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My fiance is a virgin but I've slept with 6 people and had an abortion. Do I need to tell him all this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted yesterday

19 September 2018 (F - Hi, I am engaged to a wonderful guy from the last 5 months, we are going to get married this December 2018,I came to know by investigation and inspection and his views and thoughts and actions, that he is a virgin and he is against premarital sex ...

My wife wants to use a sperm donor to ensure that our third child isn't autistic but I’m not sure how I feel about this.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted today

18 September 2018 (M - My wife (34f) and I (36m) have been married for just over six years and in many ways have an ideal marriage and are very much still in love. Despite two kids, we still have sex 2 - 3 times per week. We still find time for getaways nearby beaches, ...

Is he fobbing me off, I thought we had a good thing going.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted today

18 September 2018 (F - I started seeing a guy a month ago. He’s 12 months separated from his wife with two young children. Our relationship seemed really promising but then he went a bit cold. He says his ex wife is being really challenging. She calls him up out of the ...

I'm happy with the way things are, but she is talking marriage and babies

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted today

18 September 2018 (M - I have been dating a girl for 7 months now, due to my working hours and her studying at college, we only see each other 2-3 times a week. I am happy with the relationship the way it is because I like my space and time to myself, however she is ...

She owes me money but is adamant she transferred the money!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted today

17 September 2018 (M - Hello This is not so much a dating question or anything, but I have used this website before for advice and found it helpful. A girl I have been on and off chatting to asked me if she could borrow £1000 to repair her damaged car. I agreed...

Do you think she doesn’t want to see me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

17 September 2018 (M - do you think she doesnt wanna see me? so this all happend last year when i was at work and i went out to the lobby and i saw the girl i used to liked back in high school sitting at the table with her boyfriend i guess she was waiting for her food...

I’m pregnant by a boyfriend using me for a green card! Advice needed!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

16 September 2018 (F - Hi there I am pregnant 9 weeks I’ve been dating this honderan man for almost two years. My boyfriend has been distant because he wants to get married but it’s to get his green card. He loves me but i am catholic and I want a church ceremony I’m not ...

Why do I attract older women?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

15 September 2018 (M - A bit about myself. I consider myself somewhat of a dork. Not good at sports. Tall but not confident. Naturally skinny. I was never good at dating, girls liked to chat with me but I end up friend zoning them. I always thought this was due to my ...

How do I get over this anger toward my ex?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

15 September 2018 (F - It's been over 3 months since me and my ex broke up. Tonight a mutual friend said he has been really low for a few weeks and that could I talk to him. I had blocked him on everything and although I felt okay, I wasn't sure it was a good idea.......

My boyfriend's mother hates me and my boyfriend takes her side

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

14 September 2018 (F - Recently I've been feeling distant from my boyfriend, he s not the person I fell.in love with. He critisces everything I do and makes me feel worthless, I've tried talking to him about how He s making me feel but he says he doesn't put me down that ...

My mother in law brings strange men into our home

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

13 September 2018 (F - Hi guys, I've been having a bit of a problem at home. Basically my husband's father has recently died and that left his mother on her own. Because of this we agreed to move her into the spare room at our house - but it's a nightmare. She's 60 ...

Our tastes in porn seem to clash

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

13 September 2018 (F - Hello. Thank to you for reading my post. When me and my boyfriend got together he mentioned porn use a few times casually. And from time to time he's admitted to using it for masturbating during our brief periods away from each other. I thou...

My brother finally introduced us to his fiance - she's my ex!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

12 September 2018 (M - My brother has recently introduced the family to his new fiancée - but there's a massive issue. Basically he lives away and none of us have met her before - we only knew her name. We were all excited to meet her - but when he introduced her to ...

I dumped my boyfriend for sponging off of me but now I feel guilty

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

11 September 2018 (F - I’ve been dating this guy for 9 months now. Things started off great and though we have had a few issues I feel like they can be worked through. The latest issue though is surrounding money. He lost his job a few months ago and has been having a...

What is the next move for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 8 days ago

11 September 2018 (M - I don't really know how to read this situation or move forward with it.. I went on a couple of dates last December with a girl i met online. They went really well, however I had to move away early in the new year for work. We loosely kept in touch...

How could he move on so quickly?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 9 days ago

11 September 2018 (F - I ended my relationship with my ex back in February not because we no longer loved each other but because we both had different out looks on life. Realistically it wasn't going to work. I left our house and moved back home. My ex was distraught and ...

I want child number 5 but hubby says he is done!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 9 days ago

11 September 2018 (F - I have 4 children with my husband, 2 have not been planned and 2 have. He’s been indicating ‘no more’ since our second. Our third child we were using condoms and he didn’t use a condom one time which resulted in the third child. Being the complete ...

