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41-50,
*umbie
writes:Hi All, Ok, here is my problem...I was in a relationship for a over a year. She has a son and was never really happy with the level of commitment I gave. I wanted to take things slowly and she wanted me to move in. She broke it off 3 or 4 weeks ago but I still love her. There is another old boyfriend around but I'm not sure what is happening there. Haven't had any contact with her for over 2 weeks. She rang a mutual friend a few times but am not sure really what went on in the conversation either. She wrote me a couple of long rambling emails which I gave short answers too. They were 2 weeks ago. I really feel like contacting her but know it is probably a mistake. What do the girls think? Apart from the commitment we got along great in all areas...I think she needs time. What do you think?It's hard to wait... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): If you're not ready for commitment then don't allow yourself to be forced into it. My wife and I waited almost 4 years before we decided to live together and another 2 before we got married. I dated another woman who was looking for commitment after 3 months. I wasn't ready and she broke up. She also got engaged a couple of months later. Some men and women want to push commitment before the other person is ready. Committing before one is ready is a mistake in my opinion.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (31 January 2010):
She's looking for a man to come in and be a father to her child. She's not looking for a boyfriend, she's looking for a husband.
She's made it clear what she wants so you have to either take it, or let her find a man who is willing to move in and play happy families rather than have fun with just her.
Good Luck!! xx
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