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Archived questions from: 26 October, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

Sex hurt me way too much! What can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5301 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - hello(: I'm 15 years old and have been talking to a guy for over a year. He made it "official" a week ago. We tried having sex but it hurt way too much i could not handle the pain. I felt really bad because i told him i was ready. But i just wann...

How do I reconnect with my friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of almost a year. We are irrevocably in love and everything is great. But it seems like I have no friends anymore. I don't go out like I used to, I lost contact with one of my best friends that I ...

I feel like dumping her as she finds him attractive!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - i recently asked my girlfreind if She would ever have sex with this guy, i know she thinks is good looking, although she told me she is not intrested in anybody but me. She told me she doesnt just sleep with anyone, the fact she has only spoken t...

Is it going to take forever for him to share himself with me on a more intimate level?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5301 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I will try to be breif. Currently going out with a man who I really like in every way after a year of being friends but is wanting to take things very slowly (which is great) and means that he must like me a lot. However; he wants a lot of fem...

Help me help my boyfriend. We've moved in together, but his misses his parents!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - So I recently moved in with my boyfriend. Everything is great between us we are very much in love and the two of us have never been happier with our personal lives. The dilemma is that my boyfriend misses his parents. They really did not w...

Do you think he'll be interested if I call him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5288 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I recently met a man at a party. We were chatting for a while and I found him really interesting company- he seemed like an intelligent, unassuming and basically nice guy and we had quite a lot in common and, on first impressions, similar outlook on ...

How can you tell if a boy likes you?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - How can you tell a boy you like like's you ? As he is in my class and I do not know how to re-act around him , any advice ?...

What can I do to stimulate my girlfriend? She's always dry.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid, My girlfriend can't seem to get wet for me. She gets in the mood but when we attempt to have sex, she is as dry as ever. But yet, she still can be stimulated by touch, but not MY touch. Why does this happen? What must I do to s...

Is it okay to have sex on prom night?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5300 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - sex after prom night been a sort of "tradition" the question is whether or not to have sex with my gf after the prom. I think it depends on both people involved. If you are in a serious relationship, . I think it is ok to have sex that night. If...

Should I date a guy that doesn't go to college?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5301 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - So I'm 20 and I met this really really awesomely nice guy. He's not your typical nice guy: he's a singer in a band, has tattoos and piercings, skateboards and doesn't go to college. But he has a job and works. He's 18. I'm a junior in college trying ...

In love with two boys....what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I'm in love with two boys. One boy, ('Cody') I dated for about 9 months. We had the most wonderful relationship, and I cannot remember a time when we fought about anything besides who loved who more. Towards the end of our relationship I started ...

Does no one want me because of my reputation?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - im 16 and have never had a boyfriend but ive slept with 3 boys which mean nothing to me and i really wish i hadnt, but i really want a boyfriend but no one seems to want me coz they think im just goin to sleep about which im not i really do want a ...

Is she the right person for me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - She once claimed at the end of a big argument at the end of which we left each other that life with me was dull and boring and that the idea of being married to me depressed her just as the idea of being on her own. Now we're back together and she ...

Can this just be an innocent friendship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I have been dating a man for about nine months. We met when I was going through a divorce. When we initially started dating, he was seeing someone he had dated in the past. During this time, he went to visit this person, and he told me that he ...

Should I read into his goodbye hug?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - The other night I was out at a coffee shop with some people I know professionally. One of the guys is an artist and was having an art reception there, so he invited the whole group of us via e-mail. I don't know him well and our acquaintance so far ...

How do I take this outside work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I have gotton myself into a situation at work where me and a coworker have become interested in each other, well I am really into him and he says the same although we only kiss when he is around and it seems just to be a work thing, how can I change ...

LDR: do I let her go?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - Ok im confused, scared, frustrated... Me and this girl have been dating for 5 months now. Everything has been going good till she went off to college. I know the whole giving space and letting someone go. I understand if you care for someone its ...

Have I forever lost the love of my life?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - on friday nite i went to a friends house party where there was drinking involved. i was drinking and enjoying myself waiting for my boyfriend of 3 years to stop by and pick me up so that we could go home and have passionate sex. when he showed up he ...

Should I propose to her or tell her how I feel first?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - Hi! I want to ask that i love a girl from a year but i haven't told it to her. I think she also loves me so should i propose her? Plz help me Thanks!!...

Escort girlfriend and sleepless nights, Part 2.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5296 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - Hello, I posted a question for advice some time ago which you can read here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/escort-girlfriend-true-love-and-sleepless-nights-help.html As pathetic as it may seem I am not yet free of the situation. I was won...

She wants to leave him. Is there a chance for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - Ok recently, she messaged me around 3am, sayin I have put some magic spell on her and made her attracted to me haha. But she wants to keep a distance and she's worried what if we never get together because she's still with her bf but he just wont ...

Is a woman's worth tied to her breast size?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5285 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I have many issues with my body. I hate having small breasts, because men may accept small ones, but secretly they all want big! My boyfriend masturbates to big chested women. Also I don't have all the time in the world to exercise, sure I...

