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Dating: Help and advice

Where is this relationship going, please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - I have been dating an older (divorced) man for a year now and we still don't have sex. We are very sexually active in other ways (by masterbating with each other, foreplay...) but he says that sex means alot to him if it's in a relationship. He ...

First time help...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5492 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - First of all I'm a girl not a guy and so I've been with my gf 8 months now and it's a online realtionship, well right now I'm going in 33 days to go be with her.... I'm so in love with her, she's my everything... we talk about sex all the time and ...

Should I look for a girlfriend at the moment?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - Hi, don't know if this is the right place to ask this. Seeing a therapist due to neediness issues. Only thing is I'm still quite lonely and wondering if it's worth trying to get a girlfriend at the moment. Therapy could take a while to end and I'm ...

He's enthusiastic but doesn't orgasm. Where am I going wrong?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5494 days ago

16 April 2009 (?) - I've been seeing my boyfriend for almost 7 months now. We're really close and love each other intensely. However, even though we've made love countless times, he still hasn't yet had an orgasm. What am I doing wrong? He really gets into sex wi...

Lack of oral sex in a relationship...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - I've been dating a girl for 2 years now, and we never have oral sex. She doesn't want me to do it for her, but I do want her to do it to me. I'm not selfish though, I'd go down on her 7 days a week if she'd let me. I love giving oral to women. ...

How can I either stop myself from cumming so soon or find a way to make my boyfriend cum faster???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - I am very sensitive when it comes to having sex and find that I cum very easily... my boyfriend is the opposite and takes time to come... I get very frustrated and feel as if I'm not doing enough to please my boyfriend... How can I either stop ...

Is he just using me for sex and company?

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16 April 2009 (F) - I am 17 years old, and was dating a boy who has turned 19 for 4 months. He dumped me on the night of a party I was hosting claiming that I acted like "a drunk hoe". I really wasn't acting that bad, he just didn't like that I paid more attention to ...

I'm constantly worried about what my man is up to when I'm not around.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - I'm constantly worried about what my man is up to when I'm not around. It's not like he does anything particularly major which makes me feel really silly and pathetic. I know it's not healthy in a relationship. There's so much that's right with him ...

My parents hate my b/f, they think he's terrible..how to sway them?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Hey. I'm 15 and MY boyfriend is 18. He's sweet, kind, caring, and I feel really.. protected when I'm around him. Adressing the age gap, I forget about it all the time. I'm free to be myself around him, and vice versa. I'm also very mature for my ...

I love my ex but would like to date this other guy too!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - I'm an 18 year old female and I have never been so confused in my life. A few months ago, I dated a guy online, a friend of a friend that goes to school here. The problem was that it was a long distance relationship. He broke up with me about a ...

Should I go out with someone that I don't have alot of feelings for?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - i really want a boyfriend atm, theres the prom coming up and im just really lonely theres a few guys that i think are interested in me but i just dont feel that much for them do you think i should just go out with one of them anyway? surely ...

Want to make the 6 months celebration memorable!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5494 days ago

16 April 2009 (?) - It's mine and my boyfriend's 6 months since we started being an 'official' couple so to speak in a few weeks. I want to make it special and surprise him. However, I'm slightly stuck as to what we can do to make it special. I want to make it me...

How can we make this work without losing each other?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5494 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year. We first dated in grade nine for about a month, then he dumped me because he said he wasn't ready to be in a serious relationship and didn't want to hurt me. Almost immediately he started ...

I know he's busy but when I text him he doesn't reply

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Okay.... I've had this crush on this guy for about 3 yrs. and I never told him. Well, about 2 weeks ago I finally get the nerve to text him and ask him if he wants to have some drinks. He's interested so we go out after I get out of school one ...

Appropriate behavior to retain regular contact with ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - Hello all. With this question I am just trying to get a sense of what most people find to be appropriate behavior in a relationship re: communication with an ex. With all of my previous girlfriends there was just a kind of unspoken rule tha...

Weird situation-help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - about 2 weeks ago my boyfriend hit me several times during an argument, although I decided to forgive him this time, he's been acting really paranoid that I will report him- then the other day, I noticed a group of young men following me across town...

What would you do in this case?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Hello, What would you if your boyfriend cheated on you with his ex? The ex confronts you and tells things you never knew (not even that your boyfriend was seeing her behind your back), and all this time you his was over with his ex? What would...

