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I love my girlfriend and her sister.

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Question - (23 January 2009) 10 Answers - (Newest, 22 February 2009)
A male United States age 22-25, *stego160 writes:

Recently, I asked about what to do with my girlfriend's sister. I love my girlfriend and her sister. We all do things together and recently it's elevated to the point where my girlfriend's sister sleeps over all the time and on a few occasions sleeps in the same bed with us. Don't get me wrong I don't to have a threesome or anything like that. But I want to have a relationship with the both of them. At first I didn't know if the sister liked me but now I think she does. A few nights ago, when my girlfriend's sister was sleeping over and my girlfriend had gone to bed, we started looking at stuff on the internet. It started off as just looking at funny stuff but it quickly turned a little R rated. She then admitted that she looked at porn while at home. My girlfriend and her sister alot of times use the sisters phone to text because my girlfriend's phone was deactivated. So I texted my girlfriend’s sister and said “I love you” as a test to see if my girlfriend would get mad then I could just say “Oh it was for you.” But the response I got back was “I love you too” and that’s it. Later on we started talking about some stuff through text message and then we started on how I look and my girlfriends’ sister says “Oh you look fabulous hehehe”. So I really want a relationship with both women and I see that there is anything wrong with that. Nothing that involves both of them in bed at the same time, but I think it would be perfect for everyone. The sister has always had asshole bfs and I would treat her really well. It’s difficult to explain. The problem is, if I approach my gf about this and find out she wants none of it, I know she will break up with me. I won’t approach her. I want to get the sister to approach her with the idea. Living my life without either of them would kill me. I truly love them both. I know it may seem totally wrong but I don’t see why. How can I make this relationship complete?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009):

i think you should get her sis to talk to her and then if she says she doesnt want to be a part of it say that it was a joke

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009):

Im having the same issue, but I did a boo boo and now I have to pay for it. My relationship with me and my gf sister wont be the same anymore. which is best anyway cause she likes to call me hunney joking around and says things like she misses me. I started to like those things she said to me, but i let her know how I felt and she told my GF im Weird. She not even attracted to me:( I was hurt by this

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009):

Hye man, you better make sure that the line is green. You just can't (you can, but you may not) do this. It has to have one of those girls that you love the most, and if you love one but NEEDS to love the other too you're going nuts, cuz I'ma tell you they gonna catch you up, so good luck :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009):

Ur a idiot u don't love anyone u just like to have two girls at the same time even more when u know there sisters. I hope ur girls leaves u!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009):

Talk to your girlfriend and ask her if the reason she invites her sister over so much is because she wants to share you with her sister. Who knows, maybe your girlfriend and her sister are closer than even you know!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009):

OK, I think it is VERY weird that your GF suggested her sister sleep in the same bed with you and your GF. So that tells me she is trying to get something started. And I think it might be some kind of sexual threesome or other kinky kind of thing. Maybe your GF is secretly bisexual, or had some kind of lesbian experience with her sister and enjoyed it, and she's trying to gradually tell you about it, and getting her sister to sleep with you and her is one way to get to that point.

So the next time she invites the sister to sleep with you and your GF, say something like "well, my body is feeling kind of hot, and I wanted to sleep naked tonight cuz it's more comfortable and maybe I can cool off." If your GF says, "oh, that's ok, go ahead," then you'll know she wants to start something between the three of you. So tell her you want to sleep naked, and then post back here to tell us what your GF's reaction was when you said that, and what happened after you slept naked with them.

Another good place to post a question like this is the Go Live Wire forum at www.golivewire.com, in either the Teen Sexuality and Friends and Family forum. There are lots of girls at those forums who could give you the female perspective of what they think your GF is trying to, like whether she's trying to start something between you and her sister. So please consider going to that site and signing up there and posting this question so that you can get some girls' opinions as to what might be happening.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009):

if you want a true relationship, it starts with honesty, otherwise, no relationship will work.be prepared, you may have to choose.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009):

You might not like this but it is the truth and you know it too. There is nothing in what you said to indicate that the sister feels anything for you, you said she's used to asshole boyfriends maybe she likes the attention from a guy who isn't.

It's simple, you know it's wrong and if you do go any further with this you will be dumped at best, worst case scenario though is that you get with the sister and ruin their family.

A relationship with the sister would definitely not last because unless she's an evil bitch, she will not be able to live with herself. Plus doing that would make you another in her list of asshole boyfriends.

You are going to have to be really careful in what you do next, because I think you are seeing an attraction from the sister that isn't actually there.

If you really do love your girlfriend like you say, then you won't risk ruining her life and that of her sister, you're gonna have to deal with your feelings and try to seperate yourself a bit from her sister.

This is just a fantasy and in your fantasy things have a chance of working out. The reality is nothing good can come of this, the risk is too high that you will lose everything.

If you love both of them, then get control of your desires, stop testing your chances with the sister, quit thinking of what you want and do what's best for them.

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A male reader, ostego160 United States +, writes (23 January 2009):

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Oh I can't even begin. The sister and I share almost all the same interests. We have the same hobbies and laugh at the same jokes. We have so much in common, where my GF doesn't but my GF is the beautiful girl I fell in love with. I know, I don't want to risk the relationship I have with the both of them but I think my GF might want it because of the way she talks sometimes. She's the one who invites her sister over and shes the one that suggested she sleep in the bed with us. I can't tell my GF that I want it to stop because I don't. I think my only option is to say something to the sister as difficult as it may seem. I don't think I can do it.

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A female reader, lovesalias United States +, writes (23 January 2009):

lovesalias agony auntI think that it is a questionable decision. How do you know that your gf sister is o.k. with you having her and her sister? What if she wants you for herself? If you think your gf would break up with you then you have a decision to make. What is it about your gf sister that attracts you to her. Can you not find these same qualities in your gf if you talked to her about it. I really think that you could break up a sisterly relationship and lose both of them fairly quickly. I know its not what you want to hear and you are looking for someone to tell you its o.k. but that really depends on how all parties of the relationship feel..it may or may not work. I think though that you should discuss your feelings with your gf sister in plain english and see what she thinks because I am sure she really likes you but really doesn't want to hurt her sisters feelings or lose her sisters trust in anyway so be careful how you continue with this situation. Good Luck! I hope this helps.

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