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Archived questions from: October, 2014 (see latest in Dating category)

Dating: Help and advice

How do you let a man understand that having premarital sex is not the way to go

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3464 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - Any man out here waited for their woman who did not want to have premarital sex and married her? And how are you doing in the marriage. Or do you know of anyone who this worked for? I am recently single two years ago and made a vow to the Lord ...

We've been playing cat and mouse for months. How do I tell him I like him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - Hi, how do I let a guy know i like him? He is a good bit older than me and I know Bim from work. At first he was always looking at me, then he started helping me out all the time then subtle flirting. The problem is how we know each other if he made ...

Shall I tell her how I feel, or move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

31 October 2014 (M) - This is my first time even attempting something like this, so I'll try to make it brief! I have a very good Dutch female friend of mine who lives across the Channel in the Netherlands. I've known her for at least 2 years, ever since I was a st...

Normal for boyfriend to watch shemale porn ?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3462 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - I recently discovered on my boyfriends computer history that he has been watching shemale porn. To be honest I'm very disturbed by it , it had like ladyboy asain boys and guys with girls too but the girls wore strap ons. He had other porn like teen ...

How can I get my partner to drop his friends without making an ultimatum?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - I don't like my partner's friends and it is pulling us apart. 18 months ago we made friends with a couple that live close by. The friendship began with dinner once a month at each others homes. After only meeting a handful of times my partner was ...

His ex best girl friend is back on the scene- should I be worried

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - Hello people- another question for you. Been with my boyfriend now For a year and a couple of months- we live together at his mums house and are very happy until yesterday- he has a week of work (i don't) and he went to a shopping centre yesterda...

What did he mean by "to plant an intention"?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - Dear Aunts, I met this guy through a mutual friend. He is smart, funny and very ambitious. He is 27 and is going to uni sometime soon. We both like eachother but I have my head on and I try to weigh any pros or cons before even starting a relat...

We're moving fast should I ask him for space?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3464 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - Me and this guy have been speaking throughout this past summer via text. Hes funny and charming but hes quite flakey. We finally took things one step further and now we are dating but not official. The flakiness however is really making the spark ...

Worried about girlfriends nightlife

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3461 days ago

30 October 2014 (M) - Ok, my girlfriend is away at college for the past 3yrs and everything has been great. She goes out to drink once in a great while with her friends and I don't mind because I know her friends and they are good people. I myself hate drinking...

It's like I don't know to date him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3466 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - I have been dating this guy for five months now and nowadays he has gotten a behaviour of not calling me at all even when I text him he never replies my text I talked to him about it and I was telling he how its better off if we break up.he got ...

I don't want to be superficial, and I know the problem can be fixed ...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - Hey everyone......There is this guy I have been seeing for a month now.he is a great guy and I like him.but I can't stand his lips.we haven't kissed yet and it's all because his lips gross me out.he has a habit of chewing his lips which is an ...

My ex sees what I did as cheating

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - hi everyone. i have a question for ull. i had been going out with my ex for a bit more than one year and we were on a break. i went out with this other guy for a movie and i kissed him on the cheek and he kissed me on my lips nd i pushed hin away ...

Send BF a naughty video but he has not responded to it yet.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - Hi everyone. My boyfriend is on vacation with his family in China. He will be back in a few days. Yesterday I sent him a naughty video of myself talking dirty and looking very sexy. I was fully clothed but I really stepped it up. Like a real fant...

How can I keep the night going, tactfully?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

29 October 2014 (M) - I'm going on a second date with a girl in a couple of days. We went out for drinks on our first date, which was also the first time we met. Overall, the date went well; it wasn't a smash, but we chatted for over an hour and seem to have some things ...

My boyfriend is great but I need time alone!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. He's really perfect, or as close as can be. He's kind, genuine, smart, has a great job, thoughtful, respectful, our sex is great, my family and friends love him... He has never, ever done me ...

I like the girl I'm dating as a friend but not as a girlfriend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3467 days ago

29 October 2014 (M) - Ive been going out with this girl for about a month now and she's really nice, very sweet but I don't get the nervous butterfly feeling when I'm going to see her and when we don't don't see each other I don't want to see her I know that sounds bad ...

How can I tell him I'd rather have a piece of jewellery than chocolates as a present, and not sound ungrateful?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - So, on my birthday my boyfriend (of about 9 months) bought me chocolates, along with taking me out for dinner and dessert. I enjoyed it, afterwards we spent some time together on the beach and I acknowledge he did spend a fair amount of money on...

I don't know whether I have fallen out of love with my B/f, or whether we are just in a rut from never spending time together

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years exactly (its our anniversary next week), and I don't think I love him anymore. We live together and have a "family" together -- a cat and dog. We have a lovely home together and are saving for out f...

