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Archived questions from: 5 October, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

So much drama with this girl...is it worth it?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5282 days ago

5 October 2009 (M) - I know this looks long but the question is short. 2/3 of it is just part of the argument we had that id like you guys to weigh in on. This is kinda a follow-up to my earlier question: http://www.dearcupid.org/quest...

Will this move cause more problems for us?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - Hi everyone. I'm struggling whether I should move in with my boyfriend or not. We've been together for two years, all of which has been far from rosy. We live two hours apart and since day 1 his much younger ex girlfriend has caused us many pro...

Like her, but don't want to be hurt anymore. What can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5323 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - My ex and I broke up one month ago after she told me that she has feeling for someone else. We became best friends 6 years ago and were best friends for 3 years of high school, then she confessed her feelings for me. It was a turbulent time for me ...

I want to be more than friends. How do I bridge that gap?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

5 October 2009 (M) - I've known this girl for almost a year. We use to hang out all the time and she had a boyfriend.There would be signs that she liked me. Like one time I was going away for a week and she hugged me goodbye, and I said I'll call you when I get back, ...

When will the awkward flirting/crush period stop?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - When will the awkward flirting/crush period stop? or well I mean, I'm just waiting for him to ask me out but he hasn't yet... I am pretty sure he has a huge crush on me because he is always doing these things: We were sitting at dinner yester...

How do I convince my mam to let me date him again?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5288 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - My ex,, i still like him loads,, but it was a complicated relationship before all because of the lies my uncle was telling my mam when he didnt even know the boy i was going with,, he never knew his name or out but my uncle was telling my mam that ...

She's just not that into me and should I forget it!!!

This question has 25 answers - newest was posted 5187 days ago

5 October 2009 (M) - Hi :) I've been seeing the lady for 5 months now. She is 41, 2 kids separated for 3 years and her life is upside down - no job, bankrupt and mentally exhausted but an amazing women. She is trying to get out of it and probably will but who knows. I...

I've always just 'felt' like she's gay despite her claiming she's straight

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - I guess I'm just wanting advice on whether this girl i'm mad about is gay. I fell in love with her over a year ago and it was the first time i've ever liked a girl so its taken me a pretty long time to accept it. But now i'm confident with the fact ...

Am so used to being used and mistreated, it's what I look for now in a relationship! How do I end the cycle?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

5 October 2009 (M) - Is there something wrong with me? Has this really changed me? I was in a bad relationship where I was lied and cheated on. I forgave her and it just never got better. Things ended kind of with occasional relapses in hanging out. I absolutely was ...

Should I carry on trying to take things further?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - hi. I know this might sound a bit stupid but i am totally unbearablely obsessed with this guy. We don't know each other very well but we have been going to the same hockey club for 1 or 2 years and he's recently started at the same school as me. ...

I had a bad accident, will women want to date me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

5 October 2009 (M) - I haven't dated in over 17 years and I don't want to be alone forever. I was nearly killed in a car accident when I was 24(I'm 41 now).I was a bodybuilder at the time,which doctors say probably saved my life.I was drunk(.33)4 times the limit....

How serious should I take it when he says we are not having sex, we are making love?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - Ok aunts...this is tricky...im curious how far am i suppose to go when considering the words that are said during sex...i know some talk sh*t when making out and it's just apart of sex...but this guy told me we weren't having sex we were making ...

Once we had sex he changed.Does he see me as nothing?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - Okay there is this guy that I really like. If you've read one of my similar posts I stated that he was ignoring me. I gave my virginity to him and afterwards he started ignoring me. I told him that I really liked him but he doesn't want to hear it. ...

Is he ever going to use his full potential?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, and we clicked immediately. It went smoothly for the longest time, but I questioned weather he was over his ex or not. Now, I think he is mostly over her, but I still question it occasionally. ...

Do I stand up and keep fighting or let him go? Male opinions needed!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - So - I'm in need of male advice/guidence. I was in a 4 year relationship. 2 years or so into it, he had an affar with the 23 year old receptionist at his work. (I am 33 he is 30). We were not doing well, so I took that into consideration and decided ...

He lied about his age. What should I do now?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5318 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - I met a guy who told me he was 18 going on 19..things developed fast and I think I've fallen for him, only for him to tell me he's 16. I'm 22. I'm confused and told him I need time to think. What should I do?...

Should I go out with a boy who is my "soul mate"? Everyone thinks we need to!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - we were out for the day me an my mates and we ran into this boy who is my soul mate hes exactly like me we have the same personalty and everyone says we need to go out and he really likes me but im really not attracted to him but sometimes i think i ...

I'm trying to be respectful of her request for space but I feel like I've lost the only thing that matters to me

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5 October 2009 (M) - I have been dating the most wonderful woman in the world for the past 10 months. She and I have always told each other that we see the other as our one true soul mate, and we often talk about getting married and spending our lives together forever ...

How likely is it that he will stop wanting to see me because I need to lose a few pounds?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - I've been dating this guy for about 2.5 months. Last night I was at his house and we were messing around and he started to undress me. Just before we started dating I gained about 10 lbs, and even though I know my weight/body is average, I'm very ...

