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I think I might've been raped... or did I consent?

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7 November 2009 (F) - ok sooo im 16. my boyfriend, well ex, was 18 and we jus broke up. we got together 5 months ago. before i got with him, i never rly had the urge to drink alcohol or smoke anything. but in these last 5 months i have jus been wanting it more and more. ...

How can I feel better about my life/make my life better?

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7 November 2009 (F) - Sorry this is gonna be long but your help will be intensely appreciated! ;) Story of my life... Before 13 years old: I was known as fun-loving, outgoing, talented and had many interests- sports, acting, dancing, singing etc. though I did have t...

I'm depressed... he's depressed, and I'm paranoid that he'll leave me again... How can I overcome this?

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7 November 2009 (F) - Hey there, I've been um-ing and ah-ing whether or not to post this for a couple of days now because it sounds trivial but it's plaguing me, so here goes... To begin with, I'm 25 and I've had depression since I was about 16. It was a mixture o...

My dad is getting divorced for a second time... Is it unrealistic to hope he could marry 3rd time lucky?

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7 November 2009 (F) - my parents divorced when I was 4, and my dad remarried when I was six. now I'm eighteen and my dad and step-mom are getting a divorce.i have an eight year old brother and a ten year old sister by my step-mom. I am not upset about the divorce, but i ...

Caught my daughter masturbating, what should I do?

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7 November 2009 (M) - I have 2 childern ages 13 and 10, both gilrs. One in Jr. high the other in grammar school. I left work early one day and got the shock of my life. I come in and hear "noises" in the family room. So when I walk down there I see my 13 year daughter in ...

How do we tell her parents about this? Is this normal?

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7 November 2009 (F) - I had my neice and my son over. My neice is 10 years old and my son is 11 years old and they are second cousins. After I made dinner, I went to my sons room to get them for dinner and when I open the door, they were both laying on the bed naked...

How do I 'ramp up' the intensity?

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6 November 2009 (M) - I'm dating a woman 10 years my junior who has a lot more experience than me. She has made it clear that she enjoys rougher sex (she revealed her safe word on our first date) but I don't really know where to start. My previous partners (and me, by ...

Know of a place to get a cute dress?

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6 November 2009 (F) - hey this would be a huge help to me if i can get some answers. does anyone have any websites where i can find a cute strapless dress, above the knee in length. any color, that i can wear for my winter ball. thank you, just reply with any websites ...

Am I scared of commitment?

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6 November 2009 (F) - Hi. I am a 42 year old woman and I am panicking because I think I might be a commitment phobe. Here's a little bit of background. Two years ago I came to London to enrol for a post graduate MA in art. I managed to get a place in a very good art co...

How to give better advice..

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6 November 2009 (M) - This is a follow-up to my article on "how to get good advice" located at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-good-advice.html This time I am going to delve into the area on how to give good or better advice to those who are seeking it. ...

At 24 am I too old to be happy again?

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6 November 2009 (F) - i'm 24 and at the moment i'm not in such a good place in my life. 4 months ago my ex broke up with me - i adored him and it left me reeling. I'm getting over it now - and i feel ready to move on, but my confidence is pretty low. I feel like no ...

I can't ask him directly, so how do I know If he likes me?

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6 November 2009 (F) - i have a guy friend who i have been friends with for a year now, we have fun together and he makes me laugh, i used to think he liked me but i am not sure, i really like him now and i just want to know how i can hint to him i like him but i wnat to ...

What if I kiss someone for the first time and they say I'm terrible?

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6 November 2009 (F) - ok ive just turned 14 but ive never kissed a boy i guess ive always been waiting for a nice boy but now i just feel really embarassed because all! of my friends have been going on about how there boy friends are really good kissers and i really want ...

What should I do to keep things going?

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6 November 2009 (F) - i've been going out with a boy for 3 weeks now but sometimes we run out of things to talk about. what should i do to keep things going?...

I'll get straight to the point, why don't guys want to date me?

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6 November 2009 (F) - Hi there - I'll get straight to the point... why don't guys want to date me? Where do I go wrong? I have been rejected by the last 4 guys I have liked and have never had a serious relationship. i wouldn't say i'm shy but i'm not the most outgoing...

What should I do while my bf sucks my breasts?

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6 November 2009 (F) - what should i do while my bf is sucking my breasts? And i want him to go down by my vagina but as his never been down there before not with me or any other girl im not sure what he'll think? We've been going out for 2years now :)...

He said he would call after ons, but he didn't?

