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writes:my boyfriend was with a girl for 7yrs,and they split up. a year after splitting up from his ex,he met me. we've been together for over a year now. in the early stages he called me by his ex's name,which i didn't like but i understood,maybe it was too soon.he did it again twice and i was upset,but he apologized and i forgave him. and in our 2nd year in the relationship he still does it.im very upset by this i don't know if ill be able to forgive him.i know he loves me, and i love him,but im not sure if i want to be with him if he keeps calling me by his ex's name.I think he feels bad about it,he apologized crying, he even bought me a bunch of rosesplz give me some advice.XX
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reader, link2067  +, writes (10 April 2009):
 7 years is a long time and emotionally for men, when we let a girl in, they are in. In all honesty its probably a good thing, he is allowing himself to go back to those feelings he had when he was with her, which were probably good ones. He is getting comfortable being with you now that he is with you and those same feelings are surfacing. Its good that he appologizes when it happens cause Im sure he doesnt mean it. Its a mere slip of the tongue and it has happend to me as well.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (10 April 2009):
Well you just need to stay strong and keep getting upset.
He needs to know that he NEEDS to be more careful what he says and he will only do that when he KNOWS that bad things will happen if he does it.
He can cry and buy you stuff every time he does it as it might make him get his act together.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): All I can say 7 years is a long time. My current GF, her mother still accidently calls me by her ex name (we been going out for about 1year and a half, )
So if he has appologised like that, he seems like it was an accident.. :S
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): Don't be too hard on him, it's not like he doesn't know your name!, I'm sure it's just a slip of the tongue, 7 years is a long time to then change to someone else.It's obvious he feels bad for calling you by his ex's name so I'd say fogive him. But I know what it feels like, I'm always referred to by my sisters name and it's like 'that's not me'! At least you got roses as an apology! Bless him.Tell him it upsets you as you already have, but don't worry too much-if you want to annoy him, when he next calls you by his ex's name, call him by your ex's name!Don't worry-there could be worse problems than using an ex's name-he seems truly sorry so move on from it.Lots of love
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