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Dating: Help and advice

How can I fight off all this male attention?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - I am getting so fed up with the male attention i just can't seem to shunt. After breaking up with my longterm boyfriend i accidently jumped straight back into another relationship. As soon as i began feeling overwhelmed i told him i didn't want ...

Can you be with someone who does not communicate fully with you and put you first?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - Hi, I would love an objective view of my relationship so some advice would be great. I have been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years. He is a great guy and is perfect for me in everyway. I honestly do not feel I could find anyone better when it comes to ...

What advice can you give to a guy who has never dated, has suffered a long struggle with depression, and is in his 20s?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5487 days ago

22 April 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid, I am a 20 year old male, who is suffering from both depression and social anxiety disorder. Both of these conditions have lasted for years, many of them undiagnosed, and have left me without so much as a wink from the opposite sex. Na...

Do you think he is having an affair?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - I feel so confused right now as I think my 35yr old bf is giving me mixed messages. We have been with each for 2 yrs in a LDR. We got a bit upset with each other the other week when we went out for the day. I took a phone call from a male friend ...

I love him so much and he says he loves me and wants to marry me, but he's a cheat. What should I do?

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22 April 2009 (F) - hey guys i recently found out that my boyfriend cheated on me with his ex girlfriend 2 months into our relationship. i didnt find out for 5 months and then out of the blue his ex girlfriend phoned me after obtaining my number from a mutal friend... ...

Does this seem weird to anyone else?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

22 April 2009 (M) - Hello! I have not been in many serious relationships, but I need advice. I have been dating a girl now for 4 months. I like her a lot and our relationship has moving quite nicely. I recently found out though that she still talks to an ex boy...

He smelled awful!!!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - Hi aunts, I really need some advice, I've been going out with a boy for a while and tonight for the first time we discovered a little more about each other and when he pulled down his boxers a horrible smell came, it was so ghastly that I wanted to ...

Worlds apart but too close for comfort

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - I am 18 years old and have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. However, I have known this other man for 6 years over the internet. We've met up before and it was amazing, although nothing happened, I feel like I've betrayed my boyfriend. I...

My boyfriend cheated... should I forgive?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5487 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - Okay so here is my dilemma... I have been dating my boyfriend now for about 3 1/2 years. He cheated on me once when we first started dating with a girl he has always had a crush on but never got the chance to see if it would work with her. All h...

I feel physically and mentally put off him now as I feel pressured into having sex with him.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm curently with a boy who I like, we have been together for a good 8 months now and he claims he loves me... and yes we have our ups and downs however we always pull through the other end. He started to suggest to me that we should have s...

Why is he continuing to pursue me... if I'm just a fling, or the "other woman"?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - I've been messing with an attached guy (not married) that I've tried to end it with, but haven't done it yet. I informed his gf... but she forgave him, and told me I wasn't the first. He still continues to call... I ignored him for 2 weeks (cal...

How can I help my girlfriend with her self esteem problems?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - My girlfriend has really low self esteem that I think stems from lack of parenting in early childhood and some abuse. I can't stand her being so hateful towards her beautiful body. What are some ways to help her overcome these issues?...

She's best friends with her ex and even told me she has feelings for him!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (M) - My girlfriend has been hanging around her ex-boyfriend a lot more then usual. She goes to see him a lot when he is practicing sports. She tells me that they are best friends and would want nothing more then that. But, today she admitted that she has ...

He said we had to be secret then asked out my friend and she said yes! Please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy from school but he wanted to keep it secret from everyone because he doesnt like people knowing his business. We've had lots of problems including when he asked my friend out on a date whilst i was supposed to be dating h...

Do we take things "further?" he's 13, I'm 17 and we fight all the time.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - Im a 17 yr old girl and my boyfriend is just 13 .. we are 2gether for 8 months...at first the age worried me a bit but now i really do love him ... but we do fight alot, i have lost interest in school work since ive been with him because when we ...