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6 November 2009 (F) - I'm not normally into ons, but I was upset that night, so I was actually looking for someone for a cuddle and kiss, but I ended up at his somehow. We didn't even ask each other's name on the night, it seems like we both were clear it would be just...

How to make this situation better, how to explain where he understands?

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6 November 2009 (F) - I have an ongoing problem and I can't deal with it at all! I was going out with a guy for a year: and he was great and I was happy with him. One weekend things took a different turn - all of a sudden I started feeling bad about him. Loss of attra...

Why is my friend avoiding me?

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6 November 2009 (F) - last week me and my friend of 2 years got closer. as we were about to have sex he stopped saying that something didn't feel right. he also said he's still thinking of his ex (whom he was in a relationship with for a couple of weeks some months ...

I told her how I feel and she pushed me away. Now what do I do?

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6 November 2009 (M) - I love her so much but we're just friends. Now that I've told her how i feel she has pushed away what do I do? ...

My husband hit me while drunk and doesn't remember. Should I trust him not to do it again?

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6 November 2009 (F) - Recently my husband hit me. He had been drinking and he lost his temper. He had no recollection the next day, has apologised and promised it will not happen again. I just don't know how I feel or if i'm stupid to believe him. He is a drinker anyway, ...

Help I don't understand why girls do this?

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6 November 2009 (M) - i dont understand why some girls if you dont show them your penis then they be it has to be small or tell someone that your penis small when is not...

The worst thing that can happen is rejection but I've already had that, What do you think?

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6 November 2009 (F) - Hello, This is a bit awkward for me so bear with me. I am a sophomore in college. My 2nd semester of freshman year I was in a class and I noticed an individual who caught my interest. It had been about a year and a half since I had been in a re...

Help me from the torture of my Psycho ex...Is there a womens organization or something that can help me?

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6 November 2009 (F) - hi, i am 26yrs old female From INDIA, Andhra pradesh. i have this serious problem with my X-boyfrnd we broke up 5yrs ago but he just dosent seem to accpt it and keeps interfiering in my personal life, keeps threathning me to killing me.he t...

I want to have sex but I know it is a big thing...any tips?

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6 November 2009 (M) - i am inlove with this girl. i am 15 and she is 19. we have been very close together for 2years now, i love her and she loves me back. but i am too inlove with her, i want to have sex. i know itz normal for a guy of my age to want and crave this b...

Help me please...I don't want to break his heart but I am not ready to settle down. I want to experience life! What do I do?

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6 November 2009 (F) - Ive been with my boyfriend for over 3 months now and when I got with him I thought I really liked him. He allways liked me before we got together anyways, and hes such a nice guy who has allot of respect and allot of asperations in life. So I ...

Is it okay for me to fall in love with my adopted cousin?

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6 November 2009 (M) - Is it okay for me to fall in love with my cousin? I am 14, and my cousin is the same age. I've been having nice thoughts about my cousin. It seames like she has the same feelings, but some times not. I cant help but having thoues She does ...

My girlfriend refuses to kiss me...and I don't know why?

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6 November 2009 (M) - Dear cupid me and my girlfriend have been dating she refuses to kiss me i don't know why and she hangs around too many guys what should i do and she always puts upa fight about my ex-girlfriend ps reply zuko ...

Does this mean she's not in love with me like I thought she was?

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6 November 2009 (M) - I've been in love with my best friend ever since i met her 3 years ago. She was in a relationship, i'm not the relationship type, things were really complicated because of many things and i never confessed how i felt about her. I'm pretty s...

Can a person that is still a virgin get a disease?

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6 November 2009 (M) - Hi Cupid,I asked this question here last time about the word masturbation. this question confused me sometimes, i want to be sure of it. my question is, a person that still a virgin whether a boy or a girl. like a boy that still a virgin. if the ...

I have no friends!

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6 November 2009 (F) - I'm a 30 year old girl, married for one year now. I have a strange problem of not having any good friends. When I was in school I used to have few very good friends with whom I used to hang out often. Later in Uni I never had any close friends whom ...

Why can't she see that her actions and lack of consideration are a huge cause of our problems?

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6 November 2009 (M) - My gf did not come home last night. We live together. I called and left a message when I arrived home form work and then I waited until 10pm before trying to call her again. She would not answer my calls or return my texts. I texted her to ask her ...

Do you think our relationship will be a short or long one?

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6 November 2009 (F) - I am dating a 26 year old, and i am 40 year old woman. We met 2 years ago when he turned 24. We are basically attracted to each other, love at first sight i may say, and really are like soulmate. During our 2 years life had been very rough. W...

