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This woman is getting close on the train!

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18 October 2017 (M - I catch the busy train to work in Tokyo everyday and there is this cute younger lady who gets on along the way. I am usually standing near the door anyway but somehow she seems to find her way in front of me so we are hugged and crushed together. We ...

My boyfriend used to be a nerd but now acts like a 'Gangsta'

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17 October 2017 (F - He's a middle class white boy whose parents pay for everything including his Mini but he keeps acting like he wants to be the "gangster hood" stereotype and idk it really annoys me for some reason. My parents are also middle class but I was raised ...

I'm struggling with taking care of my ailing mother!

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15 October 2017 (F - I'm struggling right now. I'm feeling guilty and I just don't know what to do. About 8 months ago my mother suffered with gout. During the time she suffered from anxiety and depression. She found it hard to get out of bed. She self diagnosed herself ...

Have I blown my dream job with a wrong answer?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

15 October 2017 (F - Hi I just applied for my dream job in an IT company and got invited for interview. Interview had 4 rounds and I cleared all of them. But after the rounds we had a small question answer round about the job. They asked me whether I'm okay with ni...

Men don't see me as dating material - why?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted today

15 October 2017 (F - Hi, you know how people like to use the term "friendzone" in situations when girls only see guys as friends? Well, i'm the opposite. I'm a 25 yo girl and find that most guys see me as a buddy or undateable. I've gone on dates with guys but nothing ...

My brother's wedding showed me how regretable mine was

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted yesterday

14 October 2017 (F - Jealous of Sister In Laws Family Hi community. I just attended my brothers wedding and it was amazing! Such a great day with lovely speeches and an amazing vibe. I got married two months ago and looking at both I'm so jealous of my sister in l...

I need people's approval before I make changes in my life

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4 days ago

14 October 2017 (F - I need help. I guess that's pretty obvious. I just wanted to preface this by saying thank you if you just hear me out and listen. I've always had low self esteem and lacked confidence and it's always pushed people away, even though I didn't ...

He has kept in touch, but I thought he only wanted sex.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

12 October 2017 (F - Hi there! So i went on a date a few months ago with a lovely giy who i knew from primary school who just happens to now have his own tv series. We went out for a drink, had a lovely time. Then the next week he drove 3 hours to see his father (...

Do any girls here go to bars alone?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

11 October 2017 (F - I have been on my own for a long time now. It has been bothering me for a while but it has only become a problem recently. I don't have particularly great coping skills and the feelings of loneliness have become overwhelming. I really need to make ...

Was my colleague right to feel left out?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

10 October 2017 (F - After opinions here.. A colleague A, has recently been off work sick for 3 1/2 weeks with tthe flu, most of us knew she was off, managers and some of us knew why. Shes a good worker, like us all! No different. She returned this week. As soon as...

I feel like I was second servings!

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

9 October 2017 (F - Okay i really dont know what to do in this situation. So my freind is friends with this guy and they are just friends nothing more. So one day he spent the night at our apartment and I ended up having sex with him. I felt weird about sleeping with ...

Am I being too materialstic and self sabotaging?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 8 days ago

9 October 2017 (F - Am I being unrealistic? I am 50 and dating a man for close to three months who claims he is retired, I came to find out he was laid off and doesn't want to go back to work. I find myself paying more often when we go out, it is a huge turn-off. I ...

I feel I can't even communicate anymore because of his crazy reactions!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 9 days ago

9 October 2017 (F - Ok so myself and my husbsnd just had a huge fight. It happens every couple of months but ive just realised that i think he oveereacts. He shouts, spits, throws things and wont talk to me for days. This time it started like this.... We h...

Why am I having thought about having passionate sex with my friend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 8 days ago

9 October 2017 (F - I think somethings wrong. I am in college, and one of my classmates, I have known since high school turns me on. Every time we talk and see each other (which is all the time, because we have the same major and minor) I have thoughts and fantasies ...

I'm pressured to get married how can I cope?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 8 days ago

8 October 2017 (F - Is it too late to have kids in your 40"s . I am 31 and single and not dating - I have chased men for the last decade and have only LAnded on abusive men. I don't know why family puts pressure on me to get married and do things by the book but they ...

I want to build better relationships with my family

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 8 days ago

8 October 2017 (M - I have an unusual issue that I've not really heard of many people discussing on this site before, I've asked questions in the past and received good advice but never on this topic. Basically, I feel like I don't really have a great relationsh...

My girlfriend is blaming herself for an early miscarriage.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 9 days ago

6 October 2017 (M - Dear Cupid, The other day my girlfriend had a few drinks and on the way home started going on about how she thinks she's pregnant. She hadn't done a test and was purely going off her breasts being tender and feeling "weird" plus she rambles when she...

