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Did I do the right thing, I think he is still involved with his children's mother.

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22 April 2018 (F - I was seeing a man who lives with his 18 year month twin boys and he still lives with his kids mother.He told me they have broken up but staying together for financial reasons for now. Well he wouldn't see me outside working hours so I calle...

What should a person do .....

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22 April 2018 (F - What should a person do if they are falling for someone, and that person tells them they have a certain type a woman they like, and it's not you, and they don't have time but maybe one day a week, they are to busy to see you more then that, you live ...

I muust have a "hate me" sign above my head.

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22 April 2018 (F - I’m unlikeable it seems, people don’t “take” to me land aren’t friendly. I feel like giving up on people. I Try to be nice and get ignored, uninvited, dismissed and forgotten. Please, how can I be more likeable? I listen, I smile and...

A mutual friend has boundary problems

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22 April 2018 (M - I have this problem with a friend of mine (we are both gay men). He is very close to my best friend. This friend, who can sometimes be great and at other times be utterly creepy. He can be the kindest, most helpful person and in a whim switch to a ...

My boyfriend, I and his so called lesbian friend who's slept with him, fancies him and doesn't like me. What do I do?

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19 April 2018 (F - Been seeing a guy for 7months now. Started off casually, us both not looking for a relationship, but it naturally progressed into one that we both are enjoying. We have had to redefine and communicate a lot about what our needs and expectations are ...

I have an ex that wont let go.

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18 April 2018 (M - Me and my ex girlfriend split up 4, maybe even closer to 5 years ago. In the end, she got quite nasty and I ended up blocking her on Facebook. Fast forward a few years and I get a message request from a previously deactivated account of hers,...

I'm still being picked on at school, one girl said its because I'm clueless.

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18 April 2018 (F - THIS IS WHAT I WROTE BEFORE: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/please-help-me-stand-up-for-myself.html These friends are the only friends I have and when they give me the silent treatment or start rumors it really hurts! I pretty much end up begg...

A guy I was seeing went quiet on me, he says he is following legal advise.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

18 April 2018 (F - Im just wondering what are peoples thoughts. I was seeing a guy who went quiet on me we had been seeing each other for 6 month. i heard from him a handful of times in 2 month and didnt get to see him . I didnt sit about waiting for him i got on with ...

My boyfriend is all about himself during sex, but never about me.

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18 April 2018 (F - Hello, I was hoping I could ask for some help regarding my sex life. I have a wonderful 2 year relationship with my boyfriend. Genuinely feel like I've found the one for me, I think he's amazing. However, he's the first person I've slept with...

Should I be thankful for the little I've got?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

18 April 2018 (F - Yes, mod, I’m 17. The only person I can talk to about my depression and anxiety is my boyfriend but I’m stuck in a polygamous relationship with him and his girlfriend. However, I love him and I’m getting tired of sharing him. I just want his body ...

I'm back with my ex but sometimes he is not enthusiastic!

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18 April 2018 (F - My ex and I were together for 2.5 years. I ended the relationship about a year ago due to his immature habits (gambling and binge drinking on weekends). After the break up we tried working on things but ultimately not enough time had passed and ...

No kids, no spouse, and nearing 30.

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18 April 2018 (F - Does anyone else freak out that their hitting their thirties with no kids and husband/wife? I have tried online dating and that hasn’t worked (honestly most people I have met look for sex) and I am traditional ( I would at least like to date a b...

My hsband left me for another woman but wont considera divorce.

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17 April 2018 (F - My husband left me with other woman his (mistress) it's been 2 weeks now since he left. I'm 37 yr old My husband is 54 and his mistress is 45 year old she's older than me . I want to divorce him coz I don't trust him no more . But my husband ...

Why is she so attention seeking??

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16 April 2018 (F - Yesterday a 44 yr old female work colleague with 5 kids had her wisdom teeth out,she posted a post surgery selfie of her swollen face on our works fbook page, Is this pure attention seeking? She’s a quiet and good worker, invisible.. like...

A question about my graduation

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16 April 2018 (F - Hello everyone. I'm graduating from college next month and students have the possibility to choose the teacher who will give them their dimploma during the ceremony. There's a teacher I totally admire: she's a brilliant teacher, she is close but ...

How do I handle my girlfriends past?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

16 April 2018 (M - I would like to start out by saying that I consider myself very open minded. I am divorced from a 6 year marriage and am on good terms with. I have even made good friends with my ex-wife’s boyfriend and we hang out occasionally. My current ...

He didnt hurt me enough to leave bruises, but scared me, did I cause this?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

16 April 2018 (F - I have been with my boyfriend for over two years and we have even recently been looking at getting our own place together. We had a lovely weekend. He took me out for food and drinks Saturday and paid for everything. We laughed and danced. It was p...