I kissed my ex when on a break from my boyfriend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 8 days ago

11 September 2018 (F - I need help, me and my boyfriend always break up and this time I thought we broke up for good, but no. He came back like always. But while we broke up I kissed my ex. And I feel so bad about it but I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend told me he ...

Do I leave a new job after only 5 months? It seems to be a bad fit

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 10 days ago

9 September 2018 (F - I feel conflicted as I just took a new job in April and after only 5 months it seems to be a bad fit. The department is very cliquey and back-stabbish, I feel like I don't fit in, one of the people has been very rude to my face and plays it off as ...

Why do I get so turned off after sexual contact?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 8 days ago

9 September 2018 (M - I am male and am 21 years old. I'm currently on the dating scene but whenever I'm with someone it seems to be that I am lusting them and after it gets any further I get an immense feeling to be with them sexually, then after any sexual contact is ...

Men never seem to notice me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 13 days ago

8 September 2018 (F - I am 23 and never had a boyfriend or dated anyone before. Men never seem to notice me. They never approach me or hit on me. Whenever I try to hit on a guy, they just don't seem interested in me back. I have been to bars and men just ignore me or see ...

My 5 year daughter's friends show each other their private parts

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 10 days ago

7 September 2018 (F - I have a 5 year old daughter, and yesterday she came to me saying that boys and even girls show each other their private parts. They are all 5, and i was shocked about it. She told me that 3 boys and 1 girl were asking her if they can show my daugh...

How important is respect in a marriage?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 12 days ago

6 September 2018 (F - How important is respect in a relationship? I am back in the dating scene after 2 years and this always seems to come up for me in terms of “respect” My father has been legally married to my mother for 33 years ( I’m in my early 30”s) an...

His family hired lazy useless employees and I need to know how to cope!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

5 September 2018 (F - My partner and I have always had a wonderful relationship. We've been together a very long time. This year, he and his family opened a business. His parents made the decisions about the staff they're hiring and what they're paying, without ...

Am I stuck up for wanting basic things?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 15 days ago

5 September 2018 (F - I'm been with my bf for a year and half. He lives with his mum still and now built a cabin in his mums garden and says he plans to stay there. I am not happy about staying there with no bathroom, kitchen, space for my things but he says I am stuck ...

My husband cheated while we were separated

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 16 days ago

3 September 2018 (F - Hi, I have been married for 14 years now and have a 11 year old son. I walked out of his home 7 years back when I couldnt get along with his parents and he wasnt ready to live separately with ME. He would come and see me and my son on weekends. But ...

She's had more sexual experience than I have. Will I regret it later?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 15 days ago

3 September 2018 (M - I'm a 25 year old guy, my girlfriend is 33. We've been on/off for a year and have quite a strong bond (we broke up once, recently rekindled it, now its getting serious again. No other partners in the inbetween) I have a real problem with our...

Was I taken advantage of by my now ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 17 days ago

3 September 2018 (F - Hello aunts I'm at a low phase in life right now. In academics, career and health. I'm doing everything possible to set those things right. I feel people take advantage of my niceness. I used to be naive and vulnerable before and never stand up f...

Stay or look for other opportunities?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 17 days ago

2 September 2018 (F - Hey guys, I'm wanting a bit of advice in terms of life direction at the minute please! I'm 25, recently broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years, moved to the city and continued my job which i've been at 8 months now. I am very happy with how m...

I lied about my age. Can I salvage this relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 16 days ago

1 September 2018 (M - Hello, Im new to the Dear Cupid community. I never thought I would resort to a site like this but I really want to save my relationship or get advice whether or not my relationship is worth saving. I know this entry will be a lengthy one.. so...

Follow up to an earlier question about some decisions I have to make

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

1 September 2018 (M - This is technically a build on my initial concerns that I raised a question about in January. I am fortunate and pleased to say that an excellent career opportunity presented itself, moving back in to my desired career field and I have regained a ...

Brother got support, I got torn down?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 16 days ago

1 September 2018 (F - When growing my dad was hard on both of us. When my brother got lectures, it was more of "I know you can do better". My lectures consisted of getting completely torn down, getting told I'd be obese (5'5, 135 pounds, no weight issues ever), that I ...

How do I deal with a clingy roommate?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

28 August 2018 (F - I am having some issues with my roommate. I live in a large,expensive city. I’ve been here for a few years and really like it. I love my job and have a lot of friends. Because I am a teacher and paying for graduate school, I needed to sav...