I love him but it is suffocating me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - hi, im an indian girl, i always have been one of a kind girl. i have a problem in my relationship which may sound dumb to u ,but it means alot to me.im dating a guy, who is too perfect to be true. he is honest loving,caring,too calculated and ver...

My b/f never stops talking about "hot" women it's making me feel uncomfortable

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - The problem I have is that my boyfriend constantly - and I mean it - talks about other women as being "hot" and that he'd "do" them. It makes me uncomfortable, as he knows I don't have the greatest self-image of myself. It makes me wonder what he ...

Do girls like to suck "it"?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - Do all girls like to suck "IT" ? you know..(the man's thing)...and wut position do they like? cuz am trying to make my GF happy......

He says he loves me, but only texts and calls me when I contact him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5494 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - i have a problem with the father of my kid.we been together for 4 years now but he says he loves me but the problem is he doesn call or sms me,he only cals wen i sms him first or give a miscal.we don't stay together, this is actualy a distance rela...

How do I get over a broken heart? I love him and want him back although he is not worth it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, Two nights ago my boyfriend of 4 months broke up with me. He was my first boyfriend and my first kiss, I was and still am completely in love with him. I had noticed he had been a bit off with me around other people but when we were alo...

How can I get her to give me that chance and start building her trust again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - I'm worried that i've lost the girl of my dreams forever. We were together for 4 years and in the last few months i didn't realise how distant i had become. We broke up in November because of this but we both missed each other so much that we got ...

Am torn between 2 guys..my bf and my best friend!! what to do?!?! confused!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - hi i am 20 and m with a guy for d last 3 yrs. this guy, my bf was gud...very sweet at first...but as time passed he has changed a lot...not as a person but surely his habits have changed. now he drinks ..smokes..gambles...n is alwayz out busy with ...

Is it the drinks and party atmosphere, or should I pursue this further?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - I celebrated my birthday last night at my local bar, and a girl who works there was also celebrating hers (though she wasn't working that night, just partying). I had talked to this girl a few times before, and even given her a ride home once, but I ...

5 years on and off - what's going on with them?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5494 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Hi my friend he's been on and off with his girlfriend for 5 years! they again recently split up because she said he doesn't make her happy. he said he still loves her and she wants to still be friends he said he can't do it. but they met up ...

I think love means sacrifice am I right?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5493 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - I have a question! Do you think that if a man loves a woman (and wants to be with that woman) that he should do whatever he needs to do to be with her Even if he has a lot like three business and lots of properties! i mean you only have one lif...

I had sex with my best friend and guess what? I'm now I'm in love with her.... so am I a lesbian?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - hi, im 17years old and i have a problem... and recently found that i have begun to have odd feelings towards my best friend who is also a girl. shes unbelievably pretty, smart, funny and i melt when she speaks to me, which is quite often as i see he...

Falling for a guy in the Army- tips on how to make this work?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Okay, i missed my first few classes to do this... so im really hoping i will get some responses and feed back. Here is my story. So my cousin is in the national guard and he went off onto that 16 week training after boot camp. There he met a guy ...

My bf makes me upset when he talks about our relationship, almost 'failing'

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Been with my bf for a while now 6-7 months. When he gets depressed I get really upset, like last night he said to me on the phone that everyday he is with me he feels its another one off. I asked him this morning if he is happy and he said he is bu...

Is my girlfriend too young for me, do you think?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - I have been dating a much younger girl for 6 months now (im coming on 27,she is 17) She is a great girl,she is understanding and caring. My problem is,she has met most of my family and friends on a number of occasions and each time she will ju...

Oh my, they like me, and I already have a boyfriend ... what do I do now?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5486 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - okay, so I have quite i big problem at the moment, but i think that i should explain something first i am a bisexual male, so, i recently found out that this guy i know has a crush on me and so does my bes friend who is a girl, but.... the big ...

Trusting my girlfriend's mates

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - Ive been with my girlfriend for about a month now. We had been close before, but it was never 'official'. I love her alot, I put her infront of myself every time I can. The only problem is, im finding it hard to trust her. Its not so much her I don'...

