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Dating: Help and advice

Will I miss my chance if I wait?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (M) - It's been a couple of years since I was last in a long-term relationship, but there's a girl I've been getting to know over the last few months and I feel like something could happen between us. Here's where it gets complicated. One of her bes...

Should the guy always lead?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (M) - I've been taught that on dates, the guy does all the leading. Leading toward sex, cool. But do girls (the types who can get any guy) have to have the guy leading everything else too? I guess it's not as attractive if the guy doesn't feel like the ...

How can I prove that I love him? I'll do whatever it takes!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - I need help from anyone that can relate. I am compleately head of heels in love with my ex. We broke up less than two months ago and I've tried and tried to get over him, but at the end of the day he's all I think about and the only person I want to ...

His retreats are hurting me! How can I bring us closer?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and get I get very close and then he retreats again. Pushing himself into work to maintain distance. Is there anything I can do to help him alleviate his fear. He was married once and he said it took him 3 years to get over it. I ...

I am getting abuse for dating a younger guy!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - i have rencently got involved wit a 16year old boy... i have only been seeing him a few days and he is so old for his age. i have alot of feeling for him and he is such a gentleman and makes me feel good about my self. the only problem is i am get...

Is it not normal to mention an absent partner as a way to put off unwanted attention?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - I have been in a long distance relationship for 2 years now. Last night, my boyfriend called me, drunk, after attending a wedding. He told me I should be proud of him as he had been sitting next to a hot woman who had been hitting on him a...

What does it mean when he constantly pulls his pants up when he's around you?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - Just a quick Q..... What does it mean when a man constantly pulls his pants up when hes near you? I talk to this man and about 70% of the time hes pulling up his pants or adjusting them (hes not wearing them so low they show his boxers....)...

He can be abusive and uncommunicative but I don't want to hurt him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - I have been with my current boyfriend for almost two years now. We have had many rows over the past yrs and they have ended miserably. He can be very abusive and uncommunicative. I feel like he brings out the worst in me. I did break up with hi...

Could my fantasy happen or is it just wishful thinking?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - Thanks for taking the time to help. Ok so at my center of work there's a woman who fancy's me, I think... I am woman and I have only been with men, the thought of another woman turns me on but I have never acted on it.. I am dating a nice fe...

He hooked up with my sister so did I do the right thing?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - I have been casually seeing a guy since June. We started to get closer in July, and when i hooked up with another guy, he felt hurt. We talked about it, and made up. At a graduation party a week later, i was there with my family, and he was there as ...

How do I know he's seriously interested?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - A guy i like ( a good friend at my university) gave me some clear indications of a possibility of something promising, but I feel he doesn't really take the pains to make me feel special. I am somewhat shy, maybe I didn't jump at his signals, but I ...

Can you like a guy but not be attracted to them?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - So I was wondering can you like a guy but not be attracted to them? Hope that doesn't sound rude... I like guys for their personalities, but most of the time I also consider them somewhat attractive. But I met this guy here at college...he sit...

I cheated, and I'm afraid my b/f is going to find out

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - i need urgent help, please. i made a very big mistake. i cheated on my boyfriend. it started off just texting and emailing, then lead to meeting up and kissing. the guy i had an affair with has kept all the texts and one photo. he wont delete them. ...

Are there stereotypes about cowboy boots I am unaware of?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - I am a 26-year old young professional and I have been dating a 30-year old man for almost two years. I recently mentioned that I wanted a pair of cowboy boots to wear over jeans just to go around the town with him because I liked the look. He pr...

He wants to take things to the next level. Will he dump me if I don't?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - i am totally in love with my bf and he loves me but he thinks we should move on to the next step and that is sex what should i do? me and my bf have bein going out for 6 years i was in six grade and he was my brothers friend in 8th grade. i am 16 ...

What can I do to stop this feeling?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - Someone plz give me some advice!!! I have no trouble talking to guys ... I can flirt just fine and ive had guys like me before and some even ask me out.. Not to brag but alot! So i have no troublemaking guys like me but the only thing is when i d...

I crave a better body!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (?) - hello, i am 16, have a bf of 3 months now who is 19. he is so supportive and i know he loves me and always tells me how gorgeous i am. the problem is, i crave a better body! i am 5'2" 104 lbs. i workout constantly, every single day i go to yoga and ...

Can someone help me with several questions I have about my fiance?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - My fiance and I are truly in love, soulmates, friends and we are very attracted to each other. He arouses me and I feel very sexy, gorgeous and desirable when I am with him. He has a very nice size and this would make sex perfect but for some reason ...

Is there too much history or could he still be interested?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - What does he want??? Ten years ago me and my friends hung around with a group of guys, one of them, Pete was always quite flirty with me and the attraction was mutual. Pete always had girlfriends so our freindship never developed. I started to date ...

