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Dating: Help and advice

Is it possible for us to take things to the next level in spite of our differences?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - There is a man that I like, but there is one problem: he is the teaching assistant for my college philosophy class and therefore is responsible for grading my work. I am 23 and he is 28. I am a senior and he is a Ph.d candidate. Had we met in ...

Should I go back to the person I first liked? Do I even like him anymore?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - I went on a group trip to Colorado and grew very close to a guy on that trip, who was 2 years younger than me. I started to like him a lot, but people got in the middle and when he asked if I liked him, I said no because I knew he wasn't ready to be ...

How can I convince myself to trust my boyfriend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5313 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - Im having trust issues with my boyfriend. i know he loves me because of the things that friends tell me and how we are together. however i cant seem to stop myself from thinking he might cheat on me. he reassures me all the time but for some reason ...

Is he an alcoholic? And if he is, what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - hi I am worried about my bf of two years. He drinks alcohol alot but I don't know whether I should class him as an addict. sometimes he'll go for weeks without drinking but others he drinks every night of the week and even when he has hardly ...

Is it normal for me to question the future of our relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been going out for 4 months and he's already talking about how he wants to be with me forever and how I'm the only one for him. We're both each other's first relationship and we're young (17), but I feel our relationship is ...

Why does he talk to me online but ignore me otherwise?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5299 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - Hey. Really need some help with this. I've been speaking to a guy on msn for months. I know him. He lives in my area and he's a friend of friends. We speak a lot on msn and he basically won't leave me be. But when I see him at school I swear h...

Is my girlfriend a little too friendly with her brother?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5314 days ago

12 October 2009 (M) - I was just out with my girlfriend and her brother the other day. Her brother is homeschooled and a pretty physically friendly guy, but the other day when we were walking around, he had his arm around her a good part of the day, even when I had my ...

Was he put off by no sex? Why isn't he calling anymore?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - Hello I am dating an interested guy. He told me that he is interested and he was acting like that but also shyly. Normally when he talks to others, this person doesn't act shyly. He was surprised when I told him that I am a virgin and don't want to ...

I still want to be his friend even though we messed around. So what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - Hi Ok i have something i need a little advice on ... Have known this guy for years, used to talk to him on the phone at work as worked in another office for the same company so had to talk to him sometimes, and on work nights out we'd get on w...

Did I come across as jealous?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - I mentioned to my ex about reconciling..he said he can't just jump back into things which is fine..and also that we'll talk on the phone and then meet...its been almost 2 months of talking which is fine but i'm getting nervous about what if he loses ...

Does he really like me? Or will he cheat due to his porn habits?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - Hi everybody. I've seeing this man for 2years and he never have girlfriend before.He is 30 years now.But I don't believe it.Its imposible never had girl before.Do you guys think he lie to me.And his family said that's true.He dating some girl before ...

Should I take full custody of my two year old brother?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5315 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - I have a 2 year old brother that I have Temp. custody of. I am 18 myself....I'm getting a job, he has medicaid, and I'm going to be going to school online at some point in the future. I want full custody of my brother because my mother is a horrible ...

I started having an affair due to long distance. How can I end it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5310 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - Hi, I am in such a mess and really need help. I live with my partner of 3 years. 2 years ago he left me to go to Australia for a year, we decided during this time we would have an open relationship because we are both realists and know a yea...

How can I show him I'm interested without going overboard?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - GAAAAAAAAAHHH!!!! I'm so confused and need help! This guy I like who I've known for 2 years from my sports club apparently likes me, and at times I think he likes me since he's always friendly and jokey and chatty with me and not so much to other...

My guy seems turned out about hearing my sexual past. Is this normal?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - Is it ever a good idea to give details of your sexual experiences???? My boyfriend is turned on by listening to the details. Is this normal??? Also, to his credit, he is never jealous or angry. Just turned on....

Can this long distance relationship work? Is there hope?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm a 17 year old girl and I live in France.I think I'm bi but not really sure. I went on a myspace group about bisexual teens and picked someone randomly. I fell on a girl who loves the same things and has the same conception of life. She's r...

Should I change myself in order to win him over?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - i'm 16. i'm a normal high school student, well i'm not that normal, i look kinda emo and goth, wear lots of eyeliner, i always wear black, and sometimes i could be annoying. ok so i like this guy for about a year now, he's really cool, and i like ...

