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Archived questions from: July, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

Dating: Help and advice

I've been avoiding sex because I'm afraid of being compared to her other 30 partner!

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 101 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - I have a girlfriend and we have been official for just over a month now. I've known her for 3 years prior to getting involved with her. She is a lovely person, and I'm so glad we are together, but she recently confided in me that she has slept with ...

I thought he was a player, so why is he obsessing over me??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy for almost 2 months, on and off. it seemed like it was going nowhere, so I slept with this other guy I had just met not that long ago. He knew I was already seeing someone and He's kind of a player so I assumed he knew ...

Do I risk the friendship by pushing him into romance?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I am a single mother of two children, never married full time student and full time employee and he is a single father of a handicap child stay at home dad with a side job/hobby of window treatments. We meet on a internet dating site which was set ...

Please help me cope with this shame..

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - i have a great girlfriend, i love her to the point of dying, though i have done something stupid, as i sit here i wonder what all of you will think of this but i really use feed back as a way to cope with everything. so me, my girlfriend who i...

I truly love this guy and I cannot believe it has come to this. What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Oh God, someone help me. So me and my boyfriend of 6 months broke up a month ago and I was devastated. In the month though we have been in constant contact, initiated by him. He even told people we were back together. This guy told me I was his ...

Would you let go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Hi, i have been in a relationship for 5 years, he was my first everything and now i just dont know what to do, he doesnt seem to care anymore, this past week when i didnt call him it was 4 days till we talked, apparently according to him thats ...

Who should initiate things again when we are both afraid of the relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - He was deeply hurt by something he thought I caused. Time has passed and now he knows I did not cause the action. We talked about it and he has overcome this and sees he was wrong. But his reaction caused me extreme hurt and I mean extreme and he ...

Is there any way to make the ex-factor go away?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 114 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is still friends with his ex and I feel uncomfortable about it although I do trust that their relationship is platonic. They were schoolmates and 5 of them (4 guys including my bf plus her) were like really really good friends for a ...

Should I stay with my bf in this circle of revenge?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Hi everyone. So I've been going out with my boyfriend for just a little over 10 months now. We have had two major problems throughout our relationship, otherwise everything has been great. In about the third month of our relationship he started to ...

I'm dying with guilt! I feel like I cheated...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Ok this is kind pf complicated but ill try my best to put it in writing ….I was in a long distance relationship and we were totally in love .We meet and after a past abusive relationship I never thought id ever feel for some1 like I did now. His ...

Will I ever be ready for BIG commitments?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Most of my boyfriends have been really nice, my current bofriend is no exception. He's the best by far and wouldn't ever hurt me. When we first got together, we had conversations about our future; moving in together, children and marriage. When ...

How do I speed things up with her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 97 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - I have been goin out with this girl for about 4 months. But we have not kissed yet. They say let time take its pace but i wish time would go a little faster. what do i do in a situation like this?...

He has a girlfriend but is there any way to get him to like me more?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Okay ... i like this guy , but theres quite a few problems , hes 3 years older than me , my friends have already reacted and called me a slut , but i like him too much to care , he has a girlfriend , but hes had a sort of 'crush' on me. He was alwa...

Lonely and longing for friends but I run away when they try to get close!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 86 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I don't have any friends, and I tend to get quite lonely. However, I find it really difficult to meet people, and nobody seems to want to get to know me, even when I try to be friendly to them. I find it easier to connect with people on the in...

I love him amd know he can be a better man, but his past demons creep into our lives

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - I have been in a relationship for just over two years. The man I am dating has had financial problems from the very beginning. Of course I have helped him out but this has put a strain on our relationship. IN addition to this he has also lied to me ...

I try to break up with him when he's mean, but then he goes back to normal again. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 113 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Why can't I make up my mind? I've been with my boyfriend for two years. Lately he's been acting weird- he's acting rude and careless towards me. So when he's like this I get so mad and I prepare myself to break it off. When I go to do this though, ...

I have no confidence and I really like this girl! What do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - I am 14 years old and am friends with a girl in my year who is also 14. We are really good friends, and can laugh about absolutely anything and everything. We never seem to stop texting each other, to chat as we live in different towns. The problem ...

