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Dating: Help and advice

Major crush of my boyfriend's friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I have a problem... I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years and everything is great except that I've developed a major crush on one of his best friends... they met a couple of years ago and my boyfriend told me that he thinks I'm hot (apparently he ...

Should I continue as usual or back off until he breaks up with his girlfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I really am attracted to this guy at work who has a g/f, but it appears he's about to break off with her, and he knows I like him and has shown signs for over a year to like me as well. Without going into detail about all the flirty ways we've ...

Found a lot of his ex wife's things in boxes - what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Well this is my story. I told my boyfriend that I'll be more then happy to look after his dog and fish well he goes away for a few days, he has his own business and does not always get time off, i work for him. Anyways, for the first time i have ...

Is this guy worth chasing?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - theres this guy i like, weve kissed and he fingered me at my party last weekend. (which he surpsingly came to) Weve been speaking online and texting for the past 3/4 months and bumped into each other at the bus stop about 4 times. Also we went to ...

My friend is annoying me so much at the moment, how do I deal with her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I've been going out with this guy for 3 months and things are great between us and it was my best friend *Hannah who got us together in the first place cause she knew I liked him and wouldn't say anything to him about it so she told him and it ...

Am I being paranoid or have I got every right to be angry?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - okay here goes.... I was reading through my bf's phone earlier and found texts from 2 girls (they both work at the club he plays rugby for). He had deleted his sent items so I don't actually know what he said to them, but the texts from these g...

After his experimenting 7 years ago, I'm terrified my boyfriend might have sex with his best male friend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Firstly, my boyfriend has never given me a reason not to trust him - as far as I know, he's never cheated on me, or any of his partners. But, we where talking a few months ago, and I found out that when he was about 16, he had a gay relation...

My boyfriend loves me but is trying to break up with me...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend are in a serious relationship. We have talked about marriage and know that we want to be with each other forever but the past month there have been some fights and things haven't been picture perfect. I see this as growing but he ...

Boyfriend's Muslim family wont accept me :-(

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5494 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - i have been with this guy for 6 months and his family is Muslim, but he doesn't believe in that. i am white, and not Muslim, therefore they don't want me to go out with him. they found out about us, and forced him to break up with me. but we got ...

I'm getting the point where I just feel used for sex.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - So ive been dating this guy for 8 months on and on. But not going out. He says he wants to be single but we cant see other people. Of course it sketchy to me. But we've been hooking up all the time. And im getting the point where i just feel use...

My bf still texts and calls his ex-wife and denies it. What do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - my boyfriend hasn't been divorced too long. They had no kids. We have had ongoing arguments about how they call each other about minor things and how it bothered me so I thought it had stopped. He told her there was no need for contact unle...

I looked at her texts and I think my girlfriend is cheating on me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - hi i have a girl friend and i think she is cheating on me the first thing that made me think that was i looked at her texts and it was one of her friends saying that she would set my girlfriend up with there male friend that they both know and th...

Opinions on not marrying or having children

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I have been hesitating in asking, but ended up asking anyway since I want to know as much opinions as possible concerning this. I grew up in a loving family. I never had any abuse of any sort. Currently in a loving relationship with a man. I ...

I don't know how to tell my chat friend that I love her.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - Its like am in love with this girl, she is 18 and am 18 she is living far away from me but in same country. We both met in a chat site. I call her on phone most time, she told me about her self and I told her mine, the way I hear her voice on phon...

Could I be pregnant, or is it just stress?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - About three weeks ago me and my bf had sex and he wanted to see what it felt like without a condom. So we didn't go all the way but he did go in. Lately I've has extreme nausea, i'm always tired, my boobs are really sensitive, and i pee a lot more ...

Is this a lost cause or should I give him another week?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Okay Im a bit torn right now cause my boyfriend of 7months said some bad things about me over the phone last night. Let me start from the beginning, everything was good Tuesday night til I went downstairs to get the laundry; I came back in the ...

Any ideas for something special for my girlfriend this Easter?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - Hi, I'm 15 and I'm in love with my girlfriend and i know I'm so young but i know i love her cause every time i seen her my heart starts beating really fast and i just know. anyway we've been going out for 3 years cents yesterday and i just got back...

I told my crush of 6 years how I felt. Now I'm confused about what happened. Help me!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - I'm too lost now after what happened recently... I've been crushing on this girl for 6 years now, since I was 13 years old, freshmen in high school. She's the same age as I was, she is the most intelligent, quietest, absolutely beautiful girl I...

Will a girl stop taking care of her body when they get into a relationship?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - I know this sounds really shallow, but I'm scared that if I ever get in a serious relationship with a girl she'll stop taking care of her body. And then in a few years she won't look pretty any more she'll just look fat. Is there a way to make sure ...

The Unforgivable and Most Heinous Act thinkable

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - My Boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 years and we have gotten into many arguments over time. Things progressively got worse. He used to throw things and break them, then he started pushing me and I will admit that I used to hit him ...