Should I approach him in spite of what my friends think?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - There's this one guy in my class who is really nice, but really shy. Whenever I talk to him, he smiles and blushes a lot. I secretly think he must be socially retarted or something, because as of late I've been dropping quite a few hints to let him ...

Should I give her space or give into her commitment standards?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5205 days ago

12 October 2009 (M) - Hi All, Ok, here is my problem... I was in a relationship for a over a year. She has a son and was never really happy with the level of commitment I gave. I wanted to take things slowly and she wanted me to move in. She broke it off 3 or 4 weeks...

Is she showing signs of interest toward me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - There is a girl who is a little younger than me, and I'm 14. I'm not sure what the real signs are when someone likes you but, I'd like to know if maybe the following is a possibility that she might like me. She sits very close to me. When she wants ...

Is my depression the reason why I feel our relationship is going sour?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - I think im depressed and my bf isn't taking me seriously. he says that its all in my head and i need to just forget about things. problem is i can't...and isn't depression medical aswell...i know a bit about it and have read up on symptoms and ...

Can a relationship happen between me and my boss despite age differences?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - I travel for work. I am the only woman on a 40 man gang.A little over 3 months ago I was assigned to a new gang. I began dating my boss. He is an intelligent, kind, focused, driven man. He is very well respected in his field.We have so much in ...

Is this love?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - Hi all! Really sorry about the rambling to come; if you don't like long questions, it's best to stop now! Well, lets start with the basics: I'm 20, I have (in my opinion) the best bf in the world whom I met in county badminton and at the moment I;...

Do bad boys every change?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5199 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - Do u think bad boys ever change? What do u class as a bad boy? Im hooked on this man who i have had an on/off relationship with 4 3 years! He always let me down. Put his mates first. Sleep with lots of woman b4 i met him. And continued to when were ...

B/f doesn't work and takes money from his parents!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5315 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - Hey there! My problem is that my boyfriend does not work and takes money from his parents that live in The USA to live here in Panama. He pays all the house expenses (rent 200$ a month)electricity ($50 a month)food (200$), except cable and internet...

Whenever I call my b/f I get his voice mail, never him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - Whenever i call my boyfriend i get his voicemail and he only text me back ever once and a while i dont want to seem desperate but i want to show him that i care but how do i do that and how do i make him pay me attention or should i just let it go...

I'm in love with his best friend, so what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - hello, i am having a little bit of trouble.. i am going out with someone, but there is someone else i love, who is my boyfriend's best friend. i dont know what to do! i meen, i sort of love the person im going out with now, but i like the other g...

What do women want in a man? Women are so complicated!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5314 days ago

12 October 2009 (M) - 12 October 2009: What woman wants in a man? when i was with my girlfriend, i used to love her like hell ....sometimes i used to struggle to find out that what would make her happy being with me. sometimes my wacky sense of humor would leave her ...

Does sex play a huge role in dating?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5301 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - How long do you wait for sex with a guy so he doesnt think you are a hoe or slut?...

I'm beginning to think I am pregnant by a very jealous and controlling man!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - I tried to make this short but...couldn't. I kind of already know the answer to this but..thought I'd ask for advice. I have been dating someone for several months. We have had a argument every month except one about my ex husband. I have been ...

What do good guys look for in a girl?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - How do I attract good guys, I dont know what I am doing but I always seem to attract bad guys. Lots of people think that I want bad guys but the truth is I dont notice their bad behavior til later on and I do leave always. So my question is if I did ...

She changed her mind about loving me, is there anything I can do now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (M) - I have known this girl a long time, and she had said to me that she loved me, i felt in the same way, however she said a while after that that she didn't. She says she "cares" about me now but i'm not sure what that means. When i confronted her ...

How can you tell if someone is a player?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - I work as an event host for local clubs and I meet a lot of club promoters. How do you know if he is sincere? And how can you tell if someone is sincerely interested in you and not just see you as a one night stand? I'm curious. Because I respect ...

Is there hope to change mistakes and still get with someone you care about?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - Im currently single and I really never had female friends so I hang out with guys, I get hit on by guys and shame on me I do love to tease. But I realize Im wrong so how do I change it now and convince him I am not this wild child. We still never ...

People make fun of me because I have only had 1 boyfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - dear cupid i am a female and i am 13 years old, people make fun of me because i have only had one boyfriend, we went out for 4 weeks and all we did was talk that was it! i don't know how to get myself out there and to gain the confidance to just ...

