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Archived questions from: 11 October, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

Please help me ! Is sweet guy really sweet or just really smooth ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Ok, so this is going to be long and drawn out, so bear with me. So, I got out of a 5 year relationship about a month ago. There is a guy that I work with and have been friends with for a few months that started showing genuine interest (I am in my...

I have been with this guy four years and he lies about talking to his ex! What should I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - please help. I have been with my guy for about 4 years now. the problem is he is still very much in contact with his ex who he was only with for a year! he has met up with her behind my back and they are always txting and calling eachother.. he l...

She sees me as a lover and has developed feelings for her friend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Ok here is the situation i have been dating my girlfriend for 9 months now and ever since we met i has been a quickly advancing relationship now i live 60 miles away and am still going to high school. we have always had problems not huge ones mid ...

What happened and why is it so hard to move on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years . I have had a lot of loss over the last 4 years which caused me not to be in a relationship for a longtime . I felt all these years of being alone and I mean alone I didnt go out at all or date ...

I am not sure if I really screwed it up this time or what! What should I do

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I met this guy in May, we went on a couple of dates and made out, and had some good chats on msn, and emailed me when i left the country to study. he said he wasn't ready for a GF, and btw he was the one who suggested the girlfriend thing. But we ...

Does my ex still really love me or does he just "want some"?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - So me and my ex have been broken up for about two months. Ever since the break up I've regretted it and i have tried to do ANYTHING that I can to get him back. He has only told me that he doesnt feel the same way about me anymore and has pushed me ...

I lied to her and she knows it! What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Okay well i thought id post my problem, Start of summer this year i went to a party with my friend, i didnt know many people there and through the night had a bit to drink and got talking to the girls,(Baring in mind i go to a girls school so there ...

I can't finD omeone my age to marry me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - hello,can any one help me because i can't stand this situation any more.i am a young and very beautiful and successful girl. i look like 20 yr while i am 33 and this is causing a great difficulties to me because till now i can't find some one of my ...

She won't acknowledge our past and wants me to be friends with her new guy!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Who is being selfish here? "Jane" and I have been friends for about 5 years now, but for the first 15 months or so it was something more than that. Now, going forward, she wants to disacknowledge there being any history between us to any new people ...

Is he flirting with me or is it something more?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Okay so I been working at my job for about 3 two months and its been great so far. I get along really well with all my co-workers, however, I been noticing that one of my coworkers likes to tease me, we bicker for any little thing…is all in good ...

My friend says she wants to talk, but when I call or email she takes too long to respond!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - My friend (who I would love to make my girlfriend) and I have a great relationship. However it is long distance and we can't see each other as often we'd like. Communication has been good. We email each other regularly and when we didn't, we call ...

He said he didnt fancy me, but I don't know!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I am going to use fake names in this.. I used to fancy a boy called tom and I told him and he said he doesnt really feel the same way, I told him the day before he went on holiday for a week and as soon as he got back he acted as if nothing happe...

Does he just want sex from me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - i have been txtinga man i met on internet for the last 7 weeks. early into it he said he tught he had alein love wit me. he txts me every morning all day and nite.he is vey thoughtful and every message is accompanied by him calling me babe and love ...

I love her and shes told me she loves me, but because shes not out of the closet, she is reluctant to try anything.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Im a gay girl and out, and 16 and so's my best friend (though shes not out). I love her and shes told me she loves me, but because shes not out, she is reluctant to try anything. I'm dying to kiss her and would love for us to be together , but i ...

What do you think is going on in her mind?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - I had been seeing my girlfriend for 2 years - we broke up in April of this year - I suspected that she had been meeting with someone else for a while - as things hadnt been good for a while - she seemed to be trying to cause an argument all the time ...

I'm 14, have had one abortion with complications, and I think I may be preganant again!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Well im 14 yrs old and will be 15 February 3rd. I am in a relationship going on a year january 3rd and had an abortion september 1st. For my follow up ii was told that there was a blood clot left in my stomach ! ii believe they got it out but the ...

Do I love him for the sex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - This guy that Im talking to, isnt my bf, but i call him my boo. we have been talking for over a yr now, and my feelings for him are really strong. i more then just like him, in fact im in love with him. well i think i am. i think of him all the time ...

My mum broke me and my boyfriend up because she thinks he is weird, She wont let me be upset, Help?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5308 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Well i was with my bf for a whole year. he two years older than me but we have known each other for years. I knew him from when i was in year 7 (grade 7) and he was year 9, now im in year 11 and have been with him since the begining of year 10. He ...

Do I have a medical problem after getting fingered?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - my boyfriend stayed over and for the first time i got fingured it was through my undies though and i pulled him off now i have got a sore stomach and have had it for two days what does this mean? please help. ...