My boyfriend doesn't tell anyone about me but wants me to move in with him ... what should I do ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

16 April 2018 (F - I've been dating a guy for 5 months and were exsclusive.. I'm finding myself in love with him he treats me well except for one issue he doesn't tell anyone about me, not friends which he only has a few not co workers not his family... He tells me ...

Am I being self sabotaging or are my feelings enough?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

16 April 2018 (F - I feel like i'm going through a bit of an internal crisis and i can't understand why i can't just be happy. I'm 23 and only been with my boyfriend 7 months, however I knew him for a yr before that. It took me a while to take the plunge and allow ...

My eccentric fiance's behaviour is starting to concern me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

16 April 2018 (F - Hi... I am looking for some outside advice/perspective on my relationship with my fiancé. We've been together for two years and are just recently engaged. When we first met, we clicked immediately and have been mostly insperable. I grew up in a v...

My girlfriend left, I want to fix it but she is ignoring me.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

16 April 2018 (M - My girlfriend of 12 years has just left me. For the last 4 years we've lived together in our own place after a spell living with her family, we moved in shortly after my father passed away. I really struggled to deal with my father's passing...

He compliments others and insults me.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

16 April 2018 (F - My partner of many years verbally attacked me for the things I do to 'beautify' myself such as have hair nails and skin appointments etc done . I have never had cosmetic surgery and am not going to. He says I'm insecure and he wants someone who is ...

Should I try harder to make up for his lack of effort?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

16 April 2018 (F - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years. I love him and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. But for the past year now, I feel like he's been neglecting me. He's a hard-working man and I love that about him. But he doesn't ...

I'm still sexually attached to the guy that my ex pretended to be. How can I get over this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

15 April 2018 (F - Thank you for reading this. About 10 years ago, I broke up with this guy after a few months when I realized he was abusive. I felt betrayed because we had supposedly been childhood friends. I broke all ties with him. Like most abusers, at first he ...

Should I sue my ex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

15 April 2018 (M - I broke up with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago, It was not a nice relationship at all . We have been together for 2 years, he cheated on me twice, he stole money from me, he used my bank card several times without telling me, and the list goes on and on, ...

Is his message to me a cry for help?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

15 April 2018 (F - It's not that we talked much, but we were friends, well acquaintances at least. Anyway, it's been years since we've talked. We were in college like 9-10 years ago, but friends on social media. Anyway, out of the blue, he randomly sends me a message ...

Why me? Why am I excluded?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

15 April 2018 (F - Everyone I know sees me as boring, esp my younger coworkers and my younger sister and anyone I meet socially, friends of friends etc..aquantances.. Should I cAre and what to do?? ??? No one talks to me, though I to talk them when one to one. I...

I'm dating a 48 year old man who lives in utter filth and doesn't know what he wants from life

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

14 April 2018 (F - I've Been seeing a 48 year old man for about 5 weeks now. He is not physically attractive in anyway. I looked past all this because I am actually pursuing a serious relationship and my criteria isn't based on looks. It would help but doesn't matter. ...

What does this married man mean when he says he finds me physically attractive?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

14 April 2018 (F - I've met this guy at work. He is married. We have a lot of things in common.He is a very private man. He doesn't talk much to anybody until I started working there. He said he likes me and enjoy being his friend. He is always careful about what he ...

How do I accept that he doesn't want to be my friend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

13 April 2018 (M - I started speaking to this guy 'M' online around 3-4 years ago. Our conversations were very fluctuating, and never particularly in depth but I really like and admire M as a person. We get on great, have so many similar interests, and for a while I ...

My online guy has been professing his love for me but I've found out he has a girlfriend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

13 April 2018 (F - Basically I've been with a guy for 8 months and we're long distance (he's also from a different country than mine we just met in the summer) . It was his choice for us to stay together although we are far from each other and we always skype and keep ...

We're having sex, he has another girl and I have feelings and a third girl is spreading nasty rumours.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 9 days ago

13 April 2018 (F - This is a little bit long winded so i do apologise in advance. I went to the pub one with my friend and she introduced me to one of her guy friends and kept teasing us both that we are both single. That night i plucked up the courage to messa...

I laid my cards on the table and he backed right off!

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12 April 2018 (F - I met Mark 3 months ago. We had both gotten out of 5 year relationships a year before that, and he told me that he lived with his ex during their relationship. She broke up with him because she didn't feel a spark anymore, and he was very hurt ...

I'm Chinese with helicopter parents!

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12 April 2018 (F - Hi there! Im a 19 year old girl who is trying to get my parents to start letting go. Not sure if it makes sense when I say letting go but I mean like trying to make them see that I’ve grown and matured. Because you see, all my life and as long as I ...