Other people have forgiven him, so why cant our children?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 9 days ago

6 October 2017 (F - One year ago my husband of 23 years was arrested, he had been looking at underage pornography. 45 counts of category a amongst other. Myself and our family were totally shocked as he had always been a very good person who helped all the family and ...

Should I move out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 9 days ago

6 October 2017 (F - Hello, everyone! I am here to ask something and hear your opinions. I am a romanian girl which moved to Germany about 5 years ago. I am in school and to be honest, is going pretty well. But my problem has got nothing to do with my school. I turned ...

Is my Supervisor in the wrong for telling us about a colleague's mistake?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 12 days ago

6 October 2017 (F - The other day my supervisor told me and a colleague during a meeting a mistake a co-worker made. This mistake is something that did not affect me or my other colleague whatsoever. Was this appropriate? I just feel if he was attempting to tell us the ...

Is my married boss hoping I will ask her out. ?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 12 days ago

6 October 2017 (M - Hi this only happens at work lm a guy and really like 2 women 1 is married and find it hard to ask her out for a coffee and chat l feel she's still interested but she wants me to approach her and ask her out l don't think it will happen also cause ...

Engaged to be married and have a crush on another woman

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 12 days ago

6 October 2017 (M - So to start off I have been with my fiancé for 11 years since we were both 18. In that time we have both been through a lot, however I have never in the last 11 years had a crush on another woman. She has always been the only women who i had any ...

I keep comparing myself and feel like a loser!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 13 days ago

4 October 2017 (F - How can I stop comparing myself and feeling like a looser - I am 31 and I feel like I haven't accomplished much in life nor have I enjoyed anybting . I come from a broken home - nothing I did was ever good enough - I have two degrees a corporate job ...

I feel like I have leprosy and no one told me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 13 days ago

4 October 2017 (F - I know there’s only so much advice you could give but... I’m having some birthday anxiety. I’ll be 25 in the next couple weeks and I feel like I’m not where I want to be, especially romantically. I knew I would be panicked over my birthday but it’s...

Does looking at nudes lead to objectifying women?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 13 days ago

4 October 2017 (M - I understand how wrong it is to regard people as objects. That's why I never stare at hot girls on the street, talk about their bodies or "hit on" them. But privately, I am curious about the female shape (being very inexperienced and never had a ...

How do I make this work for us both?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 14 days ago

4 October 2017 (F - I've been talking heavily (throughout the day and he calls me everydau) to a guy that I have known for that I have really grown to like. He works two jobs and at first this was really trying on the budding relationship in that, he was really ...

Is life passing me by?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 13 days ago

4 October 2017 (M - Hello everyone, Next month I am turning 30. Every birthday usually leads to some analysis and evaluation but this one at the end decade is feeling like an assessment of whole life. Right now I have MBA degree from one of the best schools around,...

How to come to terms with my academic failure?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 14 days ago

3 October 2017 (F - So basically, I've spent the past two years working towards my masters degree as well as working full time. Up until this summer I've been doing really well (average grade 75, on track for a distinction), only to choke in my last few months and ...

How do I politely ask that they donate my fee to charity?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 14 days ago

3 October 2017 (F - Hi Aunts and Uncles, I have a somewhat boring question, but never the less I need some advice. How do I politely ask that the money I earned (which is not a lot) be given to a charity? I don't want to sound weird or arrogant... A friend o...

Any tips for choosing Mr Right?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 15 days ago

3 October 2017 (F - I've never had a relationship longer then two years and those were pretty rocky for a good portion. I've been known to pick the wrong guys and so I'm trying to do things different lately. Marriage is a big goal in life for me and I would like t...

Will men care if I live at home?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 15 days ago

2 October 2017 (F - Will men care if I don't have my own place? I am 31 years old and I have been hit with a financial hardship in life at the moment. For the first time in my life I am trying to not care what people think and focus on solving my financial situation ...

I feel so guilty about leaving my abusive ex

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 15 days ago

30 September 2017 (F - Hi, I previously asked for advice regarding a relationship I was in for 3 years with a guy I lived with who was controlling and violent. It went on for a number of years and last December I cheated on him with a guy who had been keen on me for a wh...

Is this too much for a first and second date or is he just trying to control her?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 18 days ago

29 September 2017 (M - So, a friend of mine is seeing this guy.. They started talking through Bumble. He's slightly older tha her, she's 22. They've only know each other a couple of weeks or so. He's a volunteer police officcer. So, they met at the weekend. Saturda...

Is she seeking attenton from me or just comfortable?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 16 days ago

28 September 2017 (M - We chat a lot. She seems to remember conversations like from two weeks ago, like we had a conversation about buses and she was per your conversation two weeks ago, she'll remember stuff about me things that I do etc We've known each other for q...

