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writes:I went on a group trip to Colorado and grew very close to a guy on that trip, who was 2 years younger than me. I started to like him a lot, but people got in the middle and when he asked if I liked him, I said no because I knew he wasn't ready to be in a relationship with me, and I wasn't ready to be in a relationship where age was an issue. I secretly liked him for almost a year. Then I met this guy who was 2 years older than me and we started dating. I realized that the previous guy could not support me and I think I stopped liking him. It ended up that the boyfriend never wanted me personally, just someone to talk to, and I was around. We had only been dating for a month and have been broken up since the beginning of august. I am still extremely close to the first guy, but I don't know if I can date him. I just don't know if I still like him like that, or as just a close friend. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sammycake  +, writes (13 October 2009):
 You don't *need* a boyfriend at your age. I think you should just stay good friends for the time being, and if the time comes when you're a little bit older when you decide to take the plunge and start seeing each other officially, then you'll already have strong foundations to base the relationship on.
Good luck!
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reader, Denizen +, writes (13 October 2009):
 I think you should forget about dating for a while and take up some activity. Learn a sport, take an evening class, join a drama group - whatever seems slightly new and exciting - something perhaps you wouldn't have done before.
You can be too close to a problem and getting into something different will give you perspective.
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