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Archived questions from: January, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

Dating: Help and advice

Our first year anniversary and she went back to work! I'm so angry at this.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (M) - Hi, my girlfriend and I just had our first year anniversary, before that she was in Japan for three weeks and I had to make the plans for our first year which I did even though I had exams on. 2 days before our first year she got a call to come into ...

My boyfriend's penis smells!!!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5222 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Okay this is really embarrassing but I have a sex problem. I've been going out with my man for close to four years and the sex is good, when we do have it. I want to please him and stuff, I love to give oral sex and have been told I'm very very good ...

I'm scared shitless in case I don't come up to her standards re sex!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (?) - Ok this is the problem I'm in, I've been with a girl for 1 year since I was 15. Well now I'm 16 and gonna join the army etc. Well my girlfriend wants to take our relationship up to he next level by having intercourse. I've done the minor stuff ...

What are some things we could try to bring the romance and spark back into our relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years. When we first got together I was absolutely smitten by this man. I had found text messages from another girl on one occasion and he had actually cheated on me on another occasion. ...

Explicit!! Guys: how much do you notice when a girl clenches her abs really hard during sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5555 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I can never tell the difference when I do kegels during intercourse, but I notice a TREMENDOUS difference when I clench my abs as hard as I can. There is a huge increase in sensitivity and pleasure for me, the female. So, I spend 60%+ of my time ...

Please help, I'm so sick of being messed around by this guy.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Hi. Im trying to figure out something with this guy I've been sort of on and off with for a while, a good few years to be exact. I dunno if anyone can help me but I'm so confused. See, I've been hanging out with this guy, lets call him Jack, an...

Am I her shameful secret?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid, I have been seeing a girl for around four months. She works with me, but not closely. At work we always take breaks together and mostly have lunch together. We sort of started to see each other outside of work, we have slept together...

Is he ashamed to take me out and be seen with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5155 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Hi folks... look at me the bore sitting in on a Saturday night!!... Okay, so I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 months now. We dated loads before we said we were 'official.' And in any respect, we've done the whole relationship thi...

I feel like sometimes I am more of a annoyance than a friend.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - My ex and I were together for 5 years and split up for 3. We were best friends going into the relationship. Now it's definitely not the same. I've moved on and so has he. Which we both are totally comfortable with. He always says he wants to hang ...

Will I bleed the first time we have sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I want to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time, but I am scared I'm going to bleed. He has fingered me 2 times, and I use my fingers when I masturbate too. I haven't seen any blood yet. Will I bleed the first time we have sex?...

Infections in having anal sex???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5555 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Today I lost my anal virginity to my boyfriend of 7 months but what I didn't actually know [until today] was that you can't use the same condom/finger/whatever in the anus and vagina.. Is there a chance I could get some sort of infection??? and if ...

I was planning on giving my boyfriend a saucy striptease of some kind as a little surprise for valentine's day.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Hiyaaa :) As we all know, valentines day is coming up and I was planning on giving my boyfriend a saucy striptease of some kind as a little surprise. I was hoping to get some tips and stuff - as I've never given a strip off the tease variety be...

I feel so lost in life...

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5554 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I really need advice as I feel I cannot see straight. I am in my mid-20' but I feel so lost in life. I live at home with my loving, but strict parents. I can't really invite ppl over bc my family is so dysfunctional. But I can't stay out late or...

How should I prepare for my first, real high school kiss?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5542 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I had my first kiss a while ago, and it was barely anything. just a peck, so I have virtually no experience. How should I prepare for my first, real high school kiss (tongue, etc.)? I don't want to be bad at it, you know?...

How can I experience sex for the first time without thinking about the pain???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and a half and we're both really wanting to have sex but I'm always so scared to. I'll decide that I really want to try and then when it comes down to it I get so scared about the pain that I'm getting ...

Seeing Michael... need advice.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5547 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I have been seeing Michael for two years. Things were good.. we had a huge fall out and were apart for a few months, because he had told me that he didn't want to be in a relationship, etc., we talked here and there... then he pursued me again and ...

My b/f didn't call me because he said he was emotionally drained

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Yesterday, my boyfriend and i made tentative plans to get together. His parents were in town so he was not sure if he would actually get a chance to see me but he told me he would call me when he knew for sure if he could. well, he ends up not ...

