A
female
age
51-59,
*amchic
writes:I had been dating this man from 1995 until 2003 and we remained friends until 2008. We built a business together and have been through a lot together over the past 13 years. He said that I was his best friend and in May 2008 told me he loved me and we started the relationship back up and I honestly thought that it was God bringing us back together... Well to make a long story short... he started dating a Hindu woman in June 2008 (he is an african american christian) behind my back... Broke the news to me October 13th 2008 that he had met someone else... He married her October 25th 2008. Mind you we were intimate up until Sept 2008. He says he loves me but is in love with her and that is why he married her. He is 57, she is in her 30's and I am in my 40's. At first I was livid and now I have calmed down. Now I have to see him every day for the next 4 months because we have a tax business together... I don't like who he is any more and when I look at him I feel a distaste for him. I guess I'm still angry but I know that God must have something else planned for me... Help, how do I move on? Should I still continue to be myself and be nice to him or should I show him that I am not his best friend any more?
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reader, pastfirst +, writes (7 January 2009):
 Try and behave as pleasantly as you are able to. I'm sure this won't be easy under the circumstances but he's now married to someone else and you just have to make the best of the few months that you have to work together.
I can understand how hurt you must be but men are different to women and their way of thinking is not what we expect.
He says he's not "in love" with you. Accept this.
You don't have to be his best friend but you can maybe be frieds.
Time will heel the hurt and you'll find something/someone better.
I really believe this! Their's a light at the end of the tunnel!
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reader, 48years  +, writes (7 January 2009):
 He is married now. The whole relationship changes.
You must now guard your ears from what he says. You must shut down any conversation that goes beyond business. You're allowed to be impolite about it, saying, "this is inappropriate" when he tries to confide in you and lure you into the role of supportive mommy.
Best idea: Try to sell your share of the business to someone else.
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