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writes:I know this sounds really shallow, but I'm scared that if I ever get in a serious relationship with a girl she'll stop taking care of her body. And then in a few years she won't look pretty any more she'll just look fat. Is there a way to make sure a girl doesn't do this or to deal with a girl losing her beauty? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): Like one of the women mentioned it, believe it or not, rarely do I look pretty for men. I do it for myself, and because it makes me feel happy. The notion that in a relationship you'll stop taking care of physical appearance is absurd. Either you're younger, or don't have any experience in knowing how relationships work--even on the most superficial level.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): Hi
What about if you go bald....and your teeth drop out and so on ......and you have a beer gut? treat your woman good.
You'll learn.
via con dios
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female
reader, Kayla123  +, writes (10 April 2009):
Hear hear to the above! When u meet the right person that thought should not even enter your head! Ihope you never have any weight problems or anything that might affect your looks! Good look with finding miss perfect x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): Get A Grip! You Sound very childish, immature, and very shallow. Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder. You should love somebody for who they are..not what they look like. I think the suggestions below are pretty consrtuctive tho..if you want her to stay in shape and take care of her body (you cant make her!) but you can support each other and do plenty of physical activities..
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (10 April 2009):
 It's people like you who cause girls to have eating disorders and body obsession problems.
If you want a girlfriend who will stay in shape, join a gym and meet a nice girl there. You must not be hypocritical if you want a girl who keeps putting the effort in you must too!
I get the feeling that you think you are much more than you actually are, so staying in shape and putting effort in is going to be much harder for you, than her staying in shape.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (10 April 2009):
Well you could try putting some effort in yourself and keeping YOUR figure in check.
If you are taking her out cycling up mountains and to theme parks and jogging to see the sunrise then she isn't going to get fit.
If you get together with her and then buy pizza every friday night and get fat yourself then she has no reason to make so much effort.
In most cases I know, it's the guy that gets fat and lazy and starts farting all day and the girl has to put up with him instead.
Yes you are being shallow a bit but it's up to both partners to keep nice for each other. I'm more worried that you have so little knowledge of women that you are prepared to believe this massive stereotype.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, XxDefineMexX +, writes (10 April 2009):
 As a women im kind of offended by this. I will NEVER ever stop taking care of my body. Especially if im in a relationship. I will always want to look pretty and make my lover happy.
Most women are very self-concious and always feel like they are not pretty enough. I know i am.
And if you love her is shouldn't matter how she looks dear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): I think you need to grow up
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