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Dating: Help and advice

I know he cares for me, but at the same time I feel like I'm being used.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - Alright, so its been two months since me and my ex of about two years have broken up. Our breakup was kinda big with me thinking he cheated on me, to me beating him up for it. To him basically dating the girl later that he cheated on me with. It ...

I don't know how to cum during sex, the intense feelings scare me and stress me out.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - I've been having sex for the past 2 years and as far as I can tell I think I've only came once or twice. The other night he was fingering me and it felt nice for a bit, then it seemed to get a bit intense and I couldn't tell if it was hurting me or ...

I feel that she loves me but isn't physically attracted to me...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - We have been going out for almost three months, she tells me she loves me and we spend a ton of time together, talk every day and send each other messages constantly. We don't have a sex life, she always seems to stop things when we are about to ...

I don't know if our relationship is going anywhere, I feel so alone.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5504 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - I've been with my bf for over 3 years and you'd think by now we'd stop fighting but it's just getting worse. I hate it when he drinks because he's just stupid and I can't talk to him, not to mention, our first new years together i woke up to find ...

Does her grabbing me mean that she wants sex from me???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfreind were in the basement on the couch snuggled under a blanket watching a movie... later on she started making out with - I really liked it... but five minutes into the tongue action, she grabbed and felt on my penis.. I kinda ...

Should I even try to win him back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5504 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - Let's start at the beginning: I met a guy on the first day of university, and we started going out shortly afterwards. We were together 18 months, then we got engaged (pretty young i know!). We have lived together for two years, and been engaged...

My girlfriend's sexual activities are killing me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - Ok so this isn't your usual "omg her sexual history.." type thing. More so, how do you get past or over, a loved one's sexual, choices I'd say? I'm with the same woman for what we'd call a while now, both madly in love, plans to marry, have kids...

Why can't he let the ex go and why would he want her back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5496 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - Dating a man for a couple of months. He told me things like love at first sight, my family will love you, I can see you in my home, could you see yourself living where I live etc. "joe" was in a relationship for 5 years with "Sally". She ha...

Advice needed. Does he love me or is he just wanting to get inside my knickers?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - I need to know if he really loves me and doesn't just want to get in my pants. After he fingered me and I gave him a hand-job he wants to do a little more. So do you think he really loves me or not. Hope you can help...

Can giving head cause a throat infection?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - I'm really sick, I have a throat infection and I gave my boyfriend head this week. Is it possible that giving head can cause a throat infection. I know he's clean for std's, but I'm not sure since urine passes through there, it might cause a throat ...

Foreign girls verses the local girls.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - Where I live the guys mostly like foreign girls and not the local girls. Where does that leave the local girls? If guys only want the foreign girls....

I have a boyfriend but I'm attracted to girls too.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - When I was younger I used to kiss my friend in the toilets.(yes a girl!). I know this may seem like 'oh she's young and confused' but I'm not. But I am confused about what I am meant to do. I still have some feelings for girls and find girls mo...

My girlfriend flirted with this guy in a way I thought was disrespectful. I'm not sure what to do.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - A couple of nights ago we went to a party. My girlfriend got a little drunk and was a little flirty with some other guys. That didn't bother me at all really, but what did is that there was this one guy, she had just met, she was extra talkative to. ...

I feel so ugly and annoying that I can't even think about ever dating another man again.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - My ex and I broke up like an hour ago via messenger. We've broken up before and he always comes back. He is usually the one to break up with me. He doesn't trust me, because of my past. I've never cheated on him (or anyone), but he thinks I've been ...

How can I tell if this guy likes me so I can ask him out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - there's this guy i like.he is the nicest, quietest, guy in class and i think i should ask him out.but i don't want to be teased about asking him out if he doesn't like me back.how can i tell if he likes me so i can ask?...

What should we do to let my bf's mother to agree for him to come over without her getting mad at him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other every single weekend since the end of January. He lives about 45 minutes away. Anyway, Well, he was supposed to come over today, I asked my parents and they said yes and we could go pick him up and take...

He is not ready for engagement!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - i met my boyfriend through a friend nearly two years ago. he had been in a carnival in America a yr prior to me meeting him and had married an American girl with a 2 yr old son. they married in court and he then moved in with her he knew her 3 mont...

Could my boyfriend cause my periods problems and abnormal smears?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - hi this may seem like a strange question but.. i was with my b/f for 10 yrs and it was a really bad relationship i had very irregular periods i could go 3 months without one and had regular abnormal smears, we broke up for about two years and hey ...

B/f wants to have threesome

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5385 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - I am currently in a relationship and my boyfriend is 10 years older then I am! So he's experienced a lot! just about every girl that he has been with he has had a threesome.. and it hurts my heart knowing that he wants to bring this type of stuf...