I'm confused over whether he loves me or not!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 months now and I think he's a liar. There was this time when I read his text messages and he was sending flirty messages to his "friend". And when he went out of town for 2 weeks, he said he was going to ...

How can I get my mum to give my new boyfriend a chance? She still prefers my ex who cheated on me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - A few months ago I broke up with my boyfriend. He was my age. A few weeks after that, I started dating a guy who I had been in love with since I was 12 (I'm 14). He is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me, and what makes it even more ...

How do I tell her I'm okay with whatever she decides?

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12 October 2009 (M) - Me and my Muslim female friend told each we liked one another about a month ago we havent talked about our feelings since. so tomorrow i'm planning on telling her to face to face that i have fallen in love with her however i don't know what to say ...

How do I tell the father of my baby that I want us to be together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - Hi, Im 26 and Im pregnant by someone who I was just seeing for a few months, nothing serious. It was a mistake - I was taking the contraceptive pill although had missed a lot. I did not want the pregnancy at first however he said he was really happy ...

I've met someone but I cant stop thinking about my holiday romance!

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12 October 2009 (F) - Hi I met a guy on holiday and we really hit it off. I've never met anyone like him before we were like best friends and more. We said when I go back over there for uni we would get together and that we would see each other on holidays and he would ...

I think he wants "space" to really break up with me but he doenst have the guts

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - Well ive been dating this guys since january this year.. and everything has been perfect... i mean we had dumb arguments before about why we werent going out yet, or why he did that.. nothing serious because we always seem to get over it pretty ...

Am I in over my head with this girl and baby?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (M) - I am talking to this girl and i Really like her but there is a problem that my friends have no answer for shes pregnant(not for me) and the father wants nothing to do with her or the baby hes your typical coward. i want to start a relationship with ...

Troubled girlfriend looking for a way to make my boyfriend realize what he's got before it's gone...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is going through a divorce, but still talks to his ex ALL the time. They have a daughter together, so I understand them having to talk some, but not about how eachother's day went, etc. He is constantly texting when he is with me, but ...

I am in love with my ex-teacher in highschool, what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5315 days ago

12 October 2009 (M) - I am in love with someone which is possibly a huge plus. A problem with this love is its for my ex teacher from high school. I am now in college and have known him for three years. He has no clue, but i think he sees us as friends or at least more ...

I think he likes me...and so do my friends...so why hasn't he asked me out?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5309 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - I am horrible at these kinds of things...never really had any relationships in HS, had 2 in college so yeah...Im pretty much new to all this. I think he likes me...and so do my friends...so why hasn't he asked me out??? He... -Pokes me (...

He asks me over and then makes out with another girl right in front of me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - this guy/friend i used to sleep with calls me and hes like please come see me..so i go over there were making out hugging holding blah blah i mean its obvious he likes me cuz he told me he cared about me and he thought i was so beautiful n stuff ...

Am I just being paraniod?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5099 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - AM I JUST PARANOID? well my boyfriend an I are having problems because of this girl named Amanda, when I come to think about the 'breaks' we took away from each other it didn't really take him a week to go to another girl's house.. I'm really c...

Do you think there's a chance he'll want to hang out again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - I met a guy the other day while volunteering, and we hit it off right away. When I was about to leave, he asked me what I was doing later, and we exchanged phone numbers. We hung out that night (him, me, and my friend) and watched movies. Although ...

Vicious Cycles of personality?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5243 days ago

12 October 2009 (M) - I've been dating my girlfriend for quite awhile. In that time we've been evolving and had our ups and downs as any couple have. We split up for a couple of months this summer, and then got back together, and I've since started realizing where the ...

Is it jeolousy or is it her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5317 days ago

12 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend I have been together over 4 years. We were planning to get married this december, but we had been having some arguments/differences, and I had started to have some serious trust issues with her. She started to hang out with a single ...

I like my ex's friend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5315 days ago

12 October 2009 (M) - Ok so me and my ex broke up bout 5 months ago.ended pretty bad, we were together bout 3 months.not long at all right, but i happen to like one of her friends that's in my class.she's not her best friends but one of her good friends . I kinda think ...

Does the guy I am interested in like me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5271 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - I really like this guy, and I think he might be interested in me too. I think he flirts a lot with me, like he: - Squeezes my sides - Squeezes my knee - Gives me high fives - Gives me hugs - Teases me, Says, "Your Gay!" All the time. - Talks...