Why am I still single? I don't get it!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5471 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Why am I still single? I have loads of friends, accept every invitation going, meet men when I go out and do not sleep with them straight away, I dont go out looking for a relationship and the ones I have had I've given it a chance and they ...

Did I just experience an orgasm?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I need your help girls. I need to know if this was an orgasm or not... when my bf would finger me on my clitoris I would start getting short breaths and making noises and breathing heavily and very very fast and I would grasp him very very tight... ...

Should I go out with him on Valentine's day? Any advice about us?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5554 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - You've probably heard this a thousand times. But I'm going to spill it anyway. I'm 13 and the guy I am in love with is 17. He told me he feels the same way too. But I'm not sure if I should continue this... It's gonna be a heck of a long story bu...

Why would my bf lie about being in a relationship with a girl for 3 years?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Why would my bf lie about being in a relationship with a girl for 3 years? We were discussing past relationships and he said he had been in a relationship with this girl for 3 years. He told me her full name. And a few months after we talked about ...

He has no time for a girlfriend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Ugh ok... My boyfriend is a great guy and all but he never visits me! He just DOESN'T have the TIME he says. He was in Japan for a while and he came back for a few days. I didn't even know! I had to find out that he had been home by his best friend! ...

Break the clingy habit?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - How can I stop being whiny and clingy? My boyfriend and I used to be like best friends. We had the same friends and did everything together. One of our male friends and I used to be really close. We would hug and and hang out all day, it was never ...

She said sounds good, but maybe anothe time..is she into me or not?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5557 days ago

31 January 2009 (M) - I asked this girl out twice, once about 3 months ago and another time about a month and a half ago, both times she said it sounds good but maybe another time cos she had stuff to do on those days, so i stopped asking her. Now after a month and a ...

I looked at porn and feel guilty but haven't told her I did it

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (M) - Ok. i have a problem. I'm 17 and in a relationship. When i was 16 (about 5 months into the relationship) my girlfriend went away on vacation for 2 weeks. Idk if it was hormones or what, but i looked at porn. I did this twice and felt like the scum ...

In love...could this be my soulmate?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5557 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Hello, I am very in love and in a wonderful relationship. Actually, the reason I am in love and in such a great relationship is because of some advice I received on this very site a few months back! So here I am again! I have been dating this guy ...

Once I get the girl, I don't want the girl!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5557 days ago

31 January 2009 (M) - I get so excited to meet a girl. to know the girl. to "get" with the girl. everything is great. but than when the day actually comes where we do more than kiss. its like im done with her.. i dont know why. i suddenly get unattracted and lose the ...

She doesn' t like older guys, if I express my feelings I think she'll cut me off

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (M) - I am 40 year old single male. I live in a duplex. My neighbor is a 21 year old very attractive female. She is sassy, fun, and spontaneous. She doesnt have a washer and dryer, so this is how we started to get acquainted. We have a good friendship....

I have a girlfriend, but I'm tempted to experiment with guys. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5074 days ago

31 January 2009 (M) - I am a 20 year old male with a crossdressing fetish. I have been interested in crossdressing since childhood, and as i hit puberty, it became much more of a sexual thing. I don't get to enjoy this fetish of mine very often however, due to the fact ...

She's inexperienced. How can I teach her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5557 days ago

31 January 2009 (M) - ok so my lover and i are very much in love we make out every time we see each other we have not had sex yet but we are joanzing to! i do alot of things to her like foreplay and oral but she is new at this and doesnt know how to do anything and i ...

I've been seeing my daughter's father's boyfriend for awhile now, and my daughter doesn't approve. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - My daughter is 17 years old, her boyfriend is 18 and they have been seeing each other for over a year. I met her boyfriend father 3 months after they met, we went out and one thing lead to another. We tried talking both our children and they forbid ...

I still give her attention even though she turned me down, but this does not bother her. Why?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5557 days ago

31 January 2009 (M) - My friend who is a girl refused to be my girlfriend but we are still friends. But holding her hands does it still signify that i love her because i dont want her to think so. And Although she got a new boyfriend, i still tell her that i love her and ...

We're always at each other's throats. How do we stop?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (M) - Well, i have been going out with this girl for a year and four months now and i can say that we're always at each other's throats. All we ever do is fight. It's really starting to get to me. As well as her. I want to know, how can we stop fighting. ...

