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Archived questions from: 16 October, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

Should we act on that night or was it just a moment?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5311 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - Hi.. I had a moment with one of my best guy friends a week ago, you the ones were you nearly kiss but then get interupted just before it happens. Anyway that night him and the rest of our friends were supposed to come back to a party with us so...

How do I let him know I still care but what he did was wrong?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - ok well here goes AGAIN... the same guy i was asking you guys to help me out with his whole commit issue well.. about a month ago i ended it with him thinking it was the best for the both of us.. about a week and a half later we got back we ...

I am grateful for the friendship but could it be more?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - I have been single now for 15 months. My husband passed away very suddenly and I am left looking after our two boys. I have known a man to just say hi to for about 5 years, but for the last three months we have been texting, emailng and talking on ...

Will he ever do anything?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5310 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - Men are so difficult to understand! Iv been trying to hint to this guy i like for a while now- i even tried talking to other people on a night out to make it look like i could be more than a shy girl around him. This worked well and had him coming ...

What makes a man want to commit to a woman?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5311 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - What makes a man want to commit/be exclusive to a woman?...

Was I asked out as a joke?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - i was asked out a few months ago in the middle of class. i am in secondary school. the guy complimented me, saying how "beautiful" i looked. i think i am average looking, at best. then, all of a sudden, he asked me out in the middle of class. was ...

Boyfriend uses substances as a crutch. How do I tell him it's not right?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - When my boyfriend is stressed, he turns to alcohol and cigarettes, weed and the like. He has been like this ever since he was young. I don't like it. I hate it actually, because in a way, it seems like he just wants to hide it and make it numb, ...

Could I subconsciously be harboring some dislike?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (M) - My question id this: I'm 42 and my lover is 45, I like her body very much. I also find her very attractive but I can't have an orgasm with her. She thinks that somehow she is responsible. I've tried to\explain that she is not to blame but no good. ...

Do some men really push women away when they feel like they're getting too close?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5311 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - Do some single men really push women away when they feel like they're getting too close? There's this guy I've been seeing on and off for the past year (I'm not putting all my eggs in his basket though, I see other people too from time to time). It ...

I am afraid if I have sex with him that will doom things and if I don't our relationship will end!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - Okay, so. About 2 weeks ago, I met this guy, we will just refer to him as "Alex". Alex is 30 years old, physically and intellectually my type, and we have great chemistry. When we first met, he said he was the type of person who needed to start ...

I'm so confused, is she backing away or jus flaky?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (M) - Hey Everyone just seeing if I could get a little advice on a situation I'm having right now. So I have been casually seeing this girl for about 5 months...we use to date way back in the day and hadn't seen eachother in like 6 years...we started ...

He said I was "the one" and wanted to marry me only to turn around a break up! What happened?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for six months. We met when we were working abroad and clicked instantly. after the summer ended we decided to carry things on, even though he lived in Germany and i lived in england cheap flights meant that we saw each ...

How do I balance meeting her needs and finding my own space?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (M) - ok so here is my beef... i been dating this girl on and off for two years. we have a kid together and are now together. long story short we split up during the pregnancy and 6 months after the kid is born we been trying to be together. she mo...

Am I a pushover for loving him so terribly?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - Okay so if you have read my past questions you will know the whole story..but to get to the point. We broke up and now he says he wants to "date" again and take it slow. Says he wants to start from the beginning. Well...how do you do that when you...

He can either buy me presents for my birthday or save money to come see me, but not both!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - My birthday is coming up and this is the first year I've had a boyfriend for my birthday. I always joke around with my friends including my boyfriend about what they're going to get me for my birthday. But my boyfriend says he wants to save money. ...

I want him to commit to me but he has commitment issues!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - i have a really big problem. i really like this guy that i met 3 months ago he said he has been in very bad relationships and he dont want a girlfriend to be commited to. but the only problem there is i have also been in very bad commited ...

She thought I didnt like her so she went with another guy, now she is torn beteween the two of us!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (M) - Hi All, Just a quick question - I hooked up with this girl a few times over the last few months, we speak all the time and I was giving her some space to sort herself out (due to her just coming out of a long term relationship). I was waiting for ...

What does she want? She says she is really into me but then she just wants to be friends!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (M) - Okay, here goes.....This may be quite lengthy so bare with me.....Okay I work with this lady and she is ABSOLUTELY STUNNING! (in my eyes anyway!) I'm not bad looking myself and there has always been a physical attraction between us. We knew each ...

Should I stop hanging out with him before I have developed feelings for him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - There's a new guy at my work whom I have been interested in for a while, but eventually had the courage to invite him for a drink a few weeks ago. We have met up a few times since and seem to get on pretty well. I am keen on him, and he is different ...

I'm still obsessing over a one night stand, how can I forget about him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - I have a question that has been on my mind like an obssesion and I can’t get it out of my head. Of course it’s about a guy! I don’t know weather it is important to take it from the start, or if it’s just clear that he is a jerk and I am putting too ...

Exclusive relationship question?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5313 days ago

16 October 2009 (M) - I tried to search around a little but about the only things I could pull up were mostly about dating "rules" and the games which I'm not into at all so I'm hoping I can get a more clear answer here. I've been with someone for 2 weeks now and we...

He said he'd contact me but its been 3 weeks

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - I hung out with my roommates brother and connected with him incredibly. We both commented that it was creepy how alike we were. He lives 3 hours away and told me when we parted that he needed to get my number so we could go on a date. He was ...

Is this harassment?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5311 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - My ex broke up with me about 5 months ago. I found out he started dating a girl a week later and they are still together. I stopped all contacts and explained to him my reasons. He has been sending me emails which I do not respond to. I find the...

The romeo and Juliet situation sucks.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - It's been a while since I have been on DearCupid and things were going great with my boyfriend of 1yr5mo. until last month when his father became so wrapped up in believing that my family, financial situation, and myself ulitmately were not good ...

I'm madly in love with someone who lost intrest how do I win him back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5313 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - Please help me with my "lovelife"!!! I really like this guy and I want to know how to get him to like me or even if I should try to win his heart... We flirted all school year but I didnt think he liked me so i gave up even though I really liked hi...

What do you think is going on between us?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5313 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - Hi everyone. I have a guy friend who I like and know he likes me too. But we aren't going out even though he wants to. If I could I would. But here's what happened. I don't have a cell phone so I texted him (last friday using my dad's phone whic...

What's the best way to ask if someone's single?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5312 days ago

16 October 2009 (M) - Whats a good way to find out if a girl has a boyfriend? IS the best way to just ask? "are you single?" or is there a better way to ask that isnt so straight forward?...

He seems to like me but not that much. How can I get him to like me more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5313 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - I don't know if this had happened to you, but there's a guy at work who seems to like me, he looks at me and talks soft to me and whenever we meet at the office he seems to enjoy talking to me. The other day I needed to delivered some things to a...

Deep, passionate crush on older guy with kids!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5313 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - Hi all! I am new to this but not a registered user. Let me get straight to the point. There is an older guy I have a deep, passionate crush on and I cannot tell if he likes me back. I have been chasing him since earlier this Summer and never co...