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writes:I've known this girl for almost a year. We use to hang out all the time and she had a boyfriend.There would be signs that she liked me. Like one time I was going away for a week and she hugged me goodbye, and I said I'll call you when I get back, and she said "your going to text me right?!!!" and then I hugged her again I pulled away and she pulled me back. I couldn't take it anymore and I told her that I liked her and she said "thanks for being honest and you are such a great friend. Like you have always been there for me whenever I needed you. But me and 'C****' are together, and I really really care about him. I would definitely love to still be friends and thanks for being honest with me"Now they have broken up and I asked her to hang out and she said I would love to. But she said she always loves to hangout with a good friend. What do I do? I like this girl so much and I really want to be with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): Don't say the words 'hang out', because she knows you like her. Say, 'I want to know you a lot better', and proceed to find out more about her.Then say, 'I would like to go to x with you. I'll pick you up at x.xxpm.... Cancel if you don't want to go :)' Then go do something else.Make most of the decisions while on the date, and watch for positive signs from her. Offer your hand when it seems obvious from her signs, and she may seem like she wants to be kissed. Do so! She may give a negative vibe at some point to test you.But don't worry, and don't pressure her. Pressure is what the loser does (doesn't mean you'll be together though). When you let go of the need to pressure, you are more relaxed.It's just something to try
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reader, boo22  +, writes (6 October 2009):
 Hi there, i think you two should go out, have fun together. Then muster up the courage and ask her out. You'll be glad you did either way.If she says yes, then fantastic! If the answers no, then at the very least you will have put yourself out of your misery.Do something about it or you'll regret it. Some other guy might get in there before you, then what?Go for it! good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): Just continue to be honest with her. If she continues to flirt with you without wanting to be with you, I would just let her go. You did the right thing my professing your feelings to her but don't let her use it against you. If she has just broken up with this guy she might be feeling vulnerable and use you to make herself feel better. Does that make sense? Don't let her string you along. On the other hand, she just might not see you that way and just wants to be friends. You might have to either accept that or move on. Good luck, I hope it works out for you.
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