Should I take him getting back to me as a good sign?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - I'll try not to ramble, there's a guy, i've known him for yrs, but not really closely, and we know plenty of mutual people. Recently we started casually talking, 1st time we hung out we where drinking and we hooked up. In previous conversa...

Is he using shy as an excuse to not take things further?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - This guy at school and I have been exchanging some pretty heavy flirty emails over the last few days (I've known him about a year). I wasn't sure what to think of it all and caught off guard by it. At class yesterday, I decided to tell him that I ...

He is scared to meet my dad, how do I introduce them?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - I am recently separated..about 8 months and my boyfriends is divorced. I am 36 and he is 42. I have met his parents, but he has not met my dad. (mom passed away several years ago) I have tried to arrange meeting times, but something always comes up ...

My Ex-iGrlfriend broke up with me. What to do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (M) - Hello, my name is Thomas and i am from Germany. I have been in a relationship with an american girl for about 2,5 years. We had a few issues but i always took care of anything she needed, never refused a favour or wish. I really love her! And i ...

How can I dominate him without spanking him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5041 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - hi there I'm 25 my bf is 29 and wants me to dominate him in the bedroom please help me. he doesn't want to be spanked but I'm unsure what to do please ideas? I want to shock him....

Its all the same but we're not in a relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - Question. My bf of about 4 months broke it off about a month ago. He said he was feeling guilty about not always being there and he felt he wasn't doing his duties as a bf. He was having a hard time balancing his personal life/business an...

I tell her sweet things but she doesn't believe me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5488 days ago

22 April 2009 (M) - my girlfriend if very shy, i can kiss her and stuff but she isnt very confiedent about any thing. and when i tell her she is great or fine at it she doesnt believe me. what can i do to boost her confiedence?? please help...

Dated 3 weeks, he dumped me and now he hates me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend went out for 3 weeks and then he dumped me. today he said he hates me. and he said the reason is when i seen him in the three weeks i only seen him for like 5 minutes but i actually seen him for 30minutes, but we were on holiday ...

Girl breaks up the relationship suddenly, why?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

22 April 2009 (M) - My Girl breaks off our relationship. Completely caught me by surprise. the night before we had a romantic dinner in my apartment, candles and flowers and all the trimmings. Next day she texts me "I don't want to hurt you, but I don't want to be in ...

Only 3 days to prove to him that I love him!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - Okay here it goes i will have three days to prove to him that i love him and want to be with him and to make him see that we can be happy together!! Tell me what to do ! please! WE will also be around other people so help me please just give me the ...

I'm an emotional abuser! Please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - Can someone please help me resolve this? I have emotionally abused my bf for 4 months. He went through some hard times and was depressed and I still haven't forgiven him for everything that went on and held the grudges. He apologized. I know he's ...

How do you tell if a guy really likes you?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - Hmm could you explain to me...wen a lad likes someone how do they act and can you sense it in the atmosphere. I don't just mean they look at you or something but can you tell sometimes just by being with them, how they act and the way they talk? I...

I'm falling love, should I stop?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - hi so the sitch here is that im falling in love with a guy and i don't think he knows! how does that even happen? i wanta tell him soo bad but i dont want to make him feel awkward. in general, im not a very jealous person but when there are girls ...

How do I get over a painful breakup?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - I've lived with my boyfriend for 2.5 years. During this time, he was going through a painful divorce. He started drinking and using drugs. He became verbally and physically violent towards me. He didn't work and I struggled to pay the mortgage. I ...

He wants to put our baby plans on hold for another year and I'm so upset about this.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - I am 37 years old, I have always dedicated my life to a successful career. For the last 6 years I have been prepared to travel the world and live in a suitcase. This may seem glamorous, but I always felt alone. Even though I had a busy life, my ...

What to do for the best? He says he wants to marry me but he's ALREADY married!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for nearly 5 years, but the problem is that he is already married and he says he wants to marry me but I don't want to because I can't share him with anyone but he is not trying to understand. He has ...

