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Dating: Help and advice

Where is the line when you're dating and heading further into your committment?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (?) - Not another question about porn!? I'm looking for some specific advice on here, and I can't seem to find anything else online specific to what I'm dealing with. I've been dating my guy for two years now, and I'm pretty sure we're going to end up ...

The way he acts around girls I find to be too much

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - Ok so I've had this boyfriend for 2 years. We broke up on 2 occasions throughout this time, 1x cuz he wanted "a break" but then went out with someone else n lied to me about it. I decided things deserve a second chance so we went back out. We ...

Advice on making a move on my shy boyfriend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - So my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months now. We work togther at least 2 times a week, and try to see eachother on our days off together. Our days off usually mean hanging out at his apartment with his roomates and me staying the ...

He has his girlfriend to love but what about me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - K so I guess I kind of like this guy.. We use to date.. He has been texting me recently saying like do u regret breaking up with me and stuff like that.. He keeps saying he wants to mess around with me but he has a gf and today he asked me if I ...

How can I deal with my friend going out with my ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5293 days ago

7 October 2009 (M) - Hello agony aunts. I'm feeling depression,anger and jealousy all at the same time.The thing is my gf who i've been going out with for over 5 months just up and dumped me like i was nothing to her. She says i wasn't good enough for her. It truly ...

Does he actually like me? Or should I just assume we're friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - Does my best friend like me? Yesterday my friends said he walked by our homeroom but didn’t stop by like he usually does, he just looked in. Grace said it was because I wasn’t in there and he was looking for me. Today he stopped by and talked with ...

What does he mean by the fact that he thinks I'm boring?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - What does it mean when a guy says your boring? is sexually or he just doesnt have any else to say? and how do i become less boring?...

What is the best way to ask out a stranger?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (M) - I really fancy a girl that works in a local shop, but dont know how to ask her out. How could i tell if she fancied me ? P.S we're both teenagers...

How can I make him feel appreciated and cared for without having sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - Hi I recently met a guy and we went out a 3 times. I asked him if he is interested and he said yes. He asked me the same and I answered yes. He told me that I did not show him that. I was surprised becuase I thought I had showed him enough. ...

I don't feel like he feels the same way that I do for him...is it just me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5320 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - how do i tell if this guy i am talking to really likes me or is he just leading me on... ok so we started talking in May ... during the months of june and july we didnt talk because my phone had got cut off so in august i got a phone and we started ...

How do I get over my feelings for him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5320 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - please help me i'm confused the thing is that i used to like this guy at my school wel he looked a little interested and now he is dating a girl who use 2 be my friend and we argued over the guy so i gues we are enemies.. And now almost every one ...

Should I have a child while I can? Or is he just not Mr. Right?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - i met my partner 18 yrs ago when i was 19 and he was 43, i realise this is a very large age gap but we had a happy relationship for about 15 years, the only problem we had was my desire to have a child, it always seem to cause a row if i brought up ...

How can I show her that I care?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have recently stopped having sex, because we felt it was happening too much but she recently brought across that she still loves me but shes not happy anymore but she tells me she cant picture her life without me. I give her ...

He accused me of things I didn't even do, so why do I still love him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - I broke up with my abusive ex yesterday. He's been treating me really badly over my past (for the record - I didn't sleep around, I was a virgin when I met him! But I had made out with other guys, and he knew a couple of them. But all that happened ...

He's verbally abusive, and I think that I want out.

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7 October 2009 (F) - Hi I am 29 and have been living in a verbally abusive relationship, I THINK. In the last 5 years things have gotten worse for me, i dont think theres a time that anything nice is said about me and if we do have a conversation its usually negative...

Is he really going to leave his wife for me? Or is he just saying the things I want to hear?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - Hi, I really need some advice on my situation. Have been seeing a married man for 2 and half years and both in love with each other and see each other lots, had few holidays and weekends away etc. He has 2 children under 18 but not babies a...

Are his parents trying to keep us apart? What can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - I am in a long distance relationship, I live in the UK and my boyfriend lives in Ireland. We're both 17 and met and fell in love just over 2 years ago, and we get to see each other usually 4 times a year. We'd figured out how he would visit me...

We put on gay porn and had sex am I gay

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - Ok i have a problem, A few weeks ago I bunch of my buddies and I went out to a bar we got really drunk and one of my buddies decided to crash at my house. We were bored and put on porn, we weere just talking when we looked up and didnt ever realize ...

My girlfriend wants kids, but I don't think I do. How can we get through this?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

7 October 2009 (M) - I've been with my girlfriend for almost three years now. I'm almost 28 and have two kids, 6-8 from a previous marriage. What is preventing our relationship from progressing is that I have had a vasectomy and am not really sure if I'm going to wan...

I feel pushed away by her busy schedule. Is there anything I can do?

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7 October 2009 (M) - my girlfriend is slowly losing time for me because she has a million and one things to do. What do I do? I feel pushed away. Mentioning it will just cause arguements because it's not something she can help. ...

