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Dating: Help and advice

I'm still bothered by my girlfriend sleeping with a former friend. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - I know what a pain it is to read long questions. But I really need help from some mature smart people! So… I met my girl, we were 22 finishing school, dated a few months, broke up, we stayed friends; started seeing each other again casually i...

Do I give him a second chance?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I dated my b/f for 3 years before becoming pregnant. We got into a huge fight and broke up 3 months ago, 3 weeks later my son was born and he didn't show up for the birth. He showed up on Easter Sunday telling me he loves me and we ended up sleep...

Other forms of birth control?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I have been sexually active since I was 15, I am 18 now. I have been on the pill in the past but I have a very hard time remembering to take it. My current b/f and I have sex regularly but neither of us really likes the way condoms feels. I like ...

I'm attracted to younger teens... is this sick?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 5172 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - Hello, I'm 18 and I'm from the UK. I've suddenly become attracted to younger teens, 13+. Is this normal? I'm scared because I don't want to turn into a paedophile, do I need to seek further advice for this? Has anyone else gone through the same ...

He told me he'll never change... does that mean he doesn't love me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for like 9 months. I love him so much but we always fight, I know fighting is normal but not all the time.. he has a really bad temper and he gets mad for everything and he always causes it. I don't know why he does ...

But I love her and want to be sexually with her. How can I make her understand that?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - When I was 17 I was living a wild life, drinking, drugs and lots of sex. After my parents kicked me out I moved in with my uncle, got into a good drug program and joined a church group and took a purity pledge. I have dated girls since but never ...

Worried army wife!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is in the army and was recently deployed. He went at the begining of February. It is the first time he has been away since we have been together and when he first left he called me regularly every few days, but I have not heard from ...

I keep going back and forth with him and don't know what to do for the best. Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5496 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I have been with this guy for 8 months now. Since the first month I have been back and forth about whether I should be with him or not, despite the fact that we got along really well, he treated me well, etc. I found him to be really needy and I ...

How do girls masturbate? I'm not really comfortable with sticking stuff in my vagina yet.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I'm a 16 year old girl and I don't really masturbate. I’m not sure how to. Is that weird? Is that bad? Me and my boyfriend are doing a lot of stuff with hands. This is the first time either of us have gotten this close to another person b...

Was I right to leave my emotionally abusive ex-boyfriend?

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13 April 2009 (F) - I went out with a guy on and off for 3 months. We spent so much time together and he was so charming. After the first month, things degraded and we argued a lot. He gave me silent treatment lots. But we always made up. Then one night he embarrassed ...

Help! I'm torn between two girls!

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13 April 2009 (M) - Hi, well here's the deal. I have a girlfriend and she's great to me but I think I've fallen for someone else. The girl I like is very very pretty (I've seen pics and videos of her) and has a sense of humour and but we've never talked before. She ...

Pull out and pray!!!!

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13 April 2009 (M) - Ok I had sex with my girlfriend we only had sex with out a condom for like 3 or 4 minutes then we used one. What's you opinion on the chances of her getting pregnant? Her period was 3 days before this. ...

Silent treatment and no answer. What do do ...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I have currently developed feelings for this guy that I've known for around four years. Things have started to develop with us but we haven't had intercourse with him. Even though we both want to do things, afterwards I feel like he's given me the ...

I like her but I am not attracted to her? Am I trying to change her?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - Okay so I'm seeing this girl. She's not usually what I would go for.. Like she's really cute. Maybe a 5.9/10 on my scale. I usually date 7/10's and up... I'm involved with this girl because I'm looking for someone to share my time with and so...

I need to quiet my mind, or...

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13 April 2009 (M) - Ug...I can't believe I'm even asking this. My GF and I are in our late forties...certainly old enough to not play games. My GF has taken a short vacation, for which I am happy for her. She works hard and deserves it. My concern is... On the ...

I cannot move on as I love her with all my heart and will wait forever for her to come back.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5496 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - hello, im in the army and started a relationship about 6 months ago, and everything was going great. However after 5 months my partner fell pregnant totally by accident, and everything changed. she already has one child and i treat him fairly and ...

Please enlighten me on BDSM

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13 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend has recently told me he's into BDSM. I'm completely open to it, but I've never done anything like it, handcuffs maybe but that's it. When the day comes that we decide to do this, I don't want to look like an idiot ha ha. If anyone c...

Do Virgo men take an awfully long time to open up and trust women?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I have been in love with a man since last summer. I made my feelings towards him fairly clear but at Christmas he said he could only offer me friendship, despite the fact that he was sending messages to indicate he wanted more. I decided I would de...