My husband wants to hide me from the girl he wants a baby with

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 10 days ago

12 April 2018 (F - i have been married for 4 years, i had to remove my womb due to medical conditions. my husband and i agreed on the operation. now he wants a baby so i said to him he must get someone very far and i dont want to be affected by it. he now got someone ...

My religion is getting in the way of love

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 8 days ago

11 April 2018 (F - Im in a very tough situation. I came from an Arabic-muslim family, and when i was 18 i moved to Britain in order to study university there.  In my first year in university, i met this guy (let's call him X), we became very close friends, we became ...

How do I deal with bullying?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

11 April 2018 (F - Hi, I am 16. Basically, I get bullied by a lot of people in school. I'm in year 11 now but it's been going on since year 10.It started off with a group of 4 girls, in year 10. They would patronize me, try to embarrass me in front of people to get ...

Is it okay to tolerate "triggered" disrespectful behavior when I know she doesn't mean it otherwise?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 9 days ago

11 April 2018 (M - I'm in a long-term relationship (about 7 years). I've accepted my girlfriend's personality, both the good and the bad. However, I'm finding it more and more difficult to tolerate the way she treats me when we disagree. It seems her "go-to" when ...

Is it a good sign if a one night stand contacts you afterwards?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

10 April 2018 (F - I met this guy out recently and we just clicked. I went home with him, we were dancing for quite some time and I met his room mate. Soon things got heated, had a great time together. He was exceedingly affection, but in intimate ways, kissing my ...

I want my boyfriend to stop paying for porn before we move in together.

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10 April 2018 (F - I'm not sure if I am being extremely jealous or whether I am right to feel this way.. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now and we are even looking at apartments together however there are a few things that really bother me. First of all ...

I've never had a boyfriend but am considering losing my virginity.

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10 April 2018 (F - 36 F, never had a boyfriend, considering losing virginity So I'm 36 f, considering having sex for the first time. Myriad reasons it hasn't happened yet I suppose. I've never had a boyfriend before...men just don't seem to be attracted to me ...

My cousin talked me into having sex with her when we were just 12 and 13 and now I feel uncomfortable having her stay over at my place

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9 April 2018 (M - When I was 12 years old male, my 13 years old female cousin talked me into having sex with her. Over the next two years, we had sex on several occasions (maybe once every 3 months). We stopped having sex when she was about 15 years old and when I ...

Does this sound hopeless? Should I try talking to my boyfriend's rigid Indian parents and fight for him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 12 days ago

9 April 2018 (F - Hello all.. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months. I’ve known him for almost a year and honestly, he is the best boyfriend over ever had. I’m not exaggerating. He treats me with love, respect and kindness. After breaking up with my abusive ...

My boyfriend asked me to move on but then why is he messaging me again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 12 days ago

9 April 2018 (F - I've been seeing my boyfriend for about four months now. Things were starting to get serious but then we had our first big fight. It was all done over the phone and we argued for about a week, both being too stubborn to meet up. He had the weekend ...

How can I stop feeling like an outcast at work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 13 days ago

9 April 2018 (F - How can I stop feeling like and outcast at work ? I work in a consulting firm in the city and I have been here for a year . I have noticed a lot of cliques especially with someone on my team. This man is 34 and is always gossiping with the other ...

What do my husband's cuckolding fantasies mean?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 8 days ago

9 April 2018 (F - My husband has lots of cuckholding fantasies and imagines watching me with other men. I have told him this will remain fantasy as I'll never do this in real life so that's not my question here My question is whether I should be worried that he ...

My boyfriend takes his problems out on me because I am white.

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9 April 2018 (F - Background info: BF and I have been dating 4 years. We live together now. He's my best friend, and when we are both sober we are happy. My boyfriend is half Navajo Native American (Dine tribe to be technical, as Navajo is a derogatory term ...

My husband has turned into a hateful old man.

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8 April 2018 (F - My husband of many years has become very verbally and emotionally abusive. He hates everyone including me. He has alienated even our children and no one comes to visit. I have a 50th high school reunion this summer and I intend on going..I am not ...

My ex has said he would never marry me, but I want him back!

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8 April 2018 (F - Does my ex still have feelings for me or not?. I dated him for a year and a half from 2015 until 2017. Then I left him for another man that we both know, who I was in a relationship with for nearly a year ( he broke up with me three months ago). My ...

I would tell her I love her but don't want to risk our friendship.

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7 April 2018 (M - Hello readers, I am ashamed and embarrassed to admit that I am in love with a married woman. I am a 33 year old man, I am mostly sensible and don't want things I can't have. I live with my girlfriend of 10 years. She's everything I shoul...

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