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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Is it ever a good idea to give details of your sexual experiences???? My boyfriend is turned on by listening to the details. Is this normal??? Also, to his credit, he is never jealous or angry. Just turned on.
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reader, daletom +, writes (13 October 2009):
Your B/F is certainly in the minority but I don't think he's necessarily abnormal. He might be looking for the assurance that he measures up to the performance of your previous partners. He might sincerely be interested in knowing how to better please you. It might boost his confidence to know that other guys have found you attractive and desirable. Your information may be a significant element of his fantasy life. (How many women complain because their guys use impersonal, artificial, internet porn to feed their fantasies? It's something of an honor that YOU are part of his fantasies.)
On one hand, I'd say it's OK as long as it doesn't interfere with your relationship by causing jealousy, regrets, etc. On the other hand, you have some obligation to protect the privacy of previous lovers.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 + ♥, writes (13 October 2009):
 I think he just wants to know what makes you happy.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (13 October 2009):
 No, I don't think this is normal at all. I'd be spooked if any guy I was with "got off" on hearing sexual details of me being with prior boyfriends. I can't say any of the men I've been with want to hear even the name of my last boyfriend, let alone what I did with them in any detail.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (12 October 2009):
 Yes, it's a good idea if they ask. Yes, it's normal. It's called "Sexual Jealousy" and it makes him aroused because it prepares his body to "battle" the sperm that might be inside you, in order to make sure that -HE- is the one who makes you pregnant.
It's written into guy's DNA, honey. Some men really get revved up thinking about you having sex with other guys and that's completely fine. Enjoy it, it's fun!
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