Should I take a sabbatical from all men?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I have been with my current boyfriend for almost two years, he has a lot of problems and growing up to do as far as his own life is concerned and I got tired of waiting around and so I told him I was going to start seeing someone else. After ha...

How do pop the question to my pregnant girlfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5495 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - i love my girlfriend alot and we just found out she is pregnant and i want to ask she to be my wife but i am not sure when or how to ask her i have been thinking about this for a long time... should i...

No foreplay and no condoms!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - No foreplay and no condoms! I have just started to sleep with my guy - but he seems reluctant to give me any foreplay! Also he says that when we do have sex he doesn't like using condoms!! - I am confused with what to do - as I love him but am unsur...

Why do I hate my boyfriend masturbating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - This may be a very unusual query but ANY advice would be helpful! My long-term boyfriend (known each other for 5 years) has a rather strange view on sexual matters. When he gets very depressed (for instance, when we have a big argument), he sees mas...

My married man's wife is pregnant! What should I do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4938 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I am 24 years old and have been having an affair with a 33 yr old married man from my small community for over a year now. I just found out that his wife is pregnant. I have tried to end our relationship but I always find myself drawn to him. A f...

How do I find more independence when my boyfriend is away?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of nearly a year and half has gone away for a week, and i miss him terribly. I've found myself doing nothing, just feeling sorry for myself. How do i create more independence in my relationship, and stop myself feeling so bad when...

I would like to have my parents' blessing, but how do I tell them about this relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - I come from a very religious family (my father is a pastor) I am a youth pastor. Just a little over a year ago a young girl joined our church she was married to a very abusive man and had a 1 yr old son and was pregnancy. I helped her leave her ...

How can I heat things up? Help

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5496 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - my guy and i have been together for 2 years and a half now . we love each other so much have sex almost 3 times a week sometimes more . but i feel that our sex life is starting to be boring , same old same old. we have a little foreplay in the begi...

Longing for the love I once had and want to have a family.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - Hi everyone,I have a boyfriend who I have been with from I was 14,but when I turn 16 I was on a plane to the us. I was so said and hurt for leaving him down there and I always remember the last time I saw him he was crying so much. I came up here...

Confessions of an Agony Uncle

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 690 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - On the 4th of November 2008 I signed up for a name and posted my first answer on this site. It was some quiet advice on career choices. Last night I posted my 100th. Just a bit of general advice on sex. In between I've gotten my ire up about ...

What is she thinking? It's really confusing me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - Hi there. I recently split with my ex of 3 years 2 weeks ago. I am 27 she is 22. It was her decision but we had a long talk and decided it was for the best as we just seem to have "grown apart". However i was in fact devastated by this and spen...

Help...sex problem: it hurts when he goes in

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - i've been with my partner for 2 years now but i have a problem during sex , it hurts so much when he tries to go inside and only part of his penis would go inside . when he tries to finger me with one finger .. it hurts, and i know for sure i'm not ...

My gf wants me to choose between her or my family (with my handicapped brother)

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5494 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - I wonder if you guys can help me on this matter. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now and we've started to talk about marriage and moving in together. I currently live with my mum and my twenty year old brother who is in a whee...

Now I'm scared I could be pregnant.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5492 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I'm 14 years old and my boyfriend is 18, I met him through my friend from school whos dating his best friend (she's 13, he's 17). We've been together 6 months now, and he's never asked for anything sexual at all. My parents have met him and appr...

What is a "courtesan"?

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13 April 2009 (F) - what is a courtesan?...

I just don't know how to tell him that I would love to marry him some day

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - So my boyfriend and I were recently talking about marriage and I said some things I now wish I hadn't. I admit I was kind of trying to lure out of him his feelings on the topic (in general) and I kinda had the impression that he didnt really want ...

What kind of friendship is she looking for ?

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13 April 2009 (M) - hello people ...i broke up with my gf 2 weeks ago because it really had no future and i had a strong reason...she is and will always be the most special person for whom i care a lot in my life.... she is really sweet and very understanding and want...

How do I ask him out? What do I say to him?

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13 April 2009 (F) - this boy has asked me out and i have known him most of my life, he is really nice but until now i have only seen him as a friend, so i said no. but the problem is i think im in love with his best friend and have liked his best friend for more than...

My bf is 7 yrs older than me and I know it's illegal for us to date. Is he worth it?? Please read xxx

This question has 34 answers - newest was posted 5492 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - i am currently going out with a 21 year old and im only 13 (he was 20 when we started seeing eachother) the thing is he hasnt pressured me into anything and ive never felt this way before. i know about his past and everything ive spoken 2 his cous...