Sad lonely and dying inside

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Help I started a new job and this man 11 years older then me started displaying a huge interest in me. I used to go to school with his partner and this is was the common factor in our friendship. I never found him attractive or interesting ...

Would it be worth it to become friends again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - hi, i need some advice and im hopein you can help see i had this friend and he was awesome. he was there for me and i was there for him no matter what happened. but one night we did things and after that night he barley talked to me.. and i w...

Should I break up? Because she is too afraid to

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - My gf of 6 years broke up with me about a year ago this time. That lasted for all of 2 months or so and she returned saying that she was just going through changes and she felt kinda trapped. She has since felt horrible about doing the break and ...

Am I a needy girlfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I know most people define needy girlfriends as being too possessive; which I am not. However, I do try and get him to spend some time with me a lot. Thing is though, it never works. We're both in High School, so we dont have time consuming jobs yet...

Loving sex ..but keeps reverting to my old technique and not satisfying my man. Any tips?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I thought I was sexually experienced (2 long term partners) but my new man of 6 months doesn't seem to be able to 'come' when I use my various techniques to play with his penis and balls. I asked him to show me how he enjoys me to play and he plac...

My gf is changing and she is afraid to show me......

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - To give background to the situation..Im 27 and my gf is 22. She tends to keep to herself for the most part very kind and loving, somewhat painfully quiet at times. She has been trying to come out of her shell more and thats fine, I want her to. Whil...

Should I stay with him? This is more emotion that I can process...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5493 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - i am 17 and have/had a boyfriend before he took a gap year and moved to mexico, we had only been going out 4 months before he left but we had gotten so close that it really was heart breaking, i was a mess for a while and even though we had agreed ...

Why is he suddenly being so difficult?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I have been with my new bf for a few months now things were going really well up until he went out on his mates stag weekend since he has come back he has barely seen me. I have hardly had any texts off him and when i do they are quite moody, w...

I was an escourt and my b/f of 4 years can't seem to get over it

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - 10 years ago I worked as an escort. I met my boyfriend 4 years ago and, as soon as the relationship started to get serious, I told him of my past. I wanted to be honest from the outset, and give him an opportunity to walk away. He stayed with...

Why am I attracted to girls who are similar to my first love?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - It's interesting that ever since I broke off from my first love a year ago, every girl I was attracted to since shared some similar features to her -- slim, similar figure; tall height; brunette hair -- and a few times, even in shy personality. ...

My fiance is a foreigner, and I have found out he is married!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for quite along time now and we have recently engaged he is of foreign nationality. I have recently discovered various things i didn't know about him eg: marriage of possible convenience for status. I don't know wha...

2 years into the relationship, he still calls me by his ex's name!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - my boyfriend was with a girl for 7yrs,and they split up. a year after splitting up from his ex,he met me. we've been together for over a year now. in the early stages he called me by his ex's name,which i didn't like but i understood,maybe it was ...

Is it ok to sleep with him?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I like this guy (described in http://www.dearcupid.org/question/does-it-seem-like-he-is-going-to.html), and he has been respecting my opinions. By respect, I mean he wanted to do things but as soon as I asked him to stop he would. I now won’t let ...

Are we too early in the relationship to go for counseling?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Ok dont know where to start.... Have been in an on off relationship for the past 2years,my boyfriend is ten years older then me and basically a complete opposite person to me however by some miracle we clicked!! We have had many bumpy rides in o...

I'm in love with two best friends

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - me and my bf (mr x) have been dating for 2 years but we broke up for 2 months and during that period i dated his best friend (mr k) although it was a long distance relationship i was happy, when ever mr x hurt me mr k was there to help keep me sain....

Please help. I feel so worthless and not wanted!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5502 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - Hello guys, Basically, the background of this story is that my ex-girlfriend dumped me about 7 months ago last August. We've dated each other for 2 years and have known each other for a total of 4 years. I am a junior in college currently gr...

She has a nude picture of her ex in her phone. What do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - My girlfriend has recently been away to visit someone with a friend (You may note the person she went to see is an ex sexual partner). Our relationship has been a bit rocky recently and she said she needed to get away for a few days, which i agre...

How Old Is Too Old? Age Difference of 38? Is this right or wrong?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Hi Readers, Please giver your opinion on this, Need Your Help/Advice! How Old Is Too Old? I Am 22..He Is 50..38 years difference? Is it ok for us to be together? Thanks. And, Can women have sex whilst on their menstruation? I have heard peopl...

Does it seem like he is going to ask me to be his gf?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I like a guy. I have no idea why I like him. We don't have any mutual friends but we chat on msn everyday. Every week, we meet up 2-3 times, have dinner together and watch DVD movies afterwards. This has been going on for 2 weeks. Before this, fo...