Am I cheating on her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (M) - Hi. I am 21 and I have a girlfriend for the last 2 years. Here is somethng that is wrong. She is never ready for a physical relation and I have been craving for it. She says that it would be "cheating and ditching her parents if we do it before ...

Will I ever have sex? Please help because I'm starting to panic!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (M) - Hi friends! Actually I thought a lot before writing this message but finally decided to do it. Maybe my situation will very common and not interesting for you, but I really hope for your understanding and help. So I am 20 years old guy and stil...

Is he playing emotional games with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - I've being seeing this SWAT officer for over a year, it being a rollar coaster. I'm starting to think that his emotionally unavailable, his 40 years old with no kids, never being married. When we once started seeing each other everything was fine, ...

How does a guy get that kind of attention?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

4 October 2009 (M) - I'm a guy and I'm 24. The thing is I'm still a virgin and at this point it really feels like I'll never have a girlfriend. Is that wrong? I'm more likely to believe that I've got a better chance at ending world hunger rather than landing a date. ...

What if he rejects my advances?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5315 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - ok i go to this school where last year during a trip to france i fell in love with this boy hes smart athletic and to me really really cute, but im just really ordinary i dont have a modal figure im not really popular and im not that confident ...

Single for a year and just can't stand it!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - dear cupid, i'm so desperate.. i dont know what to do i've been single for a year and i cant stand it anymore.. is it me?? thoe guys do tell me that im pretty but i don't know whats the problem i need someone there for me when i need him to be..what ...

Falling in love when you feel like a broken doll

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - I think i found mister right but i have major trust issues from previous relationships and he says everything i want to hear and treats me like a princess but I'm scared that i will get hurt cause of the distance he has to go to Florida for college ...

Why would a guy stop chasing a girl after they kiss?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5325 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - why would a guy stop chasing a girl after they kiss?? but still seems to be intersted yet not as eager as before? is it because he has the girl and doesnt need to chase?...

Is He Going to Commit to You?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5304 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - Spending your time dropping hints or asking a man where things are going is wasting air. Please stop chasing men down for commitment and start learning how to inspire a man to commit to you. We know how difficult it is to change behavior because...

We have become good friends, and I'm too shy to ask him out. Any ideas?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, last year some guy asked me out a few times and I said no. We've been talking a lot and have become really good friends. we have sooooo much in common and i think i might like him. Some of my friends think he's mean and that hes not good...

Should I wait more after my break up or take it slowly with this new guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - Hello again, everyone... I ended a 4 years relationship about 2-3 months ago, it was awful for me to go through that, but everyday im feeling more detached from it. I started college a few weeks after my ex and i broke up, and although i made fri...

Is it wrong for me to go over my friend's house and why?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

4 October 2009 (M) - hi, I have been with the same girl for about two years now and like all couples we have had our ups and downs. We lived together for about a year and after I neglected her she started to "act" like she didn't care anymore about us or our ...

Is it right for me to help my unemployed boyfriend financially?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - I love my boyfriend and i really want to be with him but he does not have a job i feel like as a girlfriend i should have his back and help him as much as i can but i dont want to be taken advantage of he has not asked me for any money or any help ...

Is he just saying what he thinks I want to hear?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - Ive been with my boyfriend for almost two months and a few weeks ago he told me that he was in love with me and that he wanted me to move in with him although we are both young im 19 and he is 22 we both have our own places i like him alot and could ...

Is every single girl obsessed with looks?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (M) - Ok. Im 16 and male. I am quite intelligent, although lack in strength and im not the best-looking person one could meet...although im not the worst. I dont understand teen girls much as you can probably guess but whenever I get my hopes up it just ...

Should I take the internship or move in with my boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We've been apart now for 8 months, and I will see him first in 3 more months. We both want to be closer to each other, and I would love to move in with him after New Years. However, I am a ...

She's not particularly pretty, so should I end it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (M) - I met a girl over the weekend that I've been talking to online since then. I think her personality is absolutely AMAZING. I LITERALLY can't remember the last time I've had THIS much fun talking to a girl. Ever. And we've both made it clear to each ...

He broke up with me, started seeing another girl, but says he still loves me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - Ok, heres the thing: I had this boyfriend for about four months. He was like the best. But he was also a flirt. There was one girl (who was actually my ex best friend) that he always flirted with and hung out with more than me. One day, he brok...

Called me "darling"..is he interested?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

4 October 2009 (F) - If a guy gives you a hug, calls you darling, says " i'll not be two seconds " when he walks away from you, comes back to speak to you again, and then asks what you are doing later on and gives you his mobile number, is he attracted to you or could ...