Are all guys like to have skinny girlfriends?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5169 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - just looking for body advice.. Im 61kgs and probably around 165 cms maybe a bit taller. Im not fat, im curvy. I like my bum i like that i have one. The only things i dont really like is my boobs, there a bit small but im not that phased. The th...

Is her love for us fading out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - I've been dating my partner now for 4 1/2 years we have a lovely little boy of 2 1/2 years. Over the last 6 months things seem to have changed dramatically as we hardly ever see each other. we live together but are lucky to spend a few hours a day ...

Is there a way to salvage a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - is there a way to salvage a relationship once it has gotten to the point where the person your with is continuously disrespecting you? my boyfriend is always calling me a slut, whore even a cunt. He is overly jealous and tries to make me feel guilty ...

Ideas for our one month anniversary please!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - hi guys me and my new boyfriend has been together for about a month and i am looking to celebrate a one month anniversary with him, i dont have any clue what to do for him or what to buy for him can u plz help with some advice. thank you...

What do you guys think? Do I no longer want boys?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5494 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I'm in a really complex situation right now. ok, I had an ex for 10months but we dated back in high school (the senior years) its been almost 2years since our break up, but during that time we'd use to flirt and always looked like we were going to g...

I am deeply confused and in pain. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5407 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - I was Involved my a wonderful girl for around seven months.when we were first dating she confessed to me that she was still married with her long time boyfriend. It was an agreement between them two so she could get her green card.she told me that...

Should I leave my ex and move on with new lady? What about our son?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5427 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - I have been together with my girlfriend for about 4 years im 23 and she 22, on and off, throughout the relationship it has not been perfect. A year into the relationship she was pregnant, 6 months after we broke up after constant arguments, she has ...

My boyfriend, or the bit on the side? I like them both! What do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I really don't know what to do. I am in a relationship which i have been in for 7 years and when we first got together, he cheated on me several times with my ex best friend, since then there has been suspicious incidents regarding friends and situ...

14, in love, and both of us are ready for sex. But I'm scared of the pain.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - OK, I don't know what to do... I started a relationship with this guy I've known for years about a month ago. So far, we've only had oral and manual sex. It's clear he wants to go all the way, but he's reassured me that he won't do anything I'm ...

My guy made me feel like I did something wrong. Did I?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - Saturday night I went out with my boyfriend and 4other people he knows(1 being a girl). It was suppose 2b me and my guy at 1st but his man called wanting to go to the movies bringing along his girl. We get in the car and the plans have change. The ...

There' so much trust broken. What more can I do than walk away?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5496 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - Not quite sure where to begin. I posted a problem about 18 months ago whilst I was undergoing treatment for breast cancer. My partner of then just 6 months was signing up to dogging websites etc and you guys offered me invaluable advice - Thank ...

I need to pull myself out of this heartbreak but I don't know how.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I really need to pull myself out of this heartbreak and i dont know how. i'll cut my story really short all that i care about now is that i miss him and i dont think there is anyway back as he made it clear he has absolutely nothing else to say to ...

Is he saying we belong together as a couple?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I asked the man I have been with for 5 yrs if he ever found out that i was sleeping with another man what would he do. He told me that he would have to be gone. That any decent man doesn't share what he already has sexually. is this his way of ...

I'm 30 shes 40, and I want to tell her how I feel

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - I have been friends with an older lady, she is 39 and i am 30. We met at salsa classes and ever since the moment i saw her we have been talking. Recently, in the past two weeks we have exchanged numbers and started to text each other. She is ...

What is the suitable age to get into a relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - what's the suitable age to get into a relationship?? I mean the time when " u should b in a relationship" without anyone feeling strange or talking bad about you. (such as parents n relatives) Pls do give sincere advices and I would like to ...

I still love him but I don't know if I should take him back

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - Hey I need help ASAP. My ex wants me back but I found out earlier that he tried to put the moves on "K" his room mate. She laughed at him when he bought her roses. So I think he only wants me back because she turned him down. But I still love him ...

We both love each other but I don't know if I could trust her or him.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months. But we broke up last week because we just couldn't handle us fighting all the time. We seemed t be fighting about the same stuff over and over. I was going to school and working too much and ...

Is my girlfriend being unfair by not forgiving me my mistake?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - I've been in a relationship for eight months. I love my girlfriend but, alas, I've made some stupid mistakes. Considering that our relationship is long-distance, it's been difficult on me as I'm a guy and had recently lost my virginity (to my...

Am I wrong to feel this need for our penance?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - Here’s the story… This happened years ago… So, I met this girl who was a little rebellious at first. She was flunking out of school and what not. I really liked her because she was herself around me. I feel madly in love with her. She was perfect ...

