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30-35,
*antthis2wrk
writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, and we clicked immediately. It went smoothly for the longest time, but I questioned weather he was over his ex or not. Now, I think he is mostly over her, but I still question it occasionally. Now, we argue alot, mostly because I think it is disrespectful, irresponsible, and immature that he goes out drinking until the middle of the night without letting me know where he is, and we do not have money for him to be doing this. Most recently, he lied to me about buying alcohol to keep at home, and about smoking. He told me he stopped several months back, but I found a pack in his pocket when I did the laundry. He is in a bad mood alot now too. I feel a little taken advantage of because I go to school full time and work 2 jobs, and he has 1 job. He rarely does house work or cooks, so I still have all that to do. He hates that I have a few guy friends, and does not trust me around his own friends, even though I have never gave him any reason to doubt me. He has a daughter, and I feel like he does not put enough effort into seeing her because her mom does not like for him to see her. He never stands up to her, which is why I question that he may not be over her. Once, when I tried to talk to him about this, he left. He was about to leave again the other night, but my friends showed up. I felt like he just wanted to keep tabs on me, which is why he came back.He has also told me that I can leave him forever if that is what I want. Its not. We have not always been this way. He can be a very sweet and romantic guy, I have seen it. He most definitely has potential. The question I have is he ever going to use his full potential?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (5 October 2009):
 Well it is good to a mother worry about her son, all parents worry about how their kids is going to turn out and wether it will be "do you want fries with that" or "I like to thank the nobel-prize commitee..."
Oh, he isn't your son? Could have fooled me.
The boyfriend project, it never works out.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 October 2009):
You need to read your own article again, and look seriously at all the points you've written. Seriously, this guy seems controlling, lazy and very disrespectful. When you've read all that, sit down and think about whether you want this to continue. This doesn't sound like the kind of guy who will change to me. Hopefully, you'll see that you can and should do better.
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