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writes:I have known this guy for 3 weeks. He told me that it was love at first sight. He loves me a lot and we went out for 2 weeks,msned and smsed each other before he confessed his feelings. But all along,i have only treated him like a friend.All my friends urged me to go into a relationship with him because he really unique from other guys and he loves me a lot. So i went ahead. He told me that he loves me..but i cant bring myself to say it..it is my first relationship,but im a bit apprehensive that it is lust and not love..because i dont believe that one can fall in love in 2 weeks..but ive already made clear to him that i wont have premarital sex.i think i'm wary of him, thats why i cant really trust him entirely..i want to give myself a chance to fall in love with him..but how do i do it? what should i do?he is a good guy..i think the problem lies with me:( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): I think it's lust on his part, because it is impossible for someone to fall in love in 2 weeks. I deal with a similar situation but the boy I know said that he loves me with in days. I'm like you, "what should I do?" But don't say it if you don't mean it and it will be more special when the time is right n I'm share it will bring tears to his eyes.
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reader, edirin_123  +, writes (7 January 2009):
Hello,
Life is what you take it to be when you do what you feel is right and also seek advice from people who you feel could put you in the right path.The issue here is not just you,its also with him.There is a big difference between falling in love and been in love.And there is also a difference telling someone i love you and i am in love with you.
The first thing you need to know is if he is inlove with you or just love you.The path you play after he tells you he is inlove with you is what makes the relationship works.They are three questions you need to ask yourself;
1.What makes him love me?
2.Its the love lust or true?
3.How can i be sure of this?
If you can answer these questions by yourself without any once help,then you are on your way to success.
Remember,No one can make you fall in love with someone except yourself.SELF is something that you need to trust in giving your heart to him.Yes people could love at first sight BUT they cant fall inlove at first sight.falling inlove comes with time.It could be 2,3 weeks after or 2,3,4 months or year after.Whats most important is how you handle the answers to the questions above and also how much you can trust yourself in giving your heart to someone.Yes i know is hard to trust,but you have to trust someone someday.Remember when you see and smell the right opportunity,dont let it pass,grab it by the horn.Wish you the best.
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