My mum doesn't like my boyfriend, how can I explain it to her so she will let me get back with him?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - Well, I Was with this boy before but my uncle went and told lies about him to my mam so my mam started not to like him, when i broke up with him i cant stop thinking of him i really want him back but i just dont know how to explain it to my mam so ...

I want him so badly

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5149 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - My best friend has a girlfriend but I sometimes feel that he's sick of her and he's flirting with me. Sometimes he tells me that he loves her alot, anyway I love him so much and I can't get over him. I don't know what i'm going do but all I know is ...

My friend cant decide which ex to go out with again

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - Dear cupid, my friend has 5 old boyfriends she likes one of them alot but he's ignoring her. Another one who used to love her alot but trying to make her jealous to get her back and the last who's really cute and likes her, but there's this new guy ...

I have a crush on him but I think he is still in love with his ex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - dear cupid, i have a crush on this guy and have been crushing on him since last year.. but i think he's still in love with his ex-girlfriend.. but he's always laughing with me and winking at me should i go for it? what should i do?...

We tried a couple swap but he couldnt perform, and now he isnt speaking to me!

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 5246 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - A new man I have been dating asked if we could try a swap. A couple swap. I agreed, out of adventure, and because I wasn't in love with him. We have a NSA arrangement, but not just 100% sexual.He talked like I was steady GF, and acted like it wi...

His constant sexual innuendos are making me think he is just after one thing, I just want a normal conversation with him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - Hello Just wanted a bit of advice on how to take this guy ... Ok have been talking for a few months when ever I saw him, he works near me. He would always come over and speak to me whenever I saw him, we would chat for a while and he would always s...

What's the best way to react when he calls me and I'm already out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5323 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - The man i used to date last year doesn't give me a lot of interest and as he says he isn't eager for a serious relationship. However i like to go out with him and when he asks me we usually arrange to meet each other. Sometimes he calls me when i ...

There are too many obstacles in the way of being together, but do you think he still loves me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - Well I met this guy through one of my friends in London, it was her cousin. when I was about 16. He was sooo cute looking ... I just knew he was the one. We were both very shy so we didn't verbally talk to each other as in face to face or phone we ...

I'm starting to think of him a lot - where do I go from here?

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5 October 2009 (F) - hi, two years ago i dated this guy that i deeply fell in love with. we dated for two weeks then broke up. nine months later, we dated again for four months and it didnt work out again. we were just high school kids, so we made a lot of mistakes, we ...

Am I too boring? Is this why guys don't like me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5298 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - I am a bit confused. I am almost 20 and i have yet to go on a date. I also have never held hands, hugged, or even kissed a guy before. I consider myself to be fairly attractive...kind of plain. I'm what most people would consider to be a goody ...

I am too scared to leave him for fear of what he might do!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - I have so many troubles about my current boyfriend.For 2 years,I was taking good care of him.He didn't have work and no proper place to live.I was paying his rent and buying his groceries,giving him money for his fare everyday to look for job.I end ...

I don't know what to do with this fine, Mexican boy!!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

5 October 2009 (?) - im still trying to get a boyfriend without being so desperate. im mean ive been asked out a few times, but not by the right guys. Here's a follow up. Ok, last year ive been looking up ways to suduce, flirt, all kinds of stuff with this one boy. It...

My boyfriend is pressuring me to go farther than I want

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - my boyfriend wants more then just kissing..he gave me a hickey i didnt want it.... he is making me feel uncomfortable by touching me!!! and i told him to stop and he yells and says its like we are just friends nothing more... and he has slaped me ...

Is it too weird to date my ex's friend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - I dated my ex boyfriend for about 6 months. We have been broken up for about the same amount of time now ( he broke up with me and started dating his ex) i was sad because we got along great and things were getting a bit serious between us, so it ...

Should I marry him or not?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - i had a 2 years relationship wd my bf...well,i've always been waiting for him to propose and whenever i brought up the subject to him he'd say to me he aint ready and that used to tear my heart apart...well,lately he surprised me by proposing to me ...

I need to get a partner and gain sexual experience! Any tips?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

5 October 2009 (M) - I'm a nineteen-year-old male college student who has never kissed a girl. I don't lack the tools necessary: I'm physically attractive, funny, and a hecka bomb musician. My problem is that I am afraid to make a mistake. I didn't even kiss the fi...

Could I be missing a hormone or something?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - Okay so this is my first time doing this so bare with me...im 19 yrs old and i am a newlywed...it will be a year in December. I love my husband to death but i can count on one hand how many times we have had sex. not because of him but because of ...

Is he in it just for a good time?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - So I've met this guy and he is just exactly what i've been looking for for a while. He is very good and im good around him, he doesnt seem like a guy who would treat a girl wrong, when he looks at me i see it in him eye that he is really into me and ...

Is she into me...or not?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5324 days ago

5 October 2009 (M) - I really need some advice for a woman I'm interested in, because she's been very ambiguous (hot and cold) towards me. She is a former co-worker and a friend, and over the past week, we were hanging out quite a bit. Initially, she showed all t...

I can't believe I let it happen...what do you think I should do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - Hi.. I am married and completely in love. He's in the military so he's been away for 3/4 of the time i've known him. We decided to be officially together about two weeks before he left for the first time. I'd only known him 2 weeks before that and...