Should we take frequent short breaks from each other, or perhaps ... a break up?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - hello everyone ..i have messed up my life....! i had a one year relationship with my girlfriend who was damn caring and loved me more than anyone this this world! she was the most responsible sensible and mature girl i have every come across in m...

He gives me gifts. Should I feel guilty dating others?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5502 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - I should not be asking this question at my age..so but in any case this is the least of my worries.. I am divorced, awaiting unemployment, my son is grown, I am mostly college educated, totally at a crossroads of my life..so other than not having m...

14 yo in LDR. What's going on with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - hey um i'm 14 and i've been dating a 15 yr old. For about a few week's now but this is the 2nd time we've dated, it's a long distance relationship and we never get to see each other, but i don't know what's going on with my boyfriend. We're kinda've ...

We are considering a structured open relationship. Good or bad idea?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of 2 years and I just broke up because I can't see him sexually and have no sexual attraction to him. After a few days of being miserable, we talked and he said he was willing to consider a structured open relationship, which is what I ...

19 yo F and feel inexperienced. Do men like hair or no hair down there?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5457 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - I'm 19 and in a new-ish relationship. We're getting more serious and i really like him a lot, so want to go further sexually with him. I'd like some advice on what to do with my pubic hair. What do you guys prefer? I am afraid to ask him, b...

PORN raises its ugly head again!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - I found porn on my boyfriends computer and it made me feel really betrayed and uncomfortable, I don't usually have a problem with that kind of thing, but he told me he doesn't watch it now. I don't know if I'm just being over dramatic which he says ...

It's all such a mess of secrets, I need your opinions.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - Hi, I could really use your help, I don't know how to feel at the moment. In December I started a sort of friends with benifits situation with my best friend A, and it was all secret because he had a girlfriend at the time (wrong I know and I feel v...

We are "together" without the titles!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - I was set up with a guy (by my dad of all people) and we hit it off immediately. Now, 8 months later we are still "together without the titles" and he always says he is not looking for anything serious. However, we have sex. I feel like we're just ...

What is happening with her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - Hi, i'll try to be short but would appreciate advice. About a month ago i began seeing a girl, she's new in the city so didn't have many friends, we went out a few times had afew kisses but not much else. She broke up with her ex about 3 months ago ...

We're close one minute then there's tension the next! Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been on weird terms lately and I've had some trust issues recently and I'm trying to open up, but this other day I was in her room and there used to be this picture of us and now it's just gone. A little strange. Anyway, so ...

Advice on how to do Phone sex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - Hey, I just currently turned 14 and my boyfriend's about a year and 5 month's older than me. We have a very long distance relationship, but we've gotten to the stage of phone sex. And for some reason I won't do it with him, I feel bad because I ...

I'm the back up plan

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - Basically I met this guy, lets call him "Bert", through my group of friends. It was at my friends 16th birthday and we got on really well straight away. Not in the "Love at first sight" way, more like friends - so we swapped MSN addresses and phone ...

Really like him but not in love with him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (?) - ok the shortest way i can put this is that i think i really like my boyfriend but im not yet in love with him. i dont know what it is but it seems that when i am not with him i want him so bad and i feel that i really wanna be with him. but then ...

Friendship and heartbreak

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - dear cupid, i wouldn't say my problem is all that different from a lot of other girls' out there.. i was dating this guy 5 years back.. we met in a club.. really hit it off.. n i had a big crush on him.. he asked me out the next morning.. i wa...

Have we all met "the one" yet?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - hi people. i just want to know and i really need to know for sure. in life each and everyone of us meets ¨the one¨. the one is who were to be with and love forever. how do we know if we have met the one or not? because if we miss our chance at the ...

This is my first time. How do I give a handjob?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - Heyy, im 19 and am going to give my boyfriend a hand job for the first time, but im not sure what im doing. I've heard you have to pull back the foreskin, do you have to do this? And also, when you move your hand up and down, do you move the for...

How do I prove that I didn't spread rumours about him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (?) - ok so me any my ex are at the same college. we were only together for about a month but we were friends before that for about three months. since we broke up we don't talk in college anymore and we never say hello to each other but recently he told ...

I love her but haven't told her

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5503 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - Girls help me! I have a girl friend who i love but have not told. I dont know if she loves me but last few days she was asking me if i have a girlfriend,if i wanted to marry in the university(we are going to the same university),why i loved my ...

I'm a married woman with a huge crush on my married boss

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - Im a married woman who has a huge crush on my boss who is also married I know its wrong but I can't stop I think about him all day now im even picturing him while im "with" my husband I feel like if I tell him I will get it off my chest and get over...

I think my [Indian] b/f is secretly in love with his cousin

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5496 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - Hello to all! this question goes to Indians.either living in land or abroad.-For us being Spaniards.-a girl who is daughter of your grandmother's sister son.Is a close related cousin and we don't marry them.-yes,there have been cases,specially in ...