How can I cheer my cousin up?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Ok so one of my best friends was dating my cousin who is like my brother. I was against it from the start but I they're grown and I felt it wasn't my business to get involved. They've recently broken up and now there both being weird with me. My ...

Betrayed by the one I love most in this world! I need some advice :(

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 107 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - Hello everyone, I feel used and betrayed ;_; I met this girl at work about a month ago and we got on like a house on fire; we have soooo many similarities it's like we're made for each other! Anyway, it's only been recently that I have st...

How do I tell guys I'm not interested?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 111 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I'm finding out there is a couple other guys who like me, but I know I am not attracted mentally or physically. I'm thinking this is because, I like Bob (code name) and I know he likes me so, I'm kind of putting other guys on hold for him. But I k...

Confused and need closure!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - My query is in relation to a girl i met a couple of months ago. She is over 4 years older than me and i am 26. I know that she was married a few years ago but her then husband left her for another woman, this does not bother me in the slightest, ...

Does he still like me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 112 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Hi,im 14 and iv really liked this guy since 6th grade.He's a year senior to me.Were in the same school and he happened to add me on msn and thats how we became good friends.After getting to know each other..he asked me out...but his friends who are ...

My girlfriend and I would like to have a threesome. Is this healthy for our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - my gf and i were discussing our sexual fantacies and we both realised that we both would like to have a threesome but with each of us present when it goes down i would like to know if this is healthy for our relationship...

I'm afraid to confess my feelings in case I lose him as a friend!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 112 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, Well i posted my situation before. Well for the one's who dont know my situation, its the following: I have a situation. I have been liking this boy for over 3 years but I have never gotten the guts to tell him how i felt. When he ...

I'm giving him some space to figure out what he wants; do you think there's still some hope?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I really miss the guy that I was seeing. We saw each other for 2 months. Something was there- he saw something in me and I saw something in him. It seemed like I was the whole package in his eyes (after dating him, he would always talk to his ...

We were so close and helping each other with our problems, but then our feelings for each other got in the way!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 113 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - ok so long story. and yes i have problems.. feels like i cant do anything right lately.. i had a close friend who just got out of a 2 year relationship and then i just got out of my 2 month relationship.. and before that my 1 eyar relationship.. and ...

What can I do to make us grow closer, and maybe even start a relationship together?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 109 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I was 9 years old, and I went camping with my parents. We went to a lake we had never been to before, and by the time we got there and got set up it was almost midnight. There was a camper beside us, and a guy came out and introduced himself, his ...

I love him and want to be with him, but I'm tired of waiting around for him!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 108 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I just broke up with my ex bf a couple months ago because of a stupid argument. I wanted to talk things out a couple days later only to find out (from myspace) that he already got back with his ex-girlfriend 2 days after we broke up! We didnt talk ...

Do I say yes and be his girlfriend? Or listen to my dad and keep away from him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - There was this boy that i like, and he likes me too. He's already told me he likes me and i told him i like him too, but when i told my dad if i can have a Bf, he went all crazy and said that i can't have one Until i'm 18, and i'm barely 15. Then ...

One friend thinks we'd make a cute couple, the other one thinks I was stupid!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Okay, i met this boy, and i really really like him but he's sixteen and i'm thirteen. We're really close though and he tells me everything because we can trust eachother with our lives. So earlier this week we met up town to just talk and stuff, and ...

Is honesty really the best policy??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Okay my situation..is I've been talking to this guy lets call him john well we met and everything it went well at first I was nervous but then i got comfortable.It felt like there was chemistry between us..okay so a couple days later we wanted to ...

I'm just not comfortable with her going out and drinking with a bunch of single guys!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - Me and my girl friend have been together for almost 3 years. Everything was great til about 2 months ago when she said she wanted to go out and party and get drunk and go downtown with her friend. We have never been the couple to do all that. So it ...

Should I tell him how I feel? Sooner or later, I'm going to explode!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Ok here is my problem, I met this guy, he was no ordinary guy. He was sweet and handsome. I really loved him. We were only friends, yes, I know but I never told him about this because I was soo sure that some day he would realize that I love him and ...