I have had a bad past. Should I tell him about it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (?) - I have been in love with this guy for about four months. We agreed to have ourselves tested for sexually transmitted diseases. I have been diagnosed with two curable sexually transmitted diseases, though I have never had any symptoms. I am not ...

How do I let him know I'm ready to lose my virginity?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - ok well me and this guy have been seeing each other for about 4-5 months...he hasnt tried to kiss me ... he used to talk about sex but now he isnt. i dont know if i should break it off with him or what. i like him a lot and he says the same about ...

What should I do about this controlling relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - Last year after a very intense relationship of which I was 16 he ended it so I wanted to end my life and tried to do so. This year in April I met a guy at my church group, he is kind and treats me ok, so far not tried to use me, which is nice. We ...

Will he choose me or her? Can he be trusted?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - me and my now long distance bf had just broken up a few weeks ago, when it first happened we'd decided to be friends. then later i told him how much i missed him (i broke up with him) and he agreed that he missed me too, and we both still loved each ...

Was I in the right for asking him to end a friendship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - i was recently really uncomfortable with my boyfriend spending time alone with one of his friends who happens to be a girl. she constantly asks him out, and he always has to be alone when he sees her, either watching romance movies, going out late ...

Can a big move somehow get him back?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - I'm not sure if I'm stalking my ex or if I am taking proactive steps to get him back. I mean surely its OK to want your ex back and to try to do things to make that happen? But what if the things you had to do were really really massive and the ...

How can I get him to leave his girlfriend for me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - hi guys, Ok your all going to think im total mad for this but i really cant help it, Im doing everything for my ex bf, who dumped me coming upto a yr now, i give him money sometimes when he really needs it, buys him drinks and will always l...

What does he want out of this relationship? Is he even taking it seriously?

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7 October 2009 (F) - hey aunts!!!...im not sure if im young, naive, or what but im really anxious to know how this guy feels about us...i posted a question on "how serious i should take when a guy tells me we're not having sex but making love" and i got some excellent ...

How do I get over his past?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - I know I've been posting a fair few questions lately, but I really need help with this... I've been with my boyfriend for almost 9 months now, I'm 17 and he's just turned 21 and we're in a LDR. So far he's never given me a reason not to trust him...

Does he even care that I've moved out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - Hello My b/f and I are going through a very hard time right nw. I have recently moved my things out and is living with a friend. I need him to show me effort and that he cares and loves me. Then I will consider moving back. He seem to...

He's mad at me...should I make first contact or let him do it?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - When your guy is really mad at you .... Do you think the no contact thing is the best way to go? is it best to wait for him to call even when you were at fault? (and you know he is angry) Or do you think you should call and push for resolut...

I look great now - is that the only reason he wants to be with me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - Hello, I'd love to hear your opinions. I'm 37 and have been divorced 5 years with three great kids. Since my divorce my self esteem has been pretty low and I ended up putting on 3 stone in weight. Two years ago I became friends with a man 8 years ...

Russian dating for beginners!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5275 days ago

7 October 2009 (?) - The best way to find a Russian bride to marry is to join a Russian dating service. Getting to know and communicating with have their own internet connection and are themselves looking for Western men to date with. Russian girls have already ...

Should I pick up the next time he calls?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - HELLO ! everyone. Ok I have been talking to a guy for about a month now we've only went out once but we've had sex twice. He has a kid and a demanding job. I don't really see him and hardly talk to him. But everytime he time he hits me up I pick up ...

How do I find get back the old confident me?

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7 October 2009 (M) - I was seeing this girl in work for a few months. She was 8 years younger than me. I'm 31 she's 23. I am divorced, no kids, was in a relationship for 9 years, split up early in 2008, we just drifted apart. It was for the best. Anyway I didn't really ...

How do I tell my g/f I need less loving?

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7 October 2009 (M) - Hi! I am 47 and my girlfriend is 32. She is Dutch and I am American and we live in Central Europe. She is really sweet and all, but she likes to have pretty energetic lovey-dovey everyday, especially in the morning, write before I start work. Beca...

It's hopeless! Girls won't give me a chance!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2009 (M) - I am going to collage right now, i am 19 and single and have not really ever had a girlfriend. In high school at graduation someone told me that almost all the girls thought i was gay because i didn't ever harass or grope anyone. This just upset and ...

Do I pick up the next time he calls?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

Should I talk to him about becoming more than friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5322 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - well me and this guy have been friends for like ever! nothing sexual at all but we decided that maybe it would be fun to do. and he ahs liked me for awhile now and i have liked him but he left for college in august and its been hard ever since ...

Is my guilt ruining our relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5205 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - Hello all, Im a 27 yr old female. I have been feeling very insecure. I have been in a relationship with my bf for 4yrs. I cheated on him he has pretty much forgiven me. For some reason I have been overly clingy. I keep thinking he is cheating! I ...

Is there any chance that initial spark can be rekindled and we can start over at a slower pace?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - I hung out with this guy a few weeks ago and we had really hit it off. To make a long story very short, it started off sweet but within three days we were getting really physical, and I was afraid he was planning on just using me for sex. I g...