Two important questions on contraceptive

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5507 days ago

5 April 2009 (?) - hey i was wondering, i have never opened the morning after pill packet, and its two years expired. is it still effective? secondly, how do you know if the condom broke? cause i after the "quickie" i changed underwear and there was white secretio...

My g/f now says she likes this guy, but she still likes me.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5505 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, but her mom doesn't want her with me. She thinks we don't talk anymore, and she's set her up with some other guy. She is now confused and says she likes this guy, but still likes me. ...

What do I do on a Prom date? What should I expect?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - I need help!!! I just asked a girl to prom (she said yes) and I don't know what to do now. Is it weird to go to prom on a single date? Because it seems like everyone group dates for prom. My date and I are both sophomores and I couldn't find...

Follow up: Aspiring drama actor .. what do I do now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - I did it with her..we were rehearings after the show..guess what she is happy to have done it with me? What do I do now? read my previous post below to get a view of her? http://www.dearcup...

She's torn between two lovers. Should I walk away?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5507 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - I am in love with a girl and I honestly believe she is also in love with me. There is no doubt. The way she looks at me, the way she touches me, and how we kiss tell me everything. We lose control when we are around each other. The problem is...

Split Love, what to do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5507 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - i need advice!! i have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now, since 9th grade. It was going strong all along, head over heels in love. recently, i hung out with an old flame, we hit it off. turns out we both still have feelings for each othe...

How do I find a partner with similar sexual interests?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - Here is a description of my current situation. I am 25 year old male with an almost insatiable sex drive and am very experimental/adventurous (for example, I am into BDSM, fetishes, etc). In my past relationships I felt connected to my partner in ...

Boyfriend tells me "I don't want you to talk to "A""

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - One morning(7:30), my boyfriend tells me "I don't want you to talk to "A". I had a major HUGE test (3 hours) that day and it will determine if I'd graduate from high school that day. It totally threw me off. Anyways, I didn't know what to do....

I'm getting frustrated! I want to move on, but is he not over me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5507 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - My ex-boyfriend dumped me and moved out of our apartment 4 months ago. He told me he didn't see a future with me and said he didn't think he was completely over his ex-wife (they have been separated for 3 years, married for 2, and have a son ...

Is she worth the pain? Should I trust her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - My girlfriend has lied to me and has to me that she will never hurt me again. She hung out with other guys while was at home in bed and she said that she didn't want to do anything for the evening and she got really drunk with them. She also lied to ...

His wife won't divorce him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - Okay so 3 years ago, the summer of 2006 I fell for this guy. He was a junior while I was a mear freshman. I was 15 at the time, and I wasn't ready to commit myself to someone yet. So I told him goodbye and we stopped talking. Then I dated this guy ...

Dating woes ... is it always awkward or do you "click" right off the bat?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5506 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - I'm inexperienced dating but I met this guy online (2nd time) a couple days ago. He's nice, smart, reasonably attractive and he likes a lot of the things I do. But it was *so* difficult conversationally and I felt like I had to do a lot of talk...

He proposed to me, but is it too early for marriage?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5507 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I met nine months ago at my freshman orientation. He was a volunteer going into his sophomore year in college. We started dating a day after that and he proposed yesterday. I told him I would have to think about it for a couple days ...

I'm interested but he seems 'clueless'! How can I make this clearer, without being obvious? Suggestions?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - Ok, so l just told my best friend that l am quote, "interested" in him, but he's completely clueless, and doesn't understand what l'm trying to tell him. l have heard that he's bi, so that's not a problem. l have to be obvious, but not too obvious, ...

I thinks she still likes me! What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5486 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - hello all, im just writing about this little story and i want you to answer me... there was a girl in school who were attracted to me and liked me so i started to talk with her and getting to know her, But someday she said suddenly throug...

Possesive or Protective?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5507 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - I was wondering if my taurus friend is being somewhat possessive or jealous with me. We used to date but now we're just reallllly great friends. The reason we broke up in the first place was because he's not the type to balance his personal ...

I'm lost without love

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5507 days ago

5 April 2009 (M) - I had been with my girlfriend for over 6 years. I believe she is my soulmate, and she is a awesome person for anyone too know. She had just broken up with me after a year of not acting like the same person I knew and loved. She still texts and talks ...

Does he? why? what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5505 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - I am practically in love with this boy. He's funny, has a great personality and makes me smile a lot!!! I know this boy through a friend who lives next to him and he goes round her house everyday because my friends brother is best friends with this ...

Pregnant and tired...He thinks I am lazy

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

5 April 2009 (F) - Hello everyone... I just need some advice. I'm 7 months pregnant and over the past two weeks or so I feel extremely fatigued. I also just recently moved into an apartment with my boyfriend. I'm a full time student and he works to support the both...