We want different things in life ... should I just let it go?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 16 days ago

28 September 2017 (F - My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now. I’m 20 and he’s 22 so we’re still pretty young and we don’t plan on getting married or having kids any time soon. Especially since we’ve only been together for 2 years. But we have com...

I am exhausted and my boyfriend is no help.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 9 days ago

28 September 2017 (F - I know I'm right but someone please knock some sense into me. I'm in a relationship, we don't live together but I spend a lot of time at his house. Work everyday and come home to him sitting on the couch everyday watching tv and has done nothing ...

My boyfriend and I argue constantly but I love him.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 18 days ago

28 September 2017 (F - My boyfriend and I have been together 2 and a half years. Things were great in the beginning but more recently we seem to argue about everything. Things are lovely when we're getting on but we seem to argue most days and he goes silent and will ...

Fiances mother is refusing to come to our wedding unless we change our plans

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 19 days ago

27 September 2017 (F - firstly, thank you for taking the time to read my post. I'm having problems with my fiancées mother. Backstory: me and him met in school, at15, we've been together ever since. We got engaged may 2016 in Fiji we had originally planned a two wee...

Long distance boyfriend is asking for naked pictures, should I trust him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 19 days ago

27 September 2017 (F - Hi there friends...I really need your advice.. I have a long distance relationship and know for a year.we don't meet yet and we both christian born again... and I dont want this guy to entertain but he was keep in contact with me even if j don't....

I went along with planning for a big wedding. Now I don't want it!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 19 days ago

26 September 2017 (F - Hi I'm getting marrried in a few months and having some serious regrets about the way we've gone about things. We're having quite a fancy wedding with around 100 guests. I thought at the start that a big wedding was what i wanted but now I'm havi...

I know I could have an amazing life with mistress but don't want to hurt my wife and children

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25 September 2017 (M - Hi. I am really confused and need advice. Here goes with a bit of background and my position. I am an almost 49 year old man and have been married for almost 25 years.we have 3 Kids.one of which has now left home. My wife gave up work 17 years ag...

My boyfriend has a new friend & he seems to care more about their relationship than ours.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 19 days ago

25 September 2017 (F - I've been in a relationship for five years, and cheating has never been something I was concerned about. But about six months ago my boyfriend made a new friend through a club at colleg, and they became close friends real quickly. They talk all the ...

How do you cope and embrace change?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

23 September 2017 (F - How do you cope with change. More so change within the work place. I work in an office and have been here for many years . I do like my job and the company i work. Obviosly i know things change and people come and go. At the moment we have a good ...

I desperately want to reconcile with my ex husband. He had sex with me after he had broken up with his girlfriend but hasn't contacted me since

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 20 days ago

22 September 2017 (F - This is a long story and I apologize but I really need some advice from some neutral parties here. I am wanting to reconcile with my ex-husband. We were married for 4 years. He was and still is the love of my life but he left me for another ...

I didn't bleed so is my hymen still intact after having sex lots of times?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

22 September 2017 (F - hello, well my problem is i had sexual intercourse several times but i did not bleed in any of them, so i'm wondering is it possible that my hymen is still intact??...

I am unhappy at home, and flirting with my ex boyfriend

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

21 September 2017 (F - I am married for nearly 4 years and lived together for 5 years . Since having my son last year , everything has changed . We both very good with looking after our son but My partner seems to be on the phone so much , which has been locked fo...

We were such good friends, now she wont even talk to me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

21 September 2017 (F - Slightly off topic of love and relationships but wondering if someone can shine some light over a situation with a close friend. I'm broken, torn, lost and really struggling to come to terms with the loss of my best friend, for the simple reaso...

She's going into an arranged marriage, unhappy with the man. Please help!

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21 September 2017 (F - I am an Indian. In our culture arrange marriage system is prevalent. Recently my best friend got engaged to someone. Her parents found that guy for her. Its been an year but not a day passed when she didn't complain about him. She always tells me ...

She's asked me for advice-Can I be honest and tell her she's in a bad relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

21 September 2017 (F - Dear Aunts and Uncles, I need some advice on should I say what I think or... be polite and lie. I have 2 cousins who are like sisters to me. One of them is having problems with her papers. She's been living in a foreign country for the past 7 y...

He's rejected me but is open to having sex. I'm upset but tempted to, since I'll be bored and alone in his city.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

21 September 2017 (F - I apologize in advance...this is a long one! I met a guy on Tinder back in March of this year. I was going to be in San Francisco for a few days and wanted to meet people while there so I changed my location to SF and started talking to him. ...

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