Is he just being polite or is he interested?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - ok so here it goes. everyday when i walk to campus i pass this really cute guy. each time we pass each other he makes eye contact with me and smiles. is he interested? or is he just being polite? im not good at reading guys signals so i need some ...

Should I say something? I'm super afraid of getting hurt.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5322 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - So me and this guy have been dating for just a little over a month. Unfortunately, somethings happened about a week after we got together that put some distance between us and we werent really able to see or talk to each other. As a result, we ...

How do I get this relationship moving along?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5268 days ago

7 October 2009 (M) - So I just started seeing this girl and I can't really read whats going on in her head and I'm not really sure where to expect things to go. We've gone out on 3 dates so far, due to logistics we can only see each other on the weekends, I've s...

He has the urge to try other girls?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - I need advice... I asked my boyfriend (we've been on bad terms since he left for some reason) if he has the urge to try out other girls (since I'm his first, trying not to count the girl he got drunk/cheated with) He said 'eh kinda, but it's ...

Is there something I can do to grab a guy's attention?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - Hi, i am 20 years old and i have yet to snag a boyfriend. I consider myself to be a really nice person who is always there to help others when they need it. But for some reason guys only see me as someone they could be friends with...nothing more. ...

How do I get my boyfriend to propose?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - I am 22 years old and i have been in a relationship with my 25 boyfriend for almost 5years what can i do to try and get him to propose. we always talk about the future, but i dont think that he is going to propose at least no tome in the near ...

I feel like I am dating Jeckyl and Hyde. Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5318 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - I was in a very unhappy marriage for nearly 10 years. Now, I am a single mother of 3 (all under 10 yrs old). After the divorce I started seeing a man I had been with for a short while before I got married (we were both very young at the time). I...

Do you think if I'm patient she will realize I'm the right guy for her?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

7 October 2009 (M) - Im head over heels in love with this girl who lives on the same dorm floor. I spend about 4-5 hours a day with her. We talk about everything... her relationships with her family, how high school was, sports, books, music, movies, literally everythi...

Is he intimidated by me because I'm older?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - I like this guy and he knows, I feel he has been giving me signs he likes me, but I don't know if he's intimidated by me to talk to me because I am older than him. So I don't know if he means he wants me to go talk to him or what because I'm a re...

When will it grow

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

7 October 2009 (M) - Im 14, 15 in a month and i am very insecure about the size of my penis. Im not as endowed as some of the other guys at school. and it kinda brings me down. It kinda makes me feel bad about myself when i cant fill my pants up properly. Yeah, im ...

Will he know if I'm a virgin

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5318 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - im seeing this lad and i told him im not a virgin, and we both want to have sex i dont want him to kno that im a virgin will he find out after having sex with me?? i cant tell him im a virgin either but i use tampons and ive been fingerd a few times ...

Love problems

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

7 October 2009 (M) - Some one please help! See theres this girl I like in my classes but I cant tell if she likes me or not. I keep having the feeling she does, but then one part of me is saying "no she doesnt" I'm so confused right now!! I think she likes me because...

How do I clean up

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - Not so much a question about a problem, just looking for some opinions and advice on something sex related from other couples. Always after having sex and my bf comes inside me, it always seeps out. We don't use condoms because I'm on the pill ...

I need help about sex

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Men and sex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - I have a question about what men like during sex. I have been with a few different people, but my new boyfriend likes something that none of the others have. He likes to lick my butt. I have had boyfriends who liked to play with my butt, and who ...

Should I tell the truth about my shady past

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - 5yrs ago I was at a very bad place in my life I was addicted to crack and pills and in an abusive relationship. I lost my job because of drugs and to support my and my bf;s addiction I beganing doing things I am very ashamed of. I slpet with dealers ...

I think he uses me for oral sex

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - i have been dating this guy for 6months now. and i really like him. I dont feel tho that he feels the same way. it some times feels like he only meets up wit me for oral sex. how do i stop this and make him actually love me? should i stop all ...

Ex keeps running through my mind

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5322 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - It's silly but I can't stop thinking bout my ex. I miss hanging out w/ him and talking to him. We had a brief relationship that ended a cpl months ago.I've never felt so comfortable and happy w/ someone until him *he said the same bout me*.We ...

Do I trust him or trust me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - my boyfriend of 5 months lives about 35 minutes away from me and i only see him once every 2 sometimes 3 weeks. we have managed to make it work so far. he says he loves me and i love him too. the only thing is that he's cheated on me about 2 months ...

What do I do about my issues

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7 October 2009 (F) - i love my boyfriend to death, but somethings driving us apart. i think its me, he hasnt changed much, but i just never feel happy anymore. its nothing hes done to make me unhappy, and i dont mean unhappy in the relationship, i mean just generally ...

I feel uncomfortable about my body with my boyfriend. How do I address it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

7 October 2009 (F) - I, an American, am overweight. I'm 5'7", 195lbs, a size 14/16, and it's all in my gut. :( This is partly do the fact that when I was younger, I had surgery and was put on steroids--I was 150 pounds by the time I was 2 (seriously)! My bf (of 10 m...