15 and never been kissed by a boy!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5454 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - hey, ok i have a problem with myself. i am really slim but my mom is really slim aswell so it kind of runs in the family. no i am not anorexic and i don't have a eating disorder, i eat like a pig infact and just comfort eat but i dont know where it ...

What to do for anniversary

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5496 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Hi, i need some suggestions.It will be first year anniversary for me and my boyfriend and i have no idea what to do .what i know is that i want to do something special for both of us....

Recovering Alcoholics don't keep drinking after right?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - i'm sorry but theres a guy who is CLEARLY lying to me. if you were an alcoholic you wouldn't be drinking still would you? like going out getting bladdered things like that? because this guy i was dating told me he was an alcoholic and th...

Am pregnant, confused and my boyfriend tells me he needs a break, what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (?) - I have this man I have known for about four months. I am a month pregnant by him. When I told him, he asked me to terminate. I was against the idea and I suggested marriage. He said he was not ready, but could support the child. Out of frustrat...

How do I show that I love & appreciate him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5496 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year now.I am a shy person and i cant tell my boyfriend how i feel about him. I really love him so much and im scared that im gonna loose him pls he...

Is she scared it'll ruin our friendship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5496 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - hi, i like my friends cousin i've been talking to him recently and we get on so well i took my friend to his house other day as she wanted to see them and he come over to my car and took my car keys out the ignition and was like Ha you got to co...

My b/f has a very high sex drive and I can't keep up. What should we do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - hey everyone. my problem involves my boyfriends sex drive. im 19 and he is 22, been going out a few months. He has an extremely high sex drive, and we have just talked about it and he told me that he has lost all his past girlfriends because ...

Am I too short, as a male?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - I went on two really great dates recently with a girl I met at my college through a friend. It seemed as those we connected in every way. After the second date things seemed to fizzle out. I wonder why until a friend on mine told me that he had ran ...

Is he over his wife or are the feelings still lingering

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - My man and I age difference is 31 years apart. He has 3 grown kids plus my son. I love him and he says he loves me but every time we have a conversation he has to bring up his ex wife who cheated. Does he still love her or miss her. Although he says...

I feel really bad and guilty for not being there for her.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5496 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - Ok, I am 16 years old and I have dated this girl on and off for about 6 years I love her with all of my heart. About 6 months ago she told me that she was raped and I just comforted her for awhile, later she came out and told me who did it. It was ...

Should I Break the Cycle?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5494 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Seven months ago I met a very handsome man while hanging out with friends. A month into "dating" him, I found out that he was a professional athlete, something he did not want me to know. We continued as usual. After a while, he started to trav...

She said it is too late now, and I am shattered

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5496 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - hey, im a guy that is 16 years old. i have relationship issues with my girlfriend and im seeking a lot of advice... we've been dating for 3 years and 2 months now. during the 2nd year she cheated on me for another guy. they met, hugged and kiss...

How you would feel about going with a girl 3 or 4 years younger?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5494 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - okay so im fourteen and i hang about with people 3 years older than me , i dont know why i suppose ive always just got on with older people better. ive only had one boyfriend before.. no boys ever like me, any i like back,. im quite a picky pers...

Confused about how to make this work

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5496 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - so this past weekend i met a really cute boy at a party.. and we didnt kiss or anything but we hung out the whole night. he got my number at the end of the night and the next day he texted me. we texted the whole day. we added eachtoher on myspace ...

I turned down 3 serious dates and now he no longer pursues me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5496 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - after turning down 3 serious dates from a guy he no longer seem to pursue me. we both express that we are attracted to each other.i however would like to take things slower(at my pace).when we cross paths now he acknowledges me and promises to visit ...

Does inexperience turn a guy on or off?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5480 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Does inexperience turn a guy on or off? I recently started seeing a new guy, and things have gotten pretty intimate really fast.. though this is a first for me. Any ideas? Much appreciated....

Do you think it's a bad idea for a girl to let her man go to a bar without her?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend wants to go to a bar Friday night with some of his buddies. His friends have a band and are performing that night. My friends are all like "your letting him go by himself?" I'd never let my man do that!" He's never given me a reason not ...

Taken but regretting it...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5496 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - I've wanted a girlfriend for more than a year now and recently I started dating my friend. She's amazing but I found out I really miss being single. Like I've had this huge need to flirt with other girls and talk with my friends about how hot they ...