a quite attractive woman and I take care of my ...

My girlfriend is moving into a house with a guy she once cheated with. I'm not happy about this!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

27 September 2016 (M) - Hi, My girlfriend recently moved out into a student house. I've been with her for a few months but shes moving into a house with the boy who she cheated on her boyfriend with previously. He has no respect for boyfriends and always tries to hit on ...

A text from another woman has made me wonder if I can trust my boyfriend

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

27 September 2016 (F) - I've been with my b/f for 3 years and just found a text from a woman saying she misses him too. I questioned him and he said its nothing just someone he's helping find a job. He says she's nothing and not to worry about it.I said why would you tell ...

I'm dating a new guy but emotionally still tied to my ex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

27 September 2016 (F) - I was dating a guy off and on for about 2 years. I know a part of me will love him forever, or at least I think so. Our relationship was not the most healthy. Lots of fighting,drama, and he had some narcissistic tendencies.It was like a roller ...

Why does my boyfriend keep making jokes about kids?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

27 September 2016 (F) - So been dating my boyfriend for 5 1/2 months and lately he been making jokes about me having his kids or when we do it he ain't pull out! What does he mean by this? Why he keep making jokes about babies? Do he wnt kids secretly? Where is this coming ...

Why can't he find more time for me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

27 September 2016 (F) - I am dating a divorced man with two children of 12 and 13 he has shared custody with them and it's amicable and settled. I haven't met the children yet as we have only been dating two months but plan to in time and he wants me to. He also works away ...

How can I believe him ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

27 September 2016 (F) - My boyfriend of three years has always said that he doesn't get anything from looking at pictures/movies of women (porn, etc). He has also said that he doesn't like fake boobs and that natural big boobs get gross over time. He made a big point of ...

How Can one forgive BETRAYAL of someone you love, cheating and now the the woman is pregnant?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2765 days ago

26 September 2016 (F) - I met the man of my dreams, my best friend over a year ago. we live together and his kids come over every other weekend " I Love Them". we went on vacation 5- months ago and I saw a girl kept calling? I asked who is she then my life forever cha...

Struggling with my sexuality because of bad experiences with women

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

26 September 2016 (M) - I know what the problem is, I just don't know how to fix it. Growing up, every experience I've ever had with women was bad, including my own psycho mother. A part from just being friends, women left a really bad taste in my mouth. Sometime ...

Do just forgive and forget? He called out the name of his ex, twice, during sex with me. How do I deal with this? He was drunk at the time

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

26 September 2016 (F) - My fiance (together 4 years), called me by his ex girlfriends name during sex (twice in one sentence) when he was drunk after his bachelor party. I dont know how to deal with it. This ex caused a lot of rubbish at the start of our relation...

He always wants to hang out but then starts talking about other girls. Where do I stand with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

26 September 2016 (F) - So a couple months ago i met a nice guy at a friends party. We hit it off since that night and exchanged numbers and have been talking ever since. We've gone on several dates now and hang out often. He always seems to send me mix signals. He always ...

He shut me out for 3 months, contacted me again but now is ignoring me again?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

25 September 2016 (F) - So I have met this guy once, it went well, he texts me straight after to say he wanted to see me again. He then had a close friend die suddenly and so we didn't talk for 3 months since he completely shut me out ( to grieve I suppose ) he then texts ...

I'm putting up a wall. Should I show some trust and let him know how I feel?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2769 days ago

25 September 2016 (F) - I'm having a really difficult time telling my best friend how I feel. Whenever I get unusually upset about something (and I try and hold it in), but he always seems to know that something's up and asks me about it. At first, I play it cool with a s...

I want to ask my boyfriend's mom if I could go with them see b/f but am afraid of her reaction

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2769 days ago

25 September 2016 (F) - Ive been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now. He recently went off to college and we have been doing long distances since. His mom is the type of mom who is really protective. It seems as though she is jealous of me and worried that her ...

My fiance is disrespectful to me. Do I make him jealous?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2767 days ago

25 September 2016 (F) - My fiance has been disrespectful to me. Whenever we argue, he quickly storm up and get out from the room. But while he is nice, hes so thoughtful about me. I feel he has avoidant personality and doesnt have much empathy. He is not used to be l...

Is it selfish if I get mad at my boyfriend's appearance and silly behavior?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2767 days ago

25 September 2016 (F) - Is it selfish if I get mad at my boyfriend's appearance and silly behavior? Once he joked about we're having budget marriage with other bridegrooms in a ballroom. He also joked about the pressure of marriage in front of my friends. He said marriage ...

I want to be courted but the men seem to want to go from "hi" to sex immediately!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2767 days ago

24 September 2016 (F) - How do I always get the opposite of what I want? I've always been told I should go on "more than just a few dates" before I get in a relationship. But there ARE NOT even that many dates. Men just want to go straight from hi to relationship. Or, just ...

