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writes: I know most people define needy girlfriends as being too possessive; which I am not. However, I do try and get him to spend some time with me a lot. Thing is though, it never works. We're both in High School, so we dont have time consuming jobs yet. However, he babysits for his mom four times a week and is allowed to see me once. Sometimes on the weekends, if I guilt him or beg him enough, he cmes over too. I never go over there because a) he doesnt want me to b) i have no car anyways and c) his mom hates me and I am afraid of her.We've been dating for almost a year now and I only get to see him once, maybe twice, a week. Last weekend, he promised he would come over and I didnt even need to ask. So, Friday night swang around but he was at his friend...we'll call him Mike.. well, his house. I figured he might come over after wards. Saturday came along and he decided to sleep at his other friends house. I couldnt even ask him when, if at all, he was coming over. Finally, Sunday rolls around and he gets to his dads house around noon and calls me. Im happy he at least called but I had a sinking feeling he never planned to come over. I asked him if he was and he said he wasn't sure, he had no way over. I asked him how he had planned to get over and he said bus. He knew buses dont run over here on Sunday.I got mad at him for lying to me and not even doing a good job with it. I wanted to see him so badly but he screwed it all over. I could have just accepted it and waited until Wednesday when he would come over but I didnt.Does this make me needy? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (10 April 2009):
It makes you a massive drama queen, but I'm not sure about needy.
He didn't lie to you, he was just a bit rubbish and his plans changed and he forgot about the buses.
You could always arrange to meet him somewhere outside your house. Other places exist than your place and his place, and then you wouldn't have to nag and plead for him to put all the effort in as he would see you were getting off your bum to see him for a change.
Call up, apologise for throwing a childish tantrum and have a talk about how you can make your relationship a bit fairer so he has time for his mates AND you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, XxDefineMexX  +, writes (10 April 2009):
 No way luv. He's the one who needs to straighten his life out. I know i can never get enough time with my boyfriend as we are in middle school and can almost never see eachother except on the weekends. I feel like i never see him and from the way it sounds i see him more than you see your man.
Sit down sometime when your together and explain how you feel and what you want him to do to fix it. Also to not 'put him on the spot' offer some things you can do to help if there are any.
but remember always be honest and just tell him how you feel no matter how difficult.
Hope I helped=]
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