In a few more years do you think he would want a younger woman?

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6 November 2009 (F) - I am 29 and my boyfriend is 19. He has been persuing the relationship with me for months, and its only been weeks since I have given in and allowed myself to fall in love with him. I do love him, and find this relationship to be by far the most ...

Will I always be alone?

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6 November 2009 (F) - I'm beginning to get quite down on myself. It's been a long time since I've had a relationship. I'm not giving up hope on finding that someone, it's just the advice I keep getting from friends seems so contradictory. For instance, everyo...

Why do bad things happen to good people?

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6 November 2009 (F) - I'm in a awkward place in my life, I feel like I have no direction nor anything to look forward to. I've been questioning a lot about life. I consider myself to be a good person and my attitude towards life is treat others as you want to be treat...

How do I stop putting people on pedestals and have more realistic expectations?

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6 November 2009 (F) - I often put people up on pedestals and have expectations about how they should behave. Then when they don't live up to my expectations, I'm disappointed. I know it's their life and we're all human, make mistakes, etc. But how can I stop doing this? ...

Do I have a chance with my sister in law?

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6 November 2009 (M) - Some background. About 10 months ago I started a relationship with my Sister In Law. Yes I know its messy. We just had that instant connection. Over the 10 months we realized so many things about ourselves and life in general. I have always ...

How can I stop feeling inferior to people all the time?

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5 November 2009 (F) - Its forever since I've been facing this problem. I'm actually pretty low on self esteem and confidence. I'm pretty, good with my subject and good at things which I have pursued. Whenever I think of the things I have accomplished I feel good but when ...

I'm depressed after my abortion.

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5 November 2009 (F) - im 14 and i had an abortion in February, and know im depressed and want a baby. what do i do? please help me. i have never been this depressed in my life before please please help me ...

My boyfriend can't open up and I feel lonely in our relationship.

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5 November 2009 (F) - im living with my boyfriend for 11 years now,and feel that he dont love me anymore,we never go out together or talk properly to each other,this could last for weeks and then when we make up,it lasts about a day,and then its back to square 1,its like ...

I think my 14 year old sister is going to run away with a 24 year old man!

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5 November 2009 (F) - i'm worried about my sister shes 14 in half and shes going out with a 24 year old. she was scared i was going to tell mom and dad about it so she made me promse to not say anything to them. and i'm worried that hes going to hurt her. she wont tell ...

Read this email message and tell me what you think!

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5 November 2009 (F) - I found a message in my husband's email. It was from the owner of a company he has done some work for (who is a male), and he has an email address at that company i just became aware of. He has been hiding all of this from me. The message ...

Will my boyfriend turn gay if he enjoys it when I give it to him from behind?

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5 November 2009 (F) - So me and my boyfriend have a very good relationship....and sex can be a little kinky with us and I know sometimes my boyfriend likes me to play with his butt hole sometimes and I was thinking about using a strap on with him cause I heard that's ...

Why do I find it so hard to approach women I am attracted to?

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5 November 2009 (M) - Why do I find it so hard to approach females I like, particularly good-looking ones? Last night, I went to Pizza Hut and got my friend to ask the waitress out for me cos I didn't have the guts to do it? Is it because I am afraid of rejection, that ...

Is it best to confess your feelings for someone or ignore those feelings to avoid rejection?

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5 November 2009 (M) - when we like someone a lot and eventually fall in love with that person, we never think of rejection until later on, but in those situations is it best to either confess to that person or to ignore those feelings to avoid rejection?...

How can I make the guilt of cheating in a past relationship go away?

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5 November 2009 (M) - 3 years ago, I was in a long term relationship. she gave up everything for me, friends, family, just to be with me. We lived together for years, but I developed feelings for another woman and began an affair. I hate myself for what I did to this ...

Please help, how do I tell my parents and my bf I'm pregnant?

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5 November 2009 (F) - Well....i am 16 and my boy friend is 19 and i was ready to have sex so we did it some how condom broke and i am now pregnant...i was very thin and its now my 3rd month and you cant really tell i have never consitered abortion but i am just scared 2 ...

What does it mean when someone is considered the "backbone" of a relationship?

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5 November 2009 (M) - What does it mean when someone is considered the "backbone" of a relationship?...

Are these signs she wants to pick up where we left off, or just remain a friend?

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5 November 2009 (M) - I'm not sure if my married friend, who I have had a relationship with in the past, wants to remain my friend, or pick up where we left off. I'm terrible at picking up signals, and when we hang out, we usually just talk, and she always stretches out ...