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writes: Hi,I have been seeing a guy recently. We went on about 3-4 dates before I actually invited him over to my place. I prepared a small dinner for him (he got the wine) and then we cozied up and watched a movie. It was perfect, really. We ended up making out and then we took it to the bedroom. I didn't exactly think it would go that far, but he just pulled out a condom from like "nowhere." So, I asked him if this was pre-planned and I guess he was embarrassed and kept saying that he always carries them. So he ended up putting it on and we had sex for literally about 2 minutes and he pulled out saying "What you said really bothered me.." After a while of lying around in the bed, we tried sex again, this time with another condom and again.. same thing. He said he didn't want commitment and I told him that I wasn't looking for any. I am fairly decent to look at, moderately attractive and I was willingly having sex with him. But after this final small talk, he got up, got dressed gave me a kiss and walked out of my door leaving me behind astonished and completely shocked. After this rejection, the very next day he text me asking if he could take me out to dinner that very week? And he has been flirting. When I checked the condoms, he came in both (2 minute man) probably. So I know I satisfied him, he thinks I am cute, I know I am intelligent. So What on earth is going on?
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reader, agtorange  +, writes (8 January 2009):
 He probably didn't have any expectations of having sex, but he probably realized it was a possibily, and as probably hopeful, so he brought some condoms. No biggy there.
However, if he comes twice, doesn't tell you, then just ups and walks out the door leaving some messy condoms for you to clean up, then he's not worth your time.
I know if I was having sex with a girl I'd been on a few dates with, then she came and walked out the door leaving me unsatisfied, I'd never be calling her back.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (7 January 2009):
 I think it sounds like he was embarrassed by coming so soon. Was it like he was acting like he didn't come? Like he stopped and started talking about something you said like it bothered him, did you know at the time he came? Or did you see it later? What I think, If I read this right, and what my boyfriend thinks also, is that he came too quickly, didn't want you to know so stopped having sex acting like what you said was the reason he stopped. That's from how I read your post, it sounded to me like you weren't aware he came until after he left. I also think he did plan on having sex but was embarrassed when you brought it up. So don't worry. It sounds like he is maybe even too attracted to you, lol. I could be wrong but that's how I get the feeling.
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