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writes:I travel for work. I am the only woman on a 40 man gang.A little over 3 months ago I was assigned to a new gang. I began dating my boss. He is an intelligent, kind, focused, driven man. He is very well respected in his field.We have so much in common it is eerie. My concern is our ages. I am 42 he is 57 and able to retire at any time. Can this relationship work?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): If what you had in mind is a casual relationship that eliminates any chance of you having a normal family life with children and a father that will live see their elementary school graduation, then it will work to that extent.
If your expectations are very low you'll get by. This guy isnt changing for anyone.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (13 October 2009):
 Yes it can work, but it's very sticky to become romantically involved with anyone from work, much less your boss. Your co-workers may feel you get special priviledges which can upset the balance of the "gang". This can create jealousy and hostility among normally harmonious peers. You may find it's not so much the age difference that complicates things, but your working relationship. Which could improve or resolve itself if he retires.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): Yes, I think that the relationship could work.
As people get older, age gaps seem to get smaller. It is true, a 15 year age difference is significant, but you wouldn't be the first couple with one. There are many happy couples with age gaps, as well as couples who met while working together.
If the relationship goes bad, then of course, the fear is that there might be discomfort in the workplace. But, if you find someone that is so attune to you and has common interests, isn't it worth the risk?
We can go through our whole lives making excuses for why something might not work instead of finding out for ourselves if it can. My advice, set some guidelines for how you act in the workplace. Make sure that your professional life doesn't suffer as a result of being involved with someone you work with. BUT, be open to good things happening, appreciate the time you have with one another and wait to see what it blossoms into.
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