Lots of issues... Younger girlfriend, torrid past, immature, we're not gelling sexually... What do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2769 days ago

24 September 2016 (M) - So I'm 30 dating a 24 year old and I'm finding it very difficult in a few ways. One that bothers me is how many guys and the caliber of guys she's been with before me. Since we've been dating she has told me some stories and it raised some red ...

I wonder if my boyfriend is cheating, how do I know for sure?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2768 days ago

24 September 2016 (F) - I would like to know whether or not my boyfriend is cheating. Of course you can never really know but understanding the signs my boyfriend is presenting would be great, if any at all. I have been dating this guy for roughly 2 months and a bit...

May boyfriend just doesn't seem to be what I need. Do I leave him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2767 days ago

24 September 2016 (F) - My brother got into a serious accident yesterday, I ran out of work to see him. It was my old car I had left for my mom to go to work. The car was demolished. I was counting on that car for income and now I'm in such financial trouble I can't sleep. ...

I feel like my trust meter is broken. How can I tell if this guy is trustworthy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2770 days ago

24 September 2016 (F) - I am in the middle of a divorce. I had sworn to myself to stay out of the dating scene until at least the divorce was finalized. I even purposely stopped dressing nicely or wearing makeup in order to avoid attracting attention. My soon to be ex ...

I am never going to feel better until I perform better sexually then her ex

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2648 days ago

24 September 2016 (M) - Ok readers please help. Please be honest and blatantly straightforward. I am so tired of reading the answers that men want or NEED to hear as opposed to the real truth. Experienced women can surely help me out here. Ok, I'm a nice looking 38 year ...

I have a great relationship and love him but want to be single

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2765 days ago

24 September 2016 (F) - Hey! First of all thanks in advance for any questions! I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and 7 months. No breaks or anything in between. We generally have the most amazing relationship. We have everything in common, I find him...

How do I take things to the next level without getting hurt?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2768 days ago

24 September 2016 (F) - Dear agony aunts This is part 2 of a question i have asked here before I hooked up with this guy like 2 weeks ago and suddenly while having sex i stopped midway and left, i messaged him and clarified went wrong and he only gave me an okay, he hasn...

Do you think she sees a future with us at some point? How can I get things moving forward?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2770 days ago

23 September 2016 (M) - Hi there. I have a problem with a girl that I have lost all my hang ups on and I have admitted to myself that I love her. I am a male in my mid 20's. Near the turn of the year I met a lovely girl and things developed quite fast. The girl had a c...

Is it me? My Gf of 4 years just doesn't make any effort. Leaving me seriously unsatisfied

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2770 days ago

23 September 2016 (M) - I am really frustrated in my relationship. My girlfriend of 4 years I feel doesn't make effort. Or maybe it's me? We used to have a lot of sex, nearly daily. As routines changed this has reduced which is normal. Now in a week it's once and if I wak...

Tactless? Outspoken? He says he was just thinking out loud. How do I deal with his remarks?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2770 days ago

23 September 2016 (F) - My new boyfriend said he was really shocked how different I look without make up when I stayed at his last week. I dont wear that much make up and have been complimented on my natural skin and facial features. I was really taken back. He does seem ...

Should I hang on to this relationship or part ways so we both can recover and finally move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2772 days ago

22 September 2016 (F) - Hi , my boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for almost 9 months now and it's been a long distance relationship since the beginning ! We had entered this relationship thinking that we wanted to marry each other . He had even proposed...

How can I introduce the topic of budgeting to my Bf and tips on living with and coping with a budget ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2771 days ago

22 September 2016 (F) - Hi I came across this page and hoped someone may be able to help me. I'm going to give a bit of background as it may help with your advice. I've just returned from traveling with my long term boyfriend of 8 years. We were gone for 18 month...

Why would my Bf's penis go limp after foreplay? Does it suggest that he's cheated on me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2768 days ago

22 September 2016 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. He is 63. I am 45. He is not married. Neither am I. Just to clarify. We are good friends. Our sexual relationship has always been quite wonderful too. And for a man in his 60's, my boy...

I can't get over him (he seems interested too). But he's in a long distance relationship!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2772 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - (Sorry for the very very lengthy explanation, there is a quick summary at the end if you want to skip the novella) A while back a guy started in my office and I was immediately interested. We started as friends but I knew he'd never like me ...

My boyfriend makes purchases with my credit and doesn't pay them off

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2771 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - Hello. Last year my bf bought an iphone. He didnt have the money to buy it so he borrowed my credit card and he is making the payments. I realized he hasnt pay the full amount and it has been a year already but he makes monthly payments. Yesterday ...

What can I do to make my Bf chase me again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2773 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - As short as possible: my boyfriend of two months seems to be too relaxed in our relationship. What can i do to make him chase me again? I need him to start working for this relationship because i feel like he doesn't take me seriously anymore....

What do I do? I love him, but I don't feel loved in return

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2773 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - Hi I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now he had a bad childhood which has affected his adult life the problem is he doesn't know how to show love or deal with normal things in a relationship. He is nearly 30 yr old but acts like a teenager...