How do I stop creeping him out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

28 August 2018 (F - I met a guy at college over four years ago now ,he was 18 and I was 17 which is quite a long time ago but only feels like a year ago .When I first met him I was not interested in getting to know him because I did not find him attractive and he ...

I often worry when people don't respond quickly enough

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

28 August 2018 (F - I often get worried when I don't receive a reply from someone and I know this may seem silly as not everyone is able to reply or they might be busy. there's one friend in particular that I try to not text or contact because I get worried if she does...

I don't feel guilty for cheating

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

28 August 2018 (F - Things with my bf have been Rocky for a while. We've been together nearly 4 years. We hardly sleep together, we never go to restaurants, we argue alot but when I've suggested we break up he gets teapot upset and says things like without you I will ...

He's messing around with that other girl, he's the one that moved out leaving me paying all the bills when I'm unemployed and yet somehow I'm at fault?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

27 August 2018 (F - Hi guys, this will be a long one so please bear with me... I moved abroad around 3 years ago for work. Two years in, I met Jay who I thought was, as tacky as it sounds, the one for me. I had never had this connection with anybody before and there...

Is it possible for someone to be so self-centered and selfish that he doesn't even realize he's in the wrong?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 20 days ago

27 August 2018 (F - Is it possible for someone to be so self-centered and selfish that he doesn't even realize he's in the wrong? Here are a few examples : 1. I believe in bringing the kids to travel internationally to visit different countries and cultures to 'see...

Are most people this uncomfortable seeing their exes?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

26 August 2018 (F - Today we were going to go to a supermarket and my boyfriend did not want to go inside at all because his exes mom was in there. It made me feel like he wasn’t over that person because he always makes sure that person isn’t there If we are to sto...

He wants to return to his home country but I don't want to join him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

26 August 2018 (F - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. Things have been good but we're trying to think more seriously about our future together. He's from another country and originally wanted to move back there to start a life. For a litt...

Someone I thought was a best friend just chose someone else to be his best man

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

26 August 2018 (M - I’m left at the minute and don’t really have a best friend. I grew up in a different county until I was 13. I made a lot of friends at a school from an early age and I have always been active and interested in sports. I make friends easily a...

I feel like I am forcing myself on him.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

26 August 2018 (F - Im in a long distance relationship that would be three years in November. My boyfriend has been in school abroad, he’s graduated now and is back home.Sometimes things are great, sometimes they are not. So I thought that now that he’s back, and ...

He'll do anything .... except come fishin'

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

25 August 2018 (F - My family are a big fishing family (both my side and my husband's family loves fishing). We tried to teach our children to love fishing. We have three children and three grandchildren. Our youngest son, Justin, is 33 years old and he hates fis...

Is it the world or is it just me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

25 August 2018 (M - What am I doing to push people away or just get used all the time. All my friends from school don’t really bother, any gatherings, I’m usually last resort. If I flash my money and support them, buy them lunch, look after them, they will love t...

I'm afraid that having a transgender friend means he's stringing me along

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

24 August 2018 (F - I am in a long distance relationship for a year and a half planning to move in with him. I’m pregnant. My boyfriend is very handsome cares a lot about his appearance. Well I put kisses baby and he put kisses mami then a transgender guy from his...

Will my married lover ever come back to me, even as a friend?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

24 August 2018 (F - I am 45 with a teenage daughter. My husband is good but has no time or interest in me. I tried all ways to get him interested in me, but he is keen only in earning more money. He is not bad but a very very boring man. But he is a great dad. I ev...

How do I fix my girlfriend's attitude about her appearance?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

24 August 2018 (F - My girlfriend has a folder on her phone that consists of a lot of pictures of beautiful girls. I asked her about it and she said that these girls are pretty and she likes the inspiration because she wants to look like that one day. We're both onl...

Turnng 30 and getting itchy feet about passionless relationship

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

23 August 2018 (F - Hi, I don't know what to do or how to feel. I have lived at home with my parents until not long ago. I was always a good kid and studied hard and didn't go out partying. I've bought a house and moved in with my partner of 10 years. I have bee...

My husband's driving triggers my panic attacks

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

23 August 2018 (F - I suffer from anxiety, and i have been married for 7 years now. I constantly have an argument with my husband whenever he is driving. I have severe fear from driving (specially highways), and i always argue with my husband if he just slightly gets ...

The guy I've been seeing just asked about a threesome with my friend

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

23 August 2018 (F - A guy I've been seeing for not long was talking to me tonight and he pulled up a pic on my social media and asked if it was my friend in the pic. I said yes and he said she looks familiar. He then a few sentences later was asking if I wanted a...

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