My Boyfriend and his ex-sister in law! I am incandesant with anger over this. What could or should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend slept with his ex sister in-law, so that now has a baby by his brother. I can't get over the past and I don't think I ever will. I hate that "BITCH" and she's part of their family which I can't stand!!!What should I do about this s...

Is it normal for a woman to be completely addicted to her man?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

29 October 2014 (M) - Hey everyone, I have been lately observing 2 of my friends and how they behave in their relationships, and I have been wondering a lot about whether this is the right way for a couple to be. The 2 examples (especially the 2nd one) are rat...

I orgasm when alone, yet lose the orgasm when with my Bf. Yes he's caring with foreplay. What needs to change?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - Hello ! So I'm having a issue with reaching an orgasm with my boyfriend . He's 5 years older then me and he's the best lover I have ever had ( I think it's because he's older ) but anyways I have never climaxed with anybody that I have been ...

I really like this guy, but I can't figure him out. Any tips please to help me understand?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - I've been hanging out with this guy I met in class. He's 23. At first, he would just text me about school stuff. Then, he started asking me to hang out with him. We would talk almost everyday and its mostly him contacting me first. So, the first ...

What can I do to create the spark we used to have? What needs to change?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3466 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - We've been together for 5 years and we lose that spark we had before. We almost argue and fight all the time and we broke up 3 months before and now getting back together again. But things have changed and so do our feelings. He said he doesn't ...

I do miss him. But first I want him to miss me. So HOW do I ensure that he really misses me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - Okay so there is this guy I like. recently we hung out and he told me how he thinks i'm beautiful and that he likes my personality. I like him a lot too hes really cool, and we seemed to have been getting a long just fine, but the problem is. ...

I think of him and his ex having sex and it makes me feel wierd

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3468 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - my boyfriend wants to have sex. so do i. i really love him. weve been in a relationship for five months now. the thing is, im a virgin. hes had sex with his ex girlfriend and i knew her before we got together. every time he brings up sex, i think of ...

I resent her, and feel bad about not forgiving her, this time. Is it time to break up with her?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3461 days ago

28 October 2014 (M) - On Wednesday night I found out my girlfriend had been actively looking for someone on a dating site, after logging into the account I seen she was flirting/dirty talking with this other person, I confronted her the second I found it. We've been...

My Dad has told me he's disowning me for spending the night with my Bf. Feel incredibly hurt. What can I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3468 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I'm sorry if this post is lengthy and/or complicated. I'm 19 years old, and ever since I turned 18, I've been having more and more issues with my dad. My parents are divorced, and are very different from each other. My dad is very overprotecti...

Is it normal for a boyfriend to mock his girlfriend for being pretty?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3468 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Is it normal for my own boyfriend to mock me for being pretty? I've always been insecure about my looks, especially when it comes to him. Although it's gotten much better now (been together for about 3 yrs), I always have doubts about how I look ...

How can the spark be returned to our relationship? What needs to change or improve?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3468 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Well, we've been together for 5 years and we lose that spark we had before. We almost argues and fight all the time and we broke up 3 months before and now getting back together again. But things has changed and so do our feelings. He said he ...

How did we go from an initial attraction to FWB and then to now, where he's making little effort to keep the relationship going?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3458 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - So, there's a guy (isn't there always) who I met at the end of my long term relationship. He's separated and in the middle of a nasty court battle re kids. He and I initially bonded over our dislike of our exes (great baseline, I know) and have dis...

Why does she resort to passive aggressive and avoidance behavior?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3468 days ago

27 October 2014 (M) - Why does my girlfriend often resort to this type of behavior? She is an adult but I sometimes feel like she is stuck in the past. She'll try to lure me into making plans by giving me a yes or no option, but when the answer doesn't go along with he...

When do you completely let all your walls down and let a man love you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3469 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I just read a quote that spoke to me. "Never give all yourself to someone who has not made a life commitment to you...dating should not have the same benefits as marriage" Well I truly believe in this quote but question myself. I've been hurt bad...

Met online. He's separated but still married. Did he break up due to me questioning him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3469 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I really need your advice here- I'm female (27) been dating this amazing man (35) who's separated but still married that I met online, -we went on four amazing dates (2 dinners, drinks and an art exhibition). We instantly clicked and we had amazing ...

Trying to process my 60 year old mother's cavallier attitude to taking a married lover. How do I deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3469 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I'm having some issues with my mother right now. She called me tonight to get my opinion on if I would be okay with her sleeping with a man a few years older than me. I told her I didn't care about the age factor. Then I commented that a...

