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Archived questions from: 20 January, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

Is this a date?

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20 January 2009 (F) - My friend and I have never been to the movies alone. This will be our first time going. I like him, but I'm not sure how he feels ... Is this a date?...

She can be so controlling and selfish!

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20 January 2009 (M) - I told my girlfriend last night that I had a busy week this week and wouldn’t be able to see her today, Thursday and Saturday. She then started saying how mean I was and that I didn’t want to see her and she started sulking. She was half joking but ...

What makes a guy go from wow to I want her badly?

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20 January 2009 (F) - I'm curious.. I'm dating this guy and our kisses are very passionate. I am not ready for sex, but he's up and willing. So, as far as KISSING..what makes a guy go from WOW that's hot to I want her badly?!? ...

Am I starting to be jealous or what?

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20 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I don't know what to do any more. Me and my boyfriend been together for 11 months and I love him and trust him and I know he loves me but I'm not so sure about him trusting me too. Well I'm not at all the jealous kind, today it was freezing ...

I told my parents I'm bisexual but it didn't go down too well.

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20 January 2009 (F) - Well I'm 17 and I have a major problem. I am bisexual and I am in a long distance relationship. She lives 2 hours away from me. However a few days ago I came out to my parents and it didn't go well... I also told them about my girlfriend umm... ...

I am not getting the consistency or solidarity that healthy relatinoships NEED to survive.

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20 January 2009 (F) - I'm not sure what to do or think. My boyfriend of almost a year is coming out of a state of depression and he is unemployed and keeps getting rejected despite his high qualifications (3 law degrees and 3 languages) because of the crisis. He has ...

Circumcision problem???

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20 January 2009 (M) - So I am going out with this girl and I am looking for an advice here. I know she wants to go down on me sometimes but I don't know what to do... I am uncircumcised and I have a frenulum... should I let her do it? It hurts when I pull the foreskin ...

Is there such a thing as body language...

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20 January 2009 (?) - I really need to know. I don't know why but a lot of girls these days are really superficial and shallow so I want to know what girls really want in a guy, and what qualities they look for. Be honest!! And is there such thing as body language...

He doesn't seem so into me any more and never wants to have sex with me...

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20 January 2009 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. I starting living with him this past October which really has been great. My problem is that he never wants to have sex with me. He never compliments me any more or seems interested in my ...

The spark seems to have disappeared from both of us and I can feel the distance...

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20 January 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years, it will be 2 years on the 30th of this month. At the start of our relationship we saw each other all the time, every weekend and some times a couple of days in the week too. That lasted for about...

Why do I have all these insecurities about my relationship?

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20 January 2009 (F) - Well me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly three months now and it seems that everything is going really well, but I feel like I'm going to push him away because I keep asking him about other girls and I know that it's stupid but I do it ...

He prefers Asian porn better than having actual sex and I'm sooooo frustrated!!!

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20 January 2009 (F) - My bf likes Asian girls and he lusts for then on the internet(porn) and it makes me uncomfortable when we have sex. He only likes me cuz, I look asian (mexican) my eyes do.. And I just don't know.. What should I do.. I'm not comfortable with this at ...

Advice on her to let her see I can be responsible to raise her baby with her.

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

20 January 2009 (M) - Here is my situation. I was dating this girl for about a month now she was pregnant already from a guy she was with before me which I am fine with and am ready to raise a kid. By the way this guy beat on her all the time. So a couple days ago ...

His paranoia is splitting us up slowly but surely.

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20 January 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and we have started living together. Everything is fine when we spend all day together, but even if we're apart for like 30 minutes he'll suspect me cheating on him. I have never cheated on him and ...

Single since my teens...

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20 January 2009 (M) - I haven't got a girlfriend yet since teenage. I am very attractive that which I know and have had confirmed by some other people around me but this couldn't be of any help. Girl approaches me seems kind to me and later on I am unknown. I am ...

I would love to see my girlfriend nude.

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20 January 2009 (M) - I want some things with my girlfriend. How can I encourage her to let me see her in the nude in a non crude way? Should I tell her that I would consider it an honor to see her naked? I don’t know if I can just go up to her and just start taking off ...

I want another baby and my partner is dead set against it!

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20 January 2009 (F) - I have known my boyfriend for 13 years. During this time he has had 3 children by 3 different women and I have been married twice with one child, so we have both had our problems. Now we have got together and plan to get married. My issue is that I ...

I was wondering how old you are before you stop getting crushes?

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20 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I was wondering how old you are before you stop getting crushes? I'm 26 and for the past 2 years have had the hugest crush (or so I think it is) on 1 of my senior managers at work. Every time I see him I get this thud feeling in my stomach and ...

I have found pictures of naked girls on my boyfriend's phone...

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20 January 2009 (F) - I have found pictures of naked girls on my boyfriend's phone in the past, but the last one I found was a shock. He said this girl, who we will call Cassie, was only a friend, but I found pictures of her that she had sent to his phone. This was not ...

