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writes:I dated my ex boyfriend for about 6 months. We have been broken up for about the same amount of time now ( he broke up with me and started dating his ex) i was sad because we got along great and things were getting a bit serious between us, so it kinda took me by surpsie.... so after the break up ive been stupid so we have still been seeing each other and sleeping together every now and then.... and just rescently hopefully we stopped. we had a talk few days ago that it will stop for sure this time!!! i know that he still has feelings for me and i do for him also, but it is not love...and i really just want to move on from him.i have been trying to date since we have been broken up but i have not been able to meet anyone i like and that i dont compare to him. well about a month ago i met a guy that i am finally a little interested in. just rescently we have been only texting back and forth, i never actually met up with him. the issue i have: He is one of my exes friends!! weird thing is i would NEVER do that, but i have not met this guy through my ex, i met him randomly and by some crazy coincidence, they have known each other for 5 yrs and are good friends that just havent hung out in a while... my question is, would it be weird if i was to go on a date with him. i dont know if this new guy told my ex he is interested in me, but he did ask me if i dated him and for how long, he didnt really say much else. i just changed the subject.i dont want my ex to think im trying to linger on around his friends or to make him jealous because thats something i actually would not want to do purposly... but am i afraid to date this guy because of this reason. What should i do? should i give this guy a chance or is just too weird to date my exes friend!?!? i really cant imagine how it would be, maybe too weird.. ive never been in this situation, any advice is appreciated!! thank you!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): thanks for your responce Grimme, but the truth is, i havent been helping cheat because i didnt even know that he was back with the ex until recently. and that is the reason we are no longer seeing each other...it was too hurtful emotionally,, anyway that is besides the point. i wouldnt consider my self immature but i believe i was deceived by my ex as well as his gf, and was hurt by all this. and am moving on finally.
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (5 October 2009):
 Well, I do know that their is an unwritten code amongst guys that when you break up you don't date their friends, but that may be an out dated notion. I don't know, maybe I'm old fashioned in that department.Actually since you admitted that you two still have feelings for each other and have been sleeping together even though he is in another relationship, you are helping him to cheat on his current GF.Now you want to date one of his friends?All within a span of a few days?? lol...where the hell do I start?well, of course you are under no obligation to take any advice here, but perception is reality in most people's minds. Being your ex has been cheating with you (and if you believe that "it will stop this time", I have a bridge to sell you in Brooklyn) and with this friend in the picture now all I see for you is a lot of drama ahead that you have helped to create.So have fun with all of this, just remember that you have already made sure his current relationship is a total lie that you helped in to injure an innocent woman (his GF) and now you want to up the ante in this sorry soap opera by dating your ex's friend. I hope you enjoy all this drama, becuase from what I can tell you are way too immature to be in a relationship with anybody. And drama and a really bad ending to this story is what you are certainly going to get. The only sympathy I have is for your Ex's current Girlfriend, for she is the only ones that deserves any sympathy.Grow Up and Be An Adult, Please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): I am the original poster.. I am not sure if the new guy knows how serious we were during the time my ex an i were dating and that we've still been seeing each other until recently. So I dont think this new guy knows much. He just knows we dated. I am not sure if he mentioned anything to my ex..and how my ex would feel about it?!
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