Is he pushing me into sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - i have only been with my boyf. for a day and he already is saying that he wants to have sex And im not ready at all but if i dont i will get called fridged and i dont want that to happen so am i just going to have to have sex with him or is ...

Older man, is he worried about the age gap?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - OK so there is this chap I like he is around 20 years older than me. I have always liked older men and my ex was 21 years older than me except it faded and we both went our seperate ways. It was someone else that first said that this man mi...

He said "not now" when I asked him if he would get with me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Okay.. there is a guy I really really like and he sort of likes me back. He said "not now" when i asked him if he would get with me. Then he said to my friend that he doesn't "fancy" me now but he thinks he will "fancy" me in the future which is why ...

I'm only 13, but I am pretty sure I am ready for sex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5306 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - im only 13 and been with my boyf. for two years he wants to have sex and im pretty sure im ready (even though im still a virgin ) he is one year younger than me but im worrying about bleeding or what to do. im really excited about doing it and im ...

Is my first love just a long distance booty call?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - long story put very short.. he went to college 7 hours away. I stayed back in another college . now everytime he comes he always wants to hangout with me and we end up saying some stuff like we miss eachother we love eachother etc. but I can't help ...

I don't know what to do, should I speak to him to try and stop him feeling bad?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Hiya. I recently came out as gay after a long period of not really knowing and I have felt alot happier now I've come out. One of my friends intoduced me to a gay friend of hers and at first we just spoke online and had a great day together as ...

Why do I suddenly want him so badly?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I recently found out that the guy that has been chasing me romantically for almost a year is in a relationship. He just told me yesterday that he has a girl friend now, and the person that he claims is his girl is someone that he has been telling ...

How can I get her to take my calls without fake blackmailing her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - After breakup i called her my ex-girlfriend last night. we talked for hours. i got her taking my call by blackmailed her that i would call her dad that she was having affair with me for years. when i tried to take my call being nice with her she ...

Should I take A break from my long term Relationship to explore options or not??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5308 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Please help! I been with my mate for goin on 6 years and everything has always been ok. to my knowledge he had never cheated on thats what i believe. and we have had some rocky times in our relationship where he may have slipped up and or I slipped ...

She tells me she loves me and I love her too, but lack of affection and sex is really getting to me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5299 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - So I have been going out with my girlfriend for a year and 9 months. We are both 20 and are in college. The relationship started great, we used to spend alot of time together, sex was offered/given/recieved a hefty amount, and we both lost our ...

How can she be so loving and say she wants me, for certain, in her life, then put up a wall?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I are trying to get back together after having a serious fight. On Monday, she came out to visit me. We haven't made love in almost two months, but we have been communicating beautifully, were affectionate, told each other how much ...

I really want to be with him forever so how do I make sure this happens?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5318 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Ok so I just recently got back with my ex boyfriend of 1 1/2 months. He races motocross and is in the pro class. He was always gone every weekend to other states so we never got to see one another. [We broke up partly because of this]. Motocross ...

We are talking about marriage, but he can't tell me he loves me more than his best friend!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - So I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. His best friend is a girl. They have been friends since they were 13 and now are 27. They have hooked up a few times during their friendship, even cheating on one of his girlfriends which he ...

Why don't guys find me attractive?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - i wake up every morning and i see different guys at my school. and i think to myself, "Why do guys find me unattractive?" i want to understand why i have no one noticing me and complimenting me, like a guy should. my question is: Why don't guys find ...

Can I learn to accept being alone?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I am so tired of being alone. i am 20 years old and i have never had a boyfriend or done anything with one. i am not an emotional person but lately when i watch chick flicks or see a couple walking by holding hands, i tear up and feel this deep hole ...

I'm not in love with him, but I feel a chemistry and would like to try things out.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - My good friend and I met around 7 years ago in college. He's liked me since day one and we dated briefly about 4 years ago and again 2 years ago, but things never worked out between us because of our vastly different personalities and values, and I ...

I don't know if I should let this go on because I am going into the National Guard.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Two weeks ago, my friend introduced me to this guy. He liked me since that day, I didnt really even think of him since I just broke up with my BF a month ago so. Even if i didnt seem interested in him, he took my friend and me out and we had s...

How do I dump him?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4658 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I've been with this guy since October 28th, 2007. Our 2 year anniversary is coming up here shortly, but I find myself not being in love with him anymore. I'll try to make this as short as I can. He was in the Army when I met him, but he hadn...

He's not the type to have a relationship. Is there any hope he can change?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5318 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Arg hello aunts..please help! so..I met this guy..hes lovely; into everything im into and such a good guy. I have met up with him a few times and we have kissed etc (but not had sex)...recently i asked him if he had been with anyone else sinc...