I really want to orgasm while having actual intercourse.

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20 January 2009 (F) - Basically I really want to orgasm while having sex and as funny as it seems I'm finding it hard, I need some tips on how to, because when my boyfriend goes down on me or uses his fingers I do within minutes but never through sex???...

Do I love him enough to keep trying, or give up?

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20 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. We have had many issues thuoughout the years but have overcome most of them. He says he loves me and in the past I never doubted how I felt for him. We have spoken about marrage and kids. In...

Haven't had great success in the past, I want to trust this guy but I really don't entirely

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20 January 2009 (F) - hi everyone! Oh where to start... well ever since my very first boyfriend at 13 i've never had one guy stay faithful! Now dont get me wrong at the age of 13 you cant exactly be planning weddings and lives together but it still had an effect on my ...

I've got a g/f but can't get this guy out of my head

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20 January 2009 (M) - Hi Im bi sexual well im more into women really. Though i have been chatting to this older guy online. This guy gay and i have seen him on webcam and must say i find him attractive. He wants to meet for a beer and a chat but im not sure i have a gf...

I need to come out to my parents before my GF's stepmom outs me!

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20 January 2009 (F) - I need some major help. On Friday my girlfriend and I will celebrate our one month anniversary. My parents have no clue I'm dating a girl or that I'm bisexual. My girlfriend's stepmom is a pain and treats her horribly. She punishes my gf con...

How do I get the oourage to actually speak to him and not just text him?

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20 January 2009 (F) - dear cupid hi last week i wrote with a problem i have had a crush on a boy for about a year.i got his number off his mate and and i have been textinghim for about A MONTH he wants to talk to me but i find it hard to pluck up the courage. i saw y...

Is it cheating to kiss a girl when I have a boyfriend?

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20 January 2009 (F) - I'm bisexual and i have a boyfrind. But is it wrong to check out other girls when i have a boyfriend? Is it cheating to kiss a girl, even though it is a different sex then my boyfriend?...

I need to stop being mean to him but no matter how hard I try I can't do it.

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20 January 2009 (F) - I'm in my fourth serious relationship now and I'm only 19. However this relationship isn't different to any other, I'm so so happy, he's 22 and I love him with all my heart, we have such a laugh and we connect so well and what's even better is that ...

Stressful experience, now sexually vacant. Please help.

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20 January 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years. 4 of those years were sexually spectacular. Last December she became pregnant. It turned into an ectopic pregnancy and she had to have surgery. She was in the hospital for a night, and in be...

She loves me but we have nothing in common !!!!

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20 January 2009 (M) - My girlfriend wants to settle down and get married, but I’m just not ready yet! I don’t even know if I want to be with her. I’m 28 and she is 29 We been together for 5 years, she it Italian and I’m from Holland, the last 2 years we out relations...

I feel as though he doesn't love me any more.

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20 January 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now in a long distance relationship and i love him. Because we live far away from each other we use msn to see each other on webcam but before he got into a social site he never really went on msn. Now i se...

How do I pace myself during sex?

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20 January 2009 (M) - Hey, I'm 16 years old and I have had sex only 3 times before, all with different girls. Recently I met a girl that I really like and after 2-3 weeks of seeing her we had sex for the first time. When it happened I ended up coming too fast and I kn...

Sex drive worries!

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20 January 2009 (F) - I have been in an relationship for 2 years but we spilt up for 6 months and now are back together and everything is happy. One thing - I don't think I have a high sex drive like him and we spilt up because it. Advice please....

How can I make her believe that I love her so much knowing she didn't feel my love before?

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20 January 2009 (M) - Dear readers who support this page, I begin my question with the story with my loved one and only GF. First of all I've been in relationshiop now (LDR) I can say relatioship is going strong even where far, we both committed for each other and s...

COKE problem!

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20 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I don't really know who to talk to about this... and not sure whether I am being too harsh or not and I would like to know a reasonable fair way to deal with my scenario. In a nutshell I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months. He is a...

Why am I so low down on his list of priorities?

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20 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is travelling Europe at the moment with his best friend for 7 months, he has been gone 2 months now. At first he was keeping in touch frequently, but now I have not heard for 3 weeks. I know his dad has heard from him a few days ago, ...

He was cheated on and now I am paying for loving him.

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20 January 2009 (F) - I am 18 and my ex bf (now we're talking again) he is 28. He is so insecure he always believe I am with someone. i am in PA and he is in Puerto Rico. when i was over in puerto rico he was always cheking my phone he was always calling me and all (bee...

Should I give him up?

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20 January 2009 (F) - Hi I have been seeing a guy for 18 months now. He lives a 2 1/2hr drive away and I don't drive, so mostly I get the train to be with him.(he doesn't like it at mine as he says we live differently to each other and he prefers to be in his own home...