Does he still have something for me or is it because he saw I'm a model?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 30 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I used to like this guy a year ago. I could tell he liked me too cuz his body language said a lot. Then I went to a party and hooked up with some guy he never talked to me I guess he was heartbroken.. Then online for months I would write him ...

Her daughter is standing in the way of us taking it to the next level!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Need opinions please. I’m a 47yr old male in great 3.5yr relationship with 50yr woman. The woman lives with her 27yr old daughter and I do not. The daughter smokes pot daily (moms more of a friend than a mom) has dead end job, never has had a car ...

Do I have a good reason to be angry?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I hace been talking to a guy for 2 weeks now and he has a gf. I didnt know that for a while but then when i found out i was furious. I know we arent together but he says hes comfortable in this relaionship and doesnt like the girl shes been pushing ...

Here we are saying we'll wait for each other... What do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 93 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Im going to just let everything out because I want an answer. First off... I can't believe im writing on a site like this.. but from the answers ive seen.. i want to. About 2 years ago.. i randomly added this girl, who lives in germany, she ...

Can a wedding be our first date?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I have been chatting online and on the telephone with a very nice gentleman--lives in my hometown, which is in another state. I am going to an out of town wedding about halfway between us--will be an overnight. He has offered to drive up to meet me ...

What we did felt like more than "just friends," but he has a girlfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I went on a school trip for 12 days recently. I ended getting to be really close friends with a guy I have fancied for a couple of months. On the night I was slightly tipsy and we ended up cuddled on the sofa but were interupted. Then, on the plan...

All I want is to find a girl and develop a relationship like most normal people!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Hi everyone. Just looking for some advice. I am 23 years old and i seem to be having a real problem with finding girls. When i was youner i was often described as a "player" and often messed girls around. I then found a girl who was perfect for me. ...

Puzzled over break up!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Where do i begin. I met this girl on a mates stag do last July in Barcelona. We were both single and not out looking for a relationship. But on that night are eyes met and that was it. Exchanged numbers at end of night with a kiss. Came home and the ...

Do you think she'll cheat and be with another guy?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 9 months. She is on holiday at the moment in Italy with her aunt, but she has gone camping, and has her own tent. For some reason, I keep thinking she is going to cheat on me, depsite the fact that she ...

Why is life so hard when you've found your soulmate?

This question has 35 answers - newest was posted 89 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - What do I do???? I am 45 and in a relationship with an 18 yearold!!! Where do I begin? Well for nearly a 10 months I have been seeing a woman/girl whos is nearly 27 years my junior!!! at first we knew each other as we live close and saw each other ...

Is being a 'Nice Guy' a bad thing?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Girls keep calling me a nice guy. Is this a bad thing? Something definitely isn't working because I've never had a real relationship. I never really get close with girls, or talk to them like close friends. I'm "friends" with a lot of girls, but ...

How can I make him commit to marriage?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - i have been with my boyfrien for 3 years now...he says he wants to het married but has not made a commitment... how do i make him commit to marrieage... i'm almost in my mid 30's and he's 6 years younger than me.... please help!...

If she says I'm perfect for her, why is she still with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Hello everyone, I've met a girl at work, I really like her and she seems to like me too. We sometimes chat to each on MSN to 5/6am some nights and what is shes is nice :) But, there's one problem. She's still currently in a relationship with...

I am not going to continue rewarding abusive behavior! Any suggestions?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I am a single mother and have an 11 year old daughter who has been used to seeing me being abused by her father, my mother, my sister and my father. This abuse from her father escalated when I tried to have a relationship with a man that I was ...

Ladies: Could she possibly want more?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 114 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - I got some great answers from some guys on this but was hoping for a female point of view :) Hi, please help im getting sad :) I have worked with a girl for a year now. up until 2 and a half months ago i had a girlfriend. i always liked th...

Do you agree with what I think could be going on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Hmmm im abit confused...right im friends with a lad hes a lovely guy and everything me and quite afw of my/our friends thought he liked me because of how he acted, and boy he showed it! I was stupid at the time(this was a year n a half ago) kinda ...

What can I get him that's really special for his birthday?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now and we both are seventeen years old. However, his birthday is coming up and I'm not sure on what I should get him. Last year I got him an ipod, and he's getting a new cell phone in November so ...