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In love with a player who is replacing my twin sister by flirting with me!

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Question - (7 January 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 7 January 2009)
A male United States age 22-25, *ronatic writes:

This is terrible, I'm falling in love with a playboy. At our school he's known as a Prince, although I don't quite agree with that. Opposites attract, I'm more of the quiet shy type and he's the guy who parties all night long and has sex with random women. He tells me that he loves me, I doubt it, and he always says how "sexy" I am. I'm flattered- really! But I just don't like the attention.

He's always flirting with random girls he doesn't even know and winking at them, making me feel lower then dirt to be falling deeply in love with him. I looked past everything people saw him for and I saw someone who needed someone to lean on and make him stop straining his smile. I don't want to be selfish and just blurt out that I don't want him to keep on telling me how beautiful I am and tell him about my previous serious crushes. He used to like my twin sister and when we first met all he talked about was my twin, it was all about her.

Deep down, I know that I'm a replacement for her and I know that he doesn't really love me the way I'd like him to, love is cruel, what can you say? Out of all the guys I could have fallen in love with, it had to be a player. This isn't the first time I've loved the wrong type of guy. I hate his smile and his hugs, there's nothing worse then seeing him kiss another girl and tell me that it was to keep our relationship a secret.

Maybe I'm just afraid to love in love again.

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A male reader, Tronatic United States +, writes (7 January 2009):

Tronatic is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thanks guys, although it did hurt to read some of your replies, I think I know what to do now.

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A male reader, Yos Netherlands +, writes (7 January 2009):

Yos agony auntI guarantee he's telling many other girls the same things he's telling you. That he 'loves' them, and that they are 'sexy' etc.

That's what players do: flirt with and flatter as many girls as possible, whilst making each feel 'special', and then have sex with as many that are willing.

Do you want to be one of many who gets used like this? Your choice. But don't make the mistake of thinking you have a special relationship with him, or that he cares about you other than for sex.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009):

You know what he is. So you can either play along, just enjoy his company and try to leave feelings aside or just leave him alone all together. It sounds to me you could fall for him so it's best you just leave him alone. No this isn't real love, you will realize true love when you meet a guy who loves you back.

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