Girlfriend wants space

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (M) - I've been going out with my girlfriend for the last 6 years. Recently she has been having a tough time with work and family situations (parents on the verge of seperating). She has been acting "off" the last few weeks and when I tried to talk to ...

How do I win her back when she is going through such a hard time at the moment?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (M) - I was seeing this girl called Emma we get on good together we argued once but it was my fault as I was tired and angry as my baby died that week one yr ago and I said sorry, we have split up 4 times with the first time was a month and 2 weeks ago as ...

Loving them both, and can't risk losing them both!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

22 April 2009 (M) - I have been on and off with my girlfriend for 4 years. Each time we break up feels like the end of the world. 6 months ago I met a woman that has taken my breath away in every way. Now I find myself loving two women. I can not take losing them ...

Blank emotion?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - yes, i'm dating a guy and he says he feels blank when i'm around and he has no feelings for me, but he has feelings for a woman who abused him, please tell me what this means and the meaning of a blank emotion...

Am I being stupidly hopeful?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - There is this guy I work with that I have liked for several months now. One night a few months ago, we had been drinking and we ended up kissing. A few days later, I decided to tell him that I liked him, but he said that he only saw me as a ...

My bf of a year and a half seems to be to busy for me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - my boyfriend of a year and ahalf seems to be busy all the time now. he does not want me to sleep over anymore and he does not invite me. he doesnt call me much anymore too. and i always have to ASK him if he could hang out, which he sometimes ...

Signal or No Signal?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5490 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - Well I'm in a sexual friendship with this guy friend of mine and we're both the same age. I've developed feelings for him, very strong ones, and of course I express them because I want to be honest and open with him. Though I do respect his ...

He wants sex and I won't do it without a commitment! Break up with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5490 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - I have been "seeing" this guy for a couple months. He refuses to call himself my boyfriend yet he keeps pushing for sex. He parties a lot but I know for a fact that he doesnt sleep around (we were friends before) which is what I dont understand. If ...

Catholic girlfriend denying me sex!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

22 April 2009 (M) - I've got quite a dilema. I don't even know where to begin. I'm atheist (24 years old) and I have a uber conservative Cathlolic girlfriend (20 years old). We've been going out for 8 months. I love her and she loves me but there's a major problem ...

I'm attracted to fat women

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5480 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - Okay I know this might sound a bit weird but I'm a butch lesbian who is attracted to fat women. I've never met another lesbian who has a fetish for this only guys but I'm wondering what I should do about this situation. Is it bad if I get really ...

He flirts with me even though he has a g/f -- does he like me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - Hi I've been getting mixed signals about this guy I really like. He has a girlfriend but he is always flirting with me. He knows I like him, and he still tortures me with illusions. He always tries to say hi or to kiss me on the cheek as many times ...

2 years of an abusive relationship

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5490 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - I am a 19 year old girl who feels like I'm trapped in a helpless marriage. On my 17th birthday, the cutest sweetest most sensitve (at the time) guy who I met through mutual friends asked me out. He was my first real boyfriend ever, and has been (on ...

What IF??????

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - Hello, Here are the facts - Man's natural lube (aka precum) may contain traces of sperm if he ejaculated previously. Me and my boyfriend get VERY intimate without having actual intercourse. We let our bits touch - his penis sliding on top o...

Needy boyfriend, need advice!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5490 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 9 months now. I love him, and he loves me, and we plan to have a future together. But, there's just one thing.. He's really really needy. I can't go on the computer for longer than an hour, or else he ...

How often is normal to text/call your other half during the day?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5490 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - Hi all! This is more of a survey, rather than a true problem. I was just wondering how often is normal to text/call your other half during the day? Do people text every day? Multiple times? Or do they just chat once every few days? Is it diff...

I am fearful that I will end up alone later in life. Am I the only one?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

22 April 2009 (F) - I am 19 years old and I have never had a boyfriend. I have gone on dates and kissed a couple of guys but nothing more than that. It makes me sad and depressed knowing that all of my friends have/have had boyfriends and have been in serious ...