We flirted a LOT, and now he's ignoring me! Is he scared or simply not interested?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5557 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - There’s this guy I’ve known for five years; we’ve been good friends for about 2 1/2 to 3 years and we’ve been flirting a lot since over the summer. The last time we saw each other I was home for Christmas and we really flirted; one time he was ...

How can I stop myself from going too far with my fantasies of men I work with?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5556 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I'm 39, happily married to a wonderful man who is a couple of years younger than me. I love him very much and we have a young daughter together. For the last 4 years I've found myself highly attracted to older men - at work, at school... anywhe...

Any first kiss advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5557 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend of 9 months are about to have our first kiss, do you have any advice, because i'm really worried?...

My ex is playing mindgames with me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5557 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Hi, well me and my boyfriend have ended our 14 month relationship at the end of November last year. He emotionally ended with me while I was the one who actually said "I think we shouldnt be together any more" and he said "well if it makes you feel ...

What do I do? I badly need advice.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5557 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I have known a kurdish man for 6 months, I love him very much, he said for me to live in diyarbakir but I want him to come to England. Please help me, what should I do? I have 4 children in England. I'm 23 he's 24 no children, his family are very ...

My BF's "friend" is too friendly!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5557 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - My BF of one year was seeing other people when we first met. I knew he was sleeping with one friend of his and well as with me, but we weren't together back then and our relationship wasn't serious so I didn't worry about it, just used condoms. A...

He's not so quick to say I love you like the others...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5557 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I have been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months now. Usually when I go out with a boy they tend to say "I love you" after like 2 weeks of going out and I usually answer I love you back always thinking that I am in love. Well, with this ...

What are good ways to tease my guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5554 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - What are good ways to tease my guy? We're both going to the mall tonight...trying on some clothes? He wanted to get a little freaky in public, but I'm not ready for sex yet! :-) We've gone as far as very, very passionate kissing and a little tou...

So what do you say to this situation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5556 days ago

30 January 2009 (M) - Hi everybody, I'm just writing this to get an idea of peoples reaction to this situation. I see someone most days I go to work and we have a little chat going. I find her very attractive, lovely smile and pretty eyes and she is different...

Is my boyfriend trying to bribe me into having sex with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5557 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - Is my boyfriend trying to bribe me into having sex with him? We had that talk last night and I said, "I wasn't ready." It was cool. But this afternoon he text me something like... a co-worker told me that his wife text him '911 I want sex' And he...

My boyfriend is bi, even gay and likes transexuals.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5557 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of 7 years is bi maybe even gay, but he won't admit it, and I'm gutted he wont tell me the truth, we have never really had good sex, but he is a good friend and I do love him, he likes transexuals etc. That's all, he looks at on the ...

I just want to know if I worry for nothing.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5557 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I know people are tired of the stupid "am I pregnant" questions on here but mine is maybe something different. I just started having sex with my boyfriend. We use condoms and everything but he pulls out and takes it off at the end and leaves his ...

How do I make my boyfriend more sexual with me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5542 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I'm 14 and me and my boyfriend are the perfect couple but he not as sexual as I want him to be. How do I loosen him up? And I also want to give him oral. should I?...

Do I have any chance of reuiniting with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5553 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I appreciate all the advice I can get and thank you all ahead of time fort reading and your thoughts. So me and the guy ill call him D had been together for just over three hours and it was amazing, we were so happy and had begun to seriously sta...

I have a boyfriend but I'm a big flirt. Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5557 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - Well I'm a thick brown skin 14 year old girl who has a fat butt and medium sized boobs. I get a lot of attention from boys and I love flirting with boys, but I have a boyfriend and he knows that boys always flirt with me but never says anything ...

Should I trust that my online BF really loves me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5557 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - :) i wants too know one thing that i always think about this is for guys! Im a 13 year old girl and ive fallen in love with a boy over the internet we've been together for 2 months and i think hes the 1! BUT! HE KEEPS SAYING HE LOVES ME BUT LIV...

How realistic are my chances with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5557 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I like my guy friend, J. He has a girlfriend who's going back to Europe in June. He likes her physically but called her a whore and never talks about her to anyone. My friend A also likes J but isn't allowed to talk to him because his of girlfriend, ...