I'm starting to lose my feelings for this girl but I'm so scared of breaking up with her

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5496 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - Hello everybody... I've been with my girlfriend for 10 months now and we've already been through so much together... But, I think starting to lose my feelings for this girl but I'm so scared of breaking up with her because i don't want to hu...

What on Earth do I do about all this lying?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - Right. Very long story short.. I've been with this girl for 20 months (engaged since August)and everything was absolutely fine until.. January sometime. Basically, she went to University, not too far away, close enough that I can see her *nearly*...

Should I ask her about this other guy?

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13 April 2009 (M) - Dear all, I am in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year now, and things are going pretty well. We get along quite well, laugh a lot, and have many things in common. We see there is a future for us. I must say that sex life is rather dull t...

Why do they do it?

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13 April 2009 (M) - why do so many girls get back with their ex's after they cheated on them?? i would never cheat, and think it is a very horrible thing to do, but why do girls get back with guys that cheated on them? how can they trust him?...

Torn between two great guys

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5497 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - Im really into two different guys and i dont know which one to go with. They are in the same band and they are both very talented, extremely nice and supportive, and cute. Which one should i choose???? Guy 1 six years older than me mature s...

Can anyone tell me what my problem is?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - I'm a guy, i've been dating since i was 16, albeit poorly. I've tried to be every kind of guy, badass, nice, and in between. And everything else you can think of. All i want, all i've ever wanted, is a stable relationship. Something that, i can ...

I can't find his soft spots!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

13 April 2009 (?) - Heya! My boyfriend and I are 15, we've been together 3 months, and we do not plan to have sex until we are married. That being said, do you have any advice as to how to really make him go crazy, he's found all my soft spots (in appropriate plac...

I can't stand to see him with someone else! Is this love? Or addiction?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5499 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - its almost a week that i broke up with my boyfren.. i have been in dis relationship for almost 3 and half years.. i loved him very much and we also had a very intimate relation.. but then he always doubted on me, was very possesive and abused me and ...

What's it like the first time you see your boyfriend naked?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - Girls respond… I have a good relationship with my bf. What is it like to see your boyfriend naked for the first time? What is it like to have your boyfriend see you naked for the first time? How can it be a good experience? What can be ...

Id rather talk with a 46 yr old man instead of my 21 yr old boyfriend

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13 April 2009 (F) - Well i'm 21 and i am attracted to this older man he's 46 any how i love talking to him about interesting things he's very intelligent. The problem is i have a boyfriend which is 21 and they live together. I don't know what to think anymore me and ...

Any tips for first time beautiful sex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I are in love. We have not done it but will. How can I make our sex good, beautiful, enjoyable, and a wonderful experience for both of us? ...

Love at first sight and coincidence

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - What do you think about love at first sight and coincidences? How i met my bf was we were both coming from school, i was coming from high school night school and he was coming from college night school, we were at the same station and got ...

Confused! Is this love? Should I give him some space?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5499 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I have been going out with my bf for about a month now and a half, how we hooked up was him revealing his love for me and i gave him a chance finally. I have been hurt many times with ppl cheating on me and it is taken me a while to stop being scar...

My uncle's a famous country singer..one my girlfriend loves!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - Hey im 17 and i need help. I have a famous country singer uncle and my current girlfriend (whom i have had for 1 year now) dosent know. The thing is that she is a huge fan, what do i do and how do i do it?...

The problem is I have begun to like him...a lot!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5499 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - here goes, I'm a 24 yr old gal who likes this really cute guy and me and him were always talking online everyday, and we met each other two three times already.. he told me he finds me attractive and is attracted to me.even we met the first time he ...

I like being with my boyfriend and find it hard to break up...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - Hi I've been going out with this guy for 3 years now...but for the past year we have been falling out and things aren't what they used to be....he's very jealous and sometimes controlling but on the other hand he can be so sweet and fun...la...

What would you do if your bf had 4 women spend the night?

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13 April 2009 (F) - What would you do if your boyfriend had four females spend the night? I had recently gotten back together with my ex after a two no contact period. He had cheated on me in our relationship before and we broke up. Fast forward two years, we got back...

I don't know if I even stand a chance with him!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - There's this boy that i really like. Hes so cute and we have a lot in common, we like the same music that know one else in our school really knows about and dress in the same unique style. He wears the tight pants has a lip ring and band shirts and ...

Divorced women..Did you find happiness the second time around?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - This question is for all the women out there who filed for divorce from their first husband (for various reasons) and went on to re-marry again later in their lives....Did you find happiness the second time around? I have heard that most second ...