I'm 17, he's 24 should I meet him?

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20 January 2009 (F) - Hey all. Im 17. I like this guy that is 24. We met via mxit. We get along realy well. He also likes me. Theres a festavis where he lifes in april, and i would like to go there and meet him. What do u think of that? Is he to old? Hes so mature ...

Why does he never compliment me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5581 days ago

20 January 2009 (F) - I was just wondering why my guy doesn't compliment me? Even to say I am beautiful (of which I am) or to comment my hair, dressing etc. We have been dating him for 2 weeks now....

I have a feeling that he really is a control freak deep down inside, but just hasn't let his true self out.

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20 January 2009 (F) - Should I break-up with him? I have been with my boyfriend for four (4) years now. We have lived toghether for 2 1/2 years. And he has stated he would like to marry me one day, but we have never made an official engagement or anything. There...

How do I act when my ex calls?

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20 January 2009 (F) - How do I act when he calls? Basically we've been apart for 2 months after 2.5 years. He broke up with me, wanted me back a week later. I said we'll see how he feels after he returns from a 1.5 month holiday to europe. he contacted continuo...

They told my ex I wanted to be friends with benefits.

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20 January 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend broke up for over a week now, I still love her, but the thing is when we broke up I asked 2 of her friends if they want to be like friends with benefits and they told her over the weekend. I know that my ex looks at me as a ...

How can I tell him NO without hurting him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5575 days ago

20 January 2009 (F) - I'm 14 and know I'm not ready for sex just yet but my boyfriend and I are hanging out ALONE with my best friend and her boyfriend next weekend.... he is very very experenced.... but I'm not as much.... I was raped when I was younger but thankfuly ...

Would love sex but have no drive to date a girl...

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20 January 2009 (M) - I don't know what is wrong with me so I really want physical/sexual contact with girls but I have no drive what so ever to date one. I don't know, I could ask out at least 30 off the top of my head that would go out with me. I just don't feel like ...

How do you know it's really completely "over"?

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20 January 2009 (F) - How do you know it's really completely "over"? We never had the talk but I left him because he was being a complete jerk. We were never "committed, exclusive" but casually dating for 4 months. He was on medication from a recent surgery and one ...

Is he an abuser? Am I? (verbal abuse that is). Help!

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20 January 2009 (F) - Help! Did I make a mistake in ending our relationship? If I did, how should I rectify the situation? I read the link on warning signs of dating a loser (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/warning-signs-youre-dating-a-loser.html), and thought that...

Funeral fears!

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20 January 2009 (?) - My girlfriend wants me to go to her dad's funeral (he was 42) with her. Don't wrong me I want to support but I can't handle the whole death thing. I can't even go a funeral home without feeling dizzy I'm worried if I tell her no she'll get even more ...

My heart is with my ex and always has been but I am wearing another man's ring...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

20 January 2009 (F) - Well my situation is very very complicated. I met my true love when I was 16 and we had a child when I was 19. He was 22 at the time and was not ready to settle down so we split and went our seperate ways. I always wanted things to work out ...

I'm jealous and always seem to hurt my girlfriend

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20 January 2009 (M) - Why do I always hurt my girlfriends feelings? I don't understand it it's like everytime I do something it hurts her feelings. I've been with her for seven months now and we seem to fight like almost everyday and I'm getting so tired of it. I'm a ...

Too old to be living at home and no one will date you?

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20 January 2009 (M) - i am still living at home with my parents,but no one is really at home because my father travels with his job. my mother takes care of her parents at their home. so i have been told you are too old to be living at home and no one will date you if y...

Graduation dress ideas please?!

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20 January 2009 (?) - My Bf is Graduating this year but i'm not.. He wants me to get grad photos with him but i have no idea what to wear. Help please! Advice and links to example dresses and hair styles would be much appreciated! :)...

Sex with the ex while I was away

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

20 January 2009 (F) - My partner of 8 months had sex with his ex girlfriend of 2 years behind my back. He'd always made her out to be a bit of a monster, and said she always tret him like shit and he hated her. Apparently she is a real bitch. Once in a hotel when we'...

Family moving again and I am settled!

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20 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm 14, moved to 8 countries and my dad works away, so we always end up moving to where hes at, and recently after living in the uk for 6 months my mum has made plans to move somewhere else, another country, another language, another waste of my ...

Do most men "slut it out" before they turn 40 and settle down?

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20 January 2009 (F) - Do most(single) men "slut it out" and play hard right before they turn 40 and is that to get it out of their system so they can settle down?...

Is it always left for a guy to pay while you're dating?

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20 January 2009 (F) - Ok, question for ya...! Is it always left for a guy to pay while you're dating? Or even afterwards when you make it official?!? I ask this because a few of my guy friends joke around and say..."Nah, I'd rather stay single. It costs a lot to h...