How do I get over these lingering feelings for J without losing him as a friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3462 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - It might be long, so please bear with me. I'll start off with some basics. I am currently 20 and my boyfriend is 21 years old (we'll call him K). We've been together for almost 3 and a half years, since my junior year in high school, and his...

Is it mean to take back my necklace that my boyfriend wants to keep?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3469 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Hey, so I'll make this short and sweet. I needed a second opinion, because my friend said that this was a bad idea. Last week when I was over at my boyfriend's house I left my FAVORITE guitar pick necklace, it's my absolute favorite necklace...

Am I right to stay with him when there are so many issues in our relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3470 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I'm so confused. I don't know if I want to be with my partner of 7 years any more?? The trouble is we have been together for all this time and I wouldn't know what to do or who I am without him. It has been getting clearer over the last year that we ...

My fiancé has been hiding our engagement because he's afraid of what his friends will think!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3470 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I just got engaged about 2 months ago. Since becoming engaged, he has told me that he thinks the word "fiancé" is stupid and he's not going to say it…so he continues to call me his girlfriend instead. He is also ...

Unhappily married. Is this younger man interested in me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3469 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Is this younger man interested in me? I am an unhappily married woman who is re-considering her options. One of the main reasons I am still married is for my 2 young children. My husband suffers from a mood disorder, depression and anxiety. In ...

Big difficulties ahead. Will this relationship last? What other options are open to me, to consider?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3470 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - A year ago, I was ready to move to another city, transfer to finish school and leave sex work behind. I had been an escort for over 2 years, had a failed marriage and a child not living with me because of my unstable and crazy lifestyle (he lives ...

Have I already ruined my chance to ever be aroused by a man because of my porn addiction and my enjoyment of masturbation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3470 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I don't know if this question is appropriate for this site, but I really need to talk to someone about this. Please help. I'm a 19 yr old girl addicted to pornography. I had never had sex (or anything sensual/intimate with anyone) until last ...

My ex chose to become engaged 6 days after we broke up. Should I even listen to her explanation?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3470 days ago

26 October 2014 (M) - My ex left me for another man who is fat, creepy old, and has a 19yr old daughter. The next day after breaking up, shes in a relationship. 6 days after, they are engaged. She is 23, he is 36. She Is a model and gorgeous, and he is disgusting. I su...

He's lied to me multiple times. And Cheated. Should I be 'over it' as he claims?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3464 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I have a question that I need both male and female point of views on: My fiancé in the beginning of our relationship went around my back and began to be unfaithful. He had a second phone to do all his "dirty work" on. I noticed a change in his pe...

Only ever had sex with my BF so how could my BF have given me HPV? Is his excuse plausible? Or has he been cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3469 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - It seemed really strange I developed HPV from my boyfriend. I confronted my boyfriend after my doctor told me I had HPV. At this point I'm sure he was cheating, how else would he get it, how else would I get it. We lost our virginity together, so I ...

At 27 is my lack of experience with girls and no dating experience a red flag and an impediment when trying to date girls?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3470 days ago

26 October 2014 (M) - I'm 27 nearly 28 in December, and I've never had a relationship with a woman. I used to be the gamer guy who played too much up till I was 26 and I had enough and wanted to change my life. The thing is I only really started asking women out only ...

He's abusive. Why do I take him back, even though I know he is not good for me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3470 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid Where do I start? I was with my ex was 4 years. Earlier it used be fun, for past few months the verbal emotional abuse is more than I can take. He withdraws affection and love. Makes me beg with him to even talk to me, at last talks to...

What should I do about my partner of 5 years who has recently become aggressive and has come close to fighting with my family?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3470 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I have been with my partner for 5 years now We live together but are not married nor do we have children Recently he has become very aggressive to the point where he has been nearly getting into fights with my family I feel lost and heart brok...

Will my Bf care that I lack close friends? Been studying and establishing a career.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3470 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I've always been an independent person but I'm wondering if my boyfriend would be concerned that I have no close friends. I graduated this spring and have been working since. I enjoy my job which mainly involves communicating with customers an...

I've been dating him for 2 years and he won't show me where he lives?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3458 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I have been dating a man for two years but he refuses to show me where he lives.he took me to visit jis family out of state; but he can't show me where he live in state.he tells me he lives with a family member.he get many excuses about the ...

Why has he turned off sex, with me, yet initially he was enthusiastic?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3469 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Good day everyone!! Im in need of some advice. Im a healthy 36 yr old woman who is engaged to a 32 yr old man that I of course love to death. We have been together for just over 2 years now. And sad to say already having problems in the bedroom. W...