Please help. I cant stand not knowing, does he like me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Hi. Me again. I really have to know if this guy likes me. Sorry if its long. Im 18, hes 25. Hes the youth leader at church. His cuz used to be but he dated and kinda used the gals so he aint anymore and now there is no dating allowed between the ...

So many differences between him and I. I am confused. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - hi friends, i need your help.i'm very much confused about my relationship with my friend. i'm 18years old. before 9 months i met a boy.we became close friends.i've never talked to any boys before tat. he's the first boy to whom i've talked oth...

How can I maintain my dignity and her respect for me in the work place after my failed approach for her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - Hi there. I was just wondering how a woman would like a man to conduct himself around her in the work place after he has made an approach and been rejected. He was not in the friend-zone at the time he made his approach and does not have very regu...

I don't know anything about having sex really. Can anyone help me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Okay, I'm 17 about to turn 8 in July. I dated my ex for 4 years and we just broke up in november.. It was really hard on me. I have become depressed and just broken. He hated me for the longest time and didn't talk to me, for reasons.. Well we talk...

Sex related questions. Help please!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5502 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - [Mod note: updated questions:] 7. i want to do sex with my boyfriend..always..but we both should not marry..this was our deal..but now i want him in my life as my life partner..how to tell him... --------- 6. i want my boy friend to do sex with m...

I have no idea how to even begin to get through this. Any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - 2 years ago, at a party, I met this girl. We totally hit it off, and found out that we were both (randomly) moving to the same city (2000 miles away) for the summer. She was graduating college and moving back to where she grew up to be around her ...

What kind of friendship is this I'm having with this guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I have a friend (guy) who after meeting him in person in a meeting, we've been in touch since for 2 years. We email each other, well mostly me. He's military so his time is a bit compromise. Even deployed we emailed. He's stationed in Va. and I'm in ...

I just wish I had someone to love me and make me feel great!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - please help! i don't know what to do!!! i wrote on this before, but i really don't think anyone understands how depressed i am! normally Im a happy girl and i like to enjoy life to the max! but recently i get these pangs where i feel so so sad! ...

Any tips on how to bring up the topic of using condom?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I'm on birth control and he pulls out but am I still running a high risk for pregnancy??? And I was wondering if anybody had some good tips on bringing up the idea of a condom to him...especially because we have been involved sexually many ti...

Now I don't feel the same for him any more. What can I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I have been dating this terrific guy for over two years and have been holding back the urge to tell him that I loved him for a couple months now. (I was holding it back because he doesn't acknowledge me as a girlfriend because he doesn't believe in ...

I am thinking too much of this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - First off, last summer I visited my sister and her husband on a marine bass they lived at. I visited them for 2 months. I met a friend of theirs.. he liked me, I liked him. We even hooked up one night. It was the best haha. Anyway, he went to iraq...

I cannot read his mind!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5502 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Here's my dating dilemma: Im 26 and have a bf who is 28. We have been seeing each other for 3.5mths now. At the beginning he used to be very txty to me from his cell, and wanting to see other frequently during the week or over the weekend. ...

My girlfriend doesn't seem to want to hang out with me anymore...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5305 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - I am looking for advice from people that have been or are in long term relationships. I have been going out with this girl for 6 years now. We met in high school, I went away to college and we continued dating long distance, then she moved to the...

I just can't figure him out!!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5502 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - There is this guy I have been dating, but I can't figure him out. He will start calling me all the time and then we will go out. Then he will call me the next day but will go about two or three weeks before he will talk to me again. Then he does the ...

I just started dating this guy but I am scared of getting my heart broken again.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I just started dating this guy but I am scared of getting my heart broken again. He has made a lot of mistakes in his life and it scares me. He just got out of jail for drugs and got divorced like eight months ago. He is a really good person though ...

I can't help thinking there's something she's not telling me...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5464 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - OK, I'll start from the beginning. Me and my girlfriend were happy together, we loved each other etc, she even told me that she wanted to have a family with me in the future and that she'd never leave me and I felt the same way for her. Anyway, s...

I hate my life right now and all I want to do is cry...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5022 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I currently hate my life. First my boyfriend of four years breaks up with me and I have to move back home, where my parents who are retired now and are always around. Then the transmission on my car breaks. I can't afford to fix it because my ...

I am scared of getting hurt again but feel like he is the right person for me.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5502 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy but he lives in another town. I am very unsure of what he wants and I don't think he even knows. He tells me that he wants to move by me to work, but he wants to stay living where he is because that is where his family ...

He later apologized but I have yet to get over the betrayal of the whole evening.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5502 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Last night boyfriend and I were having wine after work at a nice place when a guy my b/f knew sat down next to me and started talking to him. I found him to be completely obnoxious but I tried to join in on their bantering but then the guy asked me ...

Any tips on convincing her I don't wanna marry her just for sex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5502 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - Hey Everyone, I was hoping someone could help me with an issue I seem to have brought into my relationship. I've been dating my GF for nearly 5 months, when the other month after asking her why we hadn't had sex, she told me that she was waiting ...