Any ideas on what to do here?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5298 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - During my high school years, I had a crush on a classmate. However, I was never able to bring myself to reveal those feelings to her. It was enough for me at that time that we were on friendly terms and that she didn't treat me as a loser like most ...

I really want a relationship, but I'm so insecure about my looks

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5301 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I'm a 16 year old girl and I have never been in a relationship before. I've liked several guys before (not at the same time of course) and about 2 of the crushes were HUGE, they really impacted me and it lingered on my mind for a year or so. But I ...

They're on a break, I'm really taken by her, but I'm worried he'll say "no more other people"!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - I am a 29 tear old male, who's been pretty damaged by love. yet, somehow remain consistently open to the prospect. i work 3rd shift 6 nights a week which makes meeting women difficult on top of that most realize off the bat that ill almost never be ...

I just want ONE night with him, I think that's all it would take to bring us closer then it could be the start of something new!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - There's a guy i've known for quite some time now and when we're alone i feel this 'connection' between us. We both become quite shy and although the eye contact is only brief, it is filled with such tension. Most of the time i avoid looking at him ...

Has this man got narcissistic traits?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - Please i really need some help here to understand this man. I'm beginning to think he has Narcissistic traits but i'm not sure. i have been in a relationship with him for 8yrs,the trouble is he never says I love you or shows a lot of affectio...

Am I being too serious too soon?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - Hi, I have started seeing this guy only recently (2 mths) but feel that I am falling for him. We have recently had a couple of conversations which have gone along the lines of him telling me that he thinks I am into the relationship much more ...

I have really fallen for him but I'm scared it might be too late!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - Okay so this might sound complicated. I known this guy for as long as I could remember. On my last year of high school I had several relationship problems with a certain ex. So my friend who I known for ages was there with me all the time. He ...

I don't want to be too available to him, how can I progress this relationship without doing so?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - The man i used to date last year after a period of more distance between us now seems to be more friendly. I like him and i usually go out with him when we arrange it. However, i have a lot of doubts about continuing a more intimate relationship. ...

Should I tell him how I feel? I don't know whether it is possible to have a relationship with him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - okay so i'm like freaking out. i think this sort of started maybe 3 years ago when i started talking to my friend from germany. at first, it was just normal things and we chatted like everyday, and then he gradually started flirting and stuff bu...

How do I let her down without hurting her too much? I don't want to start a relationship when I am moving away!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - okay, well i'l just get straight into it. i'm a 17 year old guy and she is a 15 year old girl. we both go to the same college, she is 2 years below me in school and has a brother in my year. i honestly don't remember how we met but i have been ...

He has already proposed to me, do you think he could be using me just to get citizenship in America?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5301 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - i started talking to this guy over the summer and he is arabic. and i cant tell if hes using me for my greencard. im 18 and hes 22. he respects me and he treats me good. over the summer he asked me to get engaged but its just between me and him ...

Is our mutual friend only trying to get us together for his own entertainment?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5298 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I met a guy recently who I think is shy: he doesn't look me in the eye that long, he avoids eye contact when he sees me passing (but I say Hi, and he starts talking to me), he looks at me from a distance, I usually am the one saying hi first... ...

I'm scared to tell her I love her...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5303 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - My bestfriend isn't the dating type but I am. I want her to know I love her but I'm scared of what will happen if I tell her that I've fallen for her. What should I do?...

Perspective anyone?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5303 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I really need some perspective. My bf and I are at college. He will be graduating in a few months and I will have another semester after that. We go to school near each other but this year we live pretty much at my place. He has a place at his ...

She loves someone else...should I wait?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - here's the story, Kim loves me (not real names), i love amy, amy loves katie (yes shes bi), and katie well she loves everyone (shes sorta a sl*t.) so main point i love amy who says she loves me but also loves katie....i have waited for months for ...

Do you think he'll write me sometime?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - well i barly graduted from high school. i still have a crush on the football player. but we go to two diffrent colleges, i dont get to see him anymore. an our highschool theirs football games, the last game is novemeber 5. which i hope to see ...

Is my curiosity going to hurt my girlfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5301 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - Ok, here we go. First off, me and my girlfriend have been going out for about six months. My friend, which is a girl, broke up with her boyfriend just recently. Me and him use to play in a band together. And thats how i meet the other girl. I...

Ladies: do you think guys that are virgins are cute?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - Do ladies around my age (17-23 I guess) think it's cute for a guy that's 19 to be a virgin? I know a few girls, one is 18 now, and she said she wants a guy with experience. But on the other end, one day when I was in class these "experienced" (lol) ...

Should I forgive her and trust again?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - Hi everyone, please any advice at all would be much appriciated!!, sorry this might be abit drawn out but I need serious help with my love life. I met a girl when I was 12, it was love a first sight for both of us and immediatley we hit it off, for...

How do I let him know I need something more serious?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5303 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - Hi there, I've been seeing this guy for nearly 2months now, and its all very casual, soon after we started texting each other he told me he'd just gotten out of a 4year